please i need some advice im in uk and bf is in usa we want to be together please!!!

[meauxna 15]

ha ha wel we did tht the other day lol, i asked him wat if i cudnt spot u at the aiport he said to me

sweetheart im 6''2 so i duno about tht lmao :-p

hes just a darling lol, in my eyes hes perfect, hes had his troubles and hes sorting them out with my and his family/friends support

stacey x

hi & welcome to visajourney! There is no charge per character typed here, so we encourage you to use real, full words for the majority of your posts. This will ensure that all members, including those who don't have "texting" as a first language, can understand what the he!! you're saying.

Yeah, it was a meanspirited comment I admit, but it completely made my day.

Hey! That one wasn't mean spirited! Really! someone else was meanspirited (not).

I mean, I *can* do mean, but I usually try not to. <g>

Looks like DF was right after all (doh).

gets boring doesnt it!!!

Yeah, sucks to be you

[KarenCee 3]

I'm glad everyone else here is saying what I wanted to say all along....I figured if I said it I would get lambasted as being suspicious minded and negative!

[Joey559 1]

I'm glad everyone else here is saying what I wanted to say all along....I figured if I said it I would get lambasted as being suspicious minded and negative!

Nope, you wouldn't be at all. I stayed out of it to only because I felt the same about it as others and figured my opinions were covered but I'm glad everyone spoke up. There's a BIG difference between being negative when it's a situation with two adults jumping in fast/a divorce or seperation or argument that we're only hearing one side of - but Stace is still a youth. After watching the Primetime thing on sexual predators and the internet I say for someone not to speak up would be the worse thing for this girl.

Honey, make him visit you first. Make it safe for yourself on your terrority with your friends and family. If he really cares, if he's legit and he wants to pursue an honest relationship with you he'll make it happen. And if he won't then he's not good enough for you anyway.

If that goes well remember take it nice and slow, go to university, travel - don't cut some of the best freedom years of your life short!

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I agree Stace,

If you are serious about him, please have him arrange to visit you first, especially so your family can meet him and you can see how he behaves to your friends. If there are problems, then you will have someone to protect you. One of your comments did concern me - the statement that he has had some problems but is working them out. When you marry someone their problems become yours and you really need to decide if you want to deal with his problems too. Take your time. If this is real, it will last and a lifetime is a very long time - or should be. If it isn't real, then it is better to know now than later. Good luck.

Edited June 28, 2006 by Kathryn41

[Karen_L 1]

Has nobody asked her how old her boyfriend is? Alarms were going off in my head when I read her post.

I was wondering about his age as well. Stace: how old IS your boyfriend?

But nevermind how young you are and let's put aside how incredibly dangerous it is for young, underaged girls to travel alone to foreign countries to meet strange men they've only been in contact with for a handful of weeks ... even if you were much older, I would still think preparing to marry a man you've never actually met face-to-face, who you've only "known" for a tiny bit, is a bad idea. Also, as someone else said: you're 17-years-old; what's the rush to get married? I'm 22 and people ask me that all the time (and I have some good answers ) and for once, I get to ask it! lol

Also - I've heard people here on VJ give similar advice to older people as well who come and ask about a K-1 for a fiance' they haven't yet met in the flesh. So believe me, it's not just your age that's the problem.

I wish you all the best though. If you decide to make the journey here and you're permitted entrance, I really hope you stay safe and that your boyfriend IS a good person who treats you well.

[gimygirl 0]

I'm sorry Stace but my view has totally changed with that PM and I will not be contributing my advise anymore.

oh DO tell, fee!!! what new information changed your view??

[kitkat1 5]

Really I think the whole thing was a big joke . . .

[gimygirl 0]

Really I think the whole thing was a big joke . . .

after some research ... i don't.