please i need some advice im in uk and bf is in usa we want to be together please!!!

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

Stace,

I would suggest you meet him first and get to know each other before committing yourselves to starting your visa journey. Things are usually very different when you meet one another, he might have some bad habits (like picking his nose in public or bad breath!).

Bare in mind that the visa process costs around £1,000, and that's just up to the point where you are married.

You are young and I presume your boyfriend is around the same age. If I were you, I would spend the money you would be using for the visa on a few more trips back n forth first, just so you are 100% sure that you want to spend the rest of your lives together. I'm sure your parents would want to meet him to.

The visa journey is very stressful and it takes a rock solid relationship to make it through. There's a lot of red tape and you have to work hard on proving that your relationship is for life.

Go there in November, have a great time, enjoy each other and then when you return see how you both feel.... and for gawd's sake don't get pregnant! (and it won't help your case).

Good luck,

Helen

[munchkins 0]

Stace,

I would suggest you meet him first and get to know each other before committing yourselves to starting your visa journey. Things are usually very different when you meet one another, he might have some bad habits (like picking his nose in public or bad breath!).

Bare in mind that the visa process costs around £1,000, and that's just up to the point where you are married.

You are young and I presume your boyfriend is around the same age. If I were you, I would spend the money you would be using for the visa on a few more trips back n forth first, just so you are 100% sure that you want to spend the rest of your lives together. I'm sure your parents would want to meet him to.

The visa journey is very stressful and it takes a rock solid relationship to make it through. There's a lot of red tape and you have to work hard on proving that your relationship is for life.

Go there in November, have a great time, enjoy each other and then when you return see how you both feel.... and for gawd's sake don't get pregnant! (and it won't help your case).

Good luck,

Helen

Good advice Helen,

[Linababe 0]

Stace,

I would suggest you meet him first and get to know each other before committing yourselves to starting your visa journey. Things are usually very different when you meet one another, he might have some bad habits (like picking his nose in public or bad breath!).

LOL I remember the first time I met my man as I got off the plane I was so excited to see him I knew I loved him even before I met him in person. When I did, I noticed that he had bad teeth (i like men with good straight white teeth), but after spending some time with him I grew to love his teeth lol - now he is talking about getting them all pulled out and getting dentures - I dont want him to as I dont now if I would like him with great teeth lol. Plus when I met him the first time all he did was play his computer games after work which kinda pissed me off but again i was only pissed off cuz I couldnt play the game with him lol.

Go there in November, have a great time, enjoy each other and then when you return see how you both feel.... and for gawd's sake don't get pregnant! (and it won't help your case).

Very good advice, I see so many youngsters getting pregnant thinking this will expediate their case, realise it isnt and end up in hardship!

Good luck,

Helen

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

Before Dave and I met we went through a list of things that would be awful to find out about eachother when we met in person.

The ones that always stuck in my mind was him asking..

"What would you do if I turned up at the airport with a wife n 5 kids"

erm.. RUN?

"What would you do if I turned up at the airport and was a woman"

erm... RUN?

"What would you do if I had no teeth, and a stained T shirt riding up my beer belly"

erm... RUN?

Thankfully he was none of the above, was and still is perfect!

Helen

[stace 0]

ha ha wel we did tht the other day lol, i asked him wat if i cudnt spot u at the aiport he said to me

sweetheart im 6''2 so i duno about tht lmao :-p

hes just a darling lol, in my eyes hes perfect, hes had his troubles and hes sorting them out with my and his family/friends support

stacey x

[pnd629 0]

You can't have a K-1 visa until after you are 18 years old.

[meauxna 15]

ha ha wel we did tht the other day lol, i asked him wat if i cudnt spot u at the aiport he said to me

sweetheart im 6''2 so i duno about tht lmao :-p

hes just a darling lol, in my eyes hes perfect, hes had his troubles and hes sorting them out with my and his family/friends support

stacey x

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[no name 1]

ha ha wel we did tht the other day lol, i asked him wat if i cudnt spot u at the aiport he said to me

sweetheart im 6''2 so i duno about tht lmao :-p

hes just a darling lol, in my eyes hes perfect, hes had his troubles and hes sorting them out with my and his family/friends support

stacey x

hi & welcome to visajourney! There is no charge per character typed here, so we encourage you to use real, full words for the majority of your posts. This will ensure that all members, including those who don't have "texting" as a first language, can understand what the he!! you're saying.

agreed.

And why on earth would you consider marrying a man (and at age 17 no less), who you haven't even MET?????

[desert_fox 32]

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

[Lizzy 0]

To me and dont take this the wrong way, you sound VERY young, im 29 and my fiance in 32, it took a year for us to get the K1 visa, i found it very hard and i have lots of life experiance. I know for sure at 17 i would not be mentally ready for marrage OR the K1 visa.

I see you have not met yet, this is a dangerous situation in itself, for a 17 year old girl, to be travelling to the USA alone to met a man. Could a friend come with you?

What do your parents think about this?

How old is your boyfriend?

Edited June 27, 2006 by Lizzy

[AFQuaid 18]

Hey Stace,

In the spirit of VJ welcome to the message boards. Please make yourself comfortable by setting up your timeline, your signature and grab a coffee and read the links previously posted directing you to the extremely informative guides, websites and perhaps check out some example forms so you can get a better picture of what this process is like from a couples view and the stages/legal view. It may look very overwelming as most people find when they research into a way to "make it happen" but if you're serious we know we will be seeing you around and VJ is always here to help you with any questions or concerns you may have about the visa process. Though we aren't lawyers, we're just like you and your boyfriend just a little older.

The first thing I'd like to say as you've just read from the others, which I totally back is you need to be 100% sure you and this guy are serious enough to want to dive into this and you need to ask yourself if you are prepared to do what it takes to be together and stick with it till you finally make it. Patience is one of the hardest things couples are forced to learn during this process. The waiting game can not only be frustrating but absolutely heartrenching at times.

Now the K-1 Fiance(e) visa is a visa aimed at engaged couples where one is a USC (that is VJ lingo for United States Citizen ie your boyfriend) and the other is a foreign citizen commonly refered to as the foreign fiance(e) or "alien." The purpose is so you may go to America with the intention of marrying and reside there with your then husband perminantly. But that's not it the K-1 is ONLY the START of this journey, you then need to Adjust Your Status to obtain a Green Card and then if you wish become a Naturalized Citizen of the US. In total it can be anything upto 5 years until you're totally free of filling in paperwork, going to interviews etc. As for the length of time you wait for K-1, it can be anything from 4-11 months, as you can see everybodys case is different and there are delays, obsticals and frustrations. You are not allowed to stay with your fiance(e) in the USA for more than 3 months at a time whilst you wait for your approval.

To touch on the age issue in your case. I don't think you should jump into this process UNTIL you and your family have met this person, in person. It is a VERY dangerous thing to do to meet somebody even if you think you know him for the first time. I'm sure even many older people here would agree with me that it is much safer to bring a friend or relative to meet him with you. In general, not just because you're young though it is a factor. Whilst you visit him in November take photographs of you both together, perhaps with friends and family in them too and maybe you'd like to take the I-129f forms (the packet that starts the process for a K-1) with you when you go meet him incase you do get engaged so you can fill them out together and he can send it off, because HE has to petition for YOU. You fill find the appropiate forms as you search around VJ and the London Embassy website. Or if you have not known this guy for particuarly long I'd recommend making a second visit before starting this process. You want to make sure you're sure, backing out then trying to re-apply will raise some red flags. I'd say wait till January for your boyfriend (then fiance) to post the application so you are in the ok zone.

We are in a slightly different situation, I am 18 this coming September and my fiance (a USC) is 21 this coming November. We had contacted the London Embassy about the age requirement and they instructed us at the time when we applied which was Sept 30th 05 that as long as my USC fiance was over 18 and I had parental concent and letters from my parents saying they approve and support our intentions we should be fine. We are waiting for the K-1 interview at the moment and I do not plan to enter the United States until October if approved so I am going with the marriage laws of 18 of the US.

Like the others have said, read, re-read and read some more. Mental preparation is another key, are you ready for marriage? Andy and I had known each other for 4 years via letter and internet before giving in to the fact we had something much more deeper than a friendship, a further year before we saw each other in the flesh and he proposed and 2 months after touching back to the UK we started to research our options and began the K-1 journey. My parents know him, I know his...everybody is fine with this and we have brillient support from other older couples on VJ despite our first impressions.

Keep your chin up and get down to some thorough reading, get that boyfriend involved too if he's really keen. And I hope to see you post in the future that you've began the journey to your future. Best of Luck

[JenT 0]

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

Very funny DF

[AFQuaid 18]

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

Erm, if she did that wouldn't they they just turn her right back round to the UK? If that was sarcastic advise IMHO that was uncalled for...

[Linababe 0]

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

Very funny DF

Ohh that is just cruel - as the OP is new she may take it literally. Please stace ignore this comment if you do that you will be sent back on a plane to UK and maybe have a ban. If you go to visit him in November - dont mention the word Boyfriend, fiance or anything about wanting to marry him - YOU are just going to visit friends thats all .

[AFQuaid 18]

Stace,

I just noticed in your profile you only met him in March. 2 months? I'm speechless and all I can say is I hope you continue to get to know him before going ahead with this.