please i need some advice im in uk and bf is in usa we want to be together please!!!

[TracyTN 237]

You can't have a K-1 visa until after you are 18 years old.

This is a very salient point. I'm not sure, though, how that rule is applied (meaning does it depend upon the marriage rules of the state that the petitioner resides in, or is this across the board?).

[desert_fox 32]

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

Very funny DF

Ohh that is just cruel - as the OP is new she may take it literally. Please stace ignore this comment if you do that you will be sent back on a plane to UK and maybe have a ban. If you go to visit him in November - dont mention the word Boyfriend, fiance or anything about wanting to marry him - YOU are just going to visit friends thats all .

as she should be...back to her parents.

You arent advising that she should lie are you??

Well, a young single 17 yr old shows up at immigration by herself, I can assure you that they will give her special questioniong on the purpose of her trip. I put her odds at less than 50% on being admitted.

[bradentejas 0]

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

Very funny DF

Ohh that is just cruel - as the OP is new she may take it literally. Please stace ignore this comment if you do that you will be sent back on a plane to UK and maybe have a ban. If you go to visit him in November - dont mention the word Boyfriend, fiance or anything about wanting to marry him - YOU are just going to visit friends thats all .

Greeeat idea!!!! Lie and hope they dont catch you, especially because she is so well versed in communication skills (maybe not her fault, thinking there might be an age/language barrier?)

My suggestion is for her to CONTINUE searching myspace.com and make sure there isnt someone else she loves way, way more!

[KaiserD 12]

Well, a young single 17 yr old shows up at immigration by herself, I can assure you that they will give her special questioniong on the purpose of her trip. I put her odds at less than 50% on being admitted.

I was 17 when I first visited my SO I certainly had no thoughts of marriage at the time though, that was 4 years ago!

I did get a good grilling from the immigrations officer though, who was curious as to where I got the money for the trip from, he must've thought my parents didn't care about me lol

Edit _ also knew him for about 2 years and been "with him" for one before went on the trip.

Edited June 27, 2006 by KaiserD

[Fuzzness 2]

ha ha wel we did tht the other day lol, i asked him wat if i cudnt spot u at the aiport he said to me

sweetheart im 6''2 so i duno about tht lmao :-p

hes just a darling lol, in my eyes hes perfect, hes had his troubles and hes sorting them out with my and his family/friends support

stacey x

hi & welcome to visajourney! There is no charge per character typed here, so we encourage you to use real, full words for the majority of your posts. This will ensure that all members, including those who don't have "texting" as a first language, can understand what the he!! you're saying.

you read my mind!

[AFQuaid 18]

Ok this is *Andrew* an I tried to keep how shall I put it, sensible mindset at first looking through this thread (brought to my attention from fee), but I mean I seriously have to agree with the myspace.com comment. This chick seems very immature for her age, I know our situation an ages might cause some to say thats cheek of me to say but the lot of you also know our story an maturity...

Stace,

Ok this is comming straight from my heart an totally not meant to be mean, rude, or anything which might fall within but girl what in god's green earth do you think your doing. This is the real life an not Princess Diaries or Cinderella, you may think you know the guy but you dont, my fiancee' didn't thought she knew me but even until we met face to face after over a year of constant voice connection an nearly a year of my cam never being turned off, she still didnt truely know me until we met... I Can Not Stress How Much You Should Have Someone Come With You On This Trip BECAUSE OF THE POTENTAIL DANGERS.

Don't ask but I know full damn an well how bad "older guys on the net" can get with little girls, please be careful as love is nothing if you have no life...

[AFQuaid 18]

Stace,

Fiona here, my fiance Andrew posted above (we use the same account). I want to inform you without direct contact that I will not be responding to your PM about meeting in person. Not to be rude either but I would not put myself in the situation of meeting a total stranger when I just tried to help you, the only person I have personally met on VJ is latitudes. And even then EVEN MY parents were in the house and met HER as a friend. I'm sorry Stace but my view has totally changed with that PM and I will not be contributing my advise anymore.

[desert_fox 32]

When you arrive in the US...make sure you tell imigration why you are here and what your plans are. They will help you thru the next step.

Very funny DF

Ohh that is just cruel - as the OP is new she may take it literally. Please stace ignore this comment if you do that you will be sent back on a plane to UK and maybe have a ban. If you go to visit him in November - dont mention the word Boyfriend, fiance or anything about wanting to marry him - YOU are just going to visit friends thats all .

So if you had a 17 year old going off to a foreign country to meet some guy she met in a chat room.....that you would be OK with it??? gimme a break!!!!

If it was my daughter, I would be calling ICE myself to make sure that she was intercepted at the POE and returned. This Stace can hardly spell. Im not sure English is her first language....and she is talking like all she has to do is fill out a K1 (which she cant do in the first place), but to go off and meet some guy??? Few unanswered questions her....age, job, etc.

I hope she does take it literally!!!! explain to immigration why are are here!!!

[meauxna 15]

Andrew, you're so cute. Too bad you're taken (and jail bait ).

Looks like DF was right after all (doh).

I know you kick em out of school young in the UK, but under 18s are minors here and if their parents want to lock em up, I say go for it.

Rotten little so & sos.

[desert_fox 32]

Looks like DF was right after all (doh).

gets boring doesnt it!!!

[Alex+R 0]

ha ha wel we did tht the other day lol, i asked him wat if i cudnt spot u at the aiport he said to me

sweetheart im 6''2 so i duno about tht lmao :-p

hes just a darling lol, in my eyes hes perfect, hes had his troubles and hes sorting them out with my and his family/friends support

stacey x

hi & welcome to visajourney! There is no charge per character typed here, so we encourage you to use real, full words for the majority of your posts. This will ensure that all members, including those who don't have "texting" as a first language, can understand what the he!! you're saying.

Yeah, it was a meanspirited comment I admit, but it completely made my day.

[AFQuaid 18]

*Guilty expression* My apologises I wanted to give her the benifit of the doubt. But after the PM wasn't gonna happen saw what you all were seeing.

Fiona

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Has nobody asked her how old her boyfriend is? Alarms were going off in my head when I read her post. This sounds similar to that story of the 16 year old American girl who tried to fly to see some 20 year old man she met online.

I'll go out on a limb and say if this guy is more than a couple of years older than her, she's making a big mistake.

[Jo1973 0]

Stacey, personally I think you should spend a fair few years getting to know each other better as you are both young. Try and spend time visiting each other first, one visit will certainly not do it. Marriage is a very big committment.

Jeez you only met 2-3 months ago, live life a little before considering settling down.

But, what ever options you choose in life, I wish you all the best and I know that everyone here on VJ will give good advice about visa's.

Jo

Steven - I agree wholeheartedly with you. I certainly know that my mum would of had a fit if I had ever done something like that.

Edited June 28, 2006 by Jo1973

[Alex+R 0]

Also, OP if you are still reading this, here is something to consider: A DIFFERENT VISA. Let's say, best case scenario, you go visit your guy (who I think you said is 18) and it's amazing. Well, you might not even be the same person in a few years. Has either of you considered obtaining a degree in the other person's country? If you want to go do that, you will both have to have a chunk of change in the bank (in the US you need 18k per year plus tuition) but it is one option. Another choice: if he is a student he can get a 3-month visa to England to visit you for next summer. Or, you can do the American Work and Travel visa. Or you could both go to New Zealand.

These are just some ideas for how you might spend more time together. It's going to be a ridiculous idea to get married. You did not make it clear if your boyfriend is aware of your intentions to marry him. Listen to all these people here--please.