Husband's email to other woman....what do you think? Should I be upset?

[a-jeanne 2]

All I would say right now is how good you were/are at understanding other peoples problems and what a source of frustration it was to the likes of ___ and I that we only wanted you to see what was happening with your own life. I guess I have known you for around 15 years and always saw you as a bright young thing, full of life and energy, wanting to love and be loved. You would smile now, I hope, but I used to agree on one thing and that was if I was 15 or so years younger I would want you as my partner. Seeing you in later years slowly changing to someone with the weight of the world on your beautiful shoulders saddened me. So like you would do for others, I would try to give some insight into how your relationship with ____ was actually suffocating that joyous person that you truly are. On a personal note I still find you a very attractive person and you just have to believe that of yourself and the world will come to you. Believe me its never to late to go on to something/someone new. I briefly said in an email to you that I was finding certain things very difficult over here and I feel even more inclined to share that with you now, but it would be far easier if we could chat. Both Skype and YIM are free to download and use. Of course you would need a microphone to talk. So I hope you are having the day off to make for an enjoyable long weekend in which case have fun and take care. You are always in my thoughts love ___ XX

[zqt3344 21]

Danger Danger Danger Will Robinson I sense Danger!

All I would say right now is how good you were/are at understanding other peoples problems and what a source of frustration it was to the likes of ___ and I that we only wanted you to see what was happening with your own life. I guess I have known you for around 15 years and always saw you as a bright young thing, full of life and energy, wanting to love and be loved. You would smile now, I hope, but I used to agree on one thing and that was if I was 15 or so years younger I would want you as my partner. Seeing you in later years slowly changing to someone with the weight of the world on your beautiful shoulders saddened me. So like you would do for others, I would try to give some insight into how your relationship with ____ was actually suffocating that joyous person that you truly are. On a personal note I still find you a very attractive person and you just have to believe that of yourself and the world will come to you. Believe me its never to late to go on to something/someone new. I briefly said in an email to you that I was finding certain things very difficult over here and I feel even more inclined to share that with you now, but it would be far easier if we could chat. Both Skype and YIM are free to download and use. Of course you would need a microphone to talk. So I hope you are having the day off to make for an enjoyable long weekend in which case have fun and take care. You are always in my thoughts love ___ XX

[a-jeanne 2]

He just sent this to her. Sorry about the post. I guess I want to make sure that I am making the right decision. Again - sorry.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

He just sent this to her. Sorry about the post. I guess I want to make sure that I am making the right decision. Again - sorry.

Your the only one that can make that decision - not people on the 'net.

When there is a doubt, there is no doubt...

[a-jeanne 2]

Well - I'm otta here. I thought this was a place where I could find people to talk to and find comfort. Thanks......but no thanks.

[Nagishkaw 510]

Don't apologize. No one is perfect, after all. I think this is just a confusing time for you.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

He just sent this to her. Sorry about the post. I guess I want to make sure that I am making the right decision. Again - sorry.

Your the only one that can make that decision - not people on the 'net.

When there is a doubt, there is no doubt...

I concur

[R de la R 2]

All I would say right now is how good you were/are at understanding other peoples problems and what a source of frustration it was to the likes of ___ and I that we only wanted you to see what was happening with your own life. I guess I have known you for around 15 years and always saw you as a bright young thing, full of life and energy, wanting to love and be loved. You would smile now, I hope, but I used to agree on one thing and that was if I was 15 or so years younger I would want you as my partner. Seeing you in later years slowly changing to someone with the weight of the world on your beautiful shoulders saddened me. So like you would do for others, I would try to give some insight into how your relationship with ____ was actually suffocating that joyous person that you truly are. On a personal note I still find you a very attractive person and you just have to believe that of yourself and the world will come to you. Believe me its never to late to go on to something/someone new. I briefly said in an email to you that I was finding certain things very difficult over here and I feel even more inclined to share that with you now, but it would be far easier if we could chat. Both Skype and YIM are free to download and use. Of course you would need a microphone to talk. So I hope you are having the day off to make for an enjoyable long weekend in which case have fun and take care. You are always in my thoughts love ___ XX

Are you the beneficiary of the green card process or is he?

Edited April 28, 2009 by YMR

[wowswift 3]

just get your divorce and move on. and stop checking his emails. that isn't a good idea.

[^KK^ 3]

It's time for you to do what you gotta do....LEAVE!!

[chispas 0]

He just sent this to her. Sorry about the post. I guess I want to make sure that I am making the right decision. Again - sorry.

No need to say sorry. Sometimes its safer to post here and get feedback rather divulge all to someone you know then have to take it back if you're wrong. The decision is yours to make based on what you can or can't accept. If you don't want to act now, keep an open open mind and see. Whichever decision you make, be sure to follow it through and not second guess yourself. Had a read that letter now in my personal life, he'd be gone. Had it been three years ago, I would be trying to make excuses for him and talk myself out of common sense. Wish I could make it easier for you. Hugs. (On another note, miss 15 years younger might just be looking for someone to help her get here etc. and he'll be on the receiving end of the pain next time.)

[crazyinEgypt 0]

Sorry you are going through this. Go with your gut and do what's right.

[deidre 13]

Jeanne - I would first of all confront him about the email - tell him that you came across this email and ask him whats it all about. see what he says, and take it from there. i would express all of your feelings to him aswell. dont keep it in.

I have a somewhat similar issue with my new husband (who is still "talking to/emailing" his previous gf's and he knows I do not want this - he tells me he isnt in contact with them). I know he lies when i ask him questions, because i already know the answers to those questions. I ask him to see what he says. Although, I have told him that if I find out he's had any intimate relationship with another woman while we have been married, I will leave him in a heartbeat even if it hurts. He says he has done nothing. And as he's my husband, I can only trust him and his word until i see something physical going on with my own eyes.

If you love him, you will work through it. But would recommend that you speak to him about it. Otherwise you'll start dreaming up worse ideas in your head. And I am speaking from experience! Talk to him....the worst thing to happen is you'll have an argument, be angry for a short while, make up, and life goes on....

Hope my advice helps....

Ciao D x

[atk_721 0]

I agree with deidre .

I know how u must be feeling,you should talk to him about it and take it from there.I personally strongly believe in "Mend it,don't end it" .So you have to see if u love him enough that u cant live without him or u hate him so much after this that getting separated won't hurt any more

Best of luck

[Tygrys 143]

Well - I'm otta here. I thought this was a place where I could find people to talk to and find comfort. Thanks......but no thanks.

Should you be upset? Yeah, probably yes...

But, IMHO, you should first try to talk to him about it, not to "people to talk to and find comfort".