Does she have the right to be upset???What should I do?

[Sprailenes 47]

Wow, pictures of your ex on your comp. I'm on the denser side of the male spectrum and even I know to delete those..... or post em on ebaumsworld if they are juicy enough

Seriously, you messed up from the beginning. You were hedging your bets and didn't really commit to either one until you met your wife. But she forgave you for that one. You should have cut off all contact at that point, and no you absolutely should not have gone to Vegas knowing she'd be there.

There's nothing wrong with the pictures. Its not like how you thought it is. It was like a friendly pciture. I couldn't cut my communication with this person just yet because she owes me money and she's not completely paid yet and that I feel guilty that I caused her depression and I thought it wouldn't be a problem to my fiancee because she knew I love her no one else. I stated why there was a need for me to go to Vegas.

Wow way to make a depressed person happy!

I'm only hanging out with you to get my money back.

Lets go to vegas... you owe me money but let's go spend more!

[beans 7]

Can I vote troll? Or no?

[kramervskramer 0]

Lies of omission are still lies.

But I'm very VERY confused by your post. So you live with your fiancee now, presumably you've applied for and been granted a K1 visa and she has moved to America? From where? How long was this process? During this time you saw a woman you had dated before you met your fiancee?

It seems as though you may have lied (by omission at least) to both women and if your friends knew you were engaged and going through immigration why would they want you to be involved with other women?

Something is a little fishy...

Yes we both live together now for a month. she moved here last month (march 2009) she's been here for more than a month. We've applied out visa last July 2008 and yes I was still seeing this girl I dated before but did nothing stupid.

[GloriaLuvsMoto2 0]

She has every right to be mad at you. You have betrayed her trust again and again. Nothing but time will maker her happy like she was before...enough said.

I agree. I understand that u feel the guilt and all of hurting her. But no offense, if you really love her that much (fiancee) How come u went out to see another girl behind her back? Iam not judging u or whatsoever.. Iam just surprised that it gotten that far that the girl u are seing had somewhat a control over you.. (made u fly out to Vegas), If u really are that willing to marry her i suggest you do something about the situation, bec once u both get married.. that girl might still give reasons for you to see her and give her attention of which i believe.. would definitely cause a greater problem for both of you. Goodluck.

[T_and_A 3]

I no longer have a relationship with this woman! She knew I already have a girlfriend because I told her. I knew this woman for 10 years, she's been a good friend too and she's a nice person. I am not just inlove with her.

Lol, again... i feel you my friend... My husband is not in love with any other woman but me...not even with ex-wife. I know that, i am so in that situation. Whatever you say about it, spending time with ex-es, at first is ok with me, but in time, it only gets me bitter and angrier inside. And no words can ever reassure me that it's ok.

[Udella&Wiz 325]

I no longer have a relationship with this woman! She knew I already have a girlfriend because I told her. I knew this woman for 10 years, she's been a good friend too and she's a nice person. I am not just inlove with her.

Too late. The single most important thing in any relationship is trust. You betrayed this not just once but repeatedly. You will be very lucky, and you should remember it always if she doesn't, if your fiancee doesn't drop you. IMHO she should. You are the type of person that gives men in general a bad name. As a matter of fact, the more I think about this the more I wonder how much in love with your fiancee you really are. If you were truly in love with her you would be incapable of lying to her and having a relationship of any kind with an old girlfriend. I for one am truly disgusted.

Wiz

[kramervskramer 0]

I wouldn't inverst so much effort and money if it was my intention. I didn't delete those picture because I didn't want to keep it from here. I could have chosen to delete them so she wouldn't see it. You all are missing my point here.

And I no longer have relation with this girl. OK?

Edited April 27, 2009 by jegcs

[The_Dude 1,142]

I don't think you had bad intentions, but you seriously found a way to completely ** it up and make it look like it. If she is suicidal, then you should talk to her other friends or family to get her the psychiatric help she needs. If you are only pretending to be helpful with her in order to get your money back, then you are just an a$$hole. Either way, you don't NEED to go to Vegas with her. Furthermore, you absolutely don't NEED to keep this from your wife.

[neiks 19]

What does this topic have to do with immigration? This is an immigration forum not a relationship forum to justify bad behaviour.

#######?

Can I vote troll? Or no?

Agreed!

[kramervskramer 0]

I don't know what to do, she might want to go back home. I don't want to lose her.

[wowswift 3]

i say troll, but if someone owes you money for a long time, you're never seeing it again. you really have no reason to talk with your ex anymore. your fiance should be mad. what if she did the same to you?

[Hugglebuggles 60]

I am sooo confused right now. That entire post was so jumbled and filled with grammatical errors and your tenses are so off... Past, present, future my friend.

But what does this have to do with immigration? She doesn't want to marry you? No marriage, no stay.

[kramervskramer 0]

i say troll, but if someone owes you money for a long time, you're never seeing it again. you really have no reason to talk with your ex anymore. your fiance should be mad. what if she did the same to you?

I feel guilty that is why I still talked to her and my fiance was okay with before not after I flew to vegas with her and friends.

I am sooo confused right now. That entire post was so jumbled and filled with grammatical errors and your tenses are so off... Past, present, future my friend.

But what does this have to do with immigration? She doesn't want to marry you? No marriage, no stay.

Yeah I saw those errors. I couldn't edit them anymore. Sorry, don't worry I am aware of them.

[wowswift 3]

i say troll, but if someone owes you money for a long time, you're never seeing it again. you really have no reason to talk with your ex anymore. your fiance should be mad. what if she did the same to you?

I feel guilty that is why I still talked to her and my fiance was okay with before not after I flew to vegas with her and friends.

no need to feel guilty. you should feel guilty for your fiance. stop talking to your ex if your fiance isn't ok with it anymore. if you didn't lie in the first place, you wouldn't have a problem now.

Edited April 27, 2009 by wowswift

[GloriaLuvsMoto2 0]

I wouldn't inverst so much effort and money if it was my intention. I didn't delete those picture because I didn't want to keep it from here. I could have chosen to delete them so she wouldn't see it. You all are missing my point here.

And I no longer have relation with this girl. OK?

I understand that u dont want to be blamed for what might happen to her that u tried your best to save her. But now bec of that ur having troubles saving your relationship. TRUST is very essential, once its ruined ITS OVER!! Im sorry but hope that she would still want to take you back. LYING is a great offense.. much more with keeping her pics.. (seriously, Why do u have to do that?)

Edited April 27, 2009 by GloriaLuvsMoto2