How do you deal with your Strong Willed Child?

[sj5 4]

I have one. She behaves well in public places and at home but at school she make her English teacher nuts. Sometime, she ignore her teacher constantly if she is force to do her classroom work she don't do it right. I received frequent phone calls because of her behavior. My spouse and I had meeting with her teacher for few times, and talked about how to deal with my daughter but this teacher refused to follow our instructions which doesn't involved torture or hurting her physically. On the other hand, her Math teacher told me that she behave fine with her. For her age, she is fast though but her behavior affects her academic performance.

Parents with strong willed children please share your experience how to battle with this type of child. I just purchased book on online but I'm not sure if it's worth to invest on this?

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

I just read this article in an online magazine.. Hope it helps..

If you find yourself in a battle of wills with your child, here are some tips to help.

Strong willed children are usually problem solvers. They respond better to being presented with a problem- rather than a command. "How are we going to get these dishes into the sink" works better than "Put your dishes up" because it poses a challenge of thought to the strong willed child.

Strong willed children tend to be of high intelligence. They will pick up on inconsistencies with rules and consequences and are apt to call your bluff. With strong willed children you need to mean what you say and say what you mean- or they'll call you out on it.

With a strong willed child it's more about communication than control. We are all given free will- a strong willed child just seems to have discovered it a bit sooner than we would have liked. When a strong willed child is presented with commands, rather than choices, his default behavior will be to buck authority because he feels like his choices have been taken away. Giving a strong willed child two choices you can live with, works better than a command. "We need to go, do you want to wear shoes or sandals?" works better than "Put on your shoes."

Providing opportunities for input and "help" when you can afford it, will cause less of a stir in the times when you can't consider her thoughts or opinions. Letting a child pick their own clothes on the weekend, for example, will make your school day dressing battles easier to overcome.

Give warnings before transitions. "Five minutes then we need to wrap up the game" will save you lots of war time during transitions.

Foster independence. Provide him with independence. When potty training allow him to help choose his potty, his underwear and even his hand soap. Getting him involved with the process will empower him and make him feel like he has some control.

Love your child unconditionally. Praise her when she's being cooperative and when she solves problems.

[tallcoolone 102]

I just read this article in an online magazine.. Hope it helps..

If you find yourself in a battle of wills with your child, here are some tips to help.

Strong willed children are usually problem solvers. They respond better to being presented with a problem- rather than a command. "How are we going to get these dishes into the sink" works better than "Put your dishes up" because it poses a challenge of thought to the strong willed child.

Strong willed children tend to be of high intelligence. They will pick up on inconsistencies with rules and consequences and are apt to call your bluff. With strong willed children you need to mean what you say and say what you mean- or they'll call you out on it.

With a strong willed child it's more about communication than control. We are all given free will- a strong willed child just seems to have discovered it a bit sooner than we would have liked. When a strong willed child is presented with commands, rather than choices, his default behavior will be to buck authority because he feels like his choices have been taken away. Giving a strong willed child two choices you can live with, works better than a command. "We need to go, do you want to wear shoes or sandals?" works better than "Put on your shoes."

Providing opportunities for input and "help" when you can afford it, will cause less of a stir in the times when you can't consider her thoughts or opinions. Letting a child pick their own clothes on the weekend, for example, will make your school day dressing battles easier to overcome.

Give warnings before transitions. "Five minutes then we need to wrap up the game" will save you lots of war time during transitions.

Foster independence. Provide him with independence. When potty training allow him to help choose his potty, his underwear and even his hand soap. Getting him involved with the process will empower him and make him feel like he has some control.

Love your child unconditionally. Praise her when she's being cooperative and when she solves problems.

The person asked for suggestion

Not how to google the answer, I am sure the OP knows how to search the internet.

Or how to cut and paste..........

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

I just read this article in an online magazine.. Hope it helps..

If you find yourself in a battle of wills with your child, here are some tips to help.

Strong willed children are usually problem solvers. They respond better to being presented with a problem- rather than a command. "How are we going to get these dishes into the sink" works better than "Put your dishes up" because it poses a challenge of thought to the strong willed child.

Strong willed children tend to be of high intelligence. They will pick up on inconsistencies with rules and consequences and are apt to call your bluff. With strong willed children you need to mean what you say and say what you mean- or they'll call you out on it.

With a strong willed child it's more about communication than control. We are all given free will- a strong willed child just seems to have discovered it a bit sooner than we would have liked. When a strong willed child is presented with commands, rather than choices, his default behavior will be to buck authority because he feels like his choices have been taken away. Giving a strong willed child two choices you can live with, works better than a command. "We need to go, do you want to wear shoes or sandals?" works better than "Put on your shoes."

Providing opportunities for input and "help" when you can afford it, will cause less of a stir in the times when you can't consider her thoughts or opinions. Letting a child pick their own clothes on the weekend, for example, will make your school day dressing battles easier to overcome.

Give warnings before transitions. "Five minutes then we need to wrap up the game" will save you lots of war time during transitions.

Foster independence. Provide him with independence. When potty training allow him to help choose his potty, his underwear and even his hand soap. Getting him involved with the process will empower him and make him feel like he has some control.

Love your child unconditionally. Praise her when she's being cooperative and when she solves problems.

The person asked for suggestion

Not how to google the answer, I am sure the OP knows how to search the internet.

Or how to cut and paste..........

I did say I read that in an online magazine right? Those were tips and suggestions based on online magazine..

For a man, you are so loquacious. I am starting to think that you are having indentity crisis..

MR. PERFECT, why don't you just give useful suggestions to the OP instead of posting your nonsense in here?

[tallcoolone 102]

Mr. Perfect is too young to have children as of yet.

I am gonna wait a few more years, Thus why I don't give an opinion on the subject...............

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

Mr. Perfect is too young to have children as of yet.

I am gonna wait a few more years, Thus why I don't give an opinion on the subject...............

ewwww...

[NickD 202]

What's wrong with a having a strong willed child, do you want an idiot robot for a kid? And maybe that is what her English teach wants in her class. Her class and the way her teacher teacher teaches it is more than likely as boring as hell.

So what's the problem? Your kid or her teacher? Your kid needs a challenge, a good teacher will bring that out, sure met my share of rumphole teachers in my life.

[fozzie 41]

It seems that it is just this one teacher. You say your daughter behaves well at home and when out in public, even in her math class, so maybe it is the way the teacher controls her classroom.

[Niels Bohr 72]

I have experience.....let me share it....

call SUPER NANNY!

[fozzie 41]

call SUPER NANNY!

The kids on that show are out...of..con..trol!!! Nothing a good belt whippin' wouldn't fix!

[c_and_a 0]

Let's see, she acts okay in Math Class, at home, and seemingly everywhere else in public.

There is only one constant here, and it is not your daughter, it is the English teacher. Some teachers are just incompetent. The teacher probably just babies the students, making your child uninterested and even rebellious in the class. I was also an honor student, straight-A's sometimes, and there were a few classes where I would act up just because the teacher treated us like idiots, so I acted like an idiot in response.

[Ban Hammer 13,333]

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I have one. She behaves well in public places and at home but at school she make her English teacher nuts. Sometime, she ignore her teacher constantly if she is force to do her classroom work she don't do it right. I received frequent phone calls because of her behavior. My spouse and I had meeting with her teacher for few times, and talked about how to deal with my daughter but this teacher refused to follow our instructions which doesn't involved torture or hurting her physically. On the other hand, her Math teacher told me that she behave fine with her. For her age, she is fast though but her behavior affects her academic performance.

Parents with strong willed children please share your experience how to battle with this type of child. I just purchased book on online but I'm not sure if it's worth to invest on this?

I'd recommend looking into enrolling her in a Montessori school. Some children just do not do well in a traditional classroom, but can thrive in a different setting. How old is she?

[sara..... 371]

i dont think its ur daughter that has the problem i think its the teacher.......i have a sister that is in middle school she has 4.00 gpa this year there is one teacher that has problems with her, sent her to the office this past week stating she had been disrespectful. good thing the principal is a good one and alexa has been in the school system a few years, she moved alexa to a different class and this is the teachers last year at this school effective last week.

students and teachers many times have a personality conflict, however it is the teacher that is suppose to be the adult when dealing with it, if they single out a kid they dont like or make the class room like a punishment simply because they dont like the child there is going to be reaction from the kid.

try getting ur child put in a different class.

sara

[R and F 34]

Man, I remember when they used the open holed board to spank us with in school. That solved alot of problems.

And just my mothers look in the eye made me squirm.

I hope someone figures out how to deal with strong willed children before they take over the world.

hahahahahha