Help-- Complicated-- Married in the Philippines

[tallcoolone 102]

Well,for you Melissa....I think your friend can go to a Women's Protection desk in her place. If she can prove na nambabae yung asawa nya..that's a very serious issue. Pwedeng makasuhan yung asawa nya....

What kind of person are you to suggest her to seek help at a Womens' Protection place.

This is for woman who have been abused, No where does the OP mention abuse.

Him leaving her is just life.

And she can sue him, but it's a waste of time. She will get nowhere with that.

The girl needs to get on with her life............

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

Well,for you Melissa....I think your friend can go to a Women's Protection desk in her place. If she can prove na nambabae yung asawa nya..that's a very serious issue. Pwedeng makasuhan yung asawa nya....

What kind of person are you to suggest her to seek help at a Womens' Protection place.

This is for woman who have been abused, No where does the OP mention abuse.

Him leaving her is just life.

And she can sue him, but it's a waste of time. She will get nowhere with that.

The girl needs to get on with her life............

MY APOLOGY SIR!!!!

[bratikicks 0]

Action speaks louder than words nga diba?????

tsk tsk tsk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Edited April 24, 2009 by bratikicks

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

The husband needs to file a divorce here in the US , even if they were married in the Philippines so both of them can be free to remarry. Why even stop him from marrying another woman? He also deserve to be happy. Not so sound harsh but the husband maybe genuine and felt deceived when he found out another person was actually typing for your friend . LIfe can be frustrating when you dont understand each other .

Your friend should let her husband go and move on with her life.

Annulment takes forever in the Philippines,unless you got money to expedite the case. It is easier for ther husband to file a divorce. All your friend has to do is sign the divorce papers.

[rheanick 42]

Hello! ako ulit! sorry ha madami akong tanong! dito lang kasi ako may tiwala magtanong tungkol sa mga problema sa buhay hehehe.

Actually hindi ako ang may problema yung kakilala ko. Lets call her Nova nalang. She married a USC sa pinas last 2006 ata. They applied the K-3 visa and everything went well. Nakarating siya dito last 2007 dun sa Kentucky then lumipat sila sa Texas. Her english is very limited and she can barely understand it. She was born and raised in Mindanao. Tinanong ko siya how did she communicate sa chat kung di siya masyado marunong ng english, sabi niya may taga type daw siya. I dont know if they just get married to use each other whatsoever. I dont want to judge them.

So sabi niya nung andun siya sa Texas lagi sila nag-aaway and sinasabi ng husband niya is citizenship lang ang habol niya. So umuwi siya dito sa pinas. Ngayon ang asawa niya is my bagong GF. So shes asking me what she should do? kung pwede daw niya kasuhan, ipa ban sa pagpunta sa Pinas to meet the new gf or magdivorce daw. Hindi kami close pero minsan nakikita ko siya online and shes always asking me what to do. They don't have a kid.

Her husband said na mag annulment daw sila pero di naman ginawa and the husband is always going to the Phil to visit his new gf na taga Cebu. May magagawa ba siya to stop her "so-called" husband?

I am just curious... All answers I will have here ifoforward ko sa kanya. Thanks again!

Just tell your friend to wait for the divorce paper. The guy is seeing another filipina. he wont be able to bring her here in the US without divorcing your friend.

Weighing the situation... I would say that the man accusing your friend of using him to get to the US is somewhat justifiable. She somehow deceived him before. Online they could talk properly. Face to face, she could not talk to him properly. On the otherhand, how come the USC did not notice that his fiancee does not know english before married her.

[angela920 0]

To all na sumagot:

Salamat ha! I appreciate your answers. Their marriage was doomed even before it started. Alam ko na action speaks louder than words pero sa mundo ngayon e kailangan diba smart ka din. Ewan ko sa kanya... she is helpless because she doesn't want to help herself. Tinanong ko nga siya bat siya nag asawa ng american kung di naman siya masyado marunong mag english.. so sabi niya love niya.. blah blah blah... so ako i suggested ok.. bili ka ng dictionary at mag aral ka. Pero di naman niya ginawa. She spent almost a year in Texas at ganon pa din ang english niya.

Before, nasa states na siya ako nasa Pinas pa she would talk to me online. Sometimes she speaks bisaya which i cant understand. She said they always argue because her husband is alcoholic. He drinks always after work. He talks to a different girl online, He talks to his ex-wife about her being so dumb and that she is just his servant...(they have a kid husband and ex-wife) She sent me the conversations. So ako e nagulat nalang. Sabi pa dun sa conversation... hindi siya nag asawa at siya ay servant lang.

so sabi ko sa kanya magdivorce na kayo and sabi ng husband niya e divorce na daw sila. lol So tinanong ko sya kung may pinirmahan ba siyang any documents. Sabi niya "wala" at sabi pa ng asawa niya na di daw pede ang divorce kasi di daw siya US citizen so annulment nalang daw. Sabi ng asawa tutulungan daw siya sa annulment kung magpropromise siya na wala siyang makukuha na kahit ano. (thats what she told me last night)

I spoke with her husband before and told me how he couldn't stand her kasi nga she is not trying to communicate with him, always argue with him and accusing him a lot of things. Tapos pag nag eexplain daw siya e di naman naiintindihan so he just gave up.

I think they chatted for a year and he visited her in Mindanao... first visit and they got married right away. So, kasalanan nila pareho pero ang tanong ko lang kung pano sila makakapagdivorce? pwede ba yung sinabi ng asawa na "sige tutulungan kita pero walang kang makukuha na kahit ano sa akin" parang di tama lang.

[jom 4]

To all na sumagot:

Salamat ha! I appreciate your answers. Their marriage was doomed even before it started. Alam ko na action speaks louder than words pero sa mundo ngayon e kailangan diba smart ka din. Ewan ko sa kanya... she is helpless because she doesn't want to help herself. Tinanong ko nga siya bat siya nag asawa ng american kung di naman siya masyado marunong mag english.. so sabi niya love niya.. blah blah blah... so ako i suggested ok.. bili ka ng dictionary at mag aral ka. Pero di naman niya ginawa. She spent almost a year in Texas at ganon pa din ang english niya.

Before, nasa states na siya ako nasa Pinas pa she would talk to me online. Sometimes she speaks bisaya which i cant understand. She said they always argue because her husband is alcoholic. He drinks always after work. He talks to a different girl online, He talks to his ex-wife about her being so dumb and that she is just his servant...(they have a kid husband and ex-wife) She sent me the conversations. So ako e nagulat nalang. Sabi pa dun sa conversation... hindi siya nag asawa at siya ay servant lang.

so sabi ko sa kanya magdivorce na kayo and sabi ng husband niya e divorce na daw sila. lol So tinanong ko sya kung may pinirmahan ba siyang any documents. Sabi niya "wala" at sabi pa ng asawa niya na di daw pede ang divorce kasi di daw siya US citizen so annulment nalang daw. Sabi ng asawa tutulungan daw siya sa annulment kung magpropromise siya na wala siyang makukuha na kahit ano. (thats what she told me last night)

I spoke with her husband before and told me how he couldn't stand her kasi nga she is not trying to communicate with him, always argue with him and accusing him a lot of things. Tapos pag nag eexplain daw siya e di naman naiintindihan so he just gave up.

I think they chatted for a year and he visited her in Mindanao... first visit and they got married right away. So, kasalanan nila pareho pero ang tanong ko lang kung pano sila makakapagdivorce? pwede ba yung sinabi ng asawa na "sige tutulungan kita pero walang kang makukuha na kahit ano sa akin" parang di tama lang.

To file an annulment in the Philippines is not necessary in this case. It is specifically provided in the Philippine family code that when a Filipina marries an alien in the Philippines and it is the latter that files the divorce in his country where divorce is recognized , it is legal and valid in the Philippines although our country doesn't recognize divorce. The filipina wife need not even sign the divorce papers, because here in the US, irreconcilable differences is one of the many grounds to file a divorce. After the divorce decree is obtained the ex husband must send the Filipina ex-wife a copy and she can file a petition in the Philippine court so that the same divorce decree will be recognized for purposes of remarriage.

Your friends should demand for the husband to file the divorce here and not an annulment in the Philippines and I hope she will find someone who she can truly communicate with and work out a happy marriage.

Goodluck.

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

To all na sumagot:

Salamat ha! I appreciate your answers. Their marriage was doomed even before it started. Alam ko na action speaks louder than words pero sa mundo ngayon e kailangan diba smart ka din. Ewan ko sa kanya... she is helpless because she doesn't want to help herself. Tinanong ko nga siya bat siya nag asawa ng american kung di naman siya masyado marunong mag english.. so sabi niya love niya.. blah blah blah... so ako i suggested ok.. bili ka ng dictionary at mag aral ka. Pero di naman niya ginawa. She spent almost a year in Texas at ganon pa din ang english niya.

Before, nasa states na siya ako nasa Pinas pa she would talk to me online. Sometimes she speaks bisaya which i cant understand. She said they always argue because her husband is alcoholic. He drinks always after work. He talks to a different girl online, He talks to his ex-wife about her being so dumb and that she is just his servant...(they have a kid husband and ex-wife) She sent me the conversations. So ako e nagulat nalang. Sabi pa dun sa conversation... hindi siya nag asawa at siya ay servant lang.

so sabi ko sa kanya magdivorce na kayo and sabi ng husband niya e divorce na daw sila. lol So tinanong ko sya kung may pinirmahan ba siyang any documents. Sabi niya "wala" at sabi pa ng asawa niya na di daw pede ang divorce kasi di daw siya US citizen so annulment nalang daw. Sabi ng asawa tutulungan daw siya sa annulment kung magpropromise siya na wala siyang makukuha na kahit ano. (thats what she told me last night)

I spoke with her husband before and told me how he couldn't stand her kasi nga she is not trying to communicate with him, always argue with him and accusing him a lot of things. Tapos pag nag eexplain daw siya e di naman naiintindihan so he just gave up.

I think they chatted for a year and he visited her in Mindanao... first visit and they got married right away. So, kasalanan nila pareho pero ang tanong ko lang kung pano sila makakapagdivorce? pwede ba yung sinabi ng asawa na "sige tutulungan kita pero walang kang makukuha na kahit ano sa akin" parang di tama lang.

Hindi pwedeng wala siyang makuhang "kahit ano" kapag na-grant and divorce nila. Yung kasamahan ko sa work siya ang nag-divorce sa Pinoy husband niya kasi nga pinakasalan lang siya para ma-petition niya mga magulang niya na nasa Pinas. Noong nakarating na sila dito, her husband started to act indifferent towards her which she hated. She doesn't hang out with losers like him daw. Kaya hayun nag-divorce sila and she got half of everything her husband owns. O di ba ang saya niya? She got half the value of the house, alimony which her ex cannot do everything but to give in kasi nga nakalagay sa batas nila.

Kawawa naman yung friend mo for having a husband which is a loser. Dapat hindi muna siya bumalik sa Pinas para dito na lang sila mag-divorce para naman makuha niya yung dapat sa kanya.

[Kevin & Maria 0]

To all na sumagot:

Salamat ha! I appreciate your answers. Their marriage was doomed even before it started. Alam ko na action speaks louder than words pero sa mundo ngayon e kailangan diba smart ka din. Ewan ko sa kanya... she is helpless because she doesn't want to help herself. Tinanong ko nga siya bat siya nag asawa ng american kung di naman siya masyado marunong mag english.. so sabi niya love niya.. blah blah blah... so ako i suggested ok.. bili ka ng dictionary at mag aral ka. Pero di naman niya ginawa. She spent almost a year in Texas at ganon pa din ang english niya.

Before, nasa states na siya ako nasa Pinas pa she would talk to me online. Sometimes she speaks bisaya which i cant understand. She said they always argue because her husband is alcoholic. He drinks always after work. He talks to a different girl online, He talks to his ex-wife about her being so dumb and that she is just his servant...(they have a kid husband and ex-wife) She sent me the conversations. So ako e nagulat nalang. Sabi pa dun sa conversation... hindi siya nag asawa at siya ay servant lang.

so sabi ko sa kanya magdivorce na kayo and sabi ng husband niya e divorce na daw sila. lol So tinanong ko sya kung may pinirmahan ba siyang any documents. Sabi niya "wala" at sabi pa ng asawa niya na di daw pede ang divorce kasi di daw siya US citizen so annulment nalang daw. Sabi ng asawa tutulungan daw siya sa annulment kung magpropromise siya na wala siyang makukuha na kahit ano. (thats what she told me last night)

I spoke with her husband before and told me how he couldn't stand her kasi nga she is not trying to communicate with him, always argue with him and accusing him a lot of things. Tapos pag nag eexplain daw siya e di naman naiintindihan so he just gave up.

I think they chatted for a year and he visited her in Mindanao... first visit and they got married right away. So, kasalanan nila pareho pero ang tanong ko lang kung pano sila makakapagdivorce? pwede ba yung sinabi ng asawa na "sige tutulungan kita pero walang kang makukuha na kahit ano sa akin" parang di tama lang.

Hindi pwedeng wala siyang makuhang "kahit ano" kapag na-grant and divorce nila. Yung kasamahan ko sa work siya ang nag-divorce sa Pinoy husband niya kasi nga pinakasalan lang siya para ma-petition niya mga magulang niya na nasa Pinas. Noong nakarating na sila dito, her husband started to act indifferent towards her which she hated. She doesn't hang out with losers like him daw. Kaya hayun nag-divorce sila and she got half of everything her husband owns. O di ba ang saya niya? She got half the value of the house, alimony which her ex cannot do everything but to give in kasi nga nakalagay sa batas nila.

Kawawa naman yung friend mo for having a husband which is a loser. Dapat hindi muna siya bumalik sa Pinas para dito na lang sila mag-divorce para naman makuha niya yung dapat sa kanya.

well-said!

i agree with you. the girl shouldn't have gone back dito sa PI. but most probably, she felt there's nothing else she could do and no one else she could be with there aside sa hubby nya, kasi nga she's having a hard time communicating. but anyway, at least she'll get something from the ex-hubby after the divorce. sana she'll hire nalang an English tutor.

[tallcoolone 102]

i agree with you. the girl shouldn't have gone back dito sa PI. but most probably, she felt there's nothing else she could do and no one else she could be with there aside sa hubby nya, kasi nga she's having a hard time communicating. but anyway, at least she'll get something from the ex-hubby after the divorce. sana she'll hire nalang an English tutor.

Why is she entitled to "At least get Something from the ex-hubby"

They had a marriage, it didn't work out she's back in PI

Should we start to reward people who have marriage that don't work

Amazing to me someone would get on a Public Forum and make such an outrageous comment

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

i agree with you. the girl shouldn't have gone back dito sa PI. but most probably, she felt there's nothing else she could do and no one else she could be with there aside sa hubby nya, kasi nga she's having a hard time communicating. but anyway, at least she'll get something from the ex-hubby after the divorce. sana she'll hire nalang an English tutor.

Why is she entitled to "At least get Something from the ex-hubby"

They had a marriage, it didn't work out she's back in PI

Should we start to reward people who have marriage that don't work

Amazing to me someone would get on a Public Forum and make such an outrageous comment

Depends on how long they were married. Any property they bought together while they were married should be divided equally among them. Anything they have before the marriage, they keep for themselves. Even though she went back to the Philippines, he is still responsible for her because they are still married according to the support agreement. Even divorce does not dissolved that agreement because her husband was her sponsor according to the affidavit of support.

[tallcoolone 102]

i agree with you. the girl shouldn't have gone back dito sa PI. but most probably, she felt there's nothing else she could do and no one else she could be with there aside sa hubby nya, kasi nga she's having a hard time communicating. but anyway, at least she'll get something from the ex-hubby after the divorce. sana she'll hire nalang an English tutor.

Why is she entitled to "At least get Something from the ex-hubby"

They had a marriage, it didn't work out she's back in PI

Should we start to reward people who have marriage that don't work

Amazing to me someone would get on a Public Forum and make such an outrageous comment

Depends on how long they were married. Any property they bought together while they were married should be divided equally among them. Anything they have before the marriage, they keep for themselves. Even though she went back to the Philippines, he is still responsible for her because they are still married according to the support agreement. Even divorce does not dissolved that agreement because her husband was her sponsor according to the affidavit of support.

She's In PI, Not coming back to USA. His Headache is gone.

All she can do now is Moan and groan

Sponsorship is only good for US Soil, he's not responsible for her when she's in PI.