I am pissed off

[sj5 4]

You and your husband can apply new credit card.

Edited April 24, 2009 by sj5

[tallcoolone 102]

something is fishy about the whole thing. he could close the account.

By allowing another person to be on your Credit Card account, you are basically letting them control your credit and credit rating.

When people divorce or split up, one of the first thing they do in USA is to make sure they close out accounts (Banks, Credit Cards) to make sure the other person doesn't screw their credit or finance.

[tallcoolone 102]

I always tell myself, "things that I don't know wont hurt me..." as long as he still supports me and things are still the same. I dont want to give myself headache which is not yet proven.

Just a bit of advise, stop showing your husband that you doubt him, you dont want him to get tired of the same ####### u know.

That's the correct answer.

Don't Ask Me No Question, And I Won't Tell You No Lies

[Tahoma 2,292]

belovedbyme...

I sincerely believe that a husband should always make sure that his wife feels comfortable and secure in all situations. The same thing applies to the wife...she should always be honest and straightforward with her husband.

In your situation, your husband is clearly breaking this rule. His lack of honest communication is making you uncomfortable and he certainly knows it. I am more distressed by his reaction to the issue than I am by the issue itself. He owes you a clear and honest explanation...and he owes it to you NOW.

There is no place in a marriage for the type of game he's playing.

I hope you can work it out with him.

~ Tahoma

[DEDixon 39]

My husband started to be so defensive when I asked him about the name of the woman who is attached into his address. I got it in the mail yesterday and while he is on travel he instructed me to open everything. Then here comes an unknown name of a woman. I emailed him asking about it no reply. So when we chatted few hours ago. I kept asking wont answer me immediately.

Now, he started telling me his been question of who he is. Good Lord! I was just asking him who she was and why she was still in his account in the credit card since they parted 5 yrs. ago. I do love him so much but I'm not the type of filipina who hide my feelings and wait for it until it explodes. That's hard you know. I was so candid of my feelings but he thought I doubt him. He gave alibis like did he care about my past. We don't talk about ex ex here. I dont want to play blind and deaf as if everythings okay. Wherein fact I am aching inside? No way! I can't do that. I reiterate to him. I am not a nanny nor a housemaid that I wont care about your mail and names of these people on the mail. As a wife , I have the right to know if you don't want that. Why did you marry? lol He was quiet for a moment then told me he is tired and this and that.

Our chat wasn't good so I feel like I started the fight? I didn't do anything to hurt him. All I did was asking him of what I don't know.

Sounds like an over reaction to me... oh, and your husband, when he told you to ask his kids, was basically saying, "if you don't believe me," ask them. It seems you put him on the defensive.

[DEDixon 39]

something is fishy about the whole thing. he could close the account.

By allowing another person to be on your Credit Card account, you are basically letting them control your credit and credit rating.

When people divorce or split up, one of the first thing they do in USA is to make sure they close out accounts (Banks, Credit Cards) to make sure the other person doesn't screw their credit or finance.

Not all people are created equal. I have a female friend on an account of mine, she doesn't use the account anymore, but she is still on it. I've just been too lazy to care about a name being there - it isn't a big deal if you trust the person. If she did still use the account, I have complete trust in her so not all people are dishonest, distrusting.... blah, blah, blah.... ready to screw you first chance they get.

[Ban Hammer 13,340]

something is fishy about the whole thing. he could close the account.

By allowing another person to be on your Credit Card account, you are basically letting them control your credit and credit rating.

When people divorce or split up, one of the first thing they do in USA is to make sure they close out accounts (Banks, Credit Cards) to make sure the other person doesn't screw their credit or finance.

which is the first thing i advise anyone going thru a divorce - cut off the credit supply before it's too late.

something is fishy about the whole thing. he could close the account.

By allowing another person to be on your Credit Card account, you are basically letting them control your credit and credit rating.

When people divorce or split up, one of the first thing they do in USA is to make sure they close out accounts (Banks, Credit Cards) to make sure the other person doesn't screw their credit or finance.

Not all people are created equal. I have a female friend on an account of mine, she doesn't use the account anymore, but she is still on it. I've just been too lazy to care about a name being there - it isn't a big deal if you trust the person. If she did still use the account, I have complete trust in her so not all people are dishonest, distrusting.... blah, blah, blah.... ready to screw you first chance they get.

still best to remove that person. it's a major nutroll if there's fraud charges on the account.