Teenager Issues

[trailmix 77]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

I think this thread is totally interesting, if for no other reason, it is an incredibly good example of a thread gone awry because people aren't actually reading what you are saying (or not comprehending it)

Edited April 22, 2009 by trailmix

[chri'stina 190]

I take it a lot of people here didn't have sex when they were in High School? That's a lot of pent up frustration.

I knew lots of happy people who weren't having sex in high school. Including me!!

[Empress of Groovy 373]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

Would you have started this thread if it were your 35-year-old stepdaughter and her boyfriend f^cking in your house?

I wholeheartedly agree, and we have argued about this a lot. The mom is too busy trying to be the teen's best buddy. Her argument is that most teens don't want to be anywhere near there parents, but this teen loves hanging with her mother, and her mother thinks that's great. Whatever...

The age is relevant to your position, I think. Geez--the thread itself is called "Teenager Issues." Is parenting not figuring into it somewhere?

Edited April 22, 2009 by Big Agnes!

[Empress of Groovy 373]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

I think this thread is totally interesting, if for no other reason, it is an incredibly good example of a thread gone awry because people aren't actually reading what you are saying (or not comprehending it)

My point was that Damian has stated that age isn't an issue, when it clearly is.

[Big Papa Zone 93]

My point was that Damian has stated that age isn't an issue, when it clearly is.

No, it's not. Although I do understand why you would have that take on it. And if she was 35, and had moved her b/f into our house, and they were at it noisily, then the exact same would apply.

I will admit that her tender years do exacerbate matters, though. So I suppose it's a little bit of an issue.

Edited April 22, 2009 by Damian P

[LoriLawless 0]

i'm all about letting them doing it at home. so i guess my answer is yes, you're being a prude (u asked)

Gotta agree. This IS the question you asked.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I take it a lot of people here didn't have sex when they were in High School? That's a lot of pent up frustration.

I knew lots of happy people who weren't having sex in high school. Including me!!

I concur sister Parivar. Neither did I , and was quite the unfrustrated teenager.

[Big Papa Zone 93]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

Wow. I find that strange.

You do? OK, hypothetical situation:

Me and the wife meet up with you and yours at some sort of VJ convention, and we hit it off. You invite us to your house for the weekend. After a night of jollying, we retire to your guest room. We #### each other senseless all night, and the wife has several very juicy orgasms. The discharge from said orgasms leaves a huge stain on the bedsheets, and penetrates through to the mattress underneath. We say goodbye, leaving you to clean up.

How do you feel?

Edited April 22, 2009 by Damian P

[TayRivers 4]

You say that even if she was over 21 you would still have an issue with her doing a natural act in her home. So if she came to you and complained that she is upset at hearing you and your wife having sex would you show her the same consideration and stop having sex where others can hear you or would you just carry on regardless?

[LoriLawless 0]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

Wow. I find that strange.

You do? OK, hypothetical situation:

Me and the wife meet up with you and yours at some sort of VJ convention, and we hit it off. You invite us to your house for the weekend. After a night of jollying, we retire to your guest room. We #### each other senseless all night, and the wife has several very juicy orgasms. The discharge from said orgasms leaves a huge stain on the bedsheets, and penetrates through to the mattress underneath. We say goodbye, leaving you to clean up.

How do you feel?

What you're leaving out of this example, is that it's HER house too.

So I guess you won't be rude and have sex in her house either

[Empress of Groovy 373]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

Wow. I find that strange.

You do? OK, hypothetical situation:

Me and the wife meet up with you and yours at some sort of VJ convention, and we hit it off. You invite us to your house for the weekend. After a night of jollying, we retire to your guest room. We #### each other senseless all night, and the wife has several very juicy orgasms. The discharge from said orgasms leaves a huge stain on the bedsheets, and penetrates through to the mattress underneath. We say goodbye, leaving you to clean up.

How do you feel?

That's why you should never travel w/o a sex tarp--it's just good manners.

[Mary Lou 681]

Walk in on them and say, could you please keep it down. Walk out and be sure to leave the door open. I would definately be having a chat with the boy.

I take it a lot of people here didn't have sex when they were in High School? That's a lot of pent up frustration.

You're missing the point. I had plenty of high school sex - just not at my parents' home (not when they were in, anyway ) To me, it's a simple respect issue.

No offense, but that's silly...applying what it was like for you as a teenager to your stepchild.

Respect her privacy. If she has her own room and she is bringing over a boy who you and your wife don't have any issues with, let her have her privacy. She'll be 18 before you know it.

i don't know... maybe my parents were ol skool... but i didn't have any rights to anything while living under their roof or while being financially dependent on them.

Exactly the same for me when i lived at home. I even had an effing curfew at age 18!!

[Big Papa Zone 93]

You say that even if she was over 21 you would still have an issue with her doing a natural act in her home.

It's not her home though. Not in the "who makes the rules" sense. We (let's assume I'm working) pay the bills, we make the rules. End of, simple as. She wants the freedom to do as she pleases, she gets her own place.

Perfectly simple.

What you're leaving out of this example, is that it's HER house too.

See above.

That's why you should never travel w/o a sex tarp--it's just good manners.

A what now?

[fozzie 41]

I liked one of the earlier suggestions. When she starts 'wailing like a benshee', you start making over the top sex sounds and see how they like it. They will be instantly aware that if they can hear you, you can her them.

I would rather my daughter, when and if, have sex under my roof and my wife and I know about it than let them think it's something to be ashamed of and need to hide it. The age is important, 17 is fine, so long as I don't have a problem the the boyf. Open and honest relationships with your kids will have better results with sex education, they will understand the boundaries and not be afraid to ask questions.

My wife talks too much to her mom, so much so that I wonder exactly how much my mother inlaw nows about me!!!! My wife was allowed to have her long term boyf over to stay when she was 16 - I think she turned out just fine .

[Empress of Groovy 373]

That's why you should never travel w/o a sex tarp--it's just good manners.

A what now?

Er, mattress protection. Actually, that might not be a very common term. In fact, I think I made it up.