is good to marry within the first time we meet?

[SaadBell 0]

My husband's mother passed away before we married, my husband's father is still living, but no one tells him anything, since we think he may have some mental problems. Now the big problem is my family, my mother, whom my husband adores and I don't. As culture states she should live with us with all the children, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. I would rather live with Satan himself than have to have my live with us. I am living with her now waiting for my husband and I have the oldest daughter and after this little experience, I am ready for us to join the witness protection program. I am dead damn serious. lol

I once had a mother in law from hell, so I feel your pain. I too come from a culture where virgins are consider pure and good, but it seems the more educated someone becomes they see things differently. My husband hasn't lived by his family in over 16 years so some of the old ways are not so strong anymore, and his brothers one lives in Australia and another in England, just seems like when his mother passed away that ties seem to weaken a little. His one brother is always begging my us to come to live in Australia, and my husband could work with his brother who owns his own business, but that is another story, since my husband loves America. Don't let people make you feel inferior cause of virginity or being American women, but sadly this kind of thing happens even in our country, men have always had a hard on for virgins.

This has always helped me with not giving a damn what people think, changes your perception of things that are truly important in your life.

Peace

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

His Mom wants to do it right when I get there.

Olivia, in Egypt, a couple isn't "really" married until after the wedding party - after it's been made public to all of the friends and family. All she wants to do is ... make you an honest woman (don't mean to hurt your feelings; it's meant in the nicest of all possible ways), and she's just doing it in the way she knows. There's nothing wrong with wantin to show off the newest addition to the family, right?

You won't have to worry about a thing but looking splendid. Seriously, Olivia, you'll be so happy you did it. Take lots of pictures (there will probably be a camera and a video camera rolling - both at the same time anyway) and enjoy yourself.

That's weird you say this too. Waleed was also saying this in his own way just to make it known that we are married to all the family and friends and neighbors. I said after 2.5 years the neighbors don't know you're married? I get him on some many things now. I understand it's their acceptance of me into the family and I am happy for that now as the first trip was like a big secret and I wasn't very comfortable with that. Even though he was thumbing his nose at his Dad taking me to his Grandma's to meet the extended family first. Waleed has always considered himself a rebel outside the family or the special most independent case. Yet here he is confromed into a good moral honest muslim man. Last night he was telling me about the rule there that if he is home then he runs the errands for the family and if he doesn't listen his Mom will threaten to do it herself and he said she knows he won't let her do that.