another Filipina/Americano couple

[rlogan 2,036]

Hi Folks,

I found the site last year, and came on with a question that was really worrying me - about what kind of mail service was used and what address was sufficient for the visa packet that my fiance needed to get in the Philippines. She had a Purok but not a house/street number, and I figured there had to be thousands upon thousands of people before us with the same issue, so surely someone would know.

Well, nobody answered our question here although I didn't know about the Philippine subforum. I gave up on the forum as a source of information. I came back on here in the last few days to see if I could find information about how to handle her name change after marrying her here in the states.

I have inferred that we now file for her social security number under my last name since that is what we want her name to be, and fill out a new biographic information form with her new name. We apply for the adjustment of status under her desired name, and that is the manner by which we "change" her name. There isn't any "change of name" action per se. We just start doing everything in the name we want for her.

It didn't help that the woman at the social security office told us we couldn't do what we wanted, and then after being persistent we could see she had just never done this before and eventually it took three employees total to merely apply for a social security number.

I'm amazed this isn't on the I-485 instructions since there have to be on the order of tens of millions of applicants having exactly the same issue. But then again why should I be amazed given what we have been through. Also surprised it is not on one of the frequently asked questions or hints or whatever here. Using google enough I did find a thread on the second day trying that had an answer.

At any rate - hello. We expected immigration to be expensive, time consuming, aggravating, etc. - and it certainly has. But we are together and married, and it is better than we could have hoped for .

Best of luck to everyone else.

Never say die...

[kiwiana 2]

welcome to vj! I too had problems at the social security office. I wanted ssn in my married name straight off. The lady looked at my k-1 visa and was about to refuse me flat out with getting a ssn. I persisted and showed her the POMS information i had downloaded from the site. she informed me that she was looking at the relevant information on her computer. She then called her supervisor over. He still refused to give it to me in my married name. No matter what i said, they wouldnt listen. So i ended up getting ssn in my old name. The ssn arrived in the mail yesterday and i will go back to a different SSA office this week and try once again to get it in my married name. It would be good if the left hand knew what the right one was doing at SSA.

All the best!

[rlogan 2,036]

welcome to vj! I too had problems at the social security office. I wanted ssn in my married name straight off. The lady looked at my k-1 visa and was about to refuse me flat out with getting a ssn. I persisted and showed her the POMS information i had downloaded from the site. she informed me that she was looking at the relevant information on her computer. She then called her supervisor over. He still refused to give it to me in my married name. No matter what i said, they wouldnt listen. So i ended up getting ssn in my old name. The ssn arrived in the mail yesterday and i will go back to a different SSA office this week and try once again to get it in my married name. It would be good if the left hand knew what the right one was doing at SSA.

All the best!

Hi kiwiana.

That't what ours said too. But we did finally manage to get them to agree. Then they did it wrong. They did it a second time, and although the application she printed off looked OK, the letter domonstrating she had applied for one still had her maiden name. But they had closed the office in the meantime and sent us away. We'll see what comes in the mail three weeks from now.

One thing this ordeal has taught us is that the whole "illegal immigration" thing is a huge hoax. The reason we have illegal immigration is because "legal" immigration has been made so ridiculously difficult.

But she's here. We're married. In about a month we'll apply for the Change of Status.

We met 15 months ago, when I was over there on a trip. I went a second time and built a house for her family & stayed three months on that trip.

We talked on the phone/internet daily while apart. No surprises for either one of us. Homelife is just great.

I wish everyone success and happiness...

[honey_me 7]

[-B&T- 1]

Welcome to VJ!

[Craig2006 0]

Welcome to VJ and Good Luck on your journey

[Zee Bee 61]

Welcome to VJ

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Welcome to Visa Journey and good luck with the res of the process. We had to wait for the wife's EAD to arrive before we could change her name on her SSN card. I called the USCIS help line to ask the same question you had about the I-765. It made sense when I filled out the I-485. During the AOS interview, the AO looked to make sure that the name was okay as far as the DHS was concerned, and changed it. (I put the wrong middle name). Luckily, after the change, the name was the same as I put on the I-765 and so we did not have to change her name on any other documents.

[~krakatoa~ 27]

Welcome aboard!

[maritoni 3]

Hello and welcome to Vj

[PrinceandPrincess 0]

Welcome to VJ and good luck on your journey!

[rlogan 2,036]

You know, it strikes me that my wife is very sick at the moment - she has a chronic health problem and it is a pretty savage thing. A lot of suffering.

But gosh - we're together. It is such an over-riding thing for us to just be together that even with this ghastly illness the important thing is that we are side by side and I can take care of her.

This is a group that I think understands what it means.

Thanks for the well-wishes.

[Muuuuah 0]

Welcome

[pRetTy_aNgeL 1]

Welcome to VJ!

[spikeyflip 0]

Welcome to VJ! Mmmm thanks for the heads up with the ssn thing ^^;;