Are You Able To Stop Someone From Coming Back To The US ?

[minimule 3]

And not much love on the part of the "gentleman" who seeks to forbid the mother of his child entrance to the US. Fortunately he can't do it. There are reasons why this woman left his azz.

Any attempt to remove the child from the mother's custody dangerously flies along the line of international kidnapping. Sick.

used is used. quite possibly the wife is just a scammer who had the child to nail the lid on the coffin she had shoved her "husband" into.

speaking as a man who won physical custody of 3 school aged children in a divorce with a policewoman/mother, i would tell this guy to pull out all of the stops. get the "mother" back into the states, tell her you'll take care of the baby for awhile so she can vacation, and then change the locks. the scammer may be too smart to let go of the kid, but if she does, 3 months is "provisional custody" in the eyes of the law.

WHATEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

now something is odd in ur story to begin with, im sure there is plenty u forgot to mention about that gentleman,BUT it is very easy to move someone from their countries, marry them and if something goes wrong try to do whatever it takes to ban them from the us...that shows what type of person we re dealing with...

as far as the kid, WHY WOULD ANYONE EVER WANNA TAKE A KID AWAY FROM HIS/HER MOTHER? pshhhhh

[idealistix 0]

The husband has bêen asking her to come back to the US for several times but she made up reasons to decline, therefore the husband thinks that she just waits for the right time to come back here for the 10 years grêen card.

As you can sêe, this is not a love based marriage on the lady's part, so the husband doesn't want her to come back to the US anymore. Is there anyway to stop her from coming back ? Can he divorce her without her presence in the US ? Can he take full custody of the kid and bring the kid to the US ?

Whoa! If there were an Olympic event for "jumping to conclusions", you would win a gold medal.

Why don't you consider the simplest possibility? She may not want to go back to the US at all, ever. Maybe she thinks she, her kid and her husband will have a better life in Vietnam.

[idocare 3]

Your wife like most married immigrants know exactly what's she doing in my oppinion.

Read all information online concerning your predicament, nine times out of ten ; she or someone guiding her has.

[justashooter 430]

WHY WOULD ANYONE EVER WANNA TAKE A KID AWAY FROM HIS/HER MOTHER? pshhhhh

ask the judge who gave me custody, and declared my ex an "unfit mother".

15% of children of divorce in pennsylvania are in custody of their father, it having been determined "in the best interest of the child". 65% are in joint custody. 20% are in sole custody of the mother.

[scandal 951]

WHY WOULD ANYONE EVER WANNA TAKE A KID AWAY FROM HIS/HER MOTHER? pshhhhh

ask the judge who gave me custody, and declared my ex an "unfit mother".

15% of children of divorce in pennsylvania are in custody of their father, it having been determined "in the best interest of the child". 65% are in joint custody. 20% are in sole custody of the mother.

There's a ton of nonsense on this thread in every possible direction.

But here is one thing that really is personal to me. Mothers are not always the most fit parents for their children. Each case is unique. My ex has sole custody of my kids. That was initially with my full agreement at the time of the divorce - I did not contest, thinking it would be best for the kids to stay with her. Without going into details, let's just say it has NOT worked out well at all. I would change things if I could, but it is a very complex situation at this point and I am resigned to being largely cut off from my own kids.

minimule: How DARE you presume to make blanket statements you obviously know nothing about? I don't take much of the silliness here personally, but you really struck a nerve with this inane remark. Walk a mile in someone's shoes before making sweeping generalizations like that.

justashooter: I'm with you 100% on this. Congrats on fighting - and winning - on behalf of your kids and yourself.

OP: It's pretty hard to judge from your original post what your wife's intentions are with respect to the marriage and returning. Perhaps if you filled in the details a bit more you would get more meaningful advice here.

[supercomp 0]

While there isn't clear cut evidence (from what have been posted) that OP was cheated for greencard, there are enough concerns for the OP to be worried about. If OP feels that he has been cheated in this relationship, he has every right to do whatever necessary to protect himself. That would include notifying USCIS/ICE of his concerns with relevant information. It would be up to USCIS/ICE to stop her from entering the country based on the information they have.

Having a child definitely complicates things, because child is totally innocent in this mess created by two adults.

Whether everyone on this forum wants to accept or not, immigration benefit is a BIG (if not biggest) factor for some females in developing country for marriage. It not just helps the girl, but it also helps her whole family immigrate within 5 years with US Greencard. If I offended anyone, I apologize in advance but thats exactly how I feel.

[rebeccajo 14]

And not much love on the part of the "gentleman" who seeks to forbid the mother of his child entrance to the US. Fortunately he can't do it. There are reasons why this woman left his azz.

Any attempt to remove the child from the mother's custody dangerously flies along the line of international kidnapping. Sick.

used is used. quite possibly the wife is just a scammer who had the child to nail the lid on the coffin she had shoved her "husband" into.

speaking as a man who won physical custody of 3 school aged children in a divorce with a policewoman/mother, i would tell this guy to pull out all of the stops. get the "mother" back into the states, tell her you'll take care of the baby for awhile so she can vacation, and then change the locks. the scammer may be too smart to let go of the kid, but if she does, 3 months is "provisional custody" in the eyes of the law.

Ratchet back that testosterone level there, guys.

Custody will vary from state to state.

WHY WOULD ANYONE EVER WANNA TAKE A KID AWAY FROM HIS/HER MOTHER? pshhhhh

ask the judge who gave me custody, and declared my ex an "unfit mother".

15% of children of divorce in pennsylvania are in custody of their father, it having been determined "in the best interest of the child". 65% are in joint custody. 20% are in sole custody of the mother.

And some states hardly ever grant joint custody.

[minimule 3]

minimule: How DARE you presume to make blanket statements you obviously know nothing about? I don't take much of the silliness here personally, but you really struck a nerve with this inane remark. Walk a mile in someone's shoes before making sweeping generalizations like that.

lol well have a chill pill then, it might help...

the tread title was about trying to stop that woman from going back to the us, then the child was mentioned...i will never back down as far as a kid needing his/her mother, i dont care if you like it or not...im not saying she s right , i don t know her, but as imperfect as she might be, trying to take her kid away from her is an horrible act, and i sure hope he fails...being a bad wife doesn t make u a bad mother.

[chuckandkim 0]

Thai,

Where are you? I think you just want to start up the thread and got scared from the responses. Get back on the discussion and give us some thoughts. This thread is getting no where!

[justashooter 430]

Whether everyone on this forum wants to accept or not, immigration benefit is a BIG (if not biggest) factor for some females in developing country for marriage. It not just helps the girl, but it also helps her whole family immigrate within 5 years with US Greencard. If I offended anyone, I apologize in advance but thats exactly how I feel.

you forgot to mention the mena men marrying women on this board. immigration is a big part of the marriage for them, too. it's the elephant in the room that everyone is afraid to mention. does it apply to everybody? no. does it apply to some? sure.

i would suppose that the worse the condition in the home country, the more important the immigration benefit is to the individual. as for me, well, i married the only girl i met in china that didn't want to move to America. getting her to agree to move to USA was a challenge. she was making more than 3-5X the average engineer's salary in china as a contract translator, and was already successful. most K1 immigrants from developing countries can't say that.

of the chinese families i know in our circle, most are student visa immigrants that have converted to working visa and been sponsored GC by employers. all the "students" have brought spouses from china and birthed American children who are raised to speak chinese first. some have petitioned parents, as taking care of parents in old age is the cultural norm.

of those women who have married American men, most are marriage by acquaintance in china, and none of these have parents petitioned. those that are marriage by internet all have parents petitioned. that being said, most of the chinese i know come from families with some economic power in china.

is it wrong for a foreigner to seek immigration benefit in marriage to an American? that's for you to decide.

[tallcoolone 102]

WHY WOULD ANYONE EVER WANNA TAKE A KID AWAY FROM HIS/HER MOTHER? pshhhhh

ask the judge who gave me custody, and declared my ex an "unfit mother".

15% of children of divorce in pennsylvania are in custody of their father, it having been determined "in the best interest of the child". 65% are in joint custody. 20% are in sole custody of the mother.

You have to be a real "Winner" to have you kids taken from you, if you are a female.

Courts, And Family Courts are geared to lean the justice scales for females in USA.

[Ladylethal 12]

She's in Vietnam with the child, she seems to want to stay there and he seems to want her to live in the US. IMO that's the problem right there, nothing to do with immigration but husband and wife must decide if they want to be together, and if they do where they want to live.

So solve the marriage first and the custody of the child is the marriage is dissolved. Immigration wise, if she remains outside of the US for over a year without a re-entry permit she can be denied entry as she's susceptible to lose her PR status. If she's allowed entry to the US and wants to proceed with the Removal of Conditions and have enough proof that the marriage was entered in good faith she might be able to apply for her 10 year GC alone, after they divorce.

Edited April 26, 2009 by Luis&Laura