Tuesday

[Donna A 4]

ok all u ohio girls...wheres my rain that u guys are getting. i threw down some grass seed yesterday and now i need the rain they say we are 70% chance of getting and theres nothing yet!!!!

Where are you in Ohio? lol I'm in Delaware and it's been raining ALLLL day.

youngstown...northeast. we got a few sprinkles but nothing to brag about.

[PnA 0]

Jillai, I don't know how you do it. Do you guys plan on living in the US? If so, would he be cool with staying home all while you work and not go out without you because you may be jealous? If not, then I don't think you should have to be sequestered because he's "jealous". It's really unfair, IMO.

Im not sure what the problem with me going outside is exactly, I think it might also be the way he was raised ... his brothers r the same with their wives also, and their wives are Egyptian.

We r not allowed to go outside, unless we call them and ask if its ok.... its a little different for me though, I have to have a very good reason for going outside.

I cant just get up and go venture outside, no way... also, I dont live in the greatest area, I think that might play a factor in it as well.

We have had the talk about American culture and how American women are very independent. and do not have to answer to their husbands on every little thing they do... according to him, he understands that. and always tells me, You live my way here Jill in Egypt, and I will live your way in America... so ... Im waiting for that day to come.... I would say we should be in America no longer than 6 months.... so we will see ....

[Leyla 0]

ok all u ohio girls...wheres my rain that u guys are getting. i threw down some grass seed yesterday and now i need the rain they say we are 70% chance of getting and theres nothing yet!!!!

Where are you in Ohio? lol I'm in Delaware and it's been raining ALLLL day.

youngstown...northeast. we got a few sprinkles but nothing to brag about.

I got brag-able rain today.

[Aymsgirl 0]

We didn't get rain here today. I am between Miamisburg and Middletown, Ohio. We did get bad thunderstorms last night though.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Ok so I slept till 3 pm. Ha! I got a few calls in between and half talked my way through them in a sleep induced haze. So much for the rest of my list today. I really don't feel like going outside. I did make a few calls when I got up however and I guess I will finish them up tomorrow first thing.

[S and S 12]

My day started out okay, but steadily got worse. I had the nuerologist lower my blood pressure medicine because I am trying to get pregnant and my current dosage is much too high. So I went from one 120MG time release capsule each day to an 80MG time release capsule. That was two nights ago and now I'm paying for it since that medicine is what prevents my migraines. I've had the worst migraine in years. I barely could drive home and thank God I managed to leave work a little early. I came straight home, blacked out the room and went to sleep. My head is still hurting now, a couple hours later, but it is slightly more tolerable. I'm trying to heat something to eat now as that usually gives me an hour break from the pain (no idea why food does that but I'm glad it does). The odd part is I get really nauseous while I have a migraine and yet food just makes that part go away for awhile rather than making me throw up. Anyway, sorry to keep rattling on, but I wish this pain would go away.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

S and S that sounds horrible. I hope you call your Doctor about this and feel better soon! Good luck with trying for a baby that is exciting!

I'm contemplating what to do with myself all night since I know I will be up again. I need tomorrow's day to finish what I didn't today. I also am contemplating going up to campus and turning in equipment. mmm...bleh...that means walking and walking and walking...I also am contemplating my Masters.

[Kenza 1]

Jillai, I don't know how you do it. Do you guys plan on living in the US? If so, would he be cool with staying home all while you work and not go out without you because you may be jealous? If not, then I don't think you should have to be sequestered because he's "jealous". It's really unfair, IMO.

Im not sure what the problem with me going outside is exactly, I think it might also be the way he was raised ... his brothers r the same with their wives also, and their wives are Egyptian.

We r not allowed to go outside, unless we call them and ask if its ok.... its a little different for me though, I have to have a very good reason for going outside.

I cant just get up and go venture outside, no way... also, I dont live in the greatest area, I think that might play a factor in it as well.

We have had the talk about American culture and how American women are very independent. and do not have to answer to their husbands on every little thing they do... according to him, he understands that. and always tells me, You live my way here Jill in Egypt, and I will live your way in America... so ... Im waiting for that day to come.... I would say we should be in America no longer than 6 months.... so we will see ....

He's probably just worried about you...In Morocco my husband always says that he has lived there all his life, he knows what goes on, he knows all the men and their thinking and stuff like that so in return he has to go wherever I want and whenever I want It works out cuz I like his company.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

35 days left.

Ok I'm walking up to the radio/tv bldg on campus to turn in equipment. Maybe an audio editing bay is open for my use...

[ya falaha! 0]

Sounds more about a control thing if the brother in laws do it, too. You just can't keep human beings locked up like that for long periods of time. My SILs go out, work, etc. on their own all the time and they live in a very rural city with very traditional values. When I was there (for a short time) I even went out with my SILs without him. No one bothered us. It really concerns me that your husband behaves this way. I think you should be concerned also. Using phrases like "we're not allowed to go outside" sounds like you're a child not a grown woman. Having to get his "permission" sounds like you're his property or child not his wife. It's quite alarming, that doesn't alarm you?

He may understand that life in the US is different and women are more independant but don't be surprised if you have to account for every second you're out of the house. Don't be surprised if he blows up your phone even if you're at work. I really hope you're prepared for that. I mean you probably are since you're practically being held hostage right now. My husband is somewhat jealous as most MENA men are and when he first got here he did try to keep tabs on me but I broke him of that over time. It's a trust/control thing and honestly, your situation sounds really extreme.

Jillai, I don't know how you do it. Do you guys plan on living in the US? If so, would he be cool with staying home all while you work and not go out without you because you may be jealous? If not, then I don't think you should have to be sequestered because he's "jealous". It's really unfair, IMO.

Im not sure what the problem with me going outside is exactly, I think it might also be the way he was raised ... his brothers r the same with their wives also, and their wives are Egyptian.

We r not allowed to go outside, unless we call them and ask if its ok.... its a little different for me though, I have to have a very good reason for going outside.

I cant just get up and go venture outside, no way... also, I dont live in the greatest area, I think that might play a factor in it as well.

We have had the talk about American culture and how American women are very independent. and do not have to answer to their husbands on every little thing they do... according to him, he understands that. and always tells me, You live my way here Jill in Egypt, and I will live your way in America... so ... Im waiting for that day to come.... I would say we should be in America no longer than 6 months.... so we will see ....

He's probably just worried about you...In Morocco my husband always says that he has lived there all his life, he knows what goes on, he knows all the men and their thinking and stuff like that so in return he has to go wherever I want and whenever I want It works out cuz I like his company.

[Kenza 1]

If my husband isn't around then I can still go out with other people I know (even if it's the maid) but not alone...maybe I read wrong

[ya falaha! 0]

I'm assuming that she can't go out at all without him since she stated the SILs can't go out without their husbands either. Or maybe they can't go out without a male escort? I don't see anything wrong with a group of women going out to shop or whatever. Like I said before my SILs and I did and not one man tried to bother us. I can see him not wanting her to go out alone because of the language or harrasment but to not be able to go out period without a male escort or him is really extreme.

I'm just concerned about the wording..."unless we call him and ask if it's ok" Sounds Not Without My Daughter-ish.

Edited April 15, 2009 by Astarte

[S and S 12]

S and S that sounds horrible. I hope you call your Doctor about this and feel better soon! Good luck with trying for a baby that is exciting!

I'm contemplating what to do with myself all night since I know I will be up again. I need tomorrow's day to finish what I didn't today. I also am contemplating going up to campus and turning in equipment. mmm...bleh...that means walking and walking and walking...I also am contemplating my Masters.

The pain is still going now. Its so tempting to take the pain meds, but I am afraid to take them and then cause problems. I expected there to be some transition on the lower dose. Its only been a couple days, but my husband is saying maybe I should go back to the higher dose until we know I'm pregnant. I don't know. I just hate to risk it.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

S and S that sounds horrible. I hope you call your Doctor about this and feel better soon! Good luck with trying for a baby that is exciting!

I'm contemplating what to do with myself all night since I know I will be up again. I need tomorrow's day to finish what I didn't today. I also am contemplating going up to campus and turning in equipment. mmm...bleh...that means walking and walking and walking...I also am contemplating my Masters.

The pain is still going now. Its so tempting to take the pain meds, but I am afraid to take them and then cause problems. I expected there to be some transition on the lower dose. Its only been a couple days, but my husband is saying maybe I should go back to the higher dose until we know I'm pregnant. I don't know. I just hate to risk it.

I'd call the Doctor or the local "ask a nurse" to be sure what is going on.

So I just wasted 2 hours in the audio editing bay trying to create a station ID. Should be simple but no one could help me not even the other Prof there. Irritating as hell.

[Nagishkaw 510]

Sounds more about a control thing if the brother in laws do it, too. You just can't keep human beings locked up like that for long periods of time. My SILs go out, work, etc. on their own all the time and they live in a very rural city with very traditional values. When I was there (for a short time) I even went out with my SILs without him. No one bothered us. It really concerns me that your husband behaves this way. I think you should be concerned also. Using phrases like "we're not allowed to go outside" sounds like you're a child not a grown woman. Having to get his "permission" sounds like you're his property or child not his wife. It's quite alarming, that doesn't alarm you?

He may understand that life in the US is different and women are more independant but don't be surprised if you have to account for every second you're out of the house. Don't be surprised if he blows up your phone even if you're at work. I really hope you're prepared for that. I mean you probably are since you're practically being held hostage right now. My husband is somewhat jealous as most MENA men are and when he first got here he did try to keep tabs on me but I broke him of that over time. It's a trust/control thing and honestly, your situation sounds really extreme.

I have to agree with Astarte on this one. It is rather sad that he is being disrespectful of your rights as a human being.