Getting Divorced Maybe

[candid_gurl 0]

i am so sorry to hear your situation now.. i think you should talk about it wholeheartedly and what u really want for the both of you. check on when and how this problem started. and maybe u can start from there.

marriage counselling is a good step..who knows u still can work it out.

we will be praying for you.

Godbless.

[Yodrak 7]

rocky,

I don't know about God's plan, but reading the story in your personal information and the 7th sentence of your post here I have a credible idea about Shely's plan.

In any case, if you and she do decide to divorce immigration becomes her issue and you will no longer play a direct role in that. Although you may be affected indirectly if the USCIS questions her intentions and she decides that she has to play the 'abuse card' if that's the only way she can remove conditions.

Yodrak

God's Blessings On All,

Well sometimes things don't turn out as you expect. Shely and I are on the brink of divorce. Who would have guessed. We've been married since Nov. 09 2006 and already calling an end possibly to it. With God All Things Are Possible so perhaps it won't happen. Pray for us. Shely has gotten her green card, new car, job so what can be wrong. Ah! somethings are just too personal to talk about. Well, is there anyone who can advise us about what we need to do concerning the USCIS if anything. How long can Shely stand in USA after divorce? What papers need to be filed other than divorce papers? Any advice will be deeply by both of us. We still wish the very best for each other in this world. Wish I could share our problem with you but some things are just too personal. God's Blessings On All!!!

Joyful and Thankful,

Shely and Carmine

p.s. Jim, sometimes it's hard to understand God's Plan

Reba,

1 wrong, 1 right, and 3 missing.

Yodrak

sure it does, there's the affidavit of support that he's still responsible for her for 10 years or until she is given citizenship.

[meauxna 15]

I know of a woman who, after being engaged to her US fiance, restarted an affair with previous boyfriend, got pregnant and had an abortion a week before she came to the US on her K1 VISA. After being told of this, the US fiance still wants to marry her! Hmmm, what do you think HER intentions are?

After all that, what do you think HIS are???

[internetkafe 0]

Of course citizenship is desirable. Why would anyone want to live a thrid rate life? If you are living in a country and paying taxes you should have all the rights as citizens do, including the right to vote..the right to have your voice heard. I wonder who does not want citizenship among the immigrating spouses? Anyone here on this forum who think having citizenship is really not important???

Good luck, but I have a feeling I know what's going on here after reading your story, seeing your age, and reading your original post. Sounds like she got what she wanted, and it's time for her to move on.

Well, typical MOB......I tell you, everyone has to be careful about the women from high fraud nations..I'm sure she won't want to go back to her country...she has her GC now, what more would she want? I'm sorry this happened to you, dude..really am...no one deserves that..

I am sorry to hear about it. It happens to the best of us. If divorce is truly your best course of action, I would write a letter to the USCIS office, which approved the case, as well as the USCIS in general and advise them of this development and your request to retract and void your sponsorship of this person..

Likewise to KingQM, I advise people here to be cautious with partners from high risk 2nd / 3rd world nations.. I have seen people say. "yaaaaayyy for AOS approval. Now on to citizenship!!". Common sense leads me to believe that this person is a little too keen on citizenship and that this was possibly their intention from day 1.. A friend of mine went through a similar situation not too long ago. He pursued the relationship with blinkers on, only to realize later on that this person was just trying to get into Australia... Of course I by no means am saying this is the case with the OP..

Disclaimer: Word of warning does NOT mean every person described above is guilty, just advice for people to be cautious..

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Of course citizenship is desirable. Why would anyone want to live a thrid rate life? If you are living in a country and paying taxes you should have all the rights as citizens do, including the right to vote..the right to have your voice heard. I wonder who does not want citizenship among the immigrating spouses? Anyone here on this forum who think having citizenship is really not important???

Just as an FYI, there are some countries in the world, today, where even their citizens' voices aren't heard

[meauxna 15]

I wonder who does not want citizenship among the immigrating spouses? Anyone here on this forum who think having citizenship is really not important???

Most of the Canadians. Many of the UKers. Lots of the western Europeans. All of the apathetics.

[KarenCee 3]

Those who read the Bible know about you will foresake father, mother, daughter, son, wife, child or whoever for the Love of Jesus Christ. No one or nothing comes before Our God! So, you see I'm fine for I am not overcomed by this world.

Interesting. This same bible says that you are to love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it. If God really intended for one to abandon that which he has given, I seriously doubt he would have given it in the first place. Having said this, why would you even assume God would have you put him ahead of the one you have proclaimed he has given to you?

By the way, all this is mentioned in the book of Ephesians.

I really hope you and your wife find a way to salvage this.

[dmartmar 1]

i am so sorry to hear your situation now.. i think you should talk about it wholeheartedly and what u really want for the both of you. check on when and how this problem started. and maybe u can start from there.

marriage counselling is a good step..who knows u still can work it out.

we will be praying for you.

Godbless.

Marriage counseling will only strengthen her case. In other words, that the marriage was entered into with bona fide intentions since day 1.

I wonder; who does not want citizenship, among the immigrating spouses?

Those who didn't marry with that intention.

Edited September 3, 2006 by dmartmar

[JenT 0]

Sorry, but the OP has not posted in over a month. Who's to say that this is even an issue anymore?

Could possibly be much ado about nothing.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

i am so sorry to hear your situation now.. i think you should talk about it wholeheartedly and what u really want for the both of you. check on when and how this problem started. and maybe u can start from there.

marriage counselling is a good step..who knows u still can work it out.

we will be praying for you.

Godbless.

Marriage counseling will only strengthen her case. In other words, that the marriage was entered into with bona fide intentions since day 1.

I wonder; who does not want citizenship, among the immigrating spouses?

Those who didn't marry with that intention.

The Energizer Bunny keep on kicking! Dmartmar, my friend, is that a permanent groove you've worn across those brain synapses?

[internetkafe 0]

I wonder who does not want citizenship among the immigrating spouses? Anyone here on this forum who think having citizenship is really not important???

Most of the Canadians. Many of the UKers. Lots of the western Europeans. All of the apathetics.

If so why did you get naturalized? Are you from a ´Third World´ country ?

It is really sadistic to think that one would be happy living in the US without having the full rights citizens enjoy.If you choose to live in the US and if you want equal treatment and full rights then naturalization is the only way... a desire. A person´s being from UK or Western Europe does not change the treatment s/he gets in the US. If you are not a citizen you are not a citizen.

[Krikit 1,164]

[meauxna 15]

I wonder who does not want citizenship among the immigrating spouses? Anyone here on this forum who think having citizenship is really not important???

Most of the Canadians. Many of the UKers. Lots of the western Europeans. All of the apathetics.

If so why did you get naturalized? Are you from a ´Third World´ country ?

It is really sadistic to think that one would be happy living in the US without having the full rights citizens enjoy.If you choose to live in the US and if you want equal treatment and full rights then naturalization is the only way... a desire. A person´s being from UK or Western Europe does not change the treatment s/he gets in the US. If you are not a citizen you are not a citizen.

Heh, Third World country---er yeah, California. Sounds about right.

My husband naturalized because this is where he lives.

It's not sadistic (you choose some inflammatory words!) to think one would/could be happy living in the US as "only" a PR---hundreds of thousands do just that for a wide variety of reasons. I can see that it is a priority for *you*, and as a citizen, I'm glad you feel that way. But I don't hold anyone in lesser esteem because they don't want to become a USC (tho I've gone 'round and 'round with my Canadian haircutter on the topic---she is adamant--NO way she wants to naturalize).

Recognize too that not all people *can* naturalize, even when they want to.. but your question was about people who think it's not important to naturalize. I think if you posted that question to a more general forum, you would get a lot of response. Hey, you should post it to off topic--it would be interesting to see what people have to say.

Krikit--I think you broke out the popcorn *very* prematurely.

[Welshcookie 17]

We talked at some length about me becoming a citizen and decided it would be in my best interests and my young son's, I guess comes down to having options come any 'unforseen' circumstances in the future (and I am not thinking divorce in particular). I just assumed that I would want to return to the UK if anything bad happened ie divorce, death etc etc but as my husband says, what if I don't have anything to go back for once my life is established in the US? so yeh, I see his point and will go for citizenship.

[Dr_LHA 3]

I wonder who does not want citizenship among the immigrating spouses? Anyone here on this forum who think having citizenship is really not important???

Most of the Canadians. Many of the UKers. Lots of the western Europeans. All of the apathetics.

Not sure why the UK people wouldn't bother naturalising. Given that you don't have to give up your UKC to become a USC, naturalising would seem like a win-win situation for all. I certainly plan on doing it in the future.