Getting Divorced Maybe

[dmartmar 1]

Hope you get things worked out...

Sometimes, adjusting to a new life can be difficult. Talk a lot and try to sort out problems... If there is love, then still there is a chance...

Good luck...

These are words of wisdom...adjustment is a difficult process for both parties, may seem like there is no way out and that separation is the only remedy, but I believe that with God's help and open communication where love is present, things can be salvaged and a marriage saved...best of luck...

It looks as if she's adjusted to her new life in America pretty quickly and easily. Not even a year has passed since she first arrived to get married and yet she already has a job which allows her to own and pay for a brand new car.

The first year of marriage is very rough, not like we all dream of sometimes, but if you can get past this, hopefully you can make your marriage even stronger. Plus, the immigration process can sure be hard on some of us vs. normal couples who had enough time to deal with one another. I am praying that you two can work it out and come out of this with a better marriage.

This marriage no longer involves any immigration processes, since she already has a Green Card.

[Reba 2]

sure it does, there's the affidavit of support that he's still responsible for her for 10 years or until she is given citizenship.

[returningVJ 0]

Hope you get things worked out...

Sometimes, adjusting to a new life can be difficult. Talk a lot and try to sort out problems... If there is love, then still there is a chance...

Good luck...

These are words of wisdom...adjustment is a difficult process for both parties, may seem like there is no way out and that separation is the only remedy, but I believe that with God's help and open communication where love is present, things can be salvaged and a marriage saved...best of luck...

It looks as if she's adjusted to her new life in America pretty quickly and easily. Not even a year has passed since she first arrived to get married and yet she already has a job which allows her to own and pay for a brand new car.

The first year of marriage is very rough, not like we all dream of sometimes, but if you can get past this, hopefully you can make your marriage even stronger. Plus, the immigration process can sure be hard on some of us vs. normal couples who had enough time to deal with one another. I am praying that you two can work it out and come out of this with a better marriage.

This marriage no longer involves any immigration processes, since she already has a Green Card.

Please dont say things unless youre sure about what youre talking. it ofcourse involves immigration process. if the immigrant doesnt file for removal of conditions within 3 months before the conditional GC expire, he/she will automatically loose the residency and hence become removable. also you have to deal with USCIS on one way or the other untill you become a citizen.

Good luck, but I have a feeling I know what's going on here after reading your story, seeing your age, and reading your original post. Sounds like she got what she wanted, and it's time for her to move on.

Well, typical MOB......I tell you, everyone has to be careful about the women from high fraud nations..I'm sure she won't want to go back to her country...she has her GC now, what more would she want? I'm sorry this happened to you, dude..really am...no one deserves that..

Seems like some people here are good in jumping on to conclusions, the OP has stated he has withheld some info since its personal. so i guess its not your day to judge people on the forum

Edited August 30, 2006 by returningVJ

[Heracles 417]

Good luck, but I have a feeling I know what's going on here after reading your story, seeing your age, and reading your original post. Sounds like she got what she wanted, and it's time for her to move on.

Well, typical MOB......I tell you, everyone has to be careful about the women from high fraud nations..I'm sure she won't want to go back to her country...she has her GC now, what more would she want? I'm sorry this happened to you, dude..really am...no one deserves that..

I am sorry to hear about it. It happens to the best of us. If divorce is truly your best course of action, I would write a letter to the USCIS office, which approved the case, as well as the USCIS in general and advise them of this development and your request to retract and void your sponsorship of this person..

Likewise to KingQM, I advise people here to be cautious with partners from high risk 2nd / 3rd world nations.. I have seen people say. "yaaaaayyy for AOS approval. Now on to citizenship!!". Common sense leads me to believe that this person is a little too keen on citizenship and that this was possibly their intention from day 1.. A friend of mine went through a similar situation not too long ago. He pursued the relationship with blinkers on, only to realize later on that this person was just trying to get into Australia... Of course I by no means am saying this is the case with the OP..

Disclaimer: Word of warning does NOT mean every person described above is guilty, just advice for people to be cautious..

Edited August 30, 2006 by Infidel

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Good luck, but I have a feeling I know what's going on here after reading your story, seeing your age, and reading your original post. Sounds like she got what she wanted, and it's time for her to move on.

Well, typical MOB......I tell you, everyone has to be careful about the women from high fraud nations..I'm sure she won't want to go back to her country...she has her GC now, what more would she want? I'm sorry this happened to you, dude..really am...no one deserves that..

I am sorry to hear about it. It happens to the best of us. If divorce is truly your best course of action, I would write a letter to the USCIS office, which approved the case, as well as the USCIS in general and advise them of this development and your request to retract and void your sponsorship of this person..

Likewise to KingQM, I advise people here to be cautious with partners from high risk 2nd / 3rd world nations.. I have seen people say. "yaaaaayyy for AOS approval. Now on to citizenship!!". Common sense leads me to believe that this person is a little too keen on citizenship and that this was possibly their intention from day 1.. A friend of mine went through a similar situation not too long ago. He pursued the relationship with blinkers on, only to realize later on that this person was just trying to get into Australia... Of course I by no means am saying this is the case with the OP..

Disclaimer: Word of warning does NOT mean every person described above is guilty, just advice for people to be cautious..

Infidel,

Once the adjustment of status is approved, the Affidavit of Support is irrevocable, unless the alien is found to have committed fraud and then a denial or rescission of permanent residency would render the I-864 unnecessary.

[garya505 2]

Good luck, but I have a feeling I know what's going on here after reading your story, seeing your age, and reading your original post. Sounds like she got what she wanted, and it's time for her to move on.

Well, typical MOB......I tell you, everyone has to be careful about the women from high fraud nations..I'm sure she won't want to go back to her country...she has her GC now, what more would she want? I'm sorry this happened to you, dude..really am...no one deserves that..

I am sorry to hear about it. It happens to the best of us. If divorce is truly your best course of action, I would write a letter to the USCIS office, which approved the case, as well as the USCIS in general and advise them of this development and your request to retract and void your sponsorship of this person..

Likewise to KingQM, I advise people here to be cautious with partners from high risk 2nd / 3rd world nations.. I have seen people say. "yaaaaayyy for AOS approval. Now on to citizenship!!". Common sense leads me to believe that this person is a little too keen on citizenship and that this was possibly their intention from day 1.. A friend of mine went through a similar situation not too long ago. He pursued the relationship with blinkers on, only to realize later on that this person was just trying to get into Australia... Of course I by no means am saying this is the case with the OP..

Disclaimer: Word of warning does NOT mean every person described above is guilty, just advice for people to be cautious..

I know of a woman who, after being engaged to her US fiance, restarted an affair with previous boyfriend, got pregnant and had an abortion a week before she came to the US on her K1 VISA. After being told of this, the US fiance still wants to marry her! Hmmm, what do you think HER intentions are?

Edited August 30, 2006 by garya505

[Dr_LHA 3]

I know of a woman who, after being engaged to her US fiance, restarted an affair with previous boyfriend, got pregnant and had an abortion a week before she came to the US on her K1 VISA. After being told of this, the US fiance still wants to marry her! Hmmm, what do you think HER intentions are?

P.T. Barnum had a good phrase for people like that.

[Aussielad 37]

wow crazy

[Anastassia 0]

Heeeeeeeeey I am high fraud country too, no ?

My marriage is working great so far but if, God forbid, it came to the divorce I woulnd't stay here a minute. So please don't judge people by some stupid stereotypes.

But I am sorry for what happened.

Ana

drives me crazy when people assume that coming to America and staying here is the only thing somebody might have on agenda.

[M. 0]

I'm so sorry to hear it, and while I know your reasons are personal, the timing of it is suspicious.

Either way, to protect yourself, I'd see if there's either a) a family/divorce attorney that has dealt with immigration-related divorces before or b.) an immigration attorney that's dealt with divorces before.

I know the idea of an attorney sounds, well, expensive and unnecessary, but when you work in divorce court you quickly find out that the old saying is true: cheap is dear.

Edited August 31, 2006 by M.

[JenT 0]

Hope you get things worked out...

Sometimes, adjusting to a new life can be difficult. Talk a lot and try to sort out problems... If there is love, then still there is a chance...

Good luck...

These are words of wisdom...adjustment is a difficult process for both parties, may seem like there is no way out and that separation is the only remedy, but I believe that with God's help and open communication where love is present, things can be salvaged and a marriage saved...best of luck...

It looks as if she's adjusted to her new life in America pretty quickly and easily. Not even a year has passed since she first arrived to get married and yet she already has a job which allows her to own and pay for a brand new car.

The first year of marriage is very rough, not like we all dream of sometimes, but if you can get past this, hopefully you can make your marriage even stronger. Plus, the immigration process can sure be hard on some of us vs. normal couples who had enough time to deal with one another. I am praying that you two can work it out and come out of this with a better marriage.

This marriage no longer involves any immigration processes, since she already has a Green Card.

Please dont say things unless youre sure about what youre talking. it ofcourse involves immigration process. if the immigrant doesnt file for removal of conditions within 3 months before the conditional GC expire, he/she will automatically loose the residency and hence become removable. also you have to deal with USCIS on one way or the other untill you become a citizen.

Good luck, but I have a feeling I know what's going on here after reading your story, seeing your age, and reading your original post. Sounds like she got what she wanted, and it's time for her to move on.

Well, typical MOB......I tell you, everyone has to be careful about the women from high fraud nations..I'm sure she won't want to go back to her country...she has her GC now, what more would she want? I'm sorry this happened to you, dude..really am...no one deserves that..

Seems like some people here are good in jumping on to conclusions, the OP has stated he has withheld some info since its personal. so i guess its not your day to judge people on the forum

Perhaps a little research is in order before resurrecting old posts...

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...c=22032&hl=

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...mp;#entry359908

Jen

[ChanelKitten 0]

I am so sorry to hear that things are not working out Rocky, but I wish you all the best of luck in getting it all sorted out.

[PurrSuede 0]

Another thread, and yet another reason WHY we need a "divorce" Forum on this board.

To the OP: I'm sorry for your ending, but the God/dess doesn't close doors without opening

windows... I'm learning this all too well myself...

We were married almost exactly two years before she split... I have no doubt she was being fed info from others that "you need to stay married two years, then you're home free!"... that info isn't quite correct, but I'm sure she didn't know that...

As to the parts in this thread about the "Affidavit of support", I posted a HUGE thread on why this is almost NEVER used in any action. It can be used by the alien spouse ~IF~ there is no minimum-poverty level support. Literally only a "handful" of actions have taken place over the last nine years and these were all done by disgruntled ex-spouses.

However, in this thread, I believe he said she already HAD a job, so this likely ain't gonna happen. She's already making MORE than minimum wage.

The entire thread, including the topic of the Affidavit of Support discussion is at:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=23285

-- Dan, that been there, done that, and man, I shouldn't have bought ~that~ T-shirt kind of guy...

Heeeeeeeeey I am high fraud country too, no ?

My marriage is working great so far but if, God forbid, it came to the divorce I woulnd't stay here a minute. So please don't judge people by some stupid stereotypes.

But I am sorry for what happened.

Ana

drives me crazy when people assume that coming to America and staying here is the only thing somebody might have on agenda.

Ana:

It was the last thing on my mind that I thought my Russian ex-wife wanted. The reality seems to be that she was much more interested in a "good life" in America than in being married to me. But you know, it makes me furious when people tell me this is all that every Russian woman wants.

There's good and bad in every culture, in every group, and it's difficult but unfortunately many people get judged by the bad actions of a few.

I'm finding as I return to talking to Eastern European women that they find me to have "SERIOUS" intentions, having gone through this process, getting burned, and yet still being willing to try again.

So thanks for sharing that angry-ness in your post, I think in some cases it's well deserved.

-- Dan, that half-Polish, been to Russia five times and still might go back again guy

[almaty 19]

sorry ...

[Peter Miami 0]

I will pray for you guys but please talk, talk and talk and then listen, listen and listen. Communication is key, if you can get prof. help do so.

Good luck,

Peter Miami