Misconceptions and Sterotypes WHAT DO YOU THINK

[morocco4ever 63]

I'm not sure why I need to receive a lecture nearly everytime I post. Are you guys not used to having opinionated Muslims around? It seems to me that the non-Muslim viewpoint is well-represented and that's the position that seems to feel a need to tell me how I should post. There's some stereotyping going on in the weight given to whose sensibilities are more important than others.

Frankly, I'm not a relativist and don't believe that all povs are valid, but if mine is valid, as you say it is, please stop telling me how to respond. I haven't done that to you.

post the way you want to. everyone has a right to state their argument.

I agree with Shon, you need to post what you want. I do believe you have some very valid points. My husband is Moroccan, and at first he didn't say much about me converting to Islam. As time went on he started to push it more and more. I was raised Mormon, and I my family is a little freaked about the thought that I "might" turn Muslim. The truth is that since I had already decided that Mormonism isn't for me I did choose to become Muslim. It isn't official yet, and I am waiting for my husband to come before we make it official, but this is going to be a shock to my family.

But I also believe that it honestly isn't as important to some as it is to others. I think alot depends on how and where we are raised. Fascinating reading here.

[hurriya 0]

I could meet someone in my home town that was born in America, is Catholic, christian, or any of the "accepted" religions, and he could kidnap me, take my children or child, sexually abuse me and commint horrible crimes.

Angie, you are right on the mark.

Now to put a Black spin on it, I know that Prena and Shon can back me up on this, you'd have to first eliminate those in jail, already married, "on the down low" or gay, drug addicted (or drug dealers), HIV positive, thugs, and those with one or more "Baby's Mamas" and it's pretty slim pickings for us to begin with. Then to expect him to actually believe in anything? When relating to the pool of men available to us (if were we not to date interracially), we are lucky if we aren't all fighting for the same one man!

[AngelK96 0]

Angie I always like your posts You'll have a wonderful time in Jordan!

They need to make a movie with this title "Not Without My Husband"

[iceyspots 0]

Not without my cousin

[AngelK96 0]

Maybe we need to start a thread " Not Without My"

[Together4ever 1]

Maybe we need to start a thread " Not Without My"

Oh do it! Do it!

[~Jackie~ 30]

Not Without My .............coffee !

Jackie

[AngelK96 0]

Ok someone make it but add our answers

angelk96 "Not without my husband"

Iceyspots "Not without my cousin"

jmagayreh "Not without my coffee"

[babybunny 2]

I'm not sure why I need to receive a lecture nearly everytime I post. Are you guys not used to having opinionated Muslims around? It seems to me that the non-Muslim viewpoint is well-represented and that's the position that seems to feel a need to tell me how I should post. There's some stereotyping going on in the weight given to whose sensibilities are more important than others.

Frankly, I'm not a relativist and don't believe that all povs are valid, but if mine is valid, as you say it is, please stop telling me how to respond. I haven't done that to you.

post the way you want to. everyone has a right to state their argument.

I agree with Shon, you need to post what you want. I do believe you have some very valid points. My husband is Moroccan, and at first he didn't say much about me converting to Islam. As time went on he started to push it more and more. I was raised Mormon, and I my family is a little freaked about the thought that I "might" turn Muslim. The truth is that since I had already decided that Mormonism isn't for me I did choose to become Muslim. It isn't official yet, and I am waiting for my husband to come before we make it official, but this is going to be a shock to my family.

But I also believe that it honestly isn't as important to some as it is to others. I think alot depends on how and where we are raised. Fascinating reading here.

ohhh wake up call for the shonnie..

I can sooo relate to what you are saying. My family is SO. Baptist. mama is gonna freak!

she knew about me converting but, she dont really know because, I have not visted my family.

like you - I am also waiting for Javed to make it offical.

Not Without My.....BINGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Veiled Princess 1]

I dont know if this has been answered. but, really the reason why a "We are told that we are not allowed to marry non-Muslim men, "

is the religion is transfer from MAN to WOMAN. unless the man converts. which is what Brother dean has done. but, a non muslim woman can marry a muslim man. but, at some point she is expected to convert- I think this should never be forced upon anyone! just my 2 cents..

I think it also has a lot do with the fact that women are given many rights in Islam that men from other faiths or even some muslim men who don't fear God would not be quick to give us in a marriage.

In my opinion what it really boils down to is that it is something which God has ordained for us and HE is the ONE who knows what is best for us. He is the one who created us and we just have to trust Him and have faith that He made these rules for a reason even if they don't make sense to us now.

It should also be noted that muslim men are allowed to marry "chaste" christian and jewish women... not these tramps prancing around who are only christian on sundays at church but could have just as easily been pagan last night at the club while having drunken orgies.

As far as my children are concerned...just to give a little background.. they are both from a previous marriage from my life before embracing Islam but they both love Islam with a passion and call themselves muslims... they pray with me every day and my daughter (age 5) insists she will wear hijab when she starts K5 this year even though I have told her MANY times she is just a baby and she doesn't have to do this... she insists she is a muslim and she wants to be known as a muslim when she's at school mashallah .... anyway, I would never allow my daughter to marry a non muslim man! end of discussion... I have been married to a non muslim before accepting Islam and have had countless interactions with non muslim men and there is NO way I would entrust the well being of my daughter to one of them. This is not something that I differ in opinion towards my son about. While I would not out right refuse to allow my son to marry a non muslim since this is something that God has allowed and I would NEVER dream of making any rule for my family that goes against what God has said, I would remind him that our prophet (sal allahu alayhi wa salaam) said that a woman is chosen for marriage for four things... her beauty, her wealth, her family status and her piety and the last is the BEST reason! I would encourage him to choose a righteous woman who would make it her goal in life to raise their children upon a strong Islamic foundation. I personally think this is something that muslim men should be reminded of on a regular basis.

I have MANY other comments to various posts on this thread but I'll keep them to myself