Is time and distance

[djcess 0]

true love always conquers no matter how far or how much time you are away

ditto! My fiance and I have been apart since feb. 19, 2005.. so that's about a year and 4 months now. But we're still going very strong (thank God!) and we were able to adjust with the distance because if we don't, we wont make it. As they always say: if you cant adapt, you get extinct! We have good communication.. we use voip, consume the rest of our day watching ourselves at MSN live messenger, he lets me watch him sleep.. so as you can see, you have plenty options. Hold on, cause it's worth the wait!

[Aymerlu 3]

Although the time apart is making us both crazy it is making our relationship even stronger and making us love each other more. We know that the best is yet to come when we are FINALLY together.

[MrMrsKnight 0]

Distance just brought us closer together... it showed us that if we were going through that with so much love, patience and passion, it had to be because we belonged together. We just decided to not let anything come between us.... and nothing has.

We talk a lot everyday... talk about silly and important things, watch tv together, watch each other sleep, talk about our day... we make each other laugh so we'll always have a good reason to come back home after a hard day of work. And we trust each other. We just met after one year apart and we truly love each other a lot more now than we did one year ago, which we thought was impossible... and that's because we earned that love.

It takes some time to learn how to deal with the distance.... but if it's meant to be, then it won't go wrong... just believe and work on you abilities to overcome whatever comes between you two!

I wish you the best of luck!!

Edited June 25, 2006 by MrMrsKnight

[govols 0]

I ve been feeling sad lately..

its been since January since me and my fiance have not seen eachother... and we are still waiting for aproval from CSC. But I can feel how time is distance is getting us further and further apart.... this process is so hard... and i think he is about to give up... not being able to see eachother is so hard... I just wish we finaly get approved so this process can move further along. everyday that goes by we get more and more distant.

where is my NOA2?

Can you visit?? Of course that will help!

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

I always feel odd when I see these topics cos I never really feel that way - I wonder if its cos Im older (102, no..ok..but Im not 21 either, lol)..or just that I know I can be self-reliant.. I need my SO for many things but I don't need him to live my life (if that even makes sense, its really late here! lol) He's part OF my life, and part OF me, but without his physical presence I am still capable and confident in the things that I do. He is the same..he has to work, bring up his kids cook etc - he does all these thing quite adequately without needing to hear my voice every 4 seconds. We DO miss each other if we don't catch up on AIM or IM at least once a day..but sometimes things happen and it just has to be dealt with - and we don't make it to the PC in time. I don't cry myself to sleep over it tho - we also speak very infrequently over the phone (partly due to my living arrangements/ conditions atm and also he works shifts and doesnt want to wake the whole house, lol)..but we have a deeper connection - it can survive us being apart, it can survive a day or 2 of ZERO contact if it has to.. I feel better being WITH him, and I miss him when I don't 'hear' from him, but I do ok without as well..

Maybe that's the difference? Self-confidence and self-belief?

[Peggy 1]

I am here with my husband now, but I remember the feeling of missing him so bad.

Being in a LDR is very hard, but if the love is true and strong, you will make it.

We always found that being apart made our love stronger and more special. Waiting for the next visit helps alot to. We were lucky that we got to see each other every three months for the 1.5 years that we were apart. Those times are the most special in our memories we share today.

We never gave up, nor did we ever talk about giving up. Those thoughts never entered our minds or hearts. A true love like this only comes once in your life time. Hang in there and it will all be worth it once your together forever.

Be strong and true to one another

[Thersch 0]

Gosh, ive been reading some post and sorry to read about those couple who've been apart for too long.. Ive been apart from my fiance for just two months and I miss him terribly. Its really hard but we're dealing with it.

Problems that we encounter are basically because of some technical problems like Phone disconnection because of bad signals, Internet disconnections because PLDT sucks.. lol and stuff like that.. We love each so much that we dont mind going through all these. We complain alot hehe.. coz its really hard but we are dealing with it and getting stronger everyday.

"Distance is not for the fearful, It is for the bold. It is for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. Its for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they dont see it nearly enough"

Good Luck to us who are waiting

[mrsushi66 0]

Everyone is going to tell you what works for them. The most improtant thing to do is to talk to your fiance and find out what will work for you two.

My fiance and I have similar thoughts on this, for us it is enough to email once a day and talk on the phone once a week but that is what works for us.

You two really need to do some soul searching and figure out what will be good for you two. It aint easy and it aint fun but in my opinion it is the hell is worth the reward.

Hope you figure it out.

Paul misses Anna

[Karen_L 1]

As others have suggested, try to remember that the separation won't be forever -- be sure to talk every single day. When my husband was my fiance' and still in Italy, and I felt very lonely or missing him, but I was busy with school or work, we would text each other -- sometimes having even a little bit of contact and communication aside from daily conversations could help make me feel less lonely. A random "What are you up to? I love you!" text would make me feel involved with his life, and vice versa

[JanaknJanet 0]

"Distance is not for the fearful, It is for the bold. It is for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. Its for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they dont see it nearly enough"

Totally awsome quote...

I am not fearful I am bold..

Bold enough to wait for what I know is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Janak and I have been apart since July 05 about 400 days.. . each day i spend moments with him

sometimes it is just simply him sitting there checking his emails.. and others we are frustrated and blowing steam ... other times it is just Love.. romancing each other.. rekindling what we are lacking.

Each day it seems we drift.. but .. a few hours later when we talk again.. it is just the same..

We both have been under alot of stress... myself working on my daughter wedding and family dealings here with that.. and for him.. his work.. and waiting on proper documentation.

He recently was in Bali on business.. very little communication or contact.. no phone connection..nothing. . during the whole 25 days away (supposed to have only been 10 days) I only heard from him 3x's.. but I knew physically he was ok.. mentally emotionally.. i was a mess..

That trip was the only time in our whole relationship outside of accidents.. or hospitalizations. that we have not had contact daily. it was hell.. but I knew it was short term. Thank goodness it was during my daughters wedding.. and I was occupied with that..

It seems some days the day is a lifetime.. ..

But we remind each other.. of our love.. of our committment.. ..

would we truley be waiting this long if it was not true?

A wait like this is just a blink in the eye of our future together.

Life gives us our storms.. we need to learn how to ride them out as smoothly as possible.. it will just make us all stronger in the longterm..

dont give up.. learn how to fight it.. its worth every moment of wait..