Pregnant Fiancee in Philippines

[Leyla 0]

I wouldn't use a kid to slow or speed up the process anyway. That is SOOOOOO not a good idea........

[SuperDuper! 230]

I wouldn't use a kid to slow or speed up the process anyway. That is SOOOOOO not a good idea........

So please share what a MENA man does in a similar situation

[-B&T- 1]

Use birth control I would suggest.If your fiancee gets pregnant I don't think it would speed up the visa process its 'first come first serve' policy at the embassy.Having a baby there would involved a lot of paperwork and if your fiancee lives outside manila she has to travel to get there and it's not good for pregnant ladies to travel a lot and not good for the baby if mommy gets stress so think about it.

[Leyla 0]

I wouldn't use a kid to slow or speed up the process anyway. That is SOOOOOO not a good idea........

So please share what a MENA man does in a similar situation

Wow... hostile much?

[SuperDuper! 230]

I wouldn't use a kid to slow or speed up the process anyway. That is SOOOOOO not a good idea........

So please share what a MENA man does in a similar situation

Wow... hostile much?

We are hoping you will share your secrets about MENA man and how you tell him you dont want baby yet, so he wont get hostile at woman.

[Sinergy 3]

I wouldn't use a kid to slow or speed up the process anyway. That is SOOOOOO not a good idea........

So please share what a MENA man does in a similar situation

Wow... hostile much?

We are hoping you will share your secrets about MENA man and how you tell him you dont want baby yet, so he wont get hostile at woman.

Please do not attack members period over something about their fiance/husbands, also this is a thread about birth control, not sharing secrets about anything with anyones SO.

[SuperDuper! 230]

I wouldn't use a kid to slow or speed up the process anyway. That is SOOOOOO not a good idea........

So please share what a MENA man does in a similar situation

Wow... hostile much?

We are hoping you will share your secrets about MENA man and how you tell him you dont want baby yet, so he wont get hostile at woman.

Please do not attack members period over something about their fiance/husbands, also this is a thread about birth control, not sharing secrets about anything with anyones SO.

No attack here, Just friendly sharing of information only. Peace.

[David Allen 3]

About the only "Help" it would be would be to prove you've met her in the last two years. Other than that, there's no benefit to having a pregnant wife. The kid wouldn't have any problem getting a visa - but it doesn't help your GF.

Dude, seriously, are you like 13 or something? Use a condom, pull that little winkie you call a ####### out of that hole and release it some other place but dont try to use a pregancy to speed up the process. This would back fire on you 100% and besides what happens if you break up, now you put this woman who happens to come from a poorer country into a bad finacial situation, she will also be looked down upon by other pinoy (loss of reputation). Come on man you the head on your shoulders, not the other one.

And in our case, I was able to get a expidite filed based on my wife being preggy....the key word here is WIFE. They could care less for a non-family based petition.

[lovica_l 0]

PROS: None

CONS: Miss the birth, delay in your wife coming here while pregnant, have to file more paperwork for baby instead if the baby would be born here automatic citizenship

Using a little baby to speed up process is not a way to think in general, babies should happen from love, not for faster process, you should wait until your fiancee gets here

[hellINTIM 9]

Hey everyone:) Just a quick question. In the trip I'm planning to the Philippines, me and my fiancee at that time, are planning on "Hooking up", if you know what I mbean. Unfortunitly, one of our concerns is her getting pregnant. As this is a risk when we adults play around What can we expect should this happen? Can it actually speed up the process of fiancee visa? Can it slow the process? Thanks for all your advice and imput

DON"T get her buntis! Some stupid people do and end up with a mess. It may slow things down as the airlines won't let pregnant ladys fly after 7 months. Also bad for kids to fly until they are over 1 month. Also you may have to go thru the cost and hassel of doing a CRBA.

true:P and DNA takes 6 months so u need to wait 1 year more. so total of 2years:P. my cousin got buntis here in pinas and she delay to go states coz embassy needs DNA for proof so better to not buntis her

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hey everyone:) Just a quick question. In the trip I'm planning to the Philippines, me and my fiancee at that time, are planning on "Hooking up", if you know what I mean. Unfortunitly, one of our concerns is her getting pregnant. As this is a risk when we adults play around What can we expect should this happen? Can it actually speed up the process of fiancee visa? Can it slow the process? Thanks for all your advice and imput

Wait. OMG! I just realized..you mean, you will have SEX with your fiancee? Before you marry her? You TALKED about this with her? Oh, how cool. You are so awesome, how do you get her to do that????? Do you get to see her naked too? Or is it all dark and stuff? Aks her, OK? Ask her if you can see her naked too. You are so cool, dude. I mean I bet you are one of only a small handful of men that get to do such cool stuff. Have you done "it" before, or this is the first time? I mean some of the other kids have told me you gotta wear a condom thing, but I wouldn't know myself Maybe when you get back you can tell us all about it, what she looks like naked and stuff. Will you?

[Hoot 0]

RMNCM

How did you get the expedite ??? My wife is in the Philippines and we just had a baby - we are about to file our for the CRBA for the baby - My I-130 went to Vermont in 1/30/09 and K-3 2/20/09 (we will not pursue the K-3 after researching it). Any input on an expedite would be apprecated. Thank you.

OP - how long have you known this lady ??? A baby is a life changing event. Without getting judgemental - here it is. If your fiance gets pregnant - she has a good chance of having the baby in the Philippines. Once that occurs you need to file with the embassy in manila for a CRBA (Citizens Report of Birth Abroad). The CRBA will take 90 days minimum from the date the child is born because of logistics. Your primary delay will be getting a National Statistics Office birth certificate on the new baby. Once that is obtained you can file the application and associated paperwork and get an interview in a short period of time. However, they can demand a DNA test and you will be stuck waiting on the results.

CRBA has lots of documentation requirements - original birth certificate of child, original marriage certificate of parents (if you are not married ie fiance then they really scrutinize things and you have even more documents to provide - that is the sticky situation you may be putting yourself in) , last original divorce papers of both spouces, your original passpot pages showing you were with her during conception, medical records from the doctor who treated her, a sonogram of the pregnancy, proof that you were a resident of the USA for the last few years, an original birth certificate of your's, and probably some more stuff - I am going from memory.

OP - if she gets pregnant - you might be better off getting married if the baby will be born in Philippines - that complicates things if you are in the middle of a K-1 filing - a withdrawal of the K-1 will cast doubt on the relationship - but being unmarried casts doubt on the paternity of the baby - see the trap ???

Anyways - good luck with your lady - I wish you and her all the best - but if you are blessed with a child - my advice is to skip the K-1 get married and file the I-130.

Hoot

[Carlos and Jocel 2]

Hey everyone:) Just a quick question. In the trip I'm planning to the Philippines, me and my fiancee at that time, are planning on "Hooking up", if you know what I mean. Unfortunitly, one of our concerns is her getting pregnant. As this is a risk when we adults play around What can we expect should this happen? Can it actually speed up the process of fiancee visa? Can it slow the process? Thanks for all your advice and imput

@@@ Are we still little missing the high school time? We are adults here so no offense will be taken if you just use the words. LOL... That was our intentions when I went to get married is to get my wife pregnant, unfortunetly she didn't get pregnant but once she get here we have the time in the world. Is this gonna slow the case or speed up, well depends on the waiting time when you actually get your paper and approved. Once she get pregnant you can request expeditions but if you wait to long, she may not be able to fly certain time during her pregancy or post pregnancy. Goodluck!

[Dakine 26]

Dude, seriously, are you like 13 or something? Use a condom, pull that little winkie you call a ####### out of that hole and release it some other place but dont try to use a pregancy to speed up the process. This would back fire on you 100% and besides what happens if you break up, now you put this woman who happens to come from a poorer country into a bad finacial situation, she will also be looked down upon by other pinoy (loss of reputation). Come on man you the head on your shoulders, not the other one.

And in our case, I was able to get a expidite filed based on my wife being preggy....the key word here is WIFE. They could care less for a non-family based petition.

I agree with you but at the same time what would have happened to your wife and child if something happened to you before your wife got her visa and her GC?

Edited April 13, 2009 by Haole

[rmncm 0]

RMNCM

How did you get the expedite ??? My wife is in the Philippines and we just had a baby - we are about to file our for the CRBA for the baby - My I-130 went to Vermont in 1/30/09 and K-3 2/20/09 (we will not pursue the K-3 after researching it). Any input on an expedite would be apprecated. Thank you.

OP - how long have you known this lady ??? A baby is a life changing event. Without getting judgemental - here it is. If your fiance gets pregnant - she has a good chance of having the baby in the Philippines. Once that occurs you need to file with the embassy in manila for a CRBA (Citizens Report of Birth Abroad). The CRBA will take 90 days minimum from the date the child is born because of logistics. Your primary delay will be getting a National Statistics Office birth certificate on the new baby. Once that is obtained you can file the application and associated paperwork and get an interview in a short period of time. However, they can demand a DNA test and you will be stuck waiting on the results.

CRBA has lots of documentation requirements - original birth certificate of child, original marriage certificate of parents (if you are not married ie fiance then they really scrutinize things and you have even more documents to provide - that is the sticky situation you may be putting yourself in) , last original divorce papers of both spouces, your original passpot pages showing you were with her during conception, medical records from the doctor who treated her, a sonogram of the pregnancy, proof that you were a resident of the USA for the last few years, an original birth certificate of your's, and probably some more stuff - I am going from memory.

OP - if she gets pregnant - you might be better off getting married if the baby will be born in Philippines - that complicates things if you are in the middle of a K-1 filing - a withdrawal of the K-1 will cast doubt on the relationship - but being unmarried casts doubt on the paternity of the baby - see the trap ???

Anyways - good luck with your lady - I wish you and her all the best - but if you are blessed with a child - my advice is to skip the K-1 get married and file the I-130.

Hoot

Well what I did was this. I called NVC and found that we had a RFE, after talking with the lady on the phone for a few minutes I asked her about a expidite based on my wife being preggy. She told me to send a email to Sue@nvc who is the boss for the Phills but she stated that they never grant them based on being pregant. So I sent her a email with pdf scans of the records from my wifes doctor in the phils and she granted our expidite. From that point USEM handled the rfe and my wife had a interview in 2 weeks from the point that I found out we were granted a expididte. Here is the email I sent:

Hello, I am writing to you in regards to my wife's case, xxxxxxx xxxx xxxx xxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx. On September 16, 2008 I talked with a NVC operator and she suggested I write you a letter and told me I can also send you a email. So I am sending you this and I will also send a hard copy of my request.

 

My wife is currently pregnant with our first child and based on the speed that our I-130 was approved and the speed at which you fine people are working on your sometimes overwhelming case loads, I see the possibility of getting our case complete far ahead of what we could ever imagine.  Based on the research I have done to get our case this far, I have found that the US Embassy in Manila is usually booked out about 2 months in advanced. For my wife and I, before we ever started this process, we knew we wanted to start a family together as soon as possible with the full understanding that a CR1 visa would take around 10 to 12 months. Due to the speed at which the USCIS and the NVC are moving we see the possibility of being done with everything in December. I am asking if there is any way we can put in a request to get the earliest interview possible, early December maybe even the end of November, barring all of our remaining paperwork is in order (DS230). As I stated, my wife is currently pregnant with a projected due date from her last exam of February 6, 2009 and a on line calculation of January 27, 2009. As per airlines policy most wont allow a pregnant woman fly about 4-6weeks prior to her due date. A quick calculation shows that if we was to get a early interview date and we had no issues with our documentation, my wife could be here about 1 ½ months before her due date. As we researched the implications our having a child we knew the that after the baby was born, we would have to file for a birth abroad and also file for a US passport for our child. This process can take from 1-2 months and most airlines will not let a child under the age of 3 months fly. Also to compound this issue the paperwork in the Philippines moves at a snail pace and sometimes it can several months to get a official birth certificate. As you can see if we could get a early interview date, we could avoid this un-lengthy delay.

Thank you for your time and consideration. I am including a attachment of my wifes last obgyn appointment.