Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part14)

[sus 70]

man i have sooooooooooo many stories about that

ppl do not understand that having residency in a first world country (is not just the us alone) is like gold for ALOT of jamaicans

that man's childhood sweetheart might as well forget about him

because there are VERY VERY FEW men who resort to those tactics who turn their mind back to jamaica once they leave

and as trelawny says, you reap what you sew. God does not sleep. that is a FACT! and is nuff a dem sell dem soul fi greencard and they are no better off for it

might as well dem did stay a jamaica an suffa di way dem end up a live when dem reach farrin

I know someone like that - he had a work visa and was in the US, went back home, got in some trouble, and came back up right before his work visa expired then overstayed - He has his "wife" and a child in JA - he convinced some young naive girl to marry him here so that he could get the GC - I tried to warn her, tried everything to tell her that if she loved him WAIT, don't rush to marry him after only 4 months of knowing him - but she married him anyway. He was cheating on her before the ink was dry on the marriage certificate, and as soon as his papers started to process he was out - in the meantime, the wife and baby in JA are still struggling, he has no contact, sends no money - she is heart broken.

[MSNELLY 0]

All and all, the trip was a good one – lots of quality time, lots of family time – And meeting JAEng was awesome, we had an instant connection and it was like I met my long lost sister!

Awww, same here, that's why I've been stalking you ever since LOL!

Had two very interesting conversations in JA which seemed very relevant to the board.

They have some people employed as 'Tourism Corps', basically for tourist information etc.

Got talking to one of the guys, he was decent looking, very clean cut. He told me he had been with his childhood sweetheart for 15 years, they had two kids together and lived together. He said he had met this American woman who fell in love with him, and even though his 'wife' didn't like the idea, he was going to marry her, come to the States and diverced her as soon as he could and bring his kids and the girlfriend over.

I asked him how on earth his girlfriend was happy with him doing that. He said that she wasn't too happy, but she realized that it was for the kid's best interest and even for their best interest as a family. He went on to say he took his American woman round to meet her and the kids. He said his mother was a christian, and while she wasn't too happy either, she didn't condemn it because he had to do what he had to do. Said his mother talked to his American girlfriend all the time, cooked for her etc.

Another thing he said that he was using to justify the whole scenario is that he said his American girl was older and had on 'weight', so she couldn't possibly expect to get a young, fit guy like him for her own just like that.

Asked him if he mentioned that to her, he laughed.

Just shook my head.

On my last day there, this couple was sitting beside me on the beach. She was English, he was Jamaican. He was being very attentive to his wife, rubbing suntan oil on her, kissing her, giving her little hugs, laughing with her.

So, a guy passed by and made a comment to me, I answered him with an insult in patois, so the husband started CRACKING up and started talking to me.

He said he was a 'beach boy', he went around and slept with the tourists to make a living. Said he did it to survive. So he was telling me, while he slept with ugly women, huge women, nasty women, he was on the look out for one he could 'stomach' living with until he got his stay.

He told me his wife was cool, he liked her because she was naive, believed any story he told her, any excuse he came up with. Said he made up his mind there he was going to marry her because he would be able to 'do his thing'.

They had been married for 6 months, and they were in Jamaica for a month, he boasted of how he had his girlfriend come down and stay in the same hotel and told his wife she was his cousin. Laughed about his wife bringing down clothes for his girlfriend.

I was taken aback, speechless. And he was saying most of this with his wife just out of earshot, but while attending to her needs. She probably thought she was in PARADISE, had the most thoughtful, solicitous husband ever.....

And I guess what amazed me was that he felt the need to sit there telling me all of this like it was something good.

wow this so sad..

[Shemmy 4]

Thanks for the heads up JaEnglish. While I don't like to paint everyone with the same brush I just like to say that the behavior you are speaking about it EXTREMELY UNSAVORY and DOWNRIGHT despicable and frankly it does not paint Jamaica in a good light! I am a Christian woman and I do not see how people can call themselves Christian or even a good person and behave in such a manner! The ends do not justify the means! We are to look to God as our provider and our SOURCE for EVERYTHING not other people! I have been up and I have been down and God brought me through all of it sometimes he used other people to help me along my way but I NEVER USED ANYONE....YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW IS ALL I CAN SAY AND GOD BLESS ANYBODY WHO THINKS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF OTHERS IS OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You see it!!

While I am the FIRST to jump up when people try to put ALL Jamaican men in the same light, I am under NO illusions as him scheming SOME can be.....Not being a hater, but make sure you LEARN from the mistakes of others....To be honest though, not sure how EITHER woman could protect themselves from men like these...

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Bun an Sus..this is so true!..BUT look at the opposite..one of our fellow VJer let Jamaica to come be with the man she loves so m,uch and now has a child and her situation is sad sad sad right now..he cheats, gves hwer nothing and not provide for their child...bwoy

Hey Shemmy

[Shemmy 4]

Bun an Sus..this is so true!..BUT look at the opposite..one of our fellow VJer let Jamaica to come be with the man she loves so m,uch and now has a child and her situation is sad sad sad right now..he cheats, gves hwer nothing and not provide for their child...bwoy

Hey Shemmy

Heyyyyyyyyy. I was just looking at your new pictures on facebook. All of the Yardie VJers kids are so cute.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Bun an Sus..this is so true!..BUT look at the opposite..one of our fellow VJer let Jamaica to come be with the man she loves so m,uch and now has a child and her situation is sad sad sad right now..he cheats, gves hwer nothing and not provide for their child...bwoy

Hey Shemmy

Heyyyyyyyyy. I was just looking at your new pictures on facebook. All of the Yardie VJers kids are so cute.

Ty...yup...yuh need a baby now..gets to working

[Shemmy 4]

Bun an Sus..this is so true!..BUT look at the opposite..one of our fellow VJer let Jamaica to come be with the man she loves so m,uch and now has a child and her situation is sad sad sad right now..he cheats, gves hwer nothing and not provide for their child...bwoy

Hey Shemmy

Heyyyyyyyyy. I was just looking at your new pictures on facebook. All of the Yardie VJers kids are so cute.

Ty...yup...yuh need a baby now..gets to working

Next year

I am sitting here tyring to decide if i wanna go back to that hot a@@ yoga class tomorrow. Need to prepare myself mentally.

[Shemmy 4]

Kimmy - everyone is asking me about babies. My mother asked me the other day if she was going to have any more grandkids...she don't even like kids Guess she's getting old and bored. Went to pick up my little cousins this morning....their mother kept asking me when I going to get pregnant. What is going on?

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Kimmy - everyone is asking me about babies. My mother asked me the other day if she was going to have any more grandkids...she don't even like kids Guess she's getting old and bored. Went to pick up my little cousins this morning....their mother kept asking me when I going to get pregnant. What is going on?

haahaa..i know..smaddy got one baby pon di way !

ahhaha..go and do some for me too..hahaaa

[My4rmylife 0]

Hello everyone hope everyone had a good day

[SupportOAFJF 0]

KIMMM>.mi si yuh,..wow..dat is a fus inna a lonnggg ####### time !!

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

Kimmy - everyone is asking me about babies. My mother asked me the other day if she was going to have any more grandkids...she don't even like kids Guess she's getting old and bored. Went to pick up my little cousins this morning....their mother kept asking me when I going to get pregnant. What is going on?

haahaa..i know..smaddy got one baby pon di way !

ahhaha..go and do some for me too..hahaaa

PEEK-A-BOO "CONNIE?" LOL

KIMMM>.mi si yuh,..wow..dat is a fus inna a lonnggg ####### time !!

YEP HERE I AM LOL hi everbody i been missing for months

All and all, the trip was a good one – lots of quality time, lots of family time – And meeting JAEng was awesome, we had an instant connection and it was like I met my long lost sister!

Awww, same here, that's why I've been stalking you ever since LOL!

Had two very interesting conversations in JA which seemed very relevant to the board.

They have some people employed as 'Tourism Corps', basically for tourist information etc.

Got talking to one of the guys, he was decent looking, very clean cut. He told me he had been with his childhood sweetheart for 15 years, they had two kids together and lived together. He said he had met this American woman who fell in love with him, and even though his 'wife' didn't like the idea, he was going to marry her, come to the States and diverced her as soon as he could and bring his kids and the girlfriend over.

I asked him how on earth his girlfriend was happy with him doing that. He said that she wasn't too happy, but she realized that it was for the kid's best interest and even for their best interest as a family. He went on to say he took his American woman round to meet her and the kids. He said his mother was a christian, and while she wasn't too happy either, she didn't condemn it because he had to do what he had to do. Said his mother talked to his American girlfriend all the time, cooked for her etc.

Another thing he said that he was using to justify the whole scenario is that he said his American girl was older and had on 'weight', so she couldn't possibly expect to get a young, fit guy like him for her own just like that.

Asked him if he mentioned that to her, he laughed.

Just shook my head.

On my last day there, this couple was sitting beside me on the beach. She was English, he was Jamaican. He was being very attentive to his wife, rubbing suntan oil on her, kissing her, giving her little hugs, laughing with her.

So, a guy passed by and made a comment to me, I answered him with an insult in patois, so the husband started CRACKING up and started talking to me.

He said he was a 'beach boy', he went around and slept with the tourists to make a living. Said he did it to survive. So he was telling me, while he slept with ugly women, huge women, nasty women, he was on the look out for one he could 'stomach' living with until he got his stay.

He told me his wife was cool, he liked her because she was naive, believed any story he told her, any excuse he came up with. Said he made up his mind there he was going to marry her because he would be able to 'do his thing'.

They had been married for 6 months, and they were in Jamaica for a month, he boasted of how he had his girlfriend come down and stay in the same hotel and told his wife she was his cousin. Laughed about his wife bringing down clothes for his girlfriend.

I was taken aback, speechless. And he was saying most of this with his wife just out of earshot, but while attending to her needs. She probably thought she was in PARADISE, had the most thoughtful, solicitous husband ever.....

And I guess what amazed me was that he felt the need to sit there telling me all of this like it was something good.

wow this so sad..

How can one live with themselves daily for years after doing somethin like this. Waiting till Citizenship to bring someone up is a verrry long time to keep up a lie/fake/role.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Kimm..stap di nize bout Connie!!

dem conscience nah bodda dem...dem nah stay fi no citizenship..some just waan be on the land or even have a greencard inna dem hands..

[^KK^ 3]

Kimmy - everyone is asking me about babies. My mother asked me the other day if she was going to have any more grandkids...she don't even like kids Guess she's getting old and bored. Went to pick up my little cousins this morning....their mother kept asking me when I going to get pregnant. What is going on?

they are ready for you to give them some cousins....lol

[My4rmylife 0]

hey kk how are you