Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part14)

[My4rmylife 0]

hello lovesponge and sus

Good evening, my2 how are you today?

i am wonderful how about you

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

So as a followup to my mess

Things are really hard. He has been calling me a couple of times a day apologizing and saying it happened one time and he got “caught up" and that it won't happen again. He staying with a co-worker.

The lady called a few days after she asked for money and admitted that she is not prego and that they were together once and she is sorry for making up the story about him and his friends. She said she feel hard for him and wanted to hurt him for him leading her on.

My mind is going a hundred miles per hours about the whole visa situation. I honestly never cared that he needed a greencard as long as he loved me too. So know that I’ve emailed the folks at the USCIS I’m having doubts. I don’t know if I believe that his cheating shows he was a fraud in the marriage.

The marriage is a whole-nother story that I’m not trying to think about right now.

Wakey, I beg you, change your damn number.

Or stop taking his calls. Let me be blunt, there ain't NUTTING he WON'T say to get you back right now. If you move, he loses his nice place to live, his hopes for a green card and chance at life here.

As for the girl, once is enough. Pregnant or not, makes no damn difference. If he's cheating so early into your 'honeymoon' period, do you HONESTLY think he loved you????

Girl, what's done is done as regards USCIS, leave it up to them. They will decide. Neither you or me or anyone else knows for sure what he felt or didn't feel.

You DESERVE better than him. Whether he was coerced, caught up or otherwise, he chose to betray the vows he took hardly before the ink was dry on your marriage certificate. You OWE it to yourself to demand BETTER.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Congrats Sus!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You WILL pass, I can feel it!

[Lovesponge 0]

hello lovesponge and sus

Good evening, my2 how are you today?

i am wonderful how about you

wonderful? thats great. I am wonderful as well my boo will be here in two days

[*HeavenSent* 0]

Evening Yardies !!

[Tosh Love 77]

Hi My -

Evening everyone!

I just popped on line because I remembered that my idiot professor this am posted that she couldn't access our portfolios and to email it to her - When I logged in, she had graded it!!

So, so far in one class -

I got an 86, 89, and 95 on my final projects, resulting in a B+ for the semester - This teacher gave me a 91 on my portfolio, still waiting for my final exam grade and the grade for my independent study - THanking God right now, cause I thought I bombed them!!

Congrats Sus!

[sus 70]

Wakey, sending big hugs your way - lots can give advice, but only you can make the choice for you - Having dealt with a cheater in the past, I can tell you that from my experience, once a cheat always a cheat - But you have to do what is right for you - What I am pasting below is some of the best advice I have heard:

Our LOVE wants to forgive. But our FEARS say no. So what's the best thing to do?

I can't say about the 'best' thing - only the most empowering thing. And without a doubt, the most empowering action you can take is to forgive YOURSELF first. Then, maybe forgive the cheating spouse. Or maybe not.

You empower YOURSELF when you forgive yourself first. Why?

1. You're acknowledging your own value. Your own worth. Your own dignity. You're telling yourself that YOU MATTER.

2. Forgiveness is the energy that allows change. Forgiveness comes before change. This is so important to understand! Forgiveness creates the space for a positive change. No forgiveness: no change.

3. You acknowledge your own power. You're saying to yourself: I am more than a victim of circumstances. I can take charge of my life.

4. It's the only way to heal your own pain. If you don't forgive - the painful thoughts and feelings won't leave. At best, you'll push them away. But they keep haunting.

As you forgive yourself - you reduce the chances you'll go through this again. Either with the current offender, or another.

What's the most real thing about a cheating spouse?

Your own thoughts and feelings. Your own emotions. NOT the actions of another.

By forgiving yourself for allowing something like this to happen, you honor yourself; you honor your emotions; you help heal your pain; you acknowledge your own power; and you allow change to happen... making it much less likely you'll have to go through something like this again.

So forgive yourself already!

Then you'll be empowered enough - and clear-headed enough to take the right steps - the next steps - in the next chapter of your life.

[My4rmylife 0]

hello lovesponge and sus

Good evening, my2 how are you today?

i am wonderful how about you

wonderful? thats great. I am wonderful as well my boo will be here in two days

i know im excited for you ... you guys are getting married 5 dys before my bday

[Tosh Love 77]

Just passing through....HI YALL',..... still having computer problems and not enough time to take care of them....started a new job this week and it starts at 5am!!! I just keep thinking....this is just a short term job....you can do it!!!....Hope everyone is doing well...Check back soon....

Hi Jamerican! Any news about your job search in Jamaica? Best Wishes!

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

damniecy, hurry up and move lol!! Yuh a guh deh juss 45 mins from mi....mi need a parring p!

[My4rmylife 0]

Evening Yardies !!

hello heavensent

[Tosh Love 77]

Evening Yardies !!

Hello HeavenSent!

[damniecy 0]

damniecy, hurry up and move lol!! Yuh a guh deh juss 45 mins from mi....mi need a parring p!

I will see what I can do

Might be soon though. Damian might be getting a Job there

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

hey ladies

watching real housewives of new york

i can;t wait for atlanta to come back

[My4rmylife 0]

hey ladies

watching real housewives of new york

i can;t wait for atlanta to come back

hello bunzarelli