Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part14)

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I'm pisssedd i spilled water on my phone...man the screen is blank..i'm going into shock!!

Kimmy - take the battery out and let it drain. Hopefully it will be okay once it is all dried.

*sigh* i'm nothing w/o my phone (hahahaa)

[Islandwoman 0]

I'm pisssedd i spilled water on my phone...man the screen is blank..i'm going into shock!!

O.k. relax relate release.... Take the battery and everything out of the phone and let it dry before trying to turn it back on. Hopefully once it dries it will be o.k.

damn! girl that's what i've been doing...how long it's suppose to take to try..i've never had this happen to me

it's gonna take awhile. You want to make sure it is completely dry before trying to turn it back on.

I'm pisssedd i spilled water on my phone...man the screen is blank..i'm going into shock!!

Kimmy - take the battery out and let it drain. Hopefully it will be okay once it is all dried.

*sigh* i'm nothing w/o my phone (hahahaa)

I know the feeling. I always think "oh no - my babies are looking for me and can't find me!!" And I will call my vm numerous times to make sure I'm not missing a message.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Island..i'm lost because I can't get my email my IMs my txt msgs..Bahahahaaa...no i'm kidding i hate to not know if someone is trying to call me BUT alas Kashi is with phone ! so I'm not too worried ..but boy *sigh*

[dancehallquana 5]

what are you his property? or a child he scolds evertime you speak to another man? this is ridiculous...i can understand if u start these conversations with intent but come..ur gonna become antisocial..don't lose urself in this process...and u will start blamin urself for things going wrong.

my husband knows me well enough that i speak to a man boldly infront of him it's a friend or stranger..thats just me go out andspeak to everyone..kimora has that about her and it freaks me out

so, u need a serious talk here..and i can't tell u why b/c this is not true..unless they see you as property or merchandise..mi no know

he must have owned alot of "property" in JA cause this is ignorance

thank u kimmy.. mi tell har ie nuh a JA ting.. its a insecure thing,

the shutting down thing.. it may be a pattern w/ JA men, u guys have the proof, but i know the ex is the king of shutting down, we could go w/out talking for DAYS.. roger did that one time when we first met and i told him i was not gonna deal w/ it.. he never did it again. i am so proud of him we talk and we just move on in peace even if we don't agree..

jgay.. i am so happy that ur husband, heard u and altered his behavior..that the only thing we can expect.. we are not gonna see things the same way, but if a person cares how u think about things enough to compromise then that is a keeper..

sus sorry bout the wedding, i know it hurts..u are such a strong woman and a testimony of not letting ur heart get in the way.. dont worry sister.. that strength will get u JUST what u want when u need it..

okay.. sorry ladies had to get that stuff out b4 i forget LOL..

good aftanoon, long time no see.. hope u all have a blessed day....

[NatPatBen 3]

I'm pisssedd i spilled water on my phone...man the screen is blank..i'm going into shock!!

O.k. relax relate release.... Take the battery and everything out of the phone and let it dry before trying to turn it back on. Hopefully once it dries it will be o.k.

damn! girl that's what i've been doing...how long it's suppose to take to try..i've never had this happen to me

I've heard 3 days, but when I dropped mine in the sink, it only took 1 day to dry out.

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the shutting down thing.. it may be a pattern w/ JA men, u guys have the proof, but i know the ex is the king of shutting down, we could go w/out talking for DAYS.. roger did that one time when we first met and i told him i was not gonna deal w/ it.. he never did it again. i am so proud of him we talk and we just move on in peace even if we don't agree..

I've found that if we part ways while upset, we both stay in foul moods. But if we talk it out then & there, we get past it. I told him let's always talk it out immediately to shorten the "upset" time.

[My4rmylife 0]

I'm pisssedd i spilled water on my phone...man the screen is blank..i'm going into shock!!

O.k. relax relate release.... Take the battery and everything out of the phone and let it dry before trying to turn it back on. Hopefully once it dries it will be o.k.

damn! girl that's what i've been doing...how long it's suppose to take to try..i've never had this happen to me

I've heard 3 days, but when I dropped mine in the sink, it only took 1 day to dry out.

...

the shutting down thing.. it may be a pattern w/ JA men, u guys have the proof, but i know the ex is the king of shutting down, we could go w/out talking for DAYS.. roger did that one time when we first met and i told him i was not gonna deal w/ it.. he never did it again. i am so proud of him we talk and we just move on in peace even if we don't agree..

I've found that if we part ways while upset, we both stay in foul moods. But if we talk it out then & there, we get past it. I told him let's always talk it out immediately to shorten the "upset" time.

Yeah my fiance and i have totally different ways of dealing with anger he too shuts down and this of course i cant stand but i was determined to make him understand that when he is angry at me or angry about situations that he can talk to me ...it took a while but he is finally learning that together we can get through things .

[Tosh Love 77]

what are you his property? or a child he scolds evertime you speak to another man? this is ridiculous...i can understand if u start these conversations with intent but come..ur gonna become antisocial..don't lose urself in this process...and u will start blamin urself for things going wrong.

my husband knows me well enough that i speak to a man boldly infront of him it's a friend or stranger..thats just me go out andspeak to everyone..kimora has that about her and it freaks me out

so, u need a serious talk here..and i can't tell u why b/c this is not true..unless they see you as property or merchandise..mi no know

he must have owned alot of "property" in JA cause this is ignorance

thank u kimmy.. mi tell har ie nuh a JA ting.. its a insecure thing,

the shutting down thing.. it may be a pattern w/ JA men, u guys have the proof, but i know the ex is the king of shutting down, we could go w/out talking for DAYS.. roger did that one time when we first met and i told him i was not gonna deal w/ it.. he never did it again. i am so proud of him we talk and we just move on in peace even if we don't agree..

jgay.. i am so happy that ur husband, heard u and altered his behavior..that the only thing we can expect.. we are not gonna see things the same way, but if a person cares how u think about things enough to compromise then that is a keeper..

sus sorry bout the wedding, i know it hurts..u are such a strong woman and a testimony of not letting ur heart get in the way.. dont worry sister.. that strength will get u JUST what u want when u need it..

okay.. sorry ladies had to get that stuff out b4 i forget LOL..

good aftanoon, long time no see.. hope u all have a blessed day....

I read sus' post yesterday and could relate to this. I am the silent/shut down, will-not-speak-to-you-until-I-am-ready type and I have heard this complaint from many friends and SOs alike. Speaking from my perspective--I shut down when I feel I have been wronged. I feel like you are my enemy at that time and I need to just withdraw. Usually after a couple of days (or weeks) I am willing to come back and talk. I know this sounds unreasonable, but it sounds okay at the time. I am seriously working on it. My hubby has to constantly remind me that he is not the enemy after we have had an argument, because I do not want to be anywhere near you if I have been hurt or wronged much less talk to you. For those of you with SOs with this similar habit, just bear in mind that we are just carrying around luggage from the past and therefore are "work in progress." Just my two cents

[sus 70]

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the shutting down thing.. it may be a pattern w/ JA men, u guys have the proof, but i know the ex is the king of shutting down, we could go w/out talking for DAYS.. roger did that one time when we first met and i told him i was not gonna deal w/ it.. he never did it again. i am so proud of him we talk and we just move on in peace even if we don't agree..

I've found that if we part ways while upset, we both stay in foul moods. But if we talk it out then & there, we get past it. I told him let's always talk it out immediately to shorten the "upset" time.

I would never say that the shutting down thing is just a JA thing - cause my Dad did it his whole life - I am okay with needing space - Lord knows, at times I have to walk away and come back when I am calm - But TELL me you need the space - don't just take it and assume I am okay with it - We'll see what happens, only time will tell -

I haven't told him yet - but the first part of my stay I kept the same in Ochi - I cancelled what I had booked for my honeymoon and booked to go over to Negril with my girls - Whether or not he comes with me remains to be seen.

[sus 70]

I read sus' post yesterday and could relate to this. I am the silent/shut down, will-not-speak-to-you-until-I-am-ready type and I have heard this complaint from many friends and SOs alike. Speaking from my perspective--I shut down when I feel I have been wronged. I feel like you are my enemy at that time and I need to just withdraw. Usually after a couple of days (or weeks) I am willing to come back and talk. I know this sounds unreasonable, but it sounds okay at the time. I am seriously working on it. My hubby has to constantly remind me that he is not the enemy after we have had an argument, because I do not want to be anywhere near you if I have been hurt or wronged much less talk to you. For those of you with SOs with this similar habit, just bear in mind that we are just carrying around luggage from the past and therefore are "work in progress." Just my two cents

I can agree with that - but this isn't the first time, and we have talked about it many many times - that we can get through anything if we talk - and if you need space, tell me you need the space - don't just take it and assume I will be okay with it - trust me, I have my faults, and I know that many come from my past baggage - but I try my hardest to keep that stored in the overhead compartment, not bring it into this relationship - I expect the same in return.

[newlynluv 0]

lol dada i am in training just peaking around

[Tosh Love 77]

I read sus' post yesterday and could relate to this. I am the silent/shut down, will-not-speak-to-you-until-I-am-ready type and I have heard this complaint from many friends and SOs alike. Speaking from my perspective--I shut down when I feel I have been wronged. I feel like you are my enemy at that time and I need to just withdraw. Usually after a couple of days (or weeks) I am willing to come back and talk. I know this sounds unreasonable, but it sounds okay at the time. I am seriously working on it. My hubby has to constantly remind me that he is not the enemy after we have had an argument, because I do not want to be anywhere near you if I have been hurt or wronged much less talk to you. For those of you with SOs with this similar habit, just bear in mind that we are just carrying around luggage from the past and therefore are "work in progress." Just my two cents

I can agree with that - but this isn't the first time, and we have talked about it many many times - that we can get through anything if we talk - and if you need space, tell me you need the space - don't just take it and assume I will be okay with it - trust me, I have my faults, and I know that many come from my past baggage - but I try my hardest to keep that stored in the overhead compartment, not bring it into this relationship - I expect the same in return.

Amen to that! I know I can only get away with this "habit' with certain people. Those who have told me (better yet showed me) that they will not tolerate the silent/shut down treatment, have gotten a better response. I commend you for letting him know what you will and will not take. He will figure it out. Hopefully sooner than later.

[sus 70]

Make sure you always twirl once in front of the mirror before leaving home:

[justucia 0]

My morning has been peaceful so far. I am working the Emergency room for 12 hours today.

what do you do in the E.R?

i can't imagine what it would be like working in there

im fascinated with people that are able to work in the E.R.

two of my dear friends were paramedic partners in harlem/spanish harlem

lawd, the stories

HEY LADIES

[dancehallquana 5]

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I would never say that the shutting down thing is just a JA thing - cause my Dad did it his whole life - I am okay with needing space - Lord knows, at times I have to walk away and come back when I am calm - But TELL me you need the space - don't just take it and assume I am okay with it - We'll see what happens, only time will tell -

I haven't told him yet - but the first part of my stay I kept the same in Ochi - I cancelled what I had booked for my honeymoon and booked to go over to Negril with my girls - Whether or not he comes with me remains to be seen.

omg sus.. i said this very thing to a friend the other day.. im ok w/ u not talking to me, but withdrawal of communication is punishment.. don't leave me in the dark like that ..

tell me, "u know what u said something that i didn't like and i am just gonna chlll for a min"..

that is what i mean by talking.. i am not gonna badger u until we come to resolution.. shoot that may never happen.. i just want the respect of u advising me of ur actions and why.. u might not talk to me for a week over something that was just u MISUNDERSTANDING me..

this is what happend w/ roger.. i was expressing my feeling about LDR being hard and i didn't know if i cld continue.. he ASSUMED i wanted to go back to my husband and this was my way of telling him, which was FAR from the truth.. he wouldnt answer my calls for a week.. a whole week wasted when u could have just told me why u were upset and u wanted space and then i could have clarified myself

Edited May 5, 2009 by dancehallquana

[Tosh Love 77]

My morning has been peaceful so far. I am working the Emergency room for 12 hours today.

what do you do in the E.R?

i can't imagine what it would be like working in there

im fascinated with people that are able to work in the E.R.

two of my dear friends were paramedic partners in harlem/spanish harlem

lawd, the stories

HEY LADIES

I am a psychiatric Social worker so I basically do the assessment of the mentally ill patients that present to the ER via police, etc. to find out if they need to be admitted voluntarily, involutarily committed or just referred to community mental health support. I love my job--never a dull day.