Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part14)

[1luv 1]

Wakey I do not know what to say. I read this while at work and I was sick to my stomach.

Just pray pray pray. I will also keep u in my prayers. I am typing with tears in my eyes. Im sorry

[Shemmy 4]

Carmita I give you credit because you know how to pick your battles. I'm glad you put him out instead of putting the blame on the girl that contacted you. I get so tired of seeing women blame the other woman instead of the man that they are involved with.

I totally agree. It doesn't matter when, why, and where it happened. Or whether she knew he was married or not...HE knew. Or she's pregnant or not...HE slept with her...unprotected...putting your health at risk. The other women did not say their vows with you infront of God....blame him not her.

Edited April 28, 2009 by Shemmy

[wakeywakeup 1]

Well, well, well, well. It seems my word has come to pass......but I am sorry that I was being right. Awakening go ahead and get di johncrow back to Jamaica...........remember at times in the past when I was telling you ladies to be extra careful in choosing your mate to come to America, you cuss, draw long knife, throw stone and fire gun. What is happening to Awakening is gonna happen to more of you as soon as the AOS procedure and conditional status is being removed, then you have no chat. Some of them is only interesting to ketch to America and it is gonna get worse as every single item you buy is increased down there.

Awahening a suh it guh, yu should have watch for the red flags, some a unnu tink unnu a brick wall and get comfortable. All yu fi duh is (1) Get him deported (2) sidung and halla (3) neva put yu trust entirely in one person..........yu man play a 3 card pon yu.

Thanks for the advice Shawn99. How did you predict this would happen? Have you done american women the same way and learned from your mistakes?

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Wakey, I am so sorry to hear this...nothing feels as bad as the sick feeling you get when you find someone is cheating.

I am so happy you've done the RIGHT thing and slung that piece of garbage OUT....seen similar ###### go down and the woman KEPT him, even after finding out. The hardest part is staying steadfast, he knows you love him, he'll push all the buttons he can hoping you'll stay with him long enough for him to get the green card.

As for the girl, it's easy to blame and cuss her since you love him and don't know her. But know this, whether she knew or not really makes no damn difference, your beef is with HIM...whether it's his child or not, that's NOTHING to do with you - unless you want to be able to have tangible proof of adultery.

Trust me, you OWE this woman, because you'd have been in the dark that much longer if she hadn't told you.

I pray he hasn't given you a disease, I thank God you weren't able to conceive, this would have been a bigger nightmare than it already is. God nah sleep a rass!

Change your numbers, emancipate yourself from him, do what you have to do.

[solsoeur 0]

Wakey, I am so sorry to hear this...nothing feels as bad as the sick feeling you get when you find someone is cheating.

I am so happy you've done the RIGHT thing and slung that piece of garbage OUT....seen similar ###### go down and the woman KEPT him, even after finding out. The hardest part is staying steadfast, he knows you love him, he'll push all the buttons he can hoping you'll stay with him long enough for him to get the green card.

As for the girl, it's easy to blame and cuss her since you love him and don't know her. But know this, whether she knew or not really makes no damn difference, your beef is with HIM...whether it's his child or not, that's NOTHING to do with you - unless you want to be able to have tangible proof of adultery.

Trust me, you OWE this woman, because you'd have been in the dark that much longer if she hadn't told you.

I pray he hasn't given you a disease, I thank God you weren't able to conceive, this would have been a bigger nightmare than it already is. God nah sleep a rass!

Change your numbers, emancipate yourself from him, do what you have to do.

Yes JaEnglish is so right I know we don't often think about this but many a woman has not gotten away without a reminder of the husband's infidelity. I hope the Lord continues to bless you Wakey and that you are free from any furhter heartache as a result of this situation I'm sorry to say that I know those who didn't get a "clean" break from a cheating spouse. If you haven't been go to the doctor and have them run all STD tests on you. Add this to your list of things to do please.

Edited April 28, 2009 by solsoeur

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

and remember this, right now he's desperate. he'll say whatever you want him to say, do whatever it takes right now just to get his green card back on track. Don't buy into the hype. You're a lovable, wonderful woman who deserves better than him. Don't let the fact you gave your all and he still disrespected you in your home on your bed affect your self esteem. He cheated because he's a cheater and that's what liars and cheaters do, they lie and cheat.

Don't wonder why, don't look at what you shoulda or coulda done, like the sun rises in the morning, like cows moo, cheaters cheat. That's just how life is.

Count this experience as just a hiccup on the path to Mr Right. A man that will love and cherish you for the queen you are. And knowing what men like this one do, will make you that much more appreciative.

Stay strong.

[Shemmy 4]

JAEnglish - is the Jamaican restaurant near your house?

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

You know what KILLS me??

This man is not worthy to LICK the soles of her shoes, yet she welcomed him into her family, her life, her home and her bed. Instead of thanking God for the love of a wonderful woman, he turns around and violates her trust!

Why???????????????????????

I honestly think men like this do this because they know in their heart or hearts they don't deserve it. They look to slink around with women like them, because they know they arent worthy of being a king to their wife's queenliness. They try to tear down their wife to bring her down to their level, because they know she's out of their league.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

JAEnglish - is the Jamaican restaurant near your house?

Shem, it's like 30 mins away!

Looks like I may not be there much longer though, at my old job they fired the woman who fired me on Friday and they've been asking my old colleagues if they think I should get my job back! :dance:

We'll see!

[Shemmy 4]

JAEnglish - is the Jamaican restaurant near your house?

Shem, it's like 30 mins away!

Looks like I may not be there much longer though, at my old job they fired the woman who fired me on Friday and they've been asking my old colleagues if they think I should get my job back! :dance:

We'll see!

Good luck

I'll get details later about the restuarant...we'll stop by the next I have to take my daughter that way.

[Shemmy 4]

Shaunsgal - love the pictures and your ring.

[culture1 0]

WOW...what a day, just catching up........

1st.....Wakey........Burn him, her and their future....BLESS you and your future! Jah Guide.

2nd....VJ Sistren.......Love you and your advice/opinions/guts/overstanding/principles/prayers.........YOU RATE!

3rd.....YEAY.....to Lovesponge!!! oh that feels good, i'm next TUesday.....thanks for warming the seat!

4th.....MEN, they can be so pathetic. When will they learn? something besides dominoes and jerking off? maybe they need to learn to talk to each other like women do?

5th.....i'm going down on Friday nite , now who was it that needed something taken down......if it can be faxed, i'm willing.???let me know...

6th.....Cakes, there's 2 really good bakeries downtown mobay, but can't remember names, about a block apart.....look for the lines out the door.

7th.....REST

Love to all and don't let all this drama, doubt and fear dash your dreams. Sweet dreams. culture1

[jamerican 2]

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Nat your countdown clock is ticking too right??

Yup. I'll be in Negril May 16-20.

Steven's birthday is near that time, too, so I want to surprise him with a cake & punch for his family/friends. The only place in Negril that I've heard sells cakes is Jenny Cakes (something like that). Does anyone know of another place, perhaps one closer to downtown or the beach?

Congrats on the AOS, SunRay! You're that much closer to being finished with the process.

Congrats on the green card production, Gill. You're even closer!

Jenny's Cakes I heard about them and they make a specialty cake that I want to try. Roc is so against it especially since I'm not used to the special ingredients but I'm gamed if he is.. So far he's like nope.. I tell you sometimes he is no fun ... lol

*****WARNING******

Jenny's "special cake" is no joke!! I tried it and ended up throwing it away because it had me acting tooo crazy.....Arguing and laughing at the same time...., was staying at Blue Cave Castle in the penthouse very top room and I was afraid that I would jump off the side!!! Just be careful.....

[shawn99 0]

Well, well, well, well. It seems my word has come to pass......but I am sorry that I was being right. Awakening go ahead and get di johncrow back to Jamaica...........remember at times in the past when I was telling you ladies to be extra careful in choosing your mate to come to America, you cuss, draw long knife, throw stone and fire gun. What is happening to Awakening is gonna happen to more of you as soon as the AOS procedure and conditional status is being removed, then you have no chat. Some of them is only interesting to ketch to America and it is gonna get worse as every single item you buy is increased down there.

Awahening a suh it guh, yu should have watch for the red flags, some a unnu tink unnu a brick wall and get comfortable. All yu fi duh is (1) Get him deported (2) sidung and halla (3) neva put yu trust entirely in one person..........yu man play a 3 card pon yu.

Thanks for the advice Shawn99. How did you predict this would happen? Have you done american women the same way and learned from your mistakes?

A wha yu tek mi fah? Nuh tek out yu heart bun pon mi. A nuh mi a gi yu bun. Yu nuh have no rite fi cast everyman inna yu man net.

Mi have several female family members who guh through to di same ting, dats why mi always warn unnu, but unnu always cuss and mek some idiat pon here whey gwaan like dem a consellor tell unnu foolishness.

Mi grow up down deh and mi know di full runnings. Nuff man only want di American woman as di steeping stone to a greencard and den dem gone.....new gal or ole time gal rule again. Nuff woman whey did deh pon visajourney get lick the same way, what a pity they cant come back and post again.

[solsoeur 0]

Well, well, well, well. It seems my word has come to pass......but I am sorry that I was being right. Awakening go ahead and get di johncrow back to Jamaica...........remember at times in the past when I was telling you ladies to be extra careful in choosing your mate to come to America, you cuss, draw long knife, throw stone and fire gun. What is happening to Awakening is gonna happen to more of you as soon as the AOS procedure and conditional status is being removed, then you have no chat. Some of them is only interesting to ketch to America and it is gonna get worse as every single item you buy is increased down there.

Awahening a suh it guh, yu should have watch for the red flags, some a unnu tink unnu a brick wall and get comfortable. All yu fi duh is (1) Get him deported (2) sidung and halla (3) neva put yu trust entirely in one person..........yu man play a 3 card pon yu.

Thanks for the advice Shawn99. How did you predict this would happen? Have you done american women the same way and learned from your mistakes?

A wha yu tek mi fah? Nuh tek out yu heart bun pon mi. A nuh mi a gi yu bun. Yu nuh have no rite fi cast everyman inna yu man net.

Mi have several female family members who guh through to di same ting, dats why mi always warn unnu, but unnu always cuss and mek some idiat pon here whey gwaan like dem a consellor tell unnu foolishness.

Mi grow up down deh and mi know di full runnings. Nuff man only want di American woman as di steeping stone to a greencard and den dem gone.....new gal or ole time gal rule again. Nuff woman whey did deh pon visajourney get lick the same way, what a pity they cant come back and post again.

hmm men are men wither from Ja or wither from here enough American men do the same thing and it is no greencard involved. True enough the greencard adds another motive to the mix but men are men though they might be from different parts of the world they all tend to have the same tendencies I have found. The best any woman or man can ask for in situatioins such as this is the wisdom of God to discern who means them well and who has ill intentions. Wakey's best bet is to take wise counsel and let the rest fall by the wayside. I'm praying for her and everyone in a similar situation. Heads up chica there is no reason to hold your head down he is the one in the wrong and the one who has to pay for his actions. Deception never goes unpunished.

Edited April 28, 2009 by solsoeur