Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part14)

[Ellsinlove 2]

I still get (probably unnecessarily) heated over certain things too but try to control myself. I feel bad after for being such a diva but at the time of course felt justified. We were trying to sort out his car insurance and I wanted the 'certificate of fitness' to be in his name since everything else is in someone else's....I wanted him to establish something for himself. Well, when it was finished, it was still NOT in his name and I almost came unglued! I flung the paper back at him and later felt like such a crow! So, I have those moments too but try to make most of the time nice and agreeable.

How did he manage to NOT get it done in his name.

Like Sus said, it happens easily enough! Mister's insurance is in his cousin's name since he's been driving longer and the rates are a little cheaper that way. I guess they insure the car rather than the driver more or less....I'm not totally sure how it works. Now it's going to be 'interesting' to see if I can cancel the policy before the term is up and get some of that $$ refunded!

[^KK^ 3]

Dada....relax urself...Roc dont have nothing to tell ya.

[dancehallquana 5]

im sorry wakey about all that has transpired..

the Lord knows and all praise to Him that u were made aware of everything b4 it was too late.

this has always been one of my biggest fears of bringing Roger here.. i am sure Dwayne loves u, but his marriage vows didn't mean enough to him to stand up to temptation. TOO WEAK to love ur wife more than u loved urself..

it can happen to us all, ESPECIALLY w/ how some women throw themselves at a nice looking man w/ and an accent..CHA.. made to feel like they are Gods gift to women.. and then to bring her to ur house.. OUT OF ORDA!!!

i wasn't gonna blast the other woman cuz it sounds like she has been lied to and hurt too, i mean nobody wants to believe their love interest is married, im sure she ignored all signs, but to let her pain allow her to ambush wakey w/ such foolishness is NOT COOL.. shes loved 21, u should have walked a different way hun..at the end of the day, his transgressions are his transgressions and urs are urs.. broken heart or not.. u will answer for them..

wakey.. much love to u hun.. ur latter will be much greater than right now..

[Jonesie 1]

Carmita I give you credit because you know how to pick your battles. I'm glad you put him out instead of putting the blame on the girl that contacted you. I get so tired of seeing women blame the other woman instead of the man that they are involved with.

[solsoeur 0]

im sorry wakey about all that has transpired..

wakey.. much love to u hun.. ur latter will be much greater than right now..

You are so right about that Quana also I think a lot of women on this board have the same fear of about this happening when their man gets here. I'm not going to lie I think about it a lot. There is nothing left to do but trust God. Trust God or go crazy..I can't speak for anyone else but I'm going to stick with the trust God he hasn't failed me thus far.

[dancehallquana 5]

im sorry wakey about all that has transpired..

wakey.. much love to u hun.. ur latter will be much greater than right now..

You are so right about that Quana also I think a lot of women on this board have the same fear of about this happening when their man gets here. I'm not going to lie I think about it a lot. There is nothing left to do but trust God. Trust God or go crazy..I can't speak for anyone else but I'm going to stick with the trust God he hasn't failed me thus far.

amen.. it has been 2 yrs and that fear is quieted more everday, but i don't think it will ever go away.. i trust God as well and the God in Roger that He will hold him up and keep him strong.. and honest that if i am not what he wants when he get here he be man enough to tell me the truth.. no hard feelings just let me know..

[^KK^ 3]

im sorry wakey about all that has transpired..

wakey.. much love to u hun.. ur latter will be much greater than right now..

You are so right about that Quana also I think a lot of women on this board have the same fear of about this happening when their man gets here. I'm not going to lie I think about it a lot. There is nothing left to do but trust God. Trust God or go crazy..I can't speak for anyone else but I'm going to stick with the trust God he hasn't failed me thus far.

amen.. it has been 2 yrs and that fear is quieted more everday, but i don't think it will ever go away.. i trust God as well and the God in Roger that He will hold him up and keep him strong.. and honest that if i am not what he wants when he get here he be man enough to tell me the truth.. no hard feelings just let me know..

that's the attitude to have.

[JAPrincess 27]

You are so right about that Quana also I think a lot of women on this board have the same fear of about this happening when their man gets here. I'm not going to lie I think about it a lot. There is nothing left to do but trust God. Trust God or go crazy..I can't speak for anyone else but I'm going to stick with the trust God he hasn't failed me thus far.

[Ellsinlove 2]

im sorry wakey about all that has transpired..

wakey.. much love to u hun.. ur latter will be much greater than right now..

You are so right about that Quana also I think a lot of women on this board have the same fear of about this happening when their man gets here. I'm not going to lie I think about it a lot. There is nothing left to do but trust God. Trust God or go crazy..I can't speak for anyone else but I'm going to stick with the trust God he hasn't failed me thus far.

Absolutely Sol! I worry about it and know that it's a possibility but just have to have faith for now. Of course, we've already had a little talk today about what has transpired here. I told him that if he ever cheated once we were married, I'd never be able to trust him again and our marriage would be over. I also told him that I'll never cheat on him and expect that if he wants to stay with me, he'll never do it to me. I've said my piece so now it's up to him.

[dancehallquana 5]

that's the attitude to have.

no lie kk, when roger visited FL for 6 mnths.. i asked him everyday almost.. U haven't found any cute American girl yet?? if u are interested in someone i will understand.. maybe we can take a break and see what we want out of this??

heck, i wasn't divorced yet.. so u not getting to the States on me, if u need to make a move or u fallin love, u confused bout me.. do the dyam thing..

he always protested, and not to say that means a thing, but i wanted him to know.. its sooo unnecessary to play games w/ me, i will not go all "crazy girl" on ya.. i want GENIUNE happiness not MANUFACTURED happiness so u dont have to keep up no charade for my sake!!!

[Ellsinlove 2]

That's how I feel too Quana! The only time I'll go 'crazy girl' (LOL!) on him is if I find out that I've been lied to!

[RegAl 0]

I know Ells I promise I'm going to be a good girl this time!! No fighting from me plus its his b-day so I’ll be on my best behavior. He made sure I had fun on mines and he went with the flow and gave me no grief so I owe him the return favor. Funny yesterday we got into it well in a joking way and he was like well when you get here were not . I said yeah he was like yup so i was like lets bet on who ask who first and he was like o.k. Stupid man he just don’t know what tricks I go up my sleeve. I bet I win this bet...lol

I do look aback and see all the time we wasted arguing so that is another reason why I plan on chilling this time.

Oh yeah, I'm pretty sure it's us women who can hold out longer than the man (most of the time anyway) so I know who's gonna win that bet! LOL! You'll have a much better time without the fussing over every little thing. Of course, you're always allowed to nag some if he does anything really stupid!

That's the part I have to overcome...like something will happen while I'm over there that is different from how it would happen here and right away my cackles come up...that's where I have to learn ot chose my battles

I still get (probably unnecessarily) heated over certain things too but try to control myself. I feel bad after for being such a diva but at the time of course felt justified. We were trying to sort out his car insurance and I wanted the 'certificate of fitness' to be in his name since everything else is in someone else's....I wanted him to establish something for himself. Well, when it was finished, it was still NOT in his name and I almost came unglued! I flung the paper back at him and later felt like such a crow! So, I have those moments too but try to make most of the time nice and agreeable.

I hear you! I have to learn where to draw that line..to fuss or not to fuss...still working on it.

I have a long ways to go on this because I fuss at everything!!! Now I cant even chat with Roc because the way I'm feeling right now I'm ready to call him like DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL ME??

DaDa,

I DID! I called Al and asked him if he thought I was a nag. he responded slowly..no..why? I was like I'll tell you later cuz he was on his way to work. hahahaha! oh just sad!

Dada....relax urself...Roc dont have nothing to tell ya.

I agree with you KK

[RegAl 0]

That's how I feel too Quana! The only time I'll go 'crazy girl' (LOL!) on him is if I find out that I've been lied to!

Whoooo!! Absolutely Ells. We've had that discussion already and he fully understands if I lose trust in him it's over!

[dancehallquana 5]

That's how I feel too Quana! The only time I'll go 'crazy girl' (LOL!) on him is if I find out that I've been lied to!

right.. i mean people make mistakes, lie out of fear, ish happens right, but when u TRY and keep open communication and have proven urself an understanding woman, thats just like a kick in the face, a definate DEAL BREAKER..

[Ryon4life 0]

wakey, with all the emotions it is so hard for me to speak, I want to kill him for hurting you, I want to hug you to take away your pain, I want to cry b/c I feel your pain, I want to scream b/c this shyt is not right but most importantly i just needed to show you love in this time of despair

ps. i know somebody who knows somebody that can make all this dissappear (jesus)

take care of YOU