Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part14)

[jakeswife 0]

jgay u knocked up!!!!!!! well u really kept that secret close to your vest.congrats at least u sure it ain't twins.

[StoneLove4Ever 0]

jgay u knocked up!!!!!!! well u really kept that secret close to your vest.congrats at least u sure it ain't twins.

No No No...No twins...just one baby...Congrats to you...still haven't told my parents yet... ...I have a child already and I am going to be 29 years old and still scared to tell my parents...

[dillon 6]

Congrats on the pregnancy Jgay80 and thanks for sharing your adjustment story. It really helps those who are just new at it.

[justucia 0]

jgay80~ congrats on the baby!

thank you for being so honest with your and your mans adjustment story-

crazy how typing it all out makes you fell a bit better, huh?

and i laughing about the being scared to tell your parents bit- i got all nervous telling mine i was engaged

im a grown #### woman- why am i so crazy? lol

oooooooh i just got email from embassy- D now has a date to drop off the DS230, may 19

moving on up

[jakeswife 0]

jgay u knocked up!!!!!!! well u really kept that secret close to your vest.congrats at least u sure it ain't twins.

No No No...No twins...just one baby...Congrats to you...still haven't told my parents yet... ...I have a child already and I am going to be 29 years old and still scared to tell my parents...

well hon look at me i am 30 and will have 2 babies close to the end of the year.so we will be parents of 2 kids but at least u have 1 that can help u get the bottle.i have 1 on each breast

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So today has been somewhat slow with the board so i guess I will post my journey so far with hubby being here now for a little over 4 months....

1) He still is not working... ....but my sister-in-law sister's baby father (I know I hate that too ) is a manager at Applebees as a lead cook and he is trying to squeeze my hubby in for a job there as a field cook...it pays decent ($10/hr) and there is overtime if you choose to do it which is good...but my husband is on hold for right now since the manager said they hired about 12 people a few weeks ago and the hiring manager is busy with the paperwork...he was like he wished he was told my hubby needed a job earlier cause he could have easily gotten him in there quicker...i am not sure why i didn't think of him when hubby first came up here cause he also helped my cousin get a job there as a waitress when she came up from Florida....i feel like kicking myself for not thinking of him sooner...and I still didn't think about him it was my sister-in-law who mentioned my hubby to him cause i was complaining to her that he doesn't have a job and he really wants and needs one...and she took it upon herself to ask him...Well crossing my fingers that this goes through...he called my hubby the day before yesterday telling him that he is still trying to squeeze him in and not to worry cause he will get him in there and to give him like another week...Crossing my fingers...

2) We've been having a lot of heated arguments, none as of lately which is a breathe of fresh air....they are very heated but we get over them by the next day but sometimes I feel like I can't be bothered with it...We argue over him hanging out so much and the whole "vibing" thing...he stopped the "vibing" cause of the job since they do the test but the hanging out thing...uggh...one week he went out 4 days in a row coming home at 4:30am...and then he would want to cuddle and i would push him away and he would say thats the reason why he goes out so much since i don't show him any love.... ...are you kidding...if you weren't going out so much i wouldn't be upset and I wouldn't have no reason not to show you no love...give me a break...and its funny cause the other day we were talking about him going out and he admitted that his friend which is our tenant who is also good peoples with me cause I knew him for a while that he said he better not get him kicked out because he (hubby) is partying so much with them...so i said you see they even know that hanging out so much is not right and what women would like that...He doesn't think anything is wrong with it as long as he is not doing anything wrong out there and since he is coming back home to me and sleeping in the same bed as me...whatever...My area like i said before is predominately JA so like his friends he is hanging out with (my tenant) is also JA and he deejays and the club where he hangs out with another friend of my tenant deejays there every night who is also JA and the club is pure JA then he feels at home...he always said that up here is no different from JA and he feels very comfortable...he said the only difference is the cold but other than that he feels at home...he even said the friends he made up here reminds him of his friends back at home...I was hoping for that at first now its like I regret it cause he loves the up and down too much...We good now with the hanging out thing (for now)...he hasn't gone out yet for this week but he will go downstairs and hang out with the tenant which i don't mind cause they are very cool peoples...We are suppose to go out tonight first to the movies to see Obessed with Beyonce which i think is going to be so whack but he wants to see and my best friend and sister-in-law wants to see it so its going to be a group thing and then we are going to go to the Infamous club that he always goes to...I'm not into local clubs cause i hate to be around my neighborhood and party especially since my son's father hangs there sometimes (thats another heated argument we got into but thats another time)...but i want to go just to see it...

3) Last but not least...I'm knocked up... ....I'll be 4mos next week...don't know what the sex is yet but hopefully my next appointment I will get to find out which is next Saturday...I have mixed emotions sometimes I say its bad timing other times I feel so happy and overjoyed...

Like i said we have our ups and our way way downs and right now its up but one thing i can say is when we have our way way downs and we say some...well I say some really mean things to him we always go back and act civil and discuss what just went down and explain our emotions...he will let me know how he felt about the argument and i tell him how I felt about it and why its a problem...We would have our arguments go to bed mad, wake up mad, but when I get home from work or wherever we discuss it....(I don't believe in the "Don't go to bed mad" thing cause sometimes you need time to clear your mind and get your thought process going)...Sometimes I would bring it back up and sometimes he would...the way he does it though is that he would play with me like nothing happened and then I look at him like and he would say "What!" and then we would start talking...I think its funny cause that is how he always does it...

So I'm ending this saying OPEN COMMUNICATION IS KEY and can really help with your relationship...even though sometimes he will go back and do the same shyte and you are like didn't we just discuss this like two days ago and you want to take the nearest hard object to hit him on the head with it but the better person in you say ok maybe we just need to discuss this again and reiterate the problem again...Marriage is hard and takes a lot of patience and it also takes an open-mind to think ok I have to understand his feelings and where he is coming from...because if he was just my boyfriend he would have been long gone...I am quick to break up with someone cause i always say to myself I'm to fly to have to go through this (sounds coinceited I know ) but since I'm married I really want to make this work but of course if it gets to far its a wrap like reyonlds...

Sorry for the long post just had to get it out there...Wow this is very therapeutic...I feel soo rejuvenated...

Congrats on the Pregnancy!!!

I'm glad that you have shared your adjustment experience.

I agree that open communication is key.

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Thanks for the response - Ls in Love!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ms. Nelly - My computer at work never show the picture so I guess it finally came through....hahahaha

[SupportOAFJF 0]

jgay..congrats on ur pregnancy..di water is making it's way around ...

i'm really glad u taking this situation with ur hubby by the horns and not sit around and ride it out..i am all for upfront and honest..this is what is bothering now lets deal with it...and ebcause there is a Jamaican everywhere he turns doesn't mean he has to party like a rockstar..but in time...just keep on holding on to those horns !!

[StoneLove4Ever 0]

Thanks everyone...it does feel good to write it out there and get opinions...(don't worry i won't think ya'll are haters)...I am very open to corrective criticism cause one person can open your eyes to something you never thought of...but right now i'm happy...We both stopped wearing our rings though...well he said he didn't put on his ring cause i stopped wearing my ring but i saw he stopped wearing his ring first...he said the reason he didn't have his ring on cause he was cooking and took it off but when he noticed i wasn't wearing mine he just never put it back on...but i told him i'm not wearing my ring cause i'm not happy and will not put it on until I am... ...We are very open with each other and tell it like it is...which is good and I'm glad that we are both comfortable with each other on that level...because of that I truly feel my husband has my best interest in heart and he really cares for me and loves me...But we are taking it one day at a time and see what the future holds...hopefully it will be good...

[NatPatBen 3]

Oh man! I never ralized how consuming this board is! I've been on here practically all day!

If not for work, I'd be on it all day, too.

Congrats on the pregnancy Jgay80 and thanks for sharing your adjustment story. It really helps those who are just new at it.

[sus 70]

Congrats on the pregnancy, JGay - I am glad you shared your story, and I don't think you are wrong in what you are feeling with the going out - it sounds like you guys are going through some growing pains, but also like you are both putting in effort to work on it and work it through, which is great =

Congrats on the date, justucia - moving along quickly!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Thanks everyone...it does feel good to write it out there and get opinions...(don't worry i won't think ya'll are haters)...I am very open to corrective criticism cause one person can open your eyes to something you never thought of...but right now i'm happy...We both stopped wearing our rings though...well he said he didn't put on his ring cause i stopped wearing my ring but i saw he stopped wearing his ring first...he said the reason he didn't have his ring on cause he was cooking and took it off but when he noticed i wasn't wearing mine he just never put it back on...but i told him i'm not wearing my ring cause i'm not happy and will not put it on until I am... ...We are very open with each other and tell it like it is...which is good and I'm glad that we are both comfortable with each other on that level...because of that I truly feel my husband has my best interest in heart and he really cares for me and loves me...But we are taking it one day at a time and see what the future holds...hopefully it will be good...

J...and that's all we can pray for--hope..just keep at it..AND PUT ON THOSE RINGS ..lol..

Congrats on the pregnancy, JGay - I am glad you shared your story, and I don't think you are wrong in what you are feeling with the going out - it sounds like you guys are going through some growing pains, but also like you are both putting in effort to work on it and work it through, which is great =

Congrats on the date, justucia - moving along quickly!

what date? did i miss something?

[sus 70]

jgay..congrats on ur pregnancy..di water is making it's way around ...

Mi nah drink wata nah more! (At least not for the next 6 months or so )

what date? did i miss something?

Kimmy, you're missin alot today! Just got a date for her SO to drop off his DS230 - May 19th

[SupportOAFJF 0]

English..i couldn't watch ut video at work..but u did a fantastic job..don't think it was too much at all

[RegAl 0]

Oh man! I never ralized how consuming this board is! I've been on here practically all day!

How long are staying?

DaDa - I'll be staying for 10 days...ahhhh...I can't wait!!