Wedding Details

[Marilyn. 340]

the ones I found on Craigslist seemed pretty professional.. they usually had links to their website and a lot of them had some pretty good pictures..

[ashenflowers 5]

the ones I found on Craigslist seemed pretty professional.. they usually had links to their website and a lot of them had some pretty good pictures..

Yeah, I've been browsing the ones with websites, and there are some decent ones. So long as I can see a portfolio, then I know what I'm getting into. Since all we want it someone there for 2 hours tops, just to take pictures of us and the ceremony so our friends/family back home can see it, then I don't see the purpose of dropping $1000+. We don't want any editing, or keepsake books or anything. We can do all of that ourselves (and I personally WANT to do all the editing myself). Just pictures taken for 2 hours or so, unedited images on CD... done. There's NO WAY ANYONE deserves $1,000 for that, as far as I'm concerned.

[Krikit 1,164]

Ok, so when my fiance and I were looking at reception halls for our wedding we decided to invite his mom along since she was so adamant that she was going to pay for our meal. Well over the past few months she's been avoiding talking to us about helping pay for the reception meal.

Finally today, Varba emailed her and asked how much she wanted to contribute to the meal. She said she's going to pay for the reversal dinner in full, help pay for our pre-marital counseling and whatever's left in her fund she's going to put towards our reception meal. This is completely fine with us, we are not going to judge her on her financial situation.

THEN! She has the nerve to ask Varba if my mom or dad is going to help pay for the meal too... She's is fully aware that my mom gave us 5k in cash (for the wedding), and paid for my dress and is paying for us to rent round tables at the reception. My mom makes less money than Varba's parents and is contributing more.

I find that questions completely inappropriate, what do you guys think?

Given the fact that she is aware of what your Mom is contributing, I find it really inappropriate. Perhaps she has forgotten and just needs a reminder.

Hello all! I've been so busy last little while...and soon it will be all over this weekend! Only 2 days away. I think we're ready... Then we're going on a road trip for 3 weeks so I'll post pic's when I get back!

Wow...tomorrow nights the rehearsal!!

Oh wow! I missed my chance for best wishes! Hope you had a great day, Joyce!

I thought these wedding pics were cute..

http://www.ourblogoflove.com/index.cfm?postID=326

Those were great! I LOVE the cake!

I was searching for photographers on Craigslist for a friend of mine and I found a bunch that were under 1000..

Ya know, it's funny. I never think of Craigslist, because Kijiji is more common in our area instead. I just had a quick look for less than 15 mins on Craigslist, and found a TON of photographers. The photographer thing was becoming a big stress on me, but I think I'll find my solution here! Thanks for the idea

Also, if there is a university or community college in your area with a photography program, it's a good idea to check there. A lot of profs and techs have businesses on the side, and there are also a lot of students with HUGE talent. Just another avenue for you.

[ashenflowers 5]

I was searching for photographers on Craigslist for a friend of mine and I found a bunch that were under 1000..

Ya know, it's funny. I never think of Craigslist, because Kijiji is more common in our area instead. I just had a quick look for less than 15 mins on Craigslist, and found a TON of photographers. The photographer thing was becoming a big stress on me, but I think I'll find my solution here! Thanks for the idea

Also, if there is a university or community college in your area with a photography program, it's a good idea to check there. A lot of profs and techs have businesses on the side, and there are also a lot of students with HUGE talent. Just another avenue for you.

Yeah, we've been looking into those a bit too, but I'm not entirely sure how to go about asking for that without being in the area myself. I will try to email them I guess. There's a college, and a university, and a school of photography... lol I'm pretty sure SOMEONE there will be capable and appreciate the opportunity to build their portfolio.

Edited September 20, 2009 by ashenflowers

[Rhiannercakes 14]

My mom was pestering me again about this wedding thing.

She keeps saying it's wrong to have the signing and the ceremony in different dates, and that I should have a January wedding, and blah blah blah and the whole "Are you sure you want to get a wedding dress in that weight" ####### again.

I'm about ready to give up.

I don't think I'll be having a ceremony anymore.

[ashenflowers 5]

My mom was pestering me again about this wedding thing.

She keeps saying it's wrong to have the signing and the ceremony in different dates, and that I should have a January wedding, and blah blah blah and the whole "Are you sure you want to get a wedding dress in that weight" ####### again.

I'm about ready to give up.

I don't think I'll be having a ceremony anymore.

Can I call your mom and tell her to shut up? Man! She needs to get over herself, and let YOU have YOUR wedding the way you want. She's just going to have to deal with it. In a year's time it won't even matter. Really. Once it's all over. Do what you need to do for yourself. As for the weight comments, that's ridiculously RUDE and insulting. I do NOT understand when mother's say things like that to their daughters. Don't they know?! Rhiann, I am certain you will look beautiful in any dress you choose. Seriously. I have not seen an ugly bride yet. Large or small. Ever. Everyone is beautiful. Except the ones with too many tattoos lol

[Rhiannercakes 14]

My mom was pestering me again about this wedding thing.

She keeps saying it's wrong to have the signing and the ceremony in different dates, and that I should have a January wedding, and blah blah blah and the whole "Are you sure you want to get a wedding dress in that weight" ####### again.

I'm about ready to give up.

I don't think I'll be having a ceremony anymore.

Can I call your mom and tell her to shut up? Man! She needs to get over herself, and let YOU have YOUR wedding the way you want. She's just going to have to deal with it. In a year's time it won't even matter. Really. Once it's all over. Do what you need to do for yourself. As for the weight comments, that's ridiculously RUDE and insulting. I do NOT understand when mother's say things like that to their daughters. Don't they know?! Rhiann, I am certain you will look beautiful in any dress you choose. Seriously. I have not seen an ugly bride yet. Large or small. Ever. Everyone is beautiful. Except the ones with too many tattoos lol

I know. I wish my mom would just shut up about it all. Especially the weight comments. I know I need to lose some weight, but to keep pestering me about it every time I see her? It's just too much. I don't even look chubby. I don't.

I've never really dreamed of having a wedding, so I'm not really heartbroken or anything, I just feel bad for my dad.

[Danu 19]

My mom was pestering me again about this wedding thing.

She keeps saying it's wrong to have the signing and the ceremony in different dates, and that I should have a January wedding, and blah blah blah and the whole "Are you sure you want to get a wedding dress in that weight" ####### again.

I'm about ready to give up.

I don't think I'll be having a ceremony anymore.

Can I call your mom and tell her to shut up? Man! She needs to get over herself, and let YOU have YOUR wedding the way you want. She's just going to have to deal with it. In a year's time it won't even matter. Really. Once it's all over. Do what you need to do for yourself. As for the weight comments, that's ridiculously RUDE and insulting. I do NOT understand when mother's say things like that to their daughters. Don't they know?! Rhiann, I am certain you will look beautiful in any dress you choose. Seriously. I have not seen an ugly bride yet. Large or small. Ever. Everyone is beautiful. Except the ones with too many tattoos lol

I know. I wish my mom would just shut up about it all. Especially the weight comments. I know I need to lose some weight, but to keep pestering me about it every time I see her? It's just too much. I don't even look chubby. I don't.

I've never really dreamed of having a wedding, so I'm not really heartbroken or anything, I just feel bad for my dad.

Tell her you know a girl who is 230lbs and perfectly fine with getting her wedding dress at this weight and that if she doesnt shut up I'm going to force feed her cake until she leaves you alone. I would be sooooo angry if my mom was doing to me what yours is doing to you. The ONLY thing that matters is that you are happy, and at this point, if thats not having a ceremony tell her. Seriously. Even if you just threaten to not have one at all...tell her something like "you know, this is what I want, if you won't let me have what I want then I will just sign the paperwork with no ceremony and no priest...is that what YOU want?" see if she stops then.

[Rhiannercakes 14]

I will in the end probably end up signing the paperwork without them there.

My fiance's not happy that they want to be there for the signing of the marriage certificate even though we're just going to Vegas for it.

They don't really get that we're doing this so I can adjust status and try and work ASAP.

You think they'd be less traditional since their daughter isnt exactly in a traditional relationship.

[Bern. 3]

I will in the end probably end up signing the paperwork without them there.

My fiance's not happy that they want to be there for the signing of the marriage certificate even though we're just going to Vegas for it.

They don't really get that we're doing this so I can adjust status and try and work ASAP.

You think they'd be less traditional since their daughter isnt exactly in a traditional relationship.

I know exactly how you feel.

But you'll enjoy Vegas.

I assume you're going to a chapel?

There are some really nice ones there.

Just don't let Elvis serenade you. He's scary.

Take care! <3

Invite me!

[Rhiannercakes 14]

I will in the end probably end up signing the paperwork without them there.

My fiance's not happy that they want to be there for the signing of the marriage certificate even though we're just going to Vegas for it.

They don't really get that we're doing this so I can adjust status and try and work ASAP.

You think they'd be less traditional since their daughter isnt exactly in a traditional relationship.

I know exactly how you feel.

But you'll enjoy Vegas.

I assume you're going to a chapel?

There are some really nice ones there.

Just don't let Elvis serenade you. He's scary.

Take care! <3

Invite me!

Actually, we were just going to go to a courthouse

Nothing formal, just the signing and that's it.

[Hugglebuggles 60]

psssh, I'm a fat girl that had no problem getting into a wedding dress! They make those things to accommodate pretty much every size I've seen. Some people like to be spiteful. As much as I loved getting married, I'm so glad that its over. Its nice to be able to just live me life without having to worry about all this drama from my family members and friends.

[Peachey 10]

NONE of us are Fat. Man I hate that word. I can stand to lose a few pounds, and I'll work on it at my own pace. My mom used to bug me about it too. She's short and thin, and when I hit puberty she once told me that if I lost 10 lbs I'd look like a super model. She bothered me about it for about 8 years until I exploded on her and told her what she was doing to my self esteem. She now uses positive encouragement to help me. Like I got home today from my fiance's (I am le sad ) but she bought me some groceries and it's all healthy things! We've also joined a gym together.

So what if my dress is a size 16? Wedding dress sizes are inflated anyway Any you know what? It fits perfect! If I lose more weight I'll need to get it taken in! (Although, I would like to to be healthier ).

/end rant.

[ashenflowers 5]

I'm also 230 lbs, and I'm sorry to say, am not ok with being Fat, and yes, I think I'm fat, and I'm not just saying that. I'm the heaviest I've been in my ENTIRE life, and it's really frustrating to think that I'll be this heavy for my WEDDDING! Of all times in life to be the largest ever, this is the WORST. My fiancé doesn't care, which is nice, but I'm not happy with it. I know I will look at pics from the day and be disappointed in myself. I lost 50 lbs about 2-3 years ago, and gained back 70 since then!!! I can't afford a gym, I can't even afford healthy food really, and don't have anyone around here to work out with or encourage me to work out. It's soooo frustrating. My dress is a f'ing size 20. I've NEVER worn a 20 in my entire life...

[Danu 19]

I'm also 230 lbs, and I'm sorry to say, am not ok with being Fat, and yes, I think I'm fat, and I'm not just saying that. I'm the heaviest I've been in my ENTIRE life, and it's really frustrating to think that I'll be this heavy for my WEDDDING! Of all times in life to be the largest ever, this is the WORST. My fiancé doesn't care, which is nice, but I'm not happy with it. I know I will look at pics from the day and be disappointed in myself. I lost 50 lbs about 2-3 years ago, and gained back 70 since then!!! I can't afford a gym, I can't even afford healthy food really, and don't have anyone around here to work out with or encourage me to work out. It's soooo frustrating. My dress is a f'ing size 20. I've NEVER worn a 20 in my entire life...

*hugs* I'm in the same boat, but thankfully I have a year to work off some of this. It is definately frusterating but its so much worse when someone else is also putting you down...its hard enough when you are hard on yourself but to have someone belittling you...it definately sucks. That said, if I got married at this weight I'd still be ok with it. My cousin lost a bunch of weight (almost 90 lbs) before her wedding and she was miserable and like a shell of herself. Shes managed to put about 120lbs back on so now shes heavier than every. I definately want to lose weight with me and my long term goals in mind rather than my wedding date. If that means I'm skinnier after my wedding than during it, I'm so good with that.