donot know if this bad news or good

[vol4life 0]

Is sad to hear your story...Seka...

You know, after all these USCIS thing, waiting and feeling in cloud 9 thing after approval...I guess is really hard what you are going through right now....I feel sorry that you are in that situation...but just know that love is something that makes you feel free, is liberating, if it is hurting you already, and you feel like you are imprisoned in hell then...I guess your decision to go back to Egypt is good enough...but i guess you have to finish what you have started...so you will have a good start when you go back to Egypt.

Good luck and God bless...

I understand you have to post here, you must be feeling so like a hell, you have to post here...

May you find peace!

You stated that you want to go back to Egypt. If you don't care about the GC, and things are really that bad, and you have done your best, then go back. Why post here? It sounds like you have already decided.

[almaty 19]

You posted on a public forum therefore your topic is up for grabs. If you don't want responses then don't post on a public message board.

Honestly, Seka, I saw this coming from the day you joined VJ. I know the games MENA men play. It's very obvious. You guys should probably come up with something better than "my wife is suddenly a raging alcoholic" or "my wife is cheating on me". It's funny how American women all of a sudden become crazy when you guys get tired of them.

What does MENA stand for?

Middle East North Africa

It is the female equivalent of Phillipines, Thailand etc.

Did you just say that??? i hope you're more sensitive on that one not to generalize people from those countries! Maybe some but not all of us..

I said very little, I guess I made a generalisation about gender which is statisiticaly true, I made no other comment.

brother boiler..FTW!

or is that f##k Satan, i get confused

[Leyla 0]

Seka, I think you already know the answer in your heart, you are just finding others to agree (I do it all the time). If you feel like the drinking problem is out of control then go out on your own. I'm sure you can do it.

I would also suggest not only praying to God to help you through this, but also to help her come out of her drinking problem.

Inshaallah everything for you will get better.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Sounds like he came here just to bad mouth his wife and convince others that she's horrible so he doesn't feel so bad about leaving her. Why he can't just man up and tell her he wants a divorce is beyond me. He has to come here and talk smack about the woman. If the poor woman does have a drinking problem and he knew about it way back when then why did he go through with immigration? I know why....to get the hell out of Egypt. Now he wants everyones' blessings to leave her.

You don't have to bullsh*t anyone, Seka. Just leave.

Some people really do need to hear it from others or just see it in black and white...should it be "dear internet, please validate my feelings"? probably not.

I dont think he is "talking smack", he is saying she is an alcoholic. He hasnt painted her as a villian imo.

Do you know them or something? I guess so since you said you saw this coming from the day he joined VJ.

[EZ3145 0]

You stated that you want to go back to Egypt. If you don't care about the GC, and things are really that bad, and you have done your best, then go back. Why post here? It sounds like you have already decided.

subject line saids " donot know if this bad news or good"

Really??

Looking at your situation you can't tell what kind of news this is? It doesn't take a genius to figure this out. Well, I'll tell you what it is, A VERY VERY BAD NEWS.

Perhaps the only good news is that It sounds like you have already decided. What's it gona be? For better for worse.

Did the priest or whoever joined you two in Holy matrimony ever read that line to you??

For better for worse.

DON'T RAN AWAY. SHE NEEDS YOU NOW! SUPPORT HER! DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO HELP TURN HER INTO THE WOMAN YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH. UNLESS YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH GETTING THE GREEN CARD FIRST, THEN THAT'S A DIFFERENT STORY.

FOR BETTER FOR WORSE, DO NOT RAN AWAY, HELP FIX IT.

[Krikit 1,164]

EZ3145, you were asked to keep this courteous.

[seka 1]

ok guys thanks for the comments and advices thanks for everyone specially nice ppl

[minimule 3]

that reminds me of the time my mom went to moraco and camed back in love with a much younger man..married him and got his papers for him to move to france, and within a few months , he started to tell everyone that he was soooo unhappy and that he was being treated so badly and she was very mentally abusive...hummmm i was there and that was such a bunch of #######...but then eventually we found his lil journal he kept (hahahahha) with horrible things such as i can t stand that fat ####( never call my mama a fat #### ) and she got proved he married her for papers...

i dunno what happened to him but i sure hope he got deported...

[Meriem_DZ 37]

that reminds me of the time my mom went to moraco and camed back in love with a much younger man..married him and got his papers for him to move to france, and within a few months , he started to tell everyone that he was soooo unhappy and that he was being treated so badly and she was very mentally abusive...hummmm i was there and that was such a bunch of #######...but then eventually we found his lil journal he kept (hahahahha) with horrible things such as i can t stand that fat ####( never call my mama a fat #### ) and she got proved he married her for papers...

i dunno what happened to him but i sure hope he got deported...

Ummmmmm, What does this have to do with Seka's situation? And by the way he has been married to his wife over 6 years.

[Boiler 45,486]

that reminds me of the time my mom went to moraco and camed back in love with a much younger man..married him and got his papers for him to move to france, and within a few months , he started to tell everyone that he was soooo unhappy and that he was being treated so badly and she was very mentally abusive...hummmm i was there and that was such a bunch of #######...but then eventually we found his lil journal he kept (hahahahha) with horrible things such as i can t stand that fat ####( never call my mama a fat #### ) and she got proved he married her for papers...

i dunno what happened to him but i sure hope he got deported...

Ummmmmm, What does this have to do with Seka's situation? And by the way he has been married to his wife over 6 years.

Well:

a) Nothing

B) Quite a lot

I do not know which one applied, I doubt if you do.

[ya falaha! 0]

They've been married 6 yrs but he's been here less than two years. Hmmm just enough time to get his finances in order and get some schooling and be on his merry way.

They don't all leave within a few months. Some are smart and get their ducks in a row before bolting.

Oh and Seka may have commented on his wife's fatness on the forum. That's neither here nor there but I had to comment due to minimule's post.

that reminds me of the time my mom went to moraco and camed back in love with a much younger man..married him and got his papers for him to move to france, and within a few months , he started to tell everyone that he was soooo unhappy and that he was being treated so badly and she was very mentally abusive...hummmm i was there and that was such a bunch of #######...but then eventually we found his lil journal he kept (hahahahha) with horrible things such as i can t stand that fat ####( never call my mama a fat #### ) and she got proved he married her for papers...

i dunno what happened to him but i sure hope he got deported...

Ummmmmm, What does this have to do with Seka's situation? And by the way he has been married to his wife over 6 years.

Edited April 10, 2009 by Astarte

[seka 1]

hey mini how u doing mam today oops iam sorry how u doing sir today well what are you talking about your mom and your mom storry theres no way betwen this and my storry i been married now 6 years ok and by the way ur reply doesnot have anything to say with the topic i posted anyway thank you so much but plz try not to mix betwen the stories

[minimule 3]

hey mini how u doing mam today oops iam sorry how u doing sir today well what are you talking about your mom and your mom storry theres no way betwen this and my storry i been married now 6 years ok and by the way ur reply doesnot have anything to say with the topic i posted anyway thank you so much but plz try not to mix betwen the stories

im just saying that s what it reminded me of , the words u use to describe the all situation u say ur in...i guess it just gave me a flashback...

and it s my what to tell you im not buying into it...

[morocco4ever 63]

It is a well known fact that Morocco is a high fraud country. When ever you hear that a man from Morocco marries a woman from the US, and they are not similar in age or physical attributes it is going to bring doubts and suspicions. Then to top it off all of a sudden the husband starts to complain about his wife, then it is going to be a natural assumption that immigration was the only reason he married her. I am not saying it is always the case, but that is what people are going to think. And unfortunately there is enough evidence to back up their beliefs. As with all of these situations there are going to be 2 sides of the story. We haven't heard her side.

Personally I find any man or woman that will use a person for immigration purposes to be disgusting slime. I have high hopes for Karma in these situations.

[ziia 9]

Freedom of speech, freedom of expression, rights protected in the Constitution of the United States. You take away those rights, you take away the liberty. That said, i think everybody should say whatever they want as long as they don't use profane words. It's a public forum guys and everybody is entitled to their oppinion and belief. Not all of us think alike as we all have different experiences in life, different ways of solving our own problems, different cultures and beliefs. If we would all be one, think as one and advise as one, we would all be boring and not of too much help to people who write. We'd all sound like a CD that's stuck playing the same part of a song over and over. Who wants that? It sounds oh so nice to be united in thoughts and words to one another, but a majority that thinks and acts and speaks alike is a mediocre majority. It's us, individualy, with our different ppinions, thoughts and words and actions that make the difference and actualy help. It's not good to beat down with words a person who's weak, lost, distressed and depressed, but it should be the choice of the one who writes replies. The one who starts the topic should choose those responsed who in his opinion help, or are what he needs right now to get him through and solve his issues, and push aside the ones who don't serve his needs. And that is just my oppinion.

To Seka: I feel your pain. I know what it feels like to just wanna run away as fast as you can, to catch that grasp of air and cry your eyes out for the pain you endured and that filled your soul with so much sadness. I want you to know that you are OK. You have your Green Card and no one can take it away. Your wife can't hurt you from an immigration point of you even if she is full of hate or revenge. Go find your peace...get away for a few days, rent a plac somewhere for a few days, away from crowds and the big city, away from your problems and sorround yourself with nature and quiet. Meditate and try to regain your strength, because you are stronger than you think and you can make it through it all. You, as much as your wife does, deserve to be happy. You never know, but we might only be blessed with one life and if we are, it is short and it needs us to make it. Don't let life make you-YOU make your life and though you are sorrounded by people, only YOU know what's best for you. Don't stay in a marriage that causes this much missery, but don't abort it if you still feel there's hope. But do not pay the ultimate price(your happyness) for a dead cause(a wife who does not want to help herself). Wish you luck and much happyness from now on, Seka!