donot know if this bad news or good

[fluffypriscilla 0]

yeah... he has already made a decision!!!!

And sounds like the best for him, going back.

[Marina-Del 10]

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

A couple questions:

1. Do you want to try to fix the marriage even if her drinking does not stop? Others have suggested that you go to AA because they can help you deal with living with an alcoholic. It's really really unbelievably hard to live with an alcoholic. I understand. But some people will not stop drinking for anything, so you need to decide if you could continue the relationship the way it is.

2. If the answer to question 1 is no. Then what do you want to do? Do you want to stay in the US or go back home? Once we know the answer to this question we can help you with the next step.

[seka 1]

first q answer is shes not gonna change and stop drinking second q is yes i would like to stay here i ment i donot care if i go back home or not i just donot wanna stay like this i allready have my unconditioal green card

[childress_london 3]

If you have your unconditional green card, then you know that divorce is not going to affect your status. Your concern right now is what to do with your life. Stay or go. If you decide to go, don't leave until everything is legally settled between you and your wife. I personally think you should not make any quick decisions right now. Get your marriage/divorce in order first, take time to let things calm down, and then make a decision as to whether to stay in the U.S. or not.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

If you have your unconditional green card, then you know that divorce is not going to affect your status. Your concern right now is what to do with your life. Stay or go. If you decide to go, don't leave until everything is legally settled between you and your wife. I personally think you should not make any quick decisions right now. Get your marriage/divorce in order first, take time to let things calm down, and then make a decision as to whether to stay in the U.S. or not.

agreed on all points.

Good Luck to you and hopefully your wife will find some help.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

If you have your unconditional green card, then you know that divorce is not going to affect your status. Your concern right now is what to do with your life. Stay or go. If you decide to go, don't leave until everything is legally settled between you and your wife. I personally think you should not make any quick decisions right now. Get your marriage/divorce in order first, take time to let things calm down, and then make a decision as to whether to stay in the U.S. or not.

concur..

plus this post has paragraphs..

[Nagishkaw 510]

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Seka. Being married to a lush is extremely difficult. Im suprised you stood it as long as you did.

[ya falaha! 0]

Sounds like he came here just to bad mouth his wife and convince others that she's horrible so he doesn't feel so bad about leaving her. Why he can't just man up and tell her he wants a divorce is beyond me. He has to come here and talk smack about the woman. If the poor woman does have a drinking problem and he knew about it way back when then why did he go through with immigration? I know why....to get the hell out of Egypt. Now he wants everyones' blessings to leave her.

You don't have to bullsh*t anyone, Seka. Just leave.

[rrobin 2]

Seka,

You have been given decent advice here. You should not face any immigration issues if you go for divorce because you have been married for 6 years.

Before divorce, consider seeking professional help. Give it your best shot. There are a lot of success stories about alcoholism. Divorce leaves big scars which don't heal over night especially if she is one you ever loved.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

first q answer is shes not gonna change and stop drinking second q is yes i would like to stay here i ment i donot care if i go back home or not i just donot wanna stay like this i allready have my unconditioal green card

Then why are you posting here? Really I see not much point in doing so.

[NArocks 13]

AA is for the Alcoholic he would need to go to Al-Anon, this is for the spouse and or relatives of a drinker. It will help you understand the diease and better help you make a wise choice. Good Luck

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

A couple questions:

1. Do you want to try to fix the marriage even if her drinking does not stop? Others have suggested that you go to AA because they can help you deal with living with an alcoholic. It's really really unbelievably hard to live with an alcoholic. I understand. But some people will not stop drinking for anything, so you need to decide if you could continue the relationship the way it is.

2. If the answer to question 1 is no. Then what do you want to do? Do you want to stay in the US or go back home? Once we know the answer to this question we can help you with the next step.

Edited April 8, 2009 by NArocks

[mooninlove 1]

you already have a 10 yr card so what's the problem here?? you can live on your own, divorce your wife if that's what you want or attend counselling with your wife if the marriage could still be save or not. you have the right to do what you want. if what's bothering you is your immigration status, i see no problem unless you did something wrong for them to suspect you of immigration fraud. everything's said & done, it's still your prerogative. wish you the best!

[HSB 0]

You posted on a public forum therefore your topic is up for grabs. If you don't want responses then don't post on a public message board.

Honestly, Seka, I saw this coming from the day you joined VJ. I know the games MENA men play. It's very obvious. You guys should probably come up with something better than "my wife is suddenly a raging alcoholic" or "my wife is cheating on me". It's funny how American women all of a sudden become crazy when you guys get tired of them.

What does MENA stand for?

[Boiler 45,486]

You posted on a public forum therefore your topic is up for grabs. If you don't want responses then don't post on a public message board.

Honestly, Seka, I saw this coming from the day you joined VJ. I know the games MENA men play. It's very obvious. You guys should probably come up with something better than "my wife is suddenly a raging alcoholic" or "my wife is cheating on me". It's funny how American women all of a sudden become crazy when you guys get tired of them.

What does MENA stand for?

Middle East North Africa

It is the female equivalent of Phillipines, Thailand etc.

[nycgirl 13]

You posted on a public forum therefore your topic is up for grabs. If you don't want responses then don't post on a public message board.

Honestly, Seka, I saw this coming from the day you joined VJ. I know the games MENA men play. It's very obvious. You guys should probably come up with something better than "my wife is suddenly a raging alcoholic" or "my wife is cheating on me". It's funny how American women all of a sudden become crazy when you guys get tired of them.

What does MENA stand for?

Middle East North Africa

It is the female equivalent of Phillipines, Thailand etc.

Oh spank! Oh no you didn't!!!