Friends then Lovers???

[EZ3145 0]

Here's the deal. Just want to clear my mind with an answer to this questions. Help me out folks!

So my fiancee and I were friends growing up. We lost contact with each when I came to the USA about 10yrs ago. So after 10yrs we got re-united and about a month and half or so later we got engaged.

so when she goes for her interview and the consular ask her "how did you meet your fiance" or a similar question.

If she gives an answer similar to what I just described above, ( friends then lovers after 10yrs separation) will this cause a problem such as, maybe, NOT DATING LONG ENOUGH BEFORE GETTING ENGAGED???

Will the consular think we rushed to get engaged or any similar thoughts like that???

it's just a question that's been running through my mind. Getting an answer to this will free up space for something else.

Thanks much folks.

[R de la R 2]

Here's the deal. Just want to clear my mind with an answer to this questions. Help me out folks!

So my fiancee and I were friends growing up. We lost contact with each when I came to the USA about 10yrs ago. So after 10yrs we got re-united and about a month and half or so later we got engaged.

so when she goes for her interview and the consular ask her "how did you meet your fiance" or a similar question.

If she gives an answer similar to what I just described above, ( friends then lovers after 10yrs separation) will this cause a problem such as, maybe, NOT DATING LONG ENOUGH BEFORE GETTING ENGAGED???

Will the consular think we rushed to get engaged or any similar thoughts like that???

it's just a question that's been running through my mind. Getting an answer to this will free up space for something else.

Thanks much folks.

I would rather to say:

Since XXXXX, we were friends when we were kinds, I took different ways and then we reunited on XXX an started dating and got engaged.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

I think it's a bonus that you guys knew eachother growing up. I wouldnt think anything negative about it if I was the CO, I would actually think it was sweet.

[caybee 21]

I think it's a bonus that you guys knew eachother growing up. I wouldnt think anything negative about it if I was the CO, I would actually think it was sweet.

I also think it would tend to work in your favor, depending on the narrative you give.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Here's the deal. Just want to clear my mind with an answer to this questions. Help me out folks!

So my fiancee and I were friends growing up. We lost contact with each when I came to the USA about 10yrs ago. So after 10yrs we got re-united and about a month and half or so later we got engaged.

so when she goes for her interview and the consular ask her "how did you meet your fiance" or a similar question.

If she gives an answer similar to what I just described above, ( friends then lovers after 10yrs separation) will this cause a problem such as, maybe, NOT DATING LONG ENOUGH BEFORE GETTING ENGAGED???

Will the consular think we rushed to get engaged or any similar thoughts like that???

it's just a question that's been running through my mind. Getting an answer to this will free up space for something else.

Thanks much folks.

No problems, they do not care how long you dated before you got engaged. I say this with the caveat that there may be an oddball consulate out there that does, but read the consulate reviews for your consulate. It is also best policy never to lie to anyone in this process. You have nothing to hide.

[baron555 934]

What they are asking information for is not how you got to know each other but "How did you meet?" or better stated, Where did you meet?. They are asking that question in relation to the requirement of Having met in person within 2 years PRIOR to filing the petition.

[Eternal Love 2]

My wife and I met each other when I was her First year high school teacher back in the philippines - that was 1993-94. Then the following year her family migrated here in Florida. Thirteen years until Jan 2007, she found my email address from my alma mater. We started our communication until she found out I was not married yet and the rest is a history... April 2007, she went home and we met again since 1994. We talk about her plan of bringing me here, so it happened, she came back here in June 2, 2007 and started our paperworks ........

....all the consulate officer did was to hear our love story, how we met etc..etc...etc....he didn't even care to ask for my financial support coz I brought a ton of evidence and that I was really truthful and honest about my feelings and intentions...that's it!!!

btw, GOOD LUCK TO YOUR INTERVIEW!!!

[TBoneTX 45,273]

No problems, they do not care how long you dated before you got engaged. I say this with the caveat that there may be an oddball consulate out there that does

It would be just as valid to say that the "oddball" consulates are the ones that DON'T care or DON'T ask. Furthermore, due to changes in personnel that always occur over time, "easy" consulates may not remain that way.

[pushbrk 12,877]

What they are asking information for is not how you got to know each other but "How did you meet?" or better stated, Where did you meet?. They are asking that question in relation to the requirement of Having met in person within 2 years PRIOR to filing the petition.

The OP is asking about questions at the interview, not on the I-129F. As such, the CO may ask anything they wish, for any reason. The only acceptable answer is the truth. You can't change what the truth is but you can describe it in the most positive light possible. It this situation, I'd focus on "how" the couple managed to reunite even more than the "when". There may be a suspicion the relationship is arranged solely to derive an immigration benefit, so focus on the aspects of the truth that paint a picture of a bona fide relationship.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

No problems, they do not care how long you dated before you got engaged. I say this with the caveat that there may be an oddball consulate out there that does

It would be just as valid to say that the "oddball" consulates are the ones that DON'T care or DON'T ask. Furthermore, due to changes in personnel that always occur over time, "easy" consulates may not remain that way.

It wasn't my intent to suggest only the oddball consulate would "ask", it is the oddball consulate that would have a problem with it.

I agree with you that an applicant and their fiance needs to be fully prepared and if the USC can possibly attend the interview, I highly recommend it. You had some great difficulty with the particular consulate you had to go through. I read about it in the thread you ssuggested in another post. I admire your ability to do so. Congratulations. The good news is, for now anyway, that situation exists only in a small handful of consulates. I do not know about Ghana and hence my caveat and suggestion in other posts to this OP that he read up on his consulate and people's experience with it.

[EZ3145 0]

What they are asking information for is not how you got to know each other but "How did you meet?" or better stated, Where did you meet?. They are asking that question in relation to the requirement of Having met in person within 2 years PRIOR to filing the petition.

The OP is asking about questions at the interview, not on the I-129F. As such, the CO may ask anything they wish, for any reason. The only acceptable answer is the truth. You can't change what the truth is but you can describe it in the most positive light possible. It this situation, I'd focus on "how" the couple managed to reunite even more than the "when". There may be a suspicion the relationship is arranged solely to derive an immigration benefit, so focus on the aspects of the truth that paint a picture of a bona fide relationship.

Well, my fiancee's best friend is also friends with my uncle. so this friend of my uncle gave my fiancee's number to my uncle who then gave it to me. so I made the call after 10yrs and we got to where we are now.

Will this be a problem at the interview??

[pushbrk 12,877]

What they are asking information for is not how you got to know each other but "How did you meet?" or better stated, Where did you meet?. They are asking that question in relation to the requirement of Having met in person within 2 years PRIOR to filing the petition.

The OP is asking about questions at the interview, not on the I-129F. As such, the CO may ask anything they wish, for any reason. The only acceptable answer is the truth. You can't change what the truth is but you can describe it in the most positive light possible. It this situation, I'd focus on "how" the couple managed to reunite even more than the "when". There may be a suspicion the relationship is arranged solely to derive an immigration benefit, so focus on the aspects of the truth that paint a picture of a bona fide relationship.

Well, my fiancee's best friend is also friends with my uncle. so this friend of my uncle gave my fiancee's number to my uncle who then gave it to me. so I made the call after 10yrs and we got to where we are now.

Will this be a problem at the interview??

I don't know. You still don't mention why this happened. If instigated by the uncle's friend, why? If requested by you, entirely different story. Is a light coming on yet?

[EZ3145 0]

What they are asking information for is not how you got to know each other but "How did you meet?" or better stated, Where did you meet?. They are asking that question in relation to the requirement of Having met in person within 2 years PRIOR to filing the petition.

The OP is asking about questions at the interview, not on the I-129F. As such, the CO may ask anything they wish, for any reason. The only acceptable answer is the truth. You can't change what the truth is but you can describe it in the most positive light possible. It this situation, I'd focus on "how" the couple managed to reunite even more than the "when". There may be a suspicion the relationship is arranged solely to derive an immigration benefit, so focus on the aspects of the truth that paint a picture of a bona fide relationship.

Well, my fiancee's best friend is also friends with my uncle. so this friend of my uncle gave my fiancee's number to my uncle who then gave it to me. so I made the call after 10yrs and we got to where we are now.

Will this be a problem at the interview??

I don't know. You still don't mention why this happened. If instigated by the uncle's friend, why? If requested by you, entirely different story. Is a light coming on yet?

Looks like you need more light yourself so here try this switch. I had requested the number from my uncle before but he didn't have. I had forgotten about it till he came to me one day and said he's got. This is how he got. During a conversation with his friend, he just mentioned it that I have been asking about her ( my fiancee). Luckily, my uncle's friend had her number so she gave it to my uncle, who gave it to me.

Sometimes friends ask other friends about other friends. Is the light on yet ?

[pushbrk 12,877]

What they are asking information for is not how you got to know each other but "How did you meet?" or better stated, Where did you meet?. They are asking that question in relation to the requirement of Having met in person within 2 years PRIOR to filing the petition.

The OP is asking about questions at the interview, not on the I-129F. As such, the CO may ask anything they wish, for any reason. The only acceptable answer is the truth. You can't change what the truth is but you can describe it in the most positive light possible. It this situation, I'd focus on "how" the couple managed to reunite even more than the "when". There may be a suspicion the relationship is arranged solely to derive an immigration benefit, so focus on the aspects of the truth that paint a picture of a bona fide relationship.

Well, my fiancee's best friend is also friends with my uncle. so this friend of my uncle gave my fiancee's number to my uncle who then gave it to me. so I made the call after 10yrs and we got to where we are now.

Will this be a problem at the interview??

I don't know. You still don't mention why this happened. If instigated by the uncle's friend, why? If requested by you, entirely different story. Is a light coming on yet?

Looks like you need more light yourself so here try this switch. I had requested the number from my uncle before but he didn't have. I had forgotten about it till he came to me one day and said he's got. This is how he got. During a conversation with his friend, he just mentioned it that I have been asking about her ( my fiancee). Luckily, my uncle's friend had her number so she gave it to my uncle, who gave it to me.

Sometimes friends ask other friends about other friends. Is the light on yet ?

Yes, you've finally given enough information to see that you instigated the meeting based on your own interest in the woman instead of your uncle's friend suggesting you marry her so she could get a green card. Your first answer could be taken either way and from that part of the world, given that answer, the interview is likely to have taken an unpleasant turn. I expect if you'll tell the story of how you were looking for her, and how things evolved from there, you'll be fine.

[wizardfitz 13]

Here's the deal. Just want to clear my mind with an answer to this questions. Help me out folks!

So my fiancee and I were friends growing up. We lost contact with each when I came to the USA about 10yrs ago. So after 10yrs we got re-united and about a month and half or so later we got engaged.

so when she goes for her interview and the consular ask her "how did you meet your fiance" or a similar question.

If she gives an answer similar to what I just described above, ( friends then lovers after 10yrs separation) will this cause a problem such as, maybe, NOT DATING LONG ENOUGH BEFORE GETTING ENGAGED???

Will the consular think we rushed to get engaged or any similar thoughts like that???

it's just a question that's been running through my mind. Getting an answer to this will free up space for something else.

Thanks much folks.

well based on my experience, it wasnt deemed a bad thing. my husband and I were friends 1st then lovers as well. we met on myspace and had become very good friends. when I answered that, the consulate asked me if I thought it was impt to be friends 1st and I explained and she was good with my answer which was true anyway.