My wife threw her marriage and life here away

[rebeccajo 14]

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Yo sister!!! I've missed you :dance:

Busy busy..............

Uh-oh, it's the VisaJourney Peanut Gallery. More useless attack posts with nothing relevant or anything remotely pertaining to the original post. Definite post-whoring. The Visa Journey Thread Hijackers unite! Get those post counts up! If you have nothing positive to add, why not just ignore my thread if you hate it so much? Oh that's right, you're bored, and you just need to come in here to add your mumbo-jumbo and let your ####### fly! HAHAHA

Don't bother, I won't respond to your next post-####### thread-hijacking useless post. Silly goose.

Yeah that's me. The useless post #######.

So what's your excuse? You processing a visa or adjusting status? Filing for citizenship?

[KnightAndMagpie 7]

Yeah that's me. The useless post #######.

So what's your excuse? You processing a visa or adjusting status? Filing for citizenship?

He's here 'cause he's got butthurt and he's angling for sympathy.

Magpie.

[KnightAndMagpie 7]

Allright, let's suppose for a minute you really are telling the truth.

The only person you have to be angry at is yourself for hurting your mother, for not having the brain to realize you were being had. Now, either you're going to learn from this, or you're going to do the exact same things and pick the wrong woman again, and for your sake, I hope not.

Stupid is as stupid does.

-Knight

[rlogan 2,036]

I just think now the whole thing was a big sham, I was duped, and it hurt to feel that way, but I am over it now and moving on. Yeah, my wife was great to me, most of the time, but I believe it was an act, and when she could no longer act and play the part of legitimate "wife", she packed up and left. She couldnt do it anymore. She was a good actress though. There are just too many red flags to not believe this was fraud and she had ulterior motives. I really dont care what the naysayers and the doubters say on this forum, I am only posting my experiences in hopes it may help someone else in the future who may find themselves in a similar situation. Love is definitely blind, and something that is SO GOOD can definitely go SO BAD if you are with someone who has different plans than you do.

For every person that tells their story there have to be a large number too ashamed and embarassed to say anything. People get taken for a lot of money and it cuts across every demographic strata.

If my wife made the right choices,

Well she never loved you so the only legitimate choice was to leave you, not complete a dream she never had in the first place.

The illegals have been run out of their cottage they were at. So we gotta find where they be staying at now and forward the new address to ICE. They are still down at the beach no doubt, probably right down the street from where they were before lol. ICE said they will need the new address, because even though they now have descriptions of all 4 cars and the license plate numbers of each one, these people never report their change of address, so running plates wont help much except for getting the name of the registrant.

Not sure how much effort it is worth chasing after these people. The russians involved in criminal activity are some of the most cold-blooded people on the planet, and would not think twice about killing someone that gets in their way.

You already demonstrated a naiive personality with this girl. Nobody will give you a medal for busting up an immigration ring or pay for your surgury and wheelchair after you are a quadraplegic from getting shot in the back.

So don't be the one who writes to tell us you took on the russian mafia and they didn't play by the rules when they broke your legs or burned your eyeballs out. Cut your tongue off.

I am not vested enough in the forum to choose sides in a pissing match. I won't make fun of you for being naiive. I got strung along by one, not as far as you - but I have some understanding for it. You just want to see what the heart believes.

And to some degree I also wanted some kind of satisfaction out of seeing the humiliation, seeing harsh reality smack her in the face - how she had it made for the rest of her life and how she blew it. Her father was a really nice guy, and the shame was so great they had to move. One day the big shots in town and the next day the town laughingstock. Creditors after them for just one month of bills I could handle with one day's pay and they could not handle with five people working 12 hours a day all month.

But she never loved me. So staying with me and becoming a "good wife" was never an option. You just have to forget about looking at it that way.

It's one thing to get that satisfaction or even gloat about it - but entirely another thing to take on a criminal organization. They will hurt you and USCIS will not be there with snipers to take them out for you.

I am alive today because the bolt to the rifle held by the man that tried to murder me failed to chamber a round properly, so we both heard the "click" of the firing pin instead of a "pow" from the bullet being fired. I didn't even know he was laying in wait to ambush me. But that failure to fire gave me the chance to turn things around. Maybe you won't be so lucky.

[natty bumppo 297]

Yeah that's me. The useless post #######.

So what's your excuse? You processing a visa or adjusting status? Filing for citizenship?

He's here 'cause he's got butthurt and he's angling for sympathy.

Magpie.

Well then ... let's break out the fiddle and have some fun

[Muddy 0]

Great job Merrillizer

[Muddy 0]

Great job Merrillizer

one question, can you still withdraw your I-130 if she had recieved her temprorary green card?

[esoll 0]

Merrill,

Reading your story I do believe you came into this relationship without knowing it was a scam. Many of your reactions and responses the last few weeks were made under stress and emotions. I was in a similar but different situation and I can see myself on some of your emotional reactions. (Shock, Anger, Acceptance are the steps you need to go though before being able to think clearly again)

About the scam;

It works like this; A foreign couple wants to come to the USA, first thing they do is to find an American male, for the girl, does not matter who it is, (the older the easier) then, when found, the poor guy petition her to come to the US. She comes and marry on a K1 visa. Weeks or months later she accuses her "new" husband of abuse, finishes her petition on her own (All paid by our taxes) and when she gets her green card she will petition her boyfriend that stayed back and 6 to 8 months later they both living the American dream legally.

In your case, your wife was not smart enough to pull it off and is now desperately trying to save her case. I can bet if she leaves the US back to Moldova and without a ban, she will re-appear on a new K1 package within a year filled by another American.

I also agree with one poster, don't get in the way of the russian mob, Life for them do not have much value.

Good luck!

Esoll

[Muddy 0]

Merrill,

may i ask how you met her?

[It's me 1]

[scandal 951]

Merrill,

Reading your story I do believe you came into this relationship without knowing it was a scam. Many of your reactions and responses the last few weeks were made under stress and emotions. I was in a similar but different situation and I can see myself on some of your emotional reactions. (Shock, Anger, Acceptance are the steps you need to go though before being able to think clearly again)

About the scam;

It works like this; A foreign couple wants to come to the USA, first thing they do is to find an American male, for the girl, does not matter who it is, (the older the easier) then, when found, the poor guy petition her to come to the US. She comes and marry on a K1 visa. Weeks or months later she accuses her "new" husband of abuse, finishes her petition on her own (All paid by our taxes) and when she gets her green card she will petition her boyfriend that stayed back and 6 to 8 months later they both living the American dream legally.

In your case, your wife was not smart enough to pull it off and is now desperately trying to save her case. I can bet if she leaves the US back to Moldova and without a ban, she will re-appear on a new K1 package within a year filled by another American.

I also agree with one poster, don't get in the way of the russian mob, Life for them do not have much value.

Good luck!

Esoll

PR cannot petition a fiance - need to be a USC to file K1.

Next!

[zqt3344 21]

Be glad you got the little scam artist out of your life and did so in time before going any further. I met and know many women from neighboring Moldova, and sadly they are more desperate to get out at any length to get married to American or any Western European man for that matter at any costs. And they are very good liars, you are lucky you did not go any deeper or longer with this zychek!

So my wife abandoned our marriage and deserted me on March 5th. After 2 weeks of her not returning home to reconcile, I sent a letter of withdrawal to USCIS requesting they withdraw my form I-130. However, the letter was not notarized. After another call to USCIS, they informed me to resend a notarized version of the withdrawal letter if I truly believed there was no saving the marriage.

So, after many attempts to reconcile with my wife, she decided to return home last Monday, March 30th. I was surprised I decided to allow her back into my home and life after I had caught her lying so many times to me during the 4 weeks she was gone. I caught her in a room with another man, with the lights out and the door locked while she was staying with her "friends", who just happen to be illegal aliens from Russia, who just happen to be living right down the street from my house. My wife swore to me she wasnt sharing a bed with another man, but I caught her red handed. And I still allowed her back to try and save our marriage.

So on Tuesday March 31st, my wife returned home. She unpacked, put her stuff back where it all belonged and everything seemed normal. Then she began crying saying she didnt know if it would work. I was blown away. Here we go again I thought. So that very night, her first night home, as we layed in our bed talking about the future, she got a phone call at 10pm. She talked to some guy for 15 minutes. When she got off the phone, I asked who it was. She said "a friend". I said oh, where did you meet him. She said "it's not a him, it's a her". I could not believe that my own wife trying to lie right to my face. I clearly heard the guy talking through the phone. I just could not believe what was happening. So let that one go...

She worked the next day, Wednesday, 11 to 9:30. Her attitude with me was still very stiff and cold after I picked her up from work and we came home. Another night for me in the spare room. My wife still wasnt ready to sleep by my side. I found this very odd.

So Thursday, April 2nd, she worked again 11am to 9:30. During the afternoon, I thought I would surprise her with her car. I registered it at the town hall, and also got the vanity plates she wanted to badly. I knew how much they meant to her, so I wanted her to have them. I got the car all ready, and then picked her up at work in it. I let her drive home so she could practice driving and get a feel for the car. She immediately gave me an attitude and complained because I had registered the car in my name. I could not believe she was doing this again. I told her nicely that she could not register an automobile because she cant even get a NH drivers license yet due to her lack of documentation. She didnt believe me, and assumed I had only registered the car in my name so I could have some sort of power over her. I was blown away again. All I did was try to forget my wives lies and try to do something great for her.

So Friday April 3rd would end up being Doomsday. Again she worked her 11am to 9:30 shift. I let her drive to work, dropped her off, then returned home to some work of my own. Around 4:30 pm, I decided to check the phone records to see who she was calling and who was calling her. Her phone account is in my name, and its my phone, and I felt like because of all the lies already since returning home only several days earlier, I needed to get to the bottom of it. So I ended up seeing that she called the same guy that had called during her first night home here. She called him from work at 4pm. Strange I thought....it really bothered me to think that my wife would take a break from work to call another guy, but not call me to see how I was doing during the day. I called the number after realizing it was the same one, and the kid answered the phone. I asked him how he knew my wife. He said he had met her at the Greek Club down in Mass. the previous Sat. night. I said wow, did she fail to mention to you that she is a married girl? He said "yes, she failed to mention that, she never told me she was married". So there I had it. I knew my wife had gone down there with her boss who is from the town where club is located, and he girl friend had gone with her too. I just couldnt believe that my wife was doing this.

So I had it all planned out. I picked up my wife in her car, and let her drive home, so nothing seemed out of the ordinary. I then asked her on the way home why she hadnt called me during the day to see how I was. She said "Oh Jon, it was so busy today, I was too busy to call out". Hmmmmm, I said so you didnt call anyone all day? She said "no". At that point, I believe she knew I was on to her and she knew I knew she was lying. I gave her 5 or 6 chances to come clean, and she continued to lie and deny it. So when we got into the house, she took her jacket off, and I pulled out the piece of paper I had with the guys name and number written on it. I asked who it was. She said "I dont know, I dont recognize that number". Still lying. Unreal. I then grabbed her phone, which is mine actually, and looked through her contacts.....and there it was "Andy". I showed her the number, and she STILL denied it! At this very moment, I realized that I did not want my wife anymore.

Now here's where everything seemed to fall into place....about 30 minutes after I called this kid about my wife, I found a letter in my mailbox from USCIS. I was a response to my letter of withdrawal, stating that the paperwork is withdrawn. I couldnt believe it. They had accepted my non-notarized letter and pulled the plug. It was over. She no longer had any legal status in the United States.

So after she looked at her phone and still lied, I told her she should go upstairs to our bedroom and read the letter I left for her on one of our nightstands. I went up too and stood in the doorway. She found it, and said "whats this", and after reading it her eyes went crazy and she totally lost it. She attacked me. I allowed her to take out her aggression on me for a few minutes. All I could say was "too much lying Silvia, you lied way too many times" I had given this girl so many opportunities to save our marriage and her life here. Now she knows she has to return to Moldova. Although I dont feel as bad as I did before, it still hurts me that this marriage could not work and we could not have the live together here that we so badly wanted.

My wife just decided to throw it all away. Her actions from the moment she walked out on me on March 5th were totally mean spirited and cold, she destroyed me when she walked out. And she ultimately destroyed herself as well. It's like she totally changed while under the influence on the wrong people. I cant help but still feel sick over this situation.

So now the divorce is started too. And I will be granted that no-contest, since the marriage was so short-lived, only about 5 and a half, and we have no joint accounts or property and no children. There is nothing for her to contest, and with said, she also walked out and abandoned her marriage and deserted her husband, so pretty much guaranteed me a no-contest divorce. I still cannot understand what she wanted to achieve by doing all of these things. Her actions are just so strange.

At this point now, she is in attack-mode, and has decided that since she has to return home to Moldova, that I should suffer too. She figures if she has to go home, then somehow I should be "punished". So she got a restraining order on me. And now we both have to appear in court on April 10th. I am wondering why she is trying to do this, because it is totally unwarranted, and I do not see the point in the court granting her a permanent restraining order when in reality she is supposed to be returning home to Moldova anyway, on the other side of the earth. It just boggles my mind. So I have come to the conclusion that my wives anger over this has caused her to become extremely spireful, vengeful, and vindictive. She is definitely going to try and slander me and destroy my life even more before she has to go home. I talked with her boss today, I told him that USCIS said she no longer has legal status here, and should not be working for him illegally. He told me that my wife said that she is going to return home soon to Moldova willingly. But somehow I highly doubt that she will leave soon. I know she will try to make my life hell before she goes, if she goes at all.

Anyone ever been through something similar? I am really curious as to how long it will take her to receive a letter from ICE telling her she has to go. Anyone know? Is there any timetable for removal proceedings after your paperwork is withdrawn? If anyone has any ideas, I am definitely curious to know.

[SuperDuper! 230]

Edited April 25, 2009 by itzallgood

[esoll 0]

Think again!

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Our friend Merrillizer has been blogging about his exploits for a while now.

And as Shakespeare said - "Me thinks though doest protest too much".

I think it's all a bag of fart$, if you want my two cents worth.

Cool! Hmmm, reading the blog does show Merrillizer in a different light. What I found interesting is the guns in the pics behind Silvia. Perhaps that might have given rise to a concern for how any anger might have played out