Divorce or Annulment?

[a-jeanne 2]

I would appreciate any help here. My husband has just received his conditional residence papers in February. We will be married one year in May and things have gone downhill in a hurry. The adjustment has been too much for him and he has involved way too many people in our relationship. IE ex wife, ex sister in law, ex female coworker and has been very inappropriate with email and Skype with them. We have been seeing a counselor since September and he simply refuses to take ownership for what this has all done to me. I have also lost close friends here due to his behavior.

Where are we in the process - what will be next with the K-1? Should I file for divorce or an anullment? Doesn't he have to yet prove a relationship? He really can't because he has nothing here in our name and he still uses his UK address when he orders things through the mail. He has accounts overseas, a house in the UK that he paid cash for and also retirement accounts that I know nothing about. Will they deport him with not enough proof?

Now, he wants to fly to Vancouver to spend some time with his son. I need to protect myself and my two children. I don't want him to leave me with nothing. Help me please. I'm at the end of my rope.

[Bobby+Umit 161]

I would appreciate any help here. My husband has just received his conditional residence papers in February. We will be married one year in May and things have gone downhill in a hurry. The adjustment has been too much for him and he has involved way too many people in our relationship. IE ex wife, ex sister in law, ex female coworker and has been very inappropriate with email and Skype with them. We have been seeing a counselor since September and he simply refuses to take ownership for what this has all done to me. I have also lost close friends here due to his behavior.

Where are we in the process - what will be next with the K-1? Should I file for divorce or an anullment? Doesn't he have to yet prove a relationship? He really can't because he has nothing here in our name and he still uses his UK address when he orders things through the mail. He has accounts overseas, a house in the UK that he paid cash for and also retirement accounts that I know nothing about. Will they deport him with not enough proof?

Now, he wants to fly to Vancouver to spend some time with his son. I need to protect myself and my two children. I don't want him to leave me with nothing. Help me please. I'm at the end of my rope.

Divorce lawyer is your best bet. I would talk with one today, since you mentioned he has "other" relationships, hidden accounts from you, and the such.

Either way, since your 485 is approved, you are still on the hook for the affidavit of support.

(oh - does he have the AP yet?)

Edited April 6, 2009 by Bobby_Umit

[Nagishkaw 510]

I have no advise but just wanted to say Im sorry this has happened to you.

[payxibka 10,047]

moving as this really is no longer a K-1 issue

[a-jeanne 2]

moving as this really is no longer a K-1 issue

Where did you move it to?

[Chica Yeyé 41]

The Affidavit of Support does not expire if you divorce him, so indeed, you are responsible for that.

All he needs to prove once it is time for him to Remove conditions is that he entered the marriage in good faith.

Divorce, move on. Best of luck.

[payxibka 10,047]

moving as this really is no longer a K-1 issue

Where did you move it to?

look at the top of the page

Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

[English Muffin 59]

So sorry to hear this Audrey.

Sounds like you should just get a divorce and let your husband worry about his immigration journey from now on. He'll be able to apply to remove the conditions on his GC once the divorce is final and he'll succeed if he can prove that he entered the marriage in good faith. However, you don't need to have any involvement in that and I really wouldn't spend any time worrying about it if I were you.

Big hugs Audrey.

[*julez* 124]

Audrey, I am so sorry to hear that things are not working out for you guys. How terrible that he has violated your trust and the sanctity of you marriage so early on. I think you are right that you need to protect yourself and your daughters in this situation. As others have stated, above, you should contact a divorce attorney to determine what your legal options are.

As far as his status in the US, since he has a green card, he is a Legal Permanent Resident, with conditional residency for 2 years from the date the greencard is approved.

You are his sponsor, I presume, which does mean that you are still financially responsible for him, in that if he seeks public assitance, you'd be on the hook for reimbursement. However, if I am mot mistaken, he has retirement income, so that shouldn't bring problems for you.

The real question is, does he want to stay in the US? If yes, as Muffin noted, he would have to prove that the marriage was entered into in good faith and most likely could remove conditions on his own. If no, then he only needs to pack his stuff and return to the UK.

I hope that helps. Let me know if you need anything.

[a-jeanne 2]

Audrey, I am so sorry to hear that things are not working out for you guys. How terrible that he has violated your trust and the sanctity of you marriage so early on. I think you are right that you need to protect yourself and your daughters in this situation. As others have stated, above, you should contact a divorce attorney to determine what your legal options are.

As far as his status in the US, since he has a green card, he is a Legal Permanent Resident, with conditional residency for 2 years from the date the greencard is approved.

You are his sponsor, I presume, which does mean that you are still financially responsible for him, in that if he seeks public assitance, you'd be on the hook for reimbursement. However, if I am mot mistaken, he has retirement income, so that shouldn't bring problems for you.

The real question is, does he want to stay in the US? If yes, as Muffin noted, he would have to prove that the marriage was entered into in good faith and most likely could remove conditions on his own. If no, then he only needs to pack his stuff and return to the UK.

I hope that helps. Let me know if you need anything.

He has left. I don't know if he's coming back. Now what do I do?

[Bobby+Umit 161]

Audrey, I am so sorry to hear that things are not working out for you guys. How terrible that he has violated your trust and the sanctity of you marriage so early on. I think you are right that you need to protect yourself and your daughters in this situation. As others have stated, above, you should contact a divorce attorney to determine what your legal options are.

As far as his status in the US, since he has a green card, he is a Legal Permanent Resident, with conditional residency for 2 years from the date the greencard is approved.

You are his sponsor, I presume, which does mean that you are still financially responsible for him, in that if he seeks public assitance, you'd be on the hook for reimbursement. However, if I am mot mistaken, he has retirement income, so that shouldn't bring problems for you.

The real question is, does he want to stay in the US? If yes, as Muffin noted, he would have to prove that the marriage was entered into in good faith and most likely could remove conditions on his own. If no, then he only needs to pack his stuff and return to the UK.

I hope that helps. Let me know if you need anything.

He has left. I don't know if he's coming back. Now what do I do?

Contact a divorce lawyer. File for divorce (probably abandonment). You may want to change your locks.

There is not much else you could do.

He will probably attempt to renew his status when it comes up, and he will have to prove the marriage was entered in good faith (as mentioned above), if he can't, they will not grant him status and he will need to return to the UK.

Good luck.

[justashooter 430]

you are now left to greive the death of your relationship. take your time.

when you're done, you'll look back and breathe a sigh of relief at how easy your seperation was. others have divorced malicious persons. your ex is just a self centered fool.

now buck up and find that chocolate ice cream.

[a-jeanne 2]

you are now left to greive the death of your relationship. take your time.

when you're done, you'll look back and breathe a sigh of relief at how easy your seperation was. others have divorced malicious persons. your ex is just a self centered fool.

now buck up and find that chocolate ice cream.

Thank you

I found his one - way ticket.

[a-jeanne 2]

When I arrived home last night - ALL of this things are gone. He has a friend (my friend) storing his stuff at their house. Then this morning he sent me an email stating that he still loves me. I sure don't know what to do. This is driving me crazy.

[Mary Lou 681]

When I arrived home last night - ALL of this things are gone. He has a friend (my friend) storing his stuff at their house. Then this morning he sent me an email stating that he still loves me. I sure don't know what to do. This is driving me crazy.

You need to change your locks. What the heck kind of games is he playing? As you said you were in counseling, and he has never accepted his part in this. Now he up and leaves and takes all his things. Now he's just playing games. Protect yourself and i'd say file for divorce. Dont let him have anymore control.

Hugs to you