If there was no USA ... or no Philippines ...

[pnrmbr975 1]

To my fellow Filipinos: If there was no USA, what country would you want your loved one to be from?

And to US citizens: If there were no Philippines, in which country would you look for a mate?

In my case, I'd probably get married to an Australian or perhaps stay put in the Philippines. How about you?

I am answering for my wife and I. I, being the US citizen, and the wife being the Filipina.

I did not intentionally look for a Filipina as bride, she just happened to be one. She did not intentionally seek an american or any other ethnicity who would fill the role of a husband or a provider. We had our own individual and very different lives before love struck us. We did not choose each other because of our ethnicities. We chose to marry each other because we fell in love. Later on during the long-term friendship, we discovered more about each other but they weren't the reasons why we "fell in love". I did not choose her because she's a Filipina, or thought that she'd make a perfect wife, I chose her because love made me do it. I love her for the person that she is, and not for who she is or where she is from.

So to answer your question, if there were no Philippines and USA, which country would I (or my wife) choose to look for a mate? There was no such thing with us so there woudn't be.

Edited April 6, 2009 by pnrmbr975

[shang 0]

To my fellow Filipinos: If there was no USA, what country would you want your loved one to be from?

And to US citizens: If there were no Philippines, in which country would you look for a mate?

In my case, I'd probably get married to an Australian or perhaps stay put in the Philippines. How about you?

I am answering for my wife and I. I, being the US citizen, and the wife being the Filipina.

I did not intentionally look for a Filipina as bride, she just happened to be one. She did not intentionally seek an american or any other ethnicity who would fill the role of a husband or a provider. We had our own individual and very different lives before love struck us. We did not choose each other because of our ethnicities. We chose to marry each other because we fell in love. Later on during the long-term friendship, we discovered more about each other but they weren't the reasons why we "fell in love". I did not choose her because she's a Filipina, or thought that she'd make a perfect wife, I chose her because love made me do it. I love her for the person that she is, and not for who she is or where she is from.

So to answer your question, if there were no Philippines and USA, which country would I (or my wife) choose to look for a mate? There was no such thing with us so there woudn't be.

it's called "destiny" naks

[mike and hermosa 0]

Hi,

I don't mean bad when I say this so don't all jump on me.....but why do most filipinas always ask questions like this? It makes them sound like they just were searching for an American victim to pounce on!! When you talk about "looking for a certain race" in makes you sound like gold diggers!! So many filipina post like this and it makes them all sound the same!!! Hard to respect this style. Thats maybe why there are SO many filipina girls married to their "grandpa". You know the ones you see here that are so young and pretty looking with some old fat white guy? WTH! Funny, I live in manilla for over 5 years and almost never saw filipina girls with older filipino guys....but let a fat white guy walk down the street and he was like fresh meat in the jail......I guess he just looked like a big DOLLAR sign!! Here's a hint, filipinas.......clean up your image by having some self respect!!

This is so far one of the most inane comments that I have read in my short time here at VJ. Why would you imply that the posing of my query is tantamount to “searching for an American victim to pounce on”? Did I ever say that we Filipinas look for Americans as gold mines? And what’s wrong if fate guides us to connect with an American or any foreigner for that matter? And I admire those Filipina women who are sincerely in love and dedicated to their husbands and fiancés in America.

For your information, my fiancé is not even an American albeit he lives in Arizona. He is a full- blooded Ilocano, like yours truly, and not necessarily somebody who was born with silver spoons in his mouth. But he has studied and worked hard and has been gainfully employed as a white collar professional the last 8 years since he has been in the USA. Both of us are in our mid 30’s and have known each other for more than 15 years.

So, tell, me where’s the loss of self respect here? Otherwise, just shut up, clown!

Great! YOU are a good one! I am only speaking of the one with no self respect , who will do whatever it takes to get in a better financial situation. Keep up the good work with your fiance!

signed, The "clown"

[shang 0]

Hi,

I don't mean bad when I say this so don't all jump on me.....but why do most filipinas always ask questions like this? It makes them sound like they just were searching for an American victim to pounce on!! When you talk about "looking for a certain race" in makes you sound like gold diggers!! So many filipina post like this and it makes them all sound the same!!! Hard to respect this style. Thats maybe why there are SO many filipina girls married to their "grandpa". You know the ones you see here that are so young and pretty looking with some old fat white guy? WTH! Funny, I live in manilla for over 5 years and almost never saw filipina girls with older filipino guys....but let a fat white guy walk down the street and he was like fresh meat in the jail......I guess he just looked like a big DOLLAR sign!! Here's a hint, filipinas.......clean up your image by having some self respect!!

This is so far one of the most inane comments that I have read in my short time here at VJ. Why would you imply that the posing of my query is tantamount to “searching for an American victim to pounce on”? Did I ever say that we Filipinas look for Americans as gold mines? And what’s wrong if fate guides us to connect with an American or any foreigner for that matter? And I admire those Filipina women who are sincerely in love and dedicated to their husbands and fiancés in America.

For your information, my fiancé is not even an American albeit he lives in Arizona. He is a full- blooded Ilocano, like yours truly, and not necessarily somebody who was born with silver spoons in his mouth. But he has studied and worked hard and has been gainfully employed as a white collar professional the last 8 years since he has been in the USA. Both of us are in our mid 30’s and have known each other for more than 15 years.

So, tell, me where’s the loss of self respect here? Otherwise, just shut up, clown!

Great! YOU are a good one! I am only speaking of the one with no self respect , who will do whatever it takes to get in a better financial situation. Keep up the good work with your fiance!

signed, The "clown"

[mobama94 0]

To my fellow Filipinos: If there was no USA, what country would you want your loved one to be from?

And to US citizens: If there were no Philippines, in which country would you look for a mate?

In my case, I'd probably get married to an Australian or perhaps stay put in the Philippines. How about you?

I am answering for my wife and I. I, being the US citizen, and the wife being the Filipina.

I did not intentionally look for a Filipina as bride, she just happened to be one. She did not intentionally seek an american or any other ethnicity who would fill the role of a husband or a provider. We had our own individual and very different lives before love struck us. We did not choose each other because of our ethnicities. We chose to marry each other because we fell in love. Later on during the long-term friendship, we discovered more about each other but they weren't the reasons why we "fell in love". I did not choose her because she's a Filipina, or thought that she'd make a perfect wife, I chose her because love made me do it. I love her for the person that she is, and not for who she is or where she is from.

So to answer your question, if there were no Philippines and USA, which country would I (or my wife) choose to look for a mate? There was no such thing with us so there woudn't be.

How astute! Your answer mirrors our love story too.

[sweetFM 0]

I will probably become an old maid

[Señor Bonito 2]

And to US citizens: If there were no Philippines, in which country would you look for a mate?

If there were no Philippines? This is an impossible question because the Philippines is my native land! Nevertheless, if my sister-in-law was not around to be my second wife, I'd probably be dating a woman from Mexico or South Korea. Don't ask me why but that's how it might be!

[mike and hermosa 0]

Hi,

I don't mean bad when I say this so don't all jump on me.....but why do most filipinas always ask questions like this? It makes them sound like they just were searching for an American victim to pounce on!! When you talk about "looking for a certain race" in makes you sound like gold diggers!! So many filipina post like this and it makes them all sound the same!!! Hard to respect this style. Thats maybe why there are SO many filipina girls married to their "grandpa". You know the ones you see here that are so young and pretty looking with some old fat white guy? WTH! Funny, I live in manilla for over 5 years and almost never saw filipina girls with older filipino guys....but let a fat white guy walk down the street and he was like fresh meat in the jail......I guess he just looked like a big DOLLAR sign!! Here's a hint, filipinas.......clean up your image by having some self respect!!

Kind of the same as when all those models belly up to Donald Trump..... I mean, that guy, that guy is really an idiot.

In all seriousness, it is all about survival. Survival is our number one motivator in life. After 5 years in the RP, I'm surprised you don't realize that surviving there is no easy task. It truly is a place where if born poor, you really have very little chances of a good life, you'll be dedicating your entire life to survival. I can understand doing pretty much anything to survive.... I saw a documentary on fathers that turn their own boys (yes boys) into child hookers in some poor European countries just for survival.... see what people do for survive?

Get off your high horse mister.

Survival? Pinoys have survived for MANY years before immigration and with much self respect and self reliance. Don't say now they have to survive any way they can. Is that really right? And its Ms. not Mr.

[shang 0]

Hi,

I don't mean bad when I say this so don't all jump on me.....but why do most filipinas always ask questions like this? It makes them sound like they just were searching for an American victim to pounce on!! When you talk about "looking for a certain race" in makes you sound like gold diggers!! So many filipina post like this and it makes them all sound the same!!! Hard to respect this style. Thats maybe why there are SO many filipina girls married to their "grandpa". You know the ones you see here that are so young and pretty looking with some old fat white guy? WTH! Funny, I live in manilla for over 5 years and almost never saw filipina girls with older filipino guys....but let a fat white guy walk down the street and he was like fresh meat in the jail......I guess he just looked like a big DOLLAR sign!! Here's a hint, filipinas.......clean up your image by having some self respect!!

Kind of the same as when all those models belly up to Donald Trump..... I mean, that guy, that guy is really an idiot.

In all seriousness, it is all about survival. Survival is our number one motivator in life. After 5 years in the RP, I'm surprised you don't realize that surviving there is no easy task. It truly is a place where if born poor, you really have very little chances of a good life, you'll be dedicating your entire life to survival. I can understand doing pretty much anything to survive.... I saw a documentary on fathers that turn their own boys (yes boys) into child hookers in some poor European countries just for survival.... see what people do for survive?

Get off your high horse mister.

Survival? Pinoys have survived for MANY years before immigration and with much self respect and self reliance. Don't say now they have to survive any way they can. Is that really right? And its Ms. not Mr.

Pinoy are survivors, no matter what will happen kasi iba ang pinoy maabilidad

[Señora Bonita 0]

Even if there were no United States, my husband and I were probably destined to be life partners. Chances are he might not have left the Philippines for a foreign country. And that an act of God, the passing of my older sister who was his first wife (en paz descanse), could have brought us together somehow.

[Loolie 56]

To my fellow Filipinos: If there was no USA, what country would you want your loved one to be from?

And to US citizens: If there were no Philippines, in which country would you look for a mate?

In my case, I'd probably get married to an Australian or perhaps stay put in the Philippines. How about you?

for me a filipina, if there was no USA id probably marry a guy in the philippines pero matagal pa kasi hirap makahanap ng faithful guy eh...im lucky i found my hubby.

and for my hubby, if there was no philippines, he'd still be single till now...and he'd probably not found a cute wife like me till now...hahahahhaha. wag ng aangal opinion to ng hubby ko.

and siguro kung walang pinas baka yung mga kanong mahirap makahanap ng asawa eh baka tigang na ngayon...hehehehhe peace

[maritoni 3]

Hubby says he'd be glad to stay single if there is no Philippines...if there's no usa i'd be still single:)) it's just a matter of choice...

[forestrose 0]

Hubby says he'd be glad to stay single if there is no Philippines...if there's no usa i'd be still single:)) it's just a matter of choice...

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if there was no USA, maybe Australia or UK , but then , when I have given up all thoughts of finding my knight in shining armour , what do you know, prince charming came and swept me off my feet .

[borednad2 0]

Hi,

I don't mean bad when I say this so don't all jump on me.....but why do most filipinas always ask questions like this? It makes them sound like they just were searching for an American victim to pounce on!! When you talk about "looking for a certain race" in makes you sound like gold diggers!! So many filipina post like this and it makes them all sound the same!!! Hard to respect this style. Thats maybe why there are SO many filipina girls married to their "grandpa". You know the ones you see here that are so young and pretty looking with some old fat white guy? WTH! Funny, I live in manilla for over 5 years and almost never saw filipina girls with older filipino guys....but let a fat white guy walk down the street and he was like fresh meat in the jail......I guess he just looked like a big DOLLAR sign!! Here's a hint, filipinas.......clean up your image by having some self respect!!

well she post a question like this because ...from what i have observed..and please correct me if im wrong...probably because everyone here is either married to an american or with an american as a fiance/fiancee? so u see its not really an "american- searching "kind of post she did u know .if this site is a site for lets say Australian fiances/fiancees?then she would have said if theres no australia where would u be? try to understand the post and u will see u will be embarrased even to suggest such a thing to us filipinas..and fyi,my fiance is not a white big belly american,he is actually a filipino usc with a sexy abs sexier than mine..quite goodlooking too...and we are of the same age group

Edited June 16, 2009 by norie

[muñequita linda 0]

From the American Desert Southwest, I offer a cool million thanks to everyone who has contributed to this thread. And, I wish each Pinay or Pinoy all the deserved luck and happiness in the world for having chosen an American citizen as a partner in life. The same wishes go to Americans who have gone a long way to establish their love connections in the Philippines.