Which address? evidence of ongoing marriage?

[Enigma24 0]

Good morning!

This is my situation: I'm from Germany and came to the states last year as a student. During this time i met my boyfriend, but I had to leave for Germany in December. I planned on going back to college in Germany for the spring semester, but they but me on the waiting list for the fall semester. So I had a lot of time left till the semester starts and decided to go back to the States for 3 months as a tourist too spend as much time as possible. Well then one thing came to another, me and my boyfriend got closer every day and then he proposed. We got married and couldnt be happier But now all the paperwork starts...

In a lot of forms they ask for my address, which address should i submit? The one in Germany, because this is still my residency? Here in the States, I just live with friends at the moment, because my husband is in the Marine Corps and has to live on base where he shares a room with a bunch of other guys. Or can i indicate my PO Box here in the states? I wanted to get all the paperwork done, get my advanced parole, then go back to germany for a few weeks to visit my parents and to manage everything, then come back to the States and get an apartment with my baby.

Also, we don't really have any joint leases, bank accounts, finances, or anything like that, i mean we are really young and didn't really plan on living together before...Are pictures, letteres and evidence from friends enough to proof our marriage and that it is ongoing? Umm, that is all so difficult, hope someone can help!! Thank you & have a great day!

Edited April 2, 2009 by Enigma24

[KIMCORENE 0]

First, try to get some joint stuff together. Evidence of a shared life is vital- you can have a bank account together, even if you don't have statements yet, at least submit paperwork showing you opened one together. He should add you to his health, car and life insurance and as a beneficiary on any retirement/ pension investments. Though he lives on base, you may be able to get a special I.D. that shows you are his spouse and are allowed to be on the base- have him check the procedures on that. Use the address at which you live, but make sure it is secure! And submit evidence of the fact that he lives on base, so that's why you don't have a joint lease. Hope that helps

[Mrs. Diaz 1]

Good morning!

This is my situation: I'm from Germany and came to the states last year as a student. During this time i met my boyfriend, but I had to leave for Germany in December. I planned on going back to college in Germany for the spring semester, but they but me on the waiting list for the fall semester. So I had a lot of time left till the semester starts and decided to go back to the States for 3 months as a tourist too spend as much time as possible. Well then one thing came to another, me and my boyfriend got closer every day and then he proposed. We got married and couldnt be happier But now all the paperwork starts...

In a lot of forms they ask for my address, which address should i submit? The one in Germany, because this is still my residency? Here in the States, I just live with friends at the moment, because my husband is in the Marine Corps and has to live on base where he shares a room with a bunch of other guys. Or can i indicate my PO Box here in the states? I wanted to get all the paperwork done, get my advanced parole, then go back to germany for a few weeks to visit my parents and to manage everything, then come back to the States and get an apartment with my baby.

Also, we don't really have any joint leases, bank accounts, finances, or anything like that, i mean we are really young and didn't really plan on living together before...Are pictures, letteres and evidence from friends enough to proof our marriage and that it is ongoing? Umm, that is all so difficult, hope someone can help!! Thank you & have a great day!

Welcome to VJ!

Does your husband have a address outside the base?(I guess not) ;-) Is he in boot camp or is he living and working at the base?(My husband is a Marine too) If your husband doesn't have a "real" address, put the address to the base. Cuz that is where he is living at the time.... You will be able to change the address later if things change....

[Marikiya_dhr 0]

Good morning!

This is my situation: I'm from Germany and came to the states last year as a student. During this time i met my boyfriend, but I had to leave for Germany in December. I planned on going back to college in Germany for the spring semester, but they but me on the waiting list for the fall semester. So I had a lot of time left till the semester starts and decided to go back to the States for 3 months as a tourist too spend as much time as possible. Well then one thing came to another, me and my boyfriend got closer every day and then he proposed. We got married and couldnt be happier But now all the paperwork starts...

In a lot of forms they ask for my address, which address should i submit? The one in Germany, because this is still my residency? Here in the States, I just live with friends at the moment, because my husband is in the Marine Corps and has to live on base where he shares a room with a bunch of other guys. Or can i indicate my PO Box here in the states? I wanted to get all the paperwork done, get my advanced parole, then go back to germany for a few weeks to visit my parents and to manage everything, then come back to the States and get an apartment with my baby.

Also, we don't really have any joint leases, bank accounts, finances, or anything like that, i mean we are really young and didn't really plan on living together before...Are pictures, letteres and evidence from friends enough to proof our marriage and that it is ongoing? Umm, that is all so difficult, hope someone can help!! Thank you & have a great day!

He has to add you to his page2 and you will be able to get a Military ID, and health insurance (TRICARE). You will receive your TRICARE card.

but i have a question... why arent u living together? isnt he getting BAH?

[Enigma24 0]

Thanks a lot for your answers!

Well, he said he can't add me to his health insurance etc yet because he needs to put in my social security number, but of course i dont have one yet!

he lives and works on base, he is in school of infantry so he had to live there so far...

we dont live together yet because like i said he lives on base and i thought id be going back to germany in april... but then we got married and i planned on getting my travel document/advanced parole to visit my parents and take care of everything back in germany for a few weeks, then come back to the states and get an apartment together with him.

well but what address do i insert for me, for example on form i-485 or i-131? because i dont live on base, so i cant put in this, and im jsut staying at some friends at the moment so thats probably not the right address either...po box is probably not enough?

[Mrs. Diaz 1]

Thanks a lot for your answers!

Well, he said he can't add me to his health insurance etc yet because he needs to put in my social security number, but of course i dont have one yet!

he lives and works on base, he is in school of infantry so he had to live there so far...

we dont live together yet because like i said he lives on base and i thought id be going back to germany in april... but then we got married and i planned on getting my travel document/advanced parole to visit my parents and take care of everything back in germany for a few weeks, then come back to the states and get an apartment together with him.

well but what address do i insert for me, for example on form i-485 or i-131? because i dont live on base, so i cant put in this, and im jsut staying at some friends at the moment so thats probably not the right address either...po box is probably not enough?

About the health insurance for military spouses... well until you have a American SSN, it might not be that easy to put you on his. The same goes for the paychecks. (make more when married) This is what happened to me and my husband last year: He (husband) was deployed to Iraq in September. We had been married for 1 year at the time so he wanted to put me on his "records" for the USMC. But.... cuz I am not American and do not have a SSN, it was not a very good idea to do so.... He was told that he (might) would had to pay back some of the Iraq money once he was back in the US. All this cuz of some stupid rule that says the spouse has to be an American citizen.(cuz they make more when they are married plus no tax on the paycheck) What I could get was the military spouse ID, but I don't need that....

So what you should do now is try to get "as much things as you can" with his and your name on it. Military spouse ID, an apartment as soon as you can... some banks allow foreign spouses for joint accounts. Get that if possible! Well anything you can think of. :-) About the PO box.... You can put that as the address where you want your documents to be delivered to. Don't know how the other stuff works though.... But you came to the right place, someone has the answers to your q's! Good luck!

[Marikiya_dhr 0]

hmm...I dont know if it is the same for the Marines or not... but my husband is in the Navy, i dont have a SSN yet and I got my military ID and he added me to his page2. I went to the nearest base to the TRICARE office and they gave me the forms i needed to file and send...and thats what i did. I got my TRICARE card a couple weeks ago.

[Marikiya_dhr 0]

and about the address... i think you should put where *YOU* live... but at the interview you will have to explain why you two were not living together..