April 2009 K-1 Filers

[Allie and Nigel 2]

Welcome back EOTR! Don't go Allie! Its a great lesson in selflessness, be happy for others, even if our journey is taking longer... After what happened with you and Nigel, I decided to wait until he gets his ACPO thing to make sure it says "No Trace". He got a ticket for driving without insurance... never went to court, but had to pay a fine... now we don't know what to fill out... criminal past???

Hey there,

i've had plenty of speeding fines & ran a red light once, none of them came up on my ploce clearance. I read some where that as long as it didnt' go to court it doesn't count so i'm pretty sure he'll be wont have a problem. If i can find where i read it i'll add the link.

So "no criminal past"

good Luck x

Nigel just took the ACPO thing/police clearance to the interview, was honest about it, they wanted records, period. RFE'd us. Bunch of a-holes.

[Chaz and Riggs 0]

Welcome back EOTR! Don't go Allie! Its a great lesson in selflessness, be happy for others, even if our journey is taking longer... After what happened with you and Nigel, I decided to wait until he gets his ACPO thing to make sure it says "No Trace". He got a ticket for driving without insurance... never went to court, but had to pay a fine... now we don't know what to fill out... criminal past???

Hey there,

i've had plenty of speeding fines & ran a red light once, none of them came up on my ploce clearance. I read some where that as long as it didnt' go to court it doesn't count so i'm pretty sure he'll be wont have a problem. If i can find where i read it i'll add the link.

So "no criminal past"

good Luck x

Nigel just took the ACPO thing/police clearance to the interview, was honest about it, they wanted records, period. RFE'd us. Bunch of a-holes.

I was worried about him not being "honest" about it by not checking that he had anything on his record, and then having the ACPO thing show up saying there was something on it... but now I know that the info will match! Wierd thing though, he mails it 60 days after we received packet 3, on my mother's 60th birthday... that's got to be good luck for a fast interview! right?

[endoftheroad 1]

Weird thing though, he mails it 60 days after we received packet 3, on my mother's 60th birthday... that's got to be good luck for a fast interview! right?

Congrats and well wishes!

[ashenflowers 5]

Welcome back EOTR! Don't go Allie! Its a great lesson in selflessness, be happy for others, even if our journey is taking longer... After what happened with you and Nigel, I decided to wait until he gets his ACPO thing to make sure it says "No Trace". He got a ticket for driving without insurance... never went to court, but had to pay a fine... now we don't know what to fill out... criminal past???

Hey there,

i've had plenty of speeding fines & ran a red light once, none of them came up on my ploce clearance. I read some where that as long as it didnt' go to court it doesn't count so i'm pretty sure he'll be wont have a problem. If i can find where i read it i'll add the link.

So "no criminal past"

good Luck x

Nigel just took the ACPO thing/police clearance to the interview, was honest about it, they wanted records, period. RFE'd us. Bunch of a-holes.

So did this tire incident even show up on his police clearance??

[Allie and Nigel 2]

Welcome back EOTR! Don't go Allie! Its a great lesson in selflessness, be happy for others, even if our journey is taking longer... After what happened with you and Nigel, I decided to wait until he gets his ACPO thing to make sure it says "No Trace". He got a ticket for driving without insurance... never went to court, but had to pay a fine... now we don't know what to fill out... criminal past???

Hey there,

i've had plenty of speeding fines & ran a red light once, none of them came up on my ploce clearance. I read some where that as long as it didnt' go to court it doesn't count so i'm pretty sure he'll be wont have a problem. If i can find where i read it i'll add the link.

So "no criminal past"

good Luck x

Nigel just took the ACPO thing/police clearance to the interview, was honest about it, they wanted records, period. RFE'd us. Bunch of a-holes.

So did this tire incident even show up on his police clearance??

We're waiting for that subject access thing we ordered, should be in by the 20th or so, it wasnt on the standard one ACPO(association of chief officers) for the UK, just showed the NO LIVE TRACE, which meant there's old stuff on there.

So, no, nothing shows up. They want us to dig up nothing essentially. I read on another thread that it may not show up on the subject access either, may have to go to the archives....he REALLY REALLY doesnt want to do that, he gives me ####### for telling him to do it too....i may have to go up there and grab him by the ear to make him do it...i know he gets depressed about stuff too, but it only makes me motivated, it just pisses him off thats all....this whole thing's f'd up.

[ashenflowers 5]

I don't know who stresses more in the process. The petitioner or the beneficiary. I feel myself stressing out about this more then my fiance.

Personally, I think the stress level depends on the type of person you are... however, in generic terms, I'd have to say I think the beneficiary (i.e. immigrant getting the visa) is the one that has a lot more at stake here. They are the ones that have to give up their entire lives, and friends and family, move/pack/sell all their belongings, and leave everything, EVERYTHING behind. Whether it's something they choose to do for love or not is irrelevant. That is a VERY stressful thing to do, in ANY circumstance.

USCs, don't forget what your SOs are giving up for you. And if you think you're waiting for YOUR life to begin with your SO, think about what it's like to just be waiting to give notice to a job, or landlord, or start packing, or dealing with loved ones saying they don't want them to go, to be looking at the place you're moving to and being so anxious and excited to get there that it's just FRUSTRATING. Every situation is different, I realize that, but I do think this is much more 'stressful' on the beneficiary over all.

Welcome back EOTR! Don't go Allie! Its a great lesson in selflessness, be happy for others, even if our journey is taking longer... After what happened with you and Nigel, I decided to wait until he gets his ACPO thing to make sure it says "No Trace". He got a ticket for driving without insurance... never went to court, but had to pay a fine... now we don't know what to fill out... criminal past???

Hey there,

i've had plenty of speeding fines & ran a red light once, none of them came up on my ploce clearance. I read some where that as long as it didnt' go to court it doesn't count so i'm pretty sure he'll be wont have a problem. If i can find where i read it i'll add the link.

So "no criminal past"

good Luck x

Nigel just took the ACPO thing/police clearance to the interview, was honest about it, they wanted records, period. RFE'd us. Bunch of a-holes.

So did this tire incident even show up on his police clearance??

We're waiting for that subject access thing we ordered, should be in by the 20th or so, it wasnt on the standard one ACPO(association of chief officers) for the UK, just showed the NO LIVE TRACE, which meant there's old stuff on there.

So, no, nothing shows up. They want us to dig up nothing essentially. I read on another thread that it may not show up on the subject access either, may have to go to the archives....he REALLY REALLY doesnt want to do that, he gives me ####### for telling him to do it too....i may have to go up there and grab him by the ear to make him do it...i know he gets depressed about stuff too, but it only makes me motivated, it just pisses him off thats all....this whole thing's f'd up.

I guess I'm confused then. Why did the issue even come up? Did they ask him a direct question about it at the interview? I know the police clearances differ by region, but if it didn't show up on the ACPO clearance, then it shouldn't have even been discussed.

[Allie and Nigel 2]

Daph,

He was honest and checked on the question if he had ever been arrested or whatever. So he had to answer yes. And then the adjudicator had the boss over his shoulder breathing down his neck or was a new guy,whatever, they wanted proof of the offense so they could see if it qualified or not qualified for approval. We were approved supposedly but wanted the damn info...Nigel would have told me point blank if it was denied, period. I know he told me he wouldnt have left there without a fight, so I understand they want what they want but its like, digging up nothing, for nothing. I may have to take a trip to England and f&% the wedding money. Its been 6 months 8 days since we've seen eachother essentially. I know more people especially EOTR has been longer but this ####### aint helping the situation....and Nigel's getting either depressed or lazy or just plain pissed off, i donno, i havent truly talked to him since Thursday or so...I see him like, once a week on Skype, it sucks.

[ashenflowers 5]

Daph,

He was honest and checked on the question if he had ever been arrested or whatever. So he had to answer yes. And then the adjudicator had the boss over his shoulder breathing down his neck or was a new guy,whatever, they wanted proof of the offense so they could see if it qualified or not qualified for approval. We were approved supposedly but wanted the damn info...Nigel would have told me point blank if it was denied, period. I know he told me he wouldnt have left there without a fight, so I understand they want what they want but its like, digging up nothing, for nothing. I may have to take a trip to England and f&% the wedding money. Its been 6 months 8 days since we've seen eachother essentially. I know more people especially EOTR has been longer but this ####### aint helping the situation....and Nigel's getting either depressed or lazy or just plain pissed off, i donno, i havent truly talked to him since Thursday or so...I see him like, once a week on Skype, it sucks.

ahhhh right.... I'm sorry, I forgot about that question. And yah, I read your story here about the jerk of a boss and the employee having to 'impress'.

I don't see why you'd have to make a trip to England though, so save the $! I know it'd be important to see each other, of course, but you're seriously SO close. Like everyone's pointed out, you ARE approved, pending this 'proof'. And once you have visa in hand, I'd draft up a nice letter of complaint to the consulate.

[Starlight95 1]

Thank you Ashen for giving me your perspective on this. It's kind of hard to understand sometimes, but yes you are right that it is more difficult for the beneficiary. I do think about what my fiance is giving up and starting a new life here with practically no one he knows accept me and my family. This is a lot of sacrifice I do admit. I do tell him and support him on this. He assures me that they are mature enough and will manage without him for sometime. Therefore, I am not pressuring him to come immediately after he gets his approval. He is coming within a months time, and definitely not pressuring him on coming immediately. As its hard to get tickets during the holidays, and is planning on coming in January. I do wish he would come sooner, but I will be just happy that he gets approved.

Yeah, I guess us USC's forget this sometimes, and we need the beneficiaries to put things into perspective . You guys do have it tougher, and I have to keep reminding myself that to put me in check.

Wishing you all the best for your interview! It was good to hear from you

Star

[Starlight95 1]

Weird thing though, he mails it 60 days after we received packet 3, on my mother's 60th birthday... that's got to be good luck for a fast interview! right?

Congrats and well wishes!

Yeah, a definitely a good sign .

[endoftheroad 1]

i havent truly talked to him since Thursday or so...I see him like, once a week on Skype, it sucks.

My gawd that REALLY SUCKS!

I guess us USC's forget this sometimes, and we need the beneficiaries to put things into perspective . You guys do have it tougher, and I have to keep reminding myself that to put me in check.

I think it is more 50/50. Petitioners put a lot on the line too. Yes, beneficiaries move to the USA but only if the petitioners agree to a ton of stuff.

I asked my girl right after we got engaged "So do you want me to move here or do you want to move to America?" I was ready and still am ready to move to China.

Besides, moving from Canada is like moving from one USA state to another comparatively...

[Shewack 0]

Personally, I think the stress level depends on the type of person you are... however, in generic terms, I'd have to say I think the beneficiary (i.e. immigrant getting the visa) is the one that has a lot more at stake here. They are the ones that have to give up their entire lives, and friends and family, move/pack/sell all their belongings, and leave everything, EVERYTHING behind. Whether it's something they choose to do for love or not is irrelevant. That is a VERY stressful thing to do, in ANY circumstance.

USCs, don't forget what your SOs are giving up for you. And if you think you're waiting for YOUR life to begin with your SO, think about what it's like to just be waiting to give notice to a job, or landlord, or start packing, or dealing with loved ones saying they don't want them to go, to be looking at the place you're moving to and being so anxious and excited to get there that it's just FRUSTRATING. Every situation is different, I realize that, but I do think this is much more 'stressful' on the beneficiary over all.

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Edited November 10, 2009 by Shewack

[Shewack 0]

Deep breaths Allie,

Here's what helped me through, I had some hickups along the way & its nothing compared to yrs im sure but i found the more I tried to force it & worry about it the more obsticles seemed to pop up.

I read a book that helped & every night when i went to sleep I said this over & over in my head " i lovingly release the events of the day & fall into a deep sleep knowing that tomorrow will look after its self"

if nothing else it helped me sleep & the next day things just seemed to work out, it takes a few days to start working but its worth a try, if nothing else I hope it helps u to sleep, I had terrible trouble sleeping, all the immigration drama just kept goin around in my head.

I wish u lots of luck xx

[ashenflowers 5]

Besides, moving from Canada is like moving from one USA state to another comparatively...

I'm just going to ignore that cause it's not worth the time to respond.

Thanks for your comments Starlight

[Chaz and Riggs 0]

Riggs mailed it!!!! On the lucky day!!!! Registered mail! I'm so excited!

Now I really need to get on mailing my tax info and I-134. I finished it a while ago, but haven't mailed it. I also found a great calendar in Walmart with scenes from America, and another for my future mum-in-law that has a ton of Elvis pictures... she's a big fan