My turn to need a shoulder...

[JenT 0]

Hi all,

Thought I'd be stronger when this time came, but I am, in reality, a mushy mess. David's been here with me for 4 weeks and I just returned from the Detroit airport after having said "see you soon"... we refused to say "good bye"....

I have plenty of distractions to help me pass the time... my kids, my job, my horses... but it was so easy having him here... it felt so right. And now I feel so alone. Back to emails, text messages, skype....

Feeling a little sorry for myself right now, even though I'm hearing my own encouraging words to others in my ear... it's still not easy, as most of you know. We don't have a plan for a return vacation, and won't until we see some movement with our case....

My mom called to see how I was doing... her way of encouraging is not exactly supportive: "have you ever done a background check on him?" (thanks Mom, the US govt is going to do that for me ) "why are you worried about him? he's a grown man" (even grown men get sad and lonely, mom) "the girls like him, don't they? did I sense some tension about that?" (for crying out loud... it's an ADJUSTMENT for everyone, especially the girls who have been used to an 'all girls' house now for almost 4 years....)

Sigh.

Just needed to get that out...

I'm going to check the board now... see what I've been missing...

Cheers to all of the lonely people out there tonight!

Jen

[MichelleandCraig 1]

awwwwwww Sorry Jen. It's never easy, as we all know. Take good care of yourself, and here's hoping you're together again SOON!!! M.

[JenT 0]

Thanks Michelle. I may have missed any news from you... is Craig back yet?

[Fandango 1,439]

Hi all,

Thought I'd be stronger when this time came, but I am, in reality, a mushy mess. David's been here with me for 4 weeks and I just returned from the Detroit airport after having said "see you soon"... we refused to say "good bye"....

I have plenty of distractions to help me pass the time... my kids, my job, my horses... but it was so easy having him here... it felt so right. And now I feel so alone. Back to emails, text messages, skype....

Feeling a little sorry for myself right now, even though I'm hearing my own encouraging words to others in my ear... it's still not easy, as most of you know. We don't have a plan for a return vacation, and won't until we see some movement with our case....

My mom called to see how I was doing... her way of encouraging is not exactly supportive: "have you ever done a background check on him?" (thanks Mom, the US govt is going to do that for me ) "why are you worried about him? he's a grown man" (even grown men get sad and lonely, mom) "the girls like him, don't they? did I sense some tension about that?" (for crying out loud... it's an ADJUSTMENT for everyone, especially the girls who have been used to an 'all girls' house now for almost 4 years....)

Sigh.

Just needed to get that out...

I'm going to check the board now... see what I've been missing...

Cheers to all of the lonely people out there tonight!

Jen

Awww Jen, we all know what you're feeling right now...we were in your shoes a week ago. it's hard, we know. In fact, D and I just said 'crappy anniversary' tonite, lol. Yes it sucks and it's hard and awful, but you will feel better.

YOu know what I did? I wallowed in my own pity and cried my azz off. Then Friday, I woke up and said 'right, time to get on with stuff'

Tomorrow you will be one day closer to your lives together without distance...so welcome tomorrow! Personally we've been drowning ourselves in work to make the time seem to go faster.

Diversion is key imo!

[andy-summer 0]

I totally know what you mean... It has been 4 weeks since we were last in each others arms. I am not doing so well either. Everything in my life is lacking without Andrew.

I'll pray for you and you pray for me...

~Summer

[Euro 3]

Awwwwww Jen, he'll soon be back ......it's ####### saying seeya at Detroit, I had to do it a few time ....................I'm wondering if you live near me, i'm southeast, not gonna say where incase Debbie gets hold of it

[JenT 0]

Awww Jen, we all know what you're feeling right now...we were in your shoes a week ago. it's hard, we know. In fact, D and I just said 'crappy anniversary' tonite, lol. Yes it sucks and it's hard and awful, but you will feel better.

YOu know what I did? I wallowed in my own pity and cried my azz off. Then Friday, I woke up and said 'right, time to get on with stuff'

Tomorrow you will be one day closer to your lives together without distance...so welcome tomorrow! Personally we've been drowning ourselves in work to make the time seem to go faster.

Diversion is key imo!

Thanks Lisa... I allowed myself a pity party all the way home in the car... took me a while to be composed enough to start the ignition. I've poured a glass of wine and am now visiting with all of you.. boy, did I miss some drama today, or what?

I totally know what you mean... It has been 4 weeks since we were last in each others arms. I am not doing so well either. Everything in my life is lacking without Andrew.

I'll pray for you and you pray for me...

~Summer

That's a deal, Summer. Thanks for the encouragement.... Jen

Awwwwww Jen, he'll soon be back ......it's ####### saying seeya at Detroit, I had to do it a few time ....................I'm wondering if you live near me, i'm southeast, not gonna say where incase Debbie gets hold of it

Thanks euro... I'm hoping for no more 'seeyas'... only 'welcome home'!!

Debbie .... I'm not finished reading that thread yet... I have read just enough to delete my pic from my signature and make sure any specific info was deleted from my timeline and profile... such a shame to always have to look over your shoulder these days... I'm in the mid-Michigan area....

[Cygnet 0]

Hope you guys will be together forever soon.

[KarenCee 3]

Hugs Jen....I do know that feeling. It was the hardest part of our relationship while we were apart - the airport partings. Hang in there...it will come to an end soon though. That's what got me through all this, knowing that the separation was only temporary. Hope you two are together soon...permanently

[JenT 0]

Hope you guys will be together forever soon.

Thanks Cy... we're hanging our hats on 'soon'.... and have been encouraged by the recent touches... we'll see, just like everyone else....

Jen

Hugs Jen....I do know that feeling. It was the hardest part of our relationship while we were apart - the airport partings. Hang in there...it will come to an end soon though. That's what got me through all this, knowing that the separation was only temporary. Hope you two are together soon...permanently

Not sure why I bothered with make-up today, actually...

Temporary is the operative word... I've told him that I already feel as though we're married... this is just an extended 'business trip'. Thanks for the hugs, Karen... I need 'em. Tomorrow will be better.

Jen

[Paul and Melanie 0]

Hi Jen, I don't know you, but I'm sorry You'll be ok though, you have to be

I think your mom is just worried. Most are like that Feel better soon.

Melanie

[Reba 2]

hang in there. It doesn't last forever. *hugs*

[JenT 0]

Thanks Melanie and Reba....

Pity party's over for the evening... time to try to rest. His plane should be landing at any time... I'm waiting for that text, then off to bed.

'Night everyone.

Jen

[munchkins 0]

It's so hard Jen, I know that, but you are moving along and you will be together at the end of this process, hang in there

[*Robert* 2]

Hang in there Jen. Separations are always hard, and are even harder after spending time with each other. Sorry to hear your mom can't be a little more sensative. Some mom's can be royal pains!

Take care!