very likely denied first interview

[Jovana and Amir 0]

I'm sorry to hear about your Interview experience. Let's just hope for the best.

thank you

[edp333 9]

I'm sorry to hear about your Interview experience. Let's just hope for the best.

thank you

Yes, it is alwas good to hope for the best, be prepared, and plan ahead for the worst.

[Elbereth 0]

Sounds like you got a serious case of a55hole interviewer! Better luck next time, don't let them push you around!

[justashooter 430]

I don't even have usa ID or drivers licence... and then I got a ticket for running a red light once with my husband's car so I showed that as well.... that was it...

sorry if i write too much...

you don't have a driver's liscense, but you got a ticket for running a red light?

[Jovana and Amir 0]

I don't even have usa ID or drivers licence... and then I got a ticket for running a red light once with my husband's car so I showed that as well.... that was it...

sorry if i write too much...

you don't have a driver's liscense, but you got a ticket for running a red light?

I have international licence and my country licence and I can drive here with that for now...

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Well I am married to Amir who is an USA citizen. I was an au pair in upstate NY. We knew each other for 6-7 months before I moved in after program, lived with him for 4 months, got married, filed this after 3 months. His parents are originally from Egypt and they raised their children in very traditional way. His mom was even searching him (and his brothers) a muslim wife when he was 20-22. Just so you can understand why we don't want to tell them over a phone cause they live 3 states away. But we both have our view of religion and faith that we weren't allowed to explain during the interview. We still don't know the outcome of our first interview but the officer was pretty pesimistic from the start. He did mention letter and response within 30 days whicH would be "Intent to Deny" or rejection or pass which I doubt.

the bottom line is we went there open about everything but never did we think of being attacked. I guess if it comes to second interview our attitudes are going to be more assertive.

Still lots of unanswered questions, some of which posed above. We were never asked any questions about parents, we were never asked any questions. Don't know why it would matter.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Hello Everybody!

Me and my husband went for our first interview today and didn't go well. We went there with emotions and knowing each other, some classic set of evidence but with fact that his parents still do not know that we are married 'cause they are extremely traditional muslims and Amir is kind of black sheep in the family. That was a Big minus. The general feeling we got was that we looked like a couple more like a young love (one the officer also had when he was young, ironically) and that isn't good enough for ever lasting bonafied marriage, that he, as my boyfriend is actually helping me stay in the country. Any attempt of explanation was turned into putting words into our mouths and manipulating our words. 15-20 mins conversation ended in very small chances to pass and not wanting to say anything about what happens after denial. Now we are waiting for that infamous letter with little hope and fear for notorious second interview 'cause like I said emotions, knowing each other and life together wasn't in focus of immigration officer's attention today. Personally I don't have any questions for now, just wanted to share my experience with other and let know people that even confidence we had as a young couple simply wasn't good enough.

Any comment is welcomed!!!

Sincerely Jovana and Amir

Im not saying this to be an ahole, but you called your now husband, your "boyfriend" in your original post. That is kind of telling, and maybe the interviewer picked up on this?

I can also totally understand the reasons for asking if you have met the parents or if the family knows of the marriage. Even if they dont approve;you are his wife now and supposedly for life. How long can he keep that a secret?

Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Good Luck

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Well au pairs are live in nannies that come here on j-1 visa for a year or two (by choice). After a year I applied for change of status into B-2 cause I wasn't sure what do I want to do next. I don't even have usa ID or drivers licence. B-2 was denied 8-10 months after but I filed for AOS before B-2 expired. The immigration people told me that if I filed AOS before B-2 expiration I shouldn't have had problem and I didn't, officer didn't pay almost any attention to that. But what Officer did tell me was that since B-2 was denied at the end I was here illegally even if my B2 case was pending and that I am not allowed to travel now anywhere even with approved advance parole. So our idea of Serbia, Egypt trip this year is definitely off.

I showed pics, list of last activities of our joint account, my cell phone is in his name (cause of my none existing credit history), he has me on his car insurance, old lease (cause for new one we needed a good credit and i have none so we didn't put me in and when we explained that officer wasn't pushy about it), letters I got and his pay stub coming to same address ( he said but it doesn't say his name) and then I got a ticket for running a red light once with my husband's car so I showed that as well.... that was it...

The biggest problem was his parents not knowing and not having me on his health insurance what we can easily change with some extra cost we wanted to avoid since I didn't get my work permit and currently unemployed and Amir is still young not established person in his company.

and Yes!!! Officer was upset for us not knowing when did we open our bank account. Both of us said summer last year but he kind of wanted to give him more accurate answer. I personally don't know who remembers all those trivialites like exact months of opening a bank account but next time we will be better prepared.

The annoying thing was that he was ironic since we entered the room and started convincing us that the stuff we brought to the interview could be "made up" and false for example letter from german friend didn't have my husbands name on it; so what about active joint account and my phone on Amir's name- "everybody can do that" (officer said), and I could have deliberately get a ticket for running a red light but for other formalities that Amir and I didn't do that could as easily be "arranged" he made such a fuss... literaly played with our words! he didn't ask us ONE THING about us besides to presvade him why i love amir... even then he cut me after first example that crossed my mind to say....

sorry if i write too much...

Strange. Of course anyone can have a joint account, my wife did not even change her name, but we have a joint account in both names. I could do that with anyone, so why ask for it? (they never looked at ours anyway). I don't know what you are up against here, or why. Something has crawled up their @ss, of that I am sure. I guess I can only say, get together anything you can to show you are married and live together, then tell the parents since that seems to be such a problem, though I don't know why. I mean, you have to be of marrying age to marry, that means the parents don't need to know.

Now, mind you, we were never asked to present any evidence, but we borught quite a bit, just in case. My wife has her cell phone in her own name and we paid a deposit so she can starting building her own credit, but the bills come to the same address as mine. She does (and did at our interview) have a drivers lisence and they did make a copy of that...but not until after the interview and approval. The address on the drivers lisence is the same as mine, but again, they did not see that until after the "interview" was over. We also brought documents from our son's school showiung us as parents and I did bring medical insurance showing her and our son as "dependents", again they never looked at anything. We had even Christmas from parents and family addressed to both of us. We had no letters or "testimonials" from anyone.

[FRJ 0]

so many questions here but many have been asked before. although i wasn't asked about that parents question...we were asked if we had a party or whtver after the wedding so i could see how that question could come up about your parents. it shouldn't be a turning point in the interview but that, along with other things could seem like a red flag for the IO. what do u mean when u said you went with 'emotion?' you need way more than emotion to prove your case. remember the onus is on u to prove and it does seem like you weren't well prepared. good luck if u have a second interview.

[Jovana and Amir 0]

Hello Everybody!

Me and my husband went for our first interview today and didn't go well. We went there with emotions and knowing each other, some classic set of evidence but with fact that his parents still do not know that we are married 'cause they are extremely traditional muslims and Amir is kind of black sheep in the family. That was a Big minus. The general feeling we got was that we looked like a couple more like a young love (one the officer also had when he was young, ironically) and that isn't good enough for ever lasting bonafied marriage, that he, as my boyfriend is actually helping me stay in the country. Any attempt of explanation was turned into putting words into our mouths and manipulating our words. 15-20 mins conversation ended in very small chances to pass and not wanting to say anything about what happens after denial. Now we are waiting for that infamous letter with little hope and fear for notorious second interview 'cause like I said emotions, knowing each other and life together wasn't in focus of immigration officer's attention today. Personally I don't have any questions for now, just wanted to share my experience with other and let know people that even confidence we had as a young couple simply wasn't good enough.

Any comment is welcomed!!!

Sincerely Jovana and Amir

Im not saying this to be an ahole, but you called your now husband, your "boyfriend" in your original post. That is kind of telling, and maybe the interviewer picked up on this?

I can also totally understand the reasons for asking if you have met the parents or if the family knows of the marriage. Even if they dont approve;you are his wife now and supposedly for life. How long can he keep that a secret?

Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Good Luck

I didn t say he was my boyfriend but officer told us that he is my boyfirnd more then a husband. Well te idea was to tell them when we go to Egypt together where I can meet them calmly and not over the phone (Amir is on the road a lot and we don't have a chance to go South and meet them. I was happy that he was here for the day of the interview)

[Jovana and Amir 0]

Hello Everybody!

Me and my husband went for our first interview today and didn't go well. We went there with emotions and knowing each other, some classic set of evidence but with fact that his parents still do not know that we are married 'cause they are extremely traditional muslims and Amir is kind of black sheep in the family. That was a Big minus. The general feeling we got was that we looked like a couple more like a young love (one the officer also had when he was young, ironically) and that isn't good enough for ever lasting bonafied marriage, that he, as my boyfriend is actually helping me stay in the country. Any attempt of explanation was turned into putting words into our mouths and manipulating our words. 15-20 mins conversation ended in very small chances to pass and not wanting to say anything about what happens after denial. Now we are waiting for that infamous letter with little hope and fear for notorious second interview 'cause like I said emotions, knowing each other and life together wasn't in focus of immigration officer's attention today. Personally I don't have any questions for now, just wanted to share my experience with other and let know people that even confidence we had as a young couple simply wasn't good enough.

Any comment is welcomed!!!

Sincerely Jovana and Amir

Im not saying this to be an ahole, but you called your now husband, your "boyfriend" in your original post. That is kind of telling, and maybe the interviewer picked up on this?

I can also totally understand the reasons for asking if you have met the parents or if the family knows of the marriage. Even if they dont approve;you are his wife now and supposedly for life. How long can he keep that a secret?

Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Good Luck

I didn t say he was my boyfriend but officer told us that he is my boyfirnd more then a husband. Well te idea was to tell them when we go to Egypt together where I can meet them calmly and not over the phone (Amir is on the road a lot and we don't have a chance to go South and meet them. I was happy that he was here for the day of the interview)

and Yes ! If they ask us to tell them we will tell even over a phone if that is soo important. We just wanted to do our way....

[Jovana and Amir 0]

so many questions here but many have been asked before. although i wasn't asked about that parents question...we were asked if we had a party or whtver after the wedding so i could see how that question could come up about your parents. it shouldn't be a turning point in the interview but that, along with other things could seem like a red flag for the IO. what do u mean when u said you went with 'emotion?' you need way more than emotion to prove your case. remember the onus is on u to prove and it does seem like you weren't well prepared. good luck if u have a second interview.

well we went there with some evidence and fact that we live together , share bed and life together and that emotions we have for each other are enough. We were behaving confused where we were judged for our views like we don't want children now but in the next couple of years cause we are young and not established in society to be parents. Maybe we should have said Yes we are working on that and there wouldn t be more questions about it but we were honest about our views. Anyway if we go to second interview we will work on this not just relying on emotions and knowlegde of each other but more evidence we already started to collect.

[Nagishkaw 510]

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[Y's_habibitk 2]

Hello Everybody!

Me and my husband went for our first interview today and didn't go well. We went there with emotions and knowing each other, some classic set of evidence but with fact that his parents still do not know that we are married 'cause they are extremely traditional muslims and Amir is kind of black sheep in the family. That was a Big minus. The general feeling we got was that we looked like a couple more like a young love (one the officer also had when he was young, ironically) and that isn't good enough for ever lasting bonafied marriage, that he, as my boyfriend is actually helping me stay in the country. Any attempt of explanation was turned into putting words into our mouths and manipulating our words. 15-20 mins conversation ended in very small chances to pass and not wanting to say anything about what happens after denial. Now we are waiting for that infamous letter with little hope and fear for notorious second interview 'cause like I said emotions, knowing each other and life together wasn't in focus of immigration officer's attention today. Personally I don't have any questions for now, just wanted to share my experience with other and let know people that even confidence we had as a young couple simply wasn't good enough.

Any comment is welcomed!!!

Sincerely Jovana and Amir

Im not saying this to be an ahole, but you called your now husband, your "boyfriend" in your original post. That is kind of telling, and maybe the interviewer picked up on this?

I can also totally understand the reasons for asking if you have met the parents or if the family knows of the marriage. Even if they dont approve;you are his wife now and supposedly for life. How long can he keep that a secret?

Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Good Luck

I didn t say he was my boyfriend but officer told us that he is my boyfirnd more then a husband. Well te idea was to tell them when we go to Egypt together where I can meet them calmly and not over the phone (Amir is on the road a lot and we don't have a chance to go South and meet them. I was happy that he was here for the day of the interview)

and Yes ! If they ask us to tell them we will tell even over a phone if that is soo important. We just wanted to do our way....

ah.

well i wish you guys the best

[Jovana and Amir 0]

Hello Everybody!

Me and my husband went for our first interview today and didn't go well. We went there with emotions and knowing each other, some classic set of evidence but with fact that his parents still do not know that we are married 'cause they are extremely traditional muslims and Amir is kind of black sheep in the family. That was a Big minus. The general feeling we got was that we looked like a couple more like a young love (one the officer also had when he was young, ironically) and that isn't good enough for ever lasting bonafied marriage, that he, as my boyfriend is actually helping me stay in the country. Any attempt of explanation was turned into putting words into our mouths and manipulating our words. 15-20 mins conversation ended in very small chances to pass and not wanting to say anything about what happens after denial. Now we are waiting for that infamous letter with little hope and fear for notorious second interview 'cause like I said emotions, knowing each other and life together wasn't in focus of immigration officer's attention today. Personally I don't have any questions for now, just wanted to share my experience with other and let know people that even confidence we had as a young couple simply wasn't good enough.

Any comment is welcomed!!!

Sincerely Jovana and Amir

Im not saying this to be an ahole, but you called your now husband, your "boyfriend" in your original post. That is kind of telling, and maybe the interviewer picked up on this?

I can also totally understand the reasons for asking if you have met the parents or if the family knows of the marriage. Even if they dont approve;you are his wife now and supposedly for life. How long can he keep that a secret?

Hope for the best and plan for the worst. Good Luck

I didn t say he was my boyfriend but officer told us that he is my boyfirnd more then a husband. Well te idea was to tell them when we go to Egypt together where I can meet them calmly and not over the phone (Amir is on the road a lot and we don't have a chance to go South and meet them. I was happy that he was here for the day of the interview)

and Yes ! If they ask us to tell them we will tell even over a phone if that is soo important. We just wanted to do our way....

ah.

well i wish you guys the best

thanx