Do you find this irritating?

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

You're absolutely right!

[quakebars 0]

To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

You're absolutely right!

[felb 0]

I just introduced them to each other. And if they fall in love, it's wonderful. If they don't, time to move on. But if not for me, then they may never meet and they will never be happy. What's wrong with bringing two lost souls together?

that these two lost souls could be perfectly wrong for each other and their union could cause havoc.

Nada es impossible con Dios. If they are not right for each other, they can always say no and move on. What is the difference between that and meeting someone in the bar? Do you think your chances are better of finding true love in a bar?

it's one thing to be doing it for yourself. but doing it for another person. entirely different. also, it'll be good thing that they meet through me, but not because i purposely encouraged them, especially if i know that the woman just wants a ticket to the US. that's all i'm saying.

plus, i don't think it's actually about romance despite the age gap or culture differences. it's the idea of someone asking you to set them up with someone in the US for not so romantic reasons that is annoying.

[Nelly228 0]

hello again to my fellow visajourney goers! Hope you are all ok and happy with your loved ones! I know it's hard to be separated but I hope for those who are still waiting for their visas, you'll get it soon! Just always be positive

Anyways, I just one question and need your opinion about this. Do you guys find it so irritating (or seems not right) when your fellow Pinays ask you this "uy hanap mo naman ako ng papa dyan... or sino ang irereto mo sa akin dyan?" -translation- (hey, could you find me a lover there? or do you have somebody who you can introduce me to?" It really turns me off when my friends,so-called friends or even just somebody i worked with at the office ask me those. It seems for me that they only want a ticket to go to the USA. Sounds like it for me... but this is just my opinion. I might be getting paranoid too from not having enough sleep. lol No pms yet! Can't help but to think.. can't you find your own man?

Just want to know your opinion about this kind of attitude.

just smile at them...dont get irritated. just tell them "it is my destiny to met my husband outside the phils... I dont know about yours... only God knows...

Well said. I like this statement and will used it(if you don't mind) everytime I will be ask that kind of stupid question.

i dont mind at all.

[maritoni 3]

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

Amen to that

[ailyn 0]

I dont get irritated or anything like that. My friends would always tell me to find somebody here in the US for them. I just say, oh ok, i'll try..or i'll see if i find one...whatever... Do u really think i would go out of my way and find somebody for them?? Please...i have a lot more important things to do than that. And my friends know better than to ask me that over again, lol.

[Loolie 56]

i dont get irritated to people like that but instead i just tell them to go to the website where i found my husband...i dont wanna be anybody's cupid.

and para malaman din nila na di madaling maghanap ng matinong taong magmamahal sayo ng tunay.

[sweet_wifey22 0]

You know what guys, everytime my friend ask that things to me I told them that it would be BETTER that you will be the one to find coz

" IT WILL BE YOUR LIFETIME PARTNER" not a classmate!

I did found mine on my own and WITH GOD's will. It is our destiny!

Not just to be able to go to the US.

i dont get irritated to people like that but instead i just tell them to go to the website where i found my husband...i dont wanna be anybody's cupid.

and para malaman din nila na di madaling maghanap ng matinong taong magmamahal sayo ng tunay.

I do agree with you sis

[CaMhae 7]

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

Amen to that

Korek na may malaking Check!!!!....

Edited March 26, 2009 by sayitonce

[easygoingcouple 0]

Well, what can I say.....i dont want to be judgemental on any individual.....the message here......HOW TO GET OUT OF POVERTY!!!!. I always believe........WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND (what you sow...you reap)............Marriage should not be taken for GRANTED for our own SELFISH Reason......It is a lifetime commitment and it's a 50/50 basis, no more no less........Some people made the wrong jump.........from Frying pan to the Fire...(lol)..correct me if i am wrong....

LOVE and RESPECT is what counts................

Happy Easter in advance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rose and Dan

[dave&evan 0]

It has been a common joke I guess for others to ask me/you to hook them up with someone who lives in US. I just go by it, laugh it all off and even tell them to give their resumes to me and once approved, I'll contact them for further instructions! And they would just laugh at it too. I just don't take it seriously. I have been asked a gazillion of times about this, I don't mind, because I know they're not into it anyway. BUT out of all those people, I got one who turned out to be seriously looking for someone, and have been sending me messages/email making follow-ups. I got disappointed and yes, it's a little annoying, because she would just talk to me about it. Doesn't even bother to ask how am I doing here, not even a hi Now that one is bad..

[felb 0]

To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

girl, there's a huge difference. they're actually being the ones who are judgemental here you see. they assume what they don't know or sure of. contrary to their blatantly asking us for a way to go to the US. i'm not judging them, it's simply knowing their intentions and me not wanting to be part of it. plus, how could you say it doesn't matter if it's love or money? don't you realize that these people, who want a partner from the US because of the greencard or the money, are the very reason why it has become so difficult for us who just want a visa to be with the ones we love.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

if they want to find their true love, then yes they do want to be in my shoes and i have no contest to that.

do they just want a greencard and use another person for it? then no, it's definitely not in my shoes they want to be.

honestly, i'd consider setting them up had they told me, "uy, buti ka pa nahanap mo na soulmate mo. hanap mo nga ako, baka andiyan din yung akin." instead of telling me, "uy buti ka pa nasa amerika ka na. ireto mo nga ako diyan para makarating na din ako diyan." it's like implying i purposely chose my husband just because he's in the US. and now they're confident that they can do it too because of me. now who's being judgemental? so yes, i get irritated when people SERIOUSLY ask me to help them get a greencard by setting them up with someone from here.