Do you find this irritating?

[Jov_mar 0]

Hi guys...I'm not yet going to the US coz my fiance and I still processing for our stuffs for my interview and medical so soon but for my point of view in this discussion is that yah its quite irritating when somebody would asked you "can you find me or give me KANO?or even they asked my fiance (when his in our town to be with me) "do u have a friend there for you to give me?I don't know but it seems like that other filipina are trying to sell themselves without even knowing the risks after....Sometimes I just smile to them and said, God Knows who really meant for us but don't stop on searching to find your mr.right.An i said always think the LOVE is all that matters...And thanx to my fiance his open-minded about it and he just smile to them and say "yes"...

But its little bit okay its depend on their approach...Maybe they just kidding right?

So that is my opinion...

Edited March 25, 2009 by Jov_mar

[maritoni 3]

I just introduced them to each other. And if they fall in love, it's wonderful. If they don't, time to move on. But if not for me, then they may never meet and they will never be happy. What's wrong with bringing two lost souls together?

I agree

[felb 0]

I just introduced them to each other. And if they fall in love, it's wonderful. If they don't, time to move on. But if not for me, then they may never meet and they will never be happy. What's wrong with bringing two lost souls together?

that these two lost souls could be perfectly wrong for each other and their union could cause havoc.

[CaMhae 7]

i think its just ok..some women they use that as a joke....

for me il get irritated for women or a young lady marrying an old ugly american guy....i think thats what we usually saying or called a ticket to USA....i just wish they are happy or atleast try to be happy with the grand pa's.....omg!!!

PEACE OUT!!!!

[jom 4]

I am not surprised because many Filipinas are here and married to americans, for whatever reason. We all decided to marry a non-Filipino, again for our own reasons so I don't find it irritating if our fellow Filipinas would do the same.

I say, welcome to the club

Edited March 25, 2009 by jom

[2plus2is5 0]

hello again to my fellow visajourney goers! Hope you are all ok and happy with your loved ones! I know it's hard to be separated but I hope for those who are still waiting for their visas, you'll get it soon! Just always be positive

Anyways, I just one question and need your opinion about this. Do you guys find it so irritating (or seems not right) when your fellow Pinays ask you this "uy hanap mo naman ako ng papa dyan... or sino ang irereto mo sa akin dyan?" -translation- (hey, could you find me a lover there? or do you have somebody who you can introduce me to?" It really turns me off when my friends,so-called friends or even just somebody i worked with at the office ask me those. It seems for me that they only want a ticket to go to the USA. Sounds like it for me... but this is just my opinion. I might be getting paranoid too from not having enough sleep. lol No pms yet! Can't help but to think.. can't you find your own man?

Just want to know your opinion about this kind of attitude.

it is more sympathy than irritating...simply the fact that hardship of living is inevitable in the Philippines..

What do you expect?

[2plus2is5 0]

Maybe its just me but it really really turns me off when they ask me. Sometimes i don't know how to reply. Usually if its ym I just stop answering but if its in person... really caught me off guard. I don't want to be rude but sometimes when i'm not in the mood i really shove them off and act so mean. I guess I'm too serious My husband doesn't like it too and said it gives some Filipina a bad name. Like what would their intention be? If its for money or love... we wouldn't really know right? I just don't want to take the risk and be blamed afterwards. One wrong move by a Filipina could easily be judged by the entire world. Sad but it is true. Not all people are open-minded.

...apparently you are not so open minded to be irritated with such question..especially if you have endured the hardship life in the Philippines..coz if you are open minded it shouldn't bother you at all

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

I just introduced them to each other. And if they fall in love, it's wonderful. If they don't, time to move on. But if not for me, then they may never meet and they will never be happy. What's wrong with bringing two lost souls together?

that these two lost souls could be perfectly wrong for each other and their union could cause havoc.

Nada es impossible con Dios. If they are not right for each other, they can always say no and move on. What is the difference between that and meeting someone in the bar? Do you think your chances are better of finding true love in a bar?

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

I am not surprised because many Filipinas are here and married to americans, for whatever reason. We all decided to marry a non-Filipino, again for our own reasons so I don't find it irritating if our fellow Filipinas would do the same.

I say, welcome to the club

Yeah, welcome to the club! I like my white guy! I like playing the matchmaker.

[John&Juvy 36]

Yes for me it is irritating and imbarassing.. specially when they asked that quistion direct to my husband, kc ayaw ko naman isipin ng husband ko na ng ha-haunting tayo ng americano . I was like.. HELLLLOOOOO ! OK ka lang ?!?!??? What do u think about us BUGAW ? That is too little despirate of u. kadiri diba ? hahahaha. Have a little shame in ur self girl.

I don't find it pimping, gross and a desperate act for Pilipinas who wanted to hook up with American guys. I find it romantic. My husband is open-minded about it. As long as they are both consenting adults, why not? If the American guy has ulterior motive or has an ax to grind, that is a horse of a different color girl! Where is your hopeless romantic side?

My hopeless romantic side ?hhmmm.... I think i still have it. But finding a "GUY" here in U.S to hook up with other filipina or friends back in philippines is not part of my hopeless romantic side lol. Was just being sarcastic about the word being "bugaw" coz like i said, for me its annoying and i felt imbarassment when they asked "find me a guy" in states with their tone of begging of some of them infront of my asawa. And it's not about my husband not being open-minded coz he dont really care about it, but that just me being filipina.

Too bad you don't have a hopeless romantic side in you because I do. I don't find it irritating and embarrassing either. Oh well, different strokes for different folks. There is no accounting for taste I guess. Just my humble opinion.

Ok.....

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In a bar with john:

Me: Hon, can u wait for me a second here ?

John: Why what u ganna do honey ?

Me: Oh, there is another guy sitting in a bar i'm going there and talk to him for a'while.

John: Why ?

Me: Dont worry honey i just gonna ask him if his single and available and ask his e-mail ID so i can hook him up with my friend in phils.

John: DUMBASS !

Out with john's friends:

Me: Hi les.. Do u wanna meet some filipina like me?

Les: Juvy are u allright ?

Me: Yeah ! Just asking... just in case ur tired of ur marriage with ur american wife now and divorce her if u going to like my friend.

............. Just trying to imagine some scenario here how to be a hopelessly romantic.

Oh dear! I think you went a little overboard this time. That is not what I have in mind about being hopeless romantic. What I was trying to imply is that this American guy, who happened to be a department manager that time (and now's the assistant manager), likes Filipinas because they are sweet, smart and good looking He was the one who asked me to hook him him up with my friends. I wasn't going around pimping my girls. If someone asks, I'll set them up. If they don't ask, I will not say anything, unless I really know the guy and I think he would be a good match to one of my homies.

Overboard.... LOL maybe. But ok..ok.... I was only talking about my expereince many times back in philippines when all my kapit-bahay knows i got married with american tapos they start punta sa bahay namin and asking to find them a guy dito sa america to hook up with them kasi iniisip nila yayaman sila or magkaka-pera sila pag nag asawa ng americano. Which means.... bakit ganun din ba iniisip nila sa akin? I mean it doesnt really matter ano man isipin nila about sa akin, ang nakakairita eh yung ano palagay nila sa mga puti ATM machine na pagkaka-perahan lang ? Even those kapit-bahay na may asawa na asking me to find amerikano so they can support her family and asawa. So that was the thing that irritate me and found it despiration and kinda....... kadiri to my part being filipina. Kasi ako I love my husband whole-heartedly and purely and it hurt me or offend me sometimes the way they think of american coz i married one. Hindi ko rin nilalahat kasi alam ko na still a lot of filipina na true and sincere din sa mga asawa nila. And yes wala akong problema na introduce one of my friend sa kung sino mang makikilala kong kaibigan ng asawa ko as long alam kong no hidden agenda to my friend part kasi i dont want to take the blame and take another bad comment from my friend or other filipina's wrong doing and fault as we both all know from the post we read here and there many times about filipina. Thats all.

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

Yes for me it is irritating and imbarassing.. specially when they asked that quistion direct to my husband, kc ayaw ko naman isipin ng husband ko na ng ha-haunting tayo ng americano . I was like.. HELLLLOOOOO ! OK ka lang ?!?!??? What do u think about us BUGAW ? That is too little despirate of u. kadiri diba ? hahahaha. Have a little shame in ur self girl.

I don't find it pimping, gross and a desperate act for Pilipinas who wanted to hook up with American guys. I find it romantic. My husband is open-minded about it. As long as they are both consenting adults, why not? If the American guy has ulterior motive or has an ax to grind, that is a horse of a different color girl! Where is your hopeless romantic side?

My hopeless romantic side ?hhmmm.... I think i still have it. But finding a "GUY" here in U.S to hook up with other filipina or friends back in philippines is not part of my hopeless romantic side lol. Was just being sarcastic about the word being "bugaw" coz like i said, for me its annoying and i felt imbarassment when they asked "find me a guy" in states with their tone of begging of some of them infront of my asawa. And it's not about my husband not being open-minded coz he dont really care about it, but that just me being filipina.

Too bad you don't have a hopeless romantic side in you because I do. I don't find it irritating and embarrassing either. Oh well, different strokes for different folks. There is no accounting for taste I guess. Just my humble opinion.

Ok.....

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In a bar with john:

Me: Hon, can u wait for me a second here ?

John: Why what u ganna do honey ?

Me: Oh, there is another guy sitting in a bar i'm going there and talk to him for a'while.

John: Why ?

Me: Dont worry honey i just gonna ask him if his single and available and ask his e-mail ID so i can hook him up with my friend in phils.

John: DUMBASS !

Out with john's friends:

Me: Hi les.. Do u wanna meet some filipina like me?

Les: Juvy are u allright ?

Me: Yeah ! Just asking... just in case ur tired of ur marriage with ur american wife now and divorce her if u going to like my friend.

............. Just trying to imagine some scenario here how to be a hopelessly romantic.

Oh dear! I think you went a little overboard this time. That is not what I have in mind about being hopeless romantic. What I was trying to imply is that this American guy, who happened to be a department manager that time (and now's the assistant manager), likes Filipinas because they are sweet, smart and good looking He was the one who asked me to hook him him up with my friends. I wasn't going around pimping my girls. If someone asks, I'll set them up. If they don't ask, I will not say anything, unless I really know the guy and I think he would be a good match to one of my homies.

Overboard.... LOL maybe. But ok..ok.... I was only talking about my expereince many times back in philippines when all my kapit-bahay knows i got married with american tapos they start punta sa bahay namin and asking to find them a guy dito sa america to hook up with them kasi iniisip nila yayaman sila or magkaka-pera sila pag nag asawa ng americano. Which means.... bakit ganun din ba iniisip nila sa akin? I mean it doesnt really matter ano man isipin nila about sa akin, ang nakakairita eh yung ano palagay nila sa mga puti ATM machine na pagkaka-perahan lang ? Even those kapit-bahay na may asawa na asking me to find amerikano so they can support her family and asawa. So that was the thing that irritate me and found it despiration and kinda....... kadiri to my part being filipina. Kasi ako I love my husband whole-heartedly and purely and it hurt me or offend me sometimes the way they think of american coz i married one. Hindi ko rin nilalahat kasi alam ko na still a lot of filipina na true and sincere din sa mga asawa nila. And yes wala akong problema na introduce one of my friend sa kung sino mang makikilala kong kaibigan ng asawa ko as long alam kong no hidden agenda to my friend part kasi i dont want to take the blame and take another bad comment from my friend or other filipina's wrong doing and fault as we both all know from the post we read here and there many times about filipina. Thats all.

it is more sympathy than irritating...simply the fact that hardship of living is inevitable in the Philippines..

What do you expect?

You will never know what your neighbors were thinking about you when you married your American husband. My friends, who happened to be my colleagues at work in Makati before, were the only one who asked me to hook them up with single American guys if I happen to know one. Like what I said, different strokes for different folks. You got sinister and nefarious neighbors. They could very well pass up as con artists. I feel sorry for them.

Edited March 25, 2009 by Rocky_nBullwinkle

[MJ3lasvegas 0]

some just say this to break-the-ice..i was asked by some friends to do this and i was like: "duh, di naman kano asawa ko, filipino din." lol..

but i find it funny when people ask me this.

nakakakilig naman minsa if im playing cupid

just be cool about it, ganyan naman talaga sinasabi most of the time pag papunta kana dito sa US..ride on ka nalang.

[jom 4]

To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

AGREE!!!! super agree!!! :thumbs: :thumbs:

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

To add...those american men and women who see us with our husbands and don't know us ..they are probably thinking the same thing....that we married our USC husbands to get out of the Philippines. And what about these Filipina women who ask us to hook them up with a USC man, what do they really think about us marrying our USC husbands? Probably the same thing. It doesn't matter....for love or for money.....if the marriage is successful and works out great for both, who really cares? Love can be learned.

Bottomline is..this "phenomenon" of marrying an american man or woman is worldwide and not just in the Philippines. Big age gaps etc etc. For love or for money..we make our own destiny.

A 75 year old USC man with a 25 year old Filipina woman...what do you think? For love or for money? It doesn't matter if they are happy. I personally know two couples ( 75/34- married for 7 years and 75/30- married for 4 years ) and they are wonderful together.

Just because we are already here or in the process of getting here, let us not judge these women who also want to be in our shoes.

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