Tired of this Journey and wondering is it all worth it.

[panamania79 2]

I am so tired words and describe it. Let me just say that my husband and I filed a k1 and it was returned to the USCIS, for what reason i don't know. We had tons of evidence and i had taking numerous trips there to Morocco. Well after that happen I went to Morocco and got married, and since refiled a CR1 petition. In the mean while I find myself getting frustrated more and more each day. And I am wondering did I choose the right person. He likes to go to the cafe and and watch television, he works on and off and I'm tired pure tired of it. I am to the point I really don't want to take another trip over there and I feel like just waiting this one out and what happens happens. Each time that I go I bring 3 bags full of items for his family. Let me tell you he has a large family. I've spent over $20,000 between the 5 flights and Items that i purchased to bring with me.

My husband has a temper that i descovered after the marriage, and his home was not in the best condition the last time i went. I feel like the family is used to me, so the real thing came out and let me tell you i did not like what i saw. The blanket that i was sleeping on stunk like mildew. There was mildew all in his room, and he had the I don't give a damn attitude. His aunt that is usually so nice acted like a pure ######. Can you believe that I pay for this aunts youngest daughter to attend a private school? His adult female cousins made me feel real uncomfortable as well. I don't speak Arabic but i can read body language. When i told him about what i was feeling he tried to make it like i was reading to much into things but i do not believe i am. Oh here is the good part. There is another woman living in the home that i don't know who she is and all i know is that she is not a family member.

I am drifting away from my husband and the sad part is that I just got married. Truth be told i don't even feel like I am married. We went to the Adul and that was it. It was an unplan trip. But he wants me to come back in the summer to have the celebration. He had the nerves to tell me that the wedding would cost $30,000 dirhams to have a wedding on a farm. That is when red flags came to me. I asked myself is this man trying to con me out of money? When i let him know I am no damn fool then all of a sudden the price went down to $8000 dirhams, and we will split the cost. I don't know how much longer i will stay on this site because i am not sure i will be keeping this relationship. I know i got married there in Morocco but I really don't feel married at all. He enjoys going to the cafe everyday, and works on and off. I work 2 jobs and then I come straight home, and there at the computer waiting for him. Well yesterday was it for me. After having a hard day at work and going to the grocery store and rushing home he had an attitude about why i was not on the computer. I was enraged, and i would not speak to him on the computer or the phone. Infact I have no desire to speak with him today. I am really thinking about withdrawling my I130 and he can figure out how to get the marriage annulled because frankly I am done.

Cut your losses and kick him to the curb !

[Peikko 1,575]

I am not desperate enough to call a psychic!!! And no relationship is perfect and to say it is well share with us all the happy pill that both you and your spouse is taking. You yourself can't say that you never been so angry with your spouse that you wondered what in the world did i do? If never then good for you.

Who hasn't had a fight and been angry with their SO/spouse, that's not the issue...I think the advice is not to air dirty laundry on a public forum in a knee jerk reaction to any argument or fight.

I thought that this site was a place to write how you are feeling at the time? I just think that nobody should tell anybody when they should leave another person.

This site is for immigration advise; not marriage counseling. If people post personal stuff on the boards, they are putting themselves in a platter for whatever people throw at them. Don't want people's opinions on your personal business? Do not post in on the internet.

So true, and yet I can't help feeling sorry for her, if her OP is an honest reflection of her situation. I am having trouble seeing how this will end well. However, it's quite possible that her OP was just a bad judgment call as well.

[justucia 0]

Oh here is the good part. There is another woman living in the home that i don't know who she is and all i know is that she is not a family member.

forgive me if this query was already answered-

who the *#&$ is this other woman living in the home?

[panamania79 2]

Oh here is the good part. There is another woman living in the home that i don't know who she is and all i know is that she is not a family member.

forgive me if this query was already answered-

who the *#&$ is this other woman living in the home?

That's why I said to "kick him to the curb."

[Lyuba 0]

I think this lady wanted us to tell her what she wanted to hear. Since she didn't hear what she wanted she got offensive.

If you already made up your mind and you are staying with the guy, why do you say that you are done and want to withdraw the petition? People are trying to help and give good advice, if you don't want it, don't ask.

[*Robert* 2]

I think this lady wanted us to tell her what she wanted to hear. Since she didn't hear what she wanted she got offensive.

If you already made up your mind and you are staying with the guy, why do you say that you are done and want to withdraw the petition? People are trying to help and give good advice, if you don't want it, don't ask.

You hit the nail on the head, and Moroccoluv was quick to overlook that as well... I can only guess at the reasons why!

Amazing!

If the OP wants to stick with this guy, and keep supporting him and his family, then they deserve each other. However, I don't think anyone will be surprised if he ever gets to the US, and she posts about how he beat her or ran off once he got his GC.

[panamania79 2]

I think this lady wanted us to tell her what she wanted to hear. Since she didn't hear what she wanted she got offensive.

If you already made up your mind and you are staying with the guy, why do you say that you are done and want to withdraw the petition? People are trying to help and give good advice, if you don't want it, don't ask.

You hit the nail on the head, and Moroccoluv was quick to overlook that as well... I can only guess at the reasons why!

Amazing!

If the OP wants to stick with this guy, and keep supporting him and his family, then they deserve each other. However, I don't think anyone will be surprised if he ever gets to the US, and she posts about how he beat her or ran off once he got his GC.

Well,if she wants to stay with him,I suggest that she just concentrate on him and not the whole family.This will save her plenty of money in the long run.

[panamania79 2]

Ditch him. Did you ask about the "other woman"? WARNING, DANGER WILL ROBINSON!

[milimelo 4,481]

I think this lady wanted us to tell her what she wanted to hear. Since she didn't hear what she wanted she got offensive.

If you already made up your mind and you are staying with the guy, why do you say that you are done and want to withdraw the petition? People are trying to help and give good advice, if you don't want it, don't ask.

You hit the nail on the head, and Moroccoluv was quick to overlook that as well... I can only guess at the reasons why!

Amazing!

If the OP wants to stick with this guy, and keep supporting him and his family, then they deserve each other. However, I don't think anyone will be surprised if he ever gets to the US, and she posts about how he beat her or ran off once he got his GC.

Well,if she wants to stay with him,I suggest that she just concentrate on him and not the whole family.This will save her plenty of money in the long run.

Actually,

I think she changed her story after her husband (or members of his family) read up on her posts. Did you see how she changes everything after the long post of morrocoluv.

To OP - good luck in whatever you decide but it does not sound like you won't be coming back here saying he arrived and left the day he got his GCa.

[Moroccoluv 0]

I think this lady wanted us to tell her what she wanted to hear. Since she didn't hear what she wanted she got offensive.

If you already made up your mind and you are staying with the guy, why do you say that you are done and want to withdraw the petition? People are trying to help and give good advice, if you don't want it, don't ask.

You hit the nail on the head, and Moroccoluv was quick to overlook that as well... I can only guess at the reasons why!

Amazing!

If the OP wants to stick with this guy, and keep supporting him and his family, then they deserve each other. However, I don't think anyone will be surprised if he ever gets to the US, and she posts about how he beat her or ran off once he got his GC.

Well,if she wants to stay with him,I suggest that she just concentrate on him and not the whole family.This will save her plenty of money in the long run.

Right on Sista

[Moroccoluv 0]

I think this lady wanted us to tell her what she wanted to hear. Since she didn't hear what she wanted she got offensive.

If you already made up your mind and you are staying with the guy, why do you say that you are done and want to withdraw the petition? People are trying to help and give good advice, if you don't want it, don't ask.

You hit the nail on the head, and Moroccoluv was quick to overlook that as well... I can only guess at the reasons why!

Amazing!

If the OP wants to stick with this guy, and keep supporting him and his family, then they deserve each other. However, I don't think anyone will be surprised if he ever gets to the US, and she posts about how he beat her or ran off once he got his GC.

Well,if she wants to stay with him,I suggest that she just concentrate on him and not the whole family.This will save her plenty of money in the long run.

Actually,

I think she changed her story after her husband (or members of his family) read up on her posts. Did you see how she changes everything after the long post of morrocoluv.

To OP - good luck in whatever you decide but it does not sound like you won't be coming back here saying he arrived and left the day he got his GCa.

If you want to tell the truth you take a chance of love if your spouse is from the USA or any other country. One never knows. So let's lay off the green card. Do you think it can't happen to you? Let's be honest, we all hope and pray that this will never happen to me but you really don't know. That is why i will never be too quick to judge anybody at all. I wish every one nothing but blessings, and I don't believe on hateing on anybody unless i am taking to that point. Yes the talk I had with My Choice was clearly looking at it in two different angles. I didn't like some of the racial comments that were being made a middle eastern men. Before I take the advice of someone telling me to ditch my man because of a few flaws which everybody have, i would lose a friendship first. You best believe that one. Because as soon as I would leave my man guess what you and your bestfriends might be trying to wisper something sweet in his ears. So heck no I would not listen to all those comments that was sent to her at all. It was horrible, and trust and believe she won't be writing anymore comments like this period. So enjoy writting your little statements on what it is that I wrote because you have nothing better else to do I'm sure, and i will check in after a hards day at work, before i retire for the night. Please I am sure My Choice would preferr woman and men with wisdom please respond. Mail order brides please save your comments for your own kind.

[Caladan 19]

I've been angry with C. at times, but his family has always treated me with respect, and there wasn't a woman living in his house about whom C. kept strangely silent. Even leaving the huge issues of language, culture, income, religion, and potential marriage fraud aside... you really need to think this through.

[*Robert* 2]

If you want to tell the truth you take a chance of love if your spouse is from the USA or any other country. One never knows. So let's lay off the green card. Do you think it can't happen to you? Let's be honest, we all hope and pray that this will never happen to me but you really don't know. That is why i will never be too quick to judge anybody at all. I wish every one nothing but blessings, and I don't believe on hateing on anybody unless i am taking to that point. Yes the talk I had with My Choice was clearly looking at it in two different angles. I didn't like some of the racial comments that were being made a middle eastern men. Before I take the advice of someone telling me to ditch my man because of a few flaws which everybody have, i would lose a friendship first. You best believe that one. Because as soon as I would leave my man guess what you and your bestfriends might be trying to wisper something sweet in his ears. So heck no I would not listen to all those comments that was sent to her at all. It was horrible, and trust and believe she won't be writing anymore comments like this period. So enjoy writting your little statements on what it is that I wrote because you have nothing better else to do I'm sure, and i will check in after a hards day at work, before i retire for the night. Please I am sure My Choice would preferr woman and men with wisdom please respond. Mail order brides please save your comments for your own kind.

That comment is out of line and uncalled for. Assuming the non-USC women on here are all "mail order brides" is wrong. Does that mean your fiance is a "mail order husband" along with all other MENA men?

Go enjoy your "hards day at work", and while you're at it, take some English and grammar lessons.

Hopefully "my choice" won't have to worry about her husband running off with the strange women living in his home, but then why should he? He gets two for the price of one!

[panamania79 2]

If you want to tell the truth you take a chance of love if your spouse is from the USA or any other country. One never knows. So let's lay off the green card. Do you think it can't happen to you? Let's be honest, we all hope and pray that this will never happen to me but you really don't know. That is why i will never be too quick to judge anybody at all. I wish every one nothing but blessings, and I don't believe on hateing on anybody unless i am taking to that point. Yes the talk I had with My Choice was clearly looking at it in two different angles. I didn't like some of the racial comments that were being made a middle eastern men. Before I take the advice of someone telling me to ditch my man because of a few flaws which everybody have, i would lose a friendship first. You best believe that one. Because as soon as I would leave my man guess what you and your bestfriends might be trying to wisper something sweet in his ears. So heck no I would not listen to all those comments that was sent to her at all. It was horrible, and trust and believe she won't be writing anymore comments like this period. So enjoy writting your little statements on what it is that I wrote because you have nothing better else to do I'm sure, and i will check in after a hards day at work, before i retire for the night. Please I am sure My Choice would preferr woman and men with wisdom please respond. Mail order brides please save your comments for your own kind.

That comment is out of line and uncalled for. Assuming the non-USC women on here are all "mail order brides" is wrong. Does that mean your fiance is a "mail order husband" along with all other MENA men?

Go enjoy your "hards day at work", and while you're at it, take some English and grammar lessons.

Hopefully "my choice" won't have to worry about her husband running off with the strange women living in his home, but then why should he? He gets two for the price of one!

BIG LOVE ?

[panamania79 2]

I think this lady wanted us to tell her what she wanted to hear. Since she didn't hear what she wanted she got offensive.

If you already made up your mind and you are staying with the guy, why do you say that you are done and want to withdraw the petition? People are trying to help and give good advice, if you don't want it, don't ask.

You hit the nail on the head, and Moroccoluv was quick to overlook that as well... I can only guess at the reasons why!

Amazing!

If the OP wants to stick with this guy, and keep supporting him and his family, then they deserve each other. However, I don't think anyone will be surprised if he ever gets to the US, and she posts about how he beat her or ran off once he got his GC.

Well,if she wants to stay with him,I suggest that she just concentrate on him and not the whole family.This will save her plenty of money in the long run.

Right on Sista

I just say this because of past experiences with my SO's family and even my own in Panama.Every time I go,somebody wants a cell phone,a I-pod,Tommy Hillfiger jeans .So I just got fed up with all of them and said "keep dreaming,because dreams are free."Of course they weren't too happy but I had to put my foot down !