The Rest of the Story...a year later!!!

[rebeccajo 14]

Marriage is not a game, living together is a whole different animal than visiting for a week at a time. I was nervous after coming here for just 3 months, I still felt like you cannot possibly know everything about a person in such a short space of time.

We've been married over three years and I'm still trying to figure everything out about my husband......

[Chris-n-Veronica 0]

Yea I agree with most everything, Listen to that little voice in the back of your head..

Veronica and I have been married almost two years and we are still learning...

I had a couple other internet friends before Veronica and I learned quickly who was a user and who wasn't and when I met Veronica I knew I had a keeper..

I will say this.. I'm the one with a little baggage from my first marriage and it's been alittle trying for her but we are both learning, forgetting and moving on with our life together..

[FrancElsie 6]

Close call. Could she not have come over here on a tourist visa for three months first? Instead of just doing a k1 for that reason you should be sure before you even get to that stage. Find another way to spend time together.

Lauren and I spent only a few days together in our initial meetings as we were both backpacking around the the world. However we went back and forth several times over the next year before I decided to come out here for a 3 month stint on visa waiver. That time living together, while still short by many standards, convinced me she was the one. Without that I would not have proposed and would not be here now. (Her parents were not best pleased at the time but have now welcomed me as a member of their family!)

NOPE....tourist visas are impossible to obtain for poor people from many other countries, including Colombia. They must have assets, money in the bank and a secure job to return to.... before that can happen!!! Thus, the ONLY way she could have come to the USA was with the K-1 Fiance' VISA or the K-3 Spousal VISA. As stated in my post...my first and largest mistake was marrying quickly. Believe me, I spent a week a month in Colombia with her during 2007 and each time convinced me more and more that she was not whom she appeared to be.

We....people from USA, Canada, UK, Austrailia enjoy IMMENSE FREEDOM to travel all over the world with just our passports. I have not read your profile or anything about you...but, your statement about "backpacking around the world" leads me to believe that neither of you are from a Third World country. I am happy that things are working well for you...also as stated, I do not wish to paint all foreign women with the same brush.

Regards,

Captain Craig

[FrancElsie 6]

Close call. Could she not have come over here on a tourist visa for three months first? Instead of just doing a k1 for that reason you should be sure before you even get to that stage. Find another way to spend time together.

Lauren and I spent only a few days together in our initial meetings as we were both backpacking around the the world. However we went back and forth several times over the next year before I decided to come out here for a 3 month stint on visa waiver. That time living together, while still short by many standards, convinced me she was the one. Without that I would not have proposed and would not be here now. (Her parents were not best pleased at the time but have now welcomed me as a member of their family!)

It is very unlikely that she would have got a tourist visa to come over for 3 months. You are in a very fortunate position of coming from a Visa Wavier country so all you have to do is get on a plane fill out a I-94w during the flight and as long as you dont raise red flags at the POE you will be admitted to the US for 90 days.

For those who do not come from a Visa Wavier country it can be almost imposible for them to come and vist before they have their visa.

Every country CAN get a visa to visit the US. If there are red flags maybe that would be it's own warning, no?

(I assume you meant "person" not.... Every "country" can get a visa to visit the US.)

ABSOLUTELY FALSE...The criteria are there to protect the US and its citizens from illegal immigration to the USA. As many have stated in their postings...unless they have strong ties to their country, assets, money in the bank and a secure job with a good income...they will NOT RECEIVE a tourist vist to the United States. Anyone who thinks or believes otherwise is simply naive. My wife was single, age 31, with no assets, no money in the bank, a 14 year old daughter and an insecure job that paid very little. She could never get a visa without me...or another "gringo." Many of these women from other countries are looking for a "PROVEEDOR" which in English is a "provider." Your importance to them is measured in dollars and cents. You are their meal ticket to the United States...the land of their dreams!!!

That said, the ONLY WAY this could be done was with the K-1/K-3 Visa process. Had I not wanted to give her the "wedding of her dreams" and make her a very happy woman...the K-1 Visa should have been my course of action. In three months of living with someone, you can tell a lot about them. And, I suspect things would have been the same...e-mailing and calling her boyfriend. Another telltale clue that I did not mention was that when I was visiting, I viewed her cell phone bills several times and noticed that one particular number was being called 3-4-5 times daily...you know, like someone does when they are in love. So, I called the number...guess who answered???

Honestly, I went through this VJ thing and there is a lot of excitement expressed by the waiting spouses in the USA. But, in hindsight... I realize that this time period of waiting and hoping should be used to assess the situation and the other person. Do NOT be blinded by love! And, I will say that I give KUDOS to the US Customs and Immigration Service for their work in screening and interviewing the applicants. IF YOUR girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife are denied the Visa... THERE IS A REASON!!!!!!! Your government just saved your butt and you didn't even know it!!!

Regards,

Captain Craig

PS I wonder what the divorce statistics are for these "foreigner marriages" after 5 years. I would bet that the divorce rate is OVER 80%...anyone know?

Edited March 21, 2009 by CaptainCraig

[fozzie 41]

Close call. Could she not have come over here on a tourist visa for three months first? Instead of just doing a k1 for that reason you should be sure before you even get to that stage. Find another way to spend time together.

Lauren and I spent only a few days together in our initial meetings as we were both backpacking around the the world. However we went back and forth several times over the next year before I decided to come out here for a 3 month stint on visa waiver. That time living together, while still short by many standards, convinced me she was the one. Without that I would not have proposed and would not be here now. (Her parents were not best pleased at the time but have now welcomed me as a member of their family!)

It is very unlikely that she would have got a tourist visa to come over for 3 months. You are in a very fortunate position of coming from a Visa Wavier country so all you have to do is get on a plane fill out a I-94w during the flight and as long as you dont raise red flags at the POE you will be admitted to the US for 90 days.

For those who do not come from a Visa Wavier country it can be almost imposible for them to come and vist before they have their visa.

Every country CAN get a visa to visit the US. If there are red flags maybe that would be it's own warning, no?

(I assume you meant "person" not.... Every "country" can get a visa to visit the US.)

ABSOLUTELY FALSE...The criteria are there to protect the US and its citizens from illegal immigration to the USA. As many have stated in their postings...unless they have strong ties to their country, assets, money in the bank and a secure job with a good income...they will NOT RECEIVE a tourist vist to the United States. Anyone who thinks or believes otherwise is simply naive. My wife was single, age 31, with no assets, no money in the bank, a 14 year old daughter and an insecure job that paid very little. She could never get a visa without me...or another "gringo." Many of these women from other countries are looking for a "PROVEEDOR" which in English is a "provider." Your importance to them is measured in dollars and cents. You are their meal ticket to the United States...the land of their dreams!!!

That said, the ONLY WAY this could be done was with the K-1/K-3 Visa process. Had I not wanted to give her the "wedding of her dreams" and make her a very happy woman...the K-1 Visa should have been my course of action. In three months of living with someone, you can tell a lot about them. And, I suspect things would have been the same...e-mailing and calling her boyfriend. Another telltale clue that I did not mention was that when I was visiting, I viewed her cell phone bills several times and noticed that one particular number was being called 3-4-5 times daily...you know, like someone does when they are in love. So, I called the number...guess who answered???

Honestly, I went through this VJ thing and there is a lot of excitement expressed by the waiting spouses in the USA. But, in hindsight... I realize that this time period of waiting and hoping should be used to assess the situation and the other person. Do NOT be blinded by love! And, I will say that I give KUDOS to the US Customs and Immigration Service for their work in screening and interviewing the applicants. IF YOUR girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife are denied the Visa... THERE IS A REASON!!!!!!! Your government just saved your butt and you didn't even know it!!!

Regards,

Captain Craig

PS I wonder what the divorce statistics are for these "foreigner marriages" after 5 years. I would bet that the divorce rate is OVER 80%...anyone know?

Captain Craig, I have already responded to this. I stood corrected about an hour ago and even stated the same reasons as your self about why it is hard to get those visas. Colombians CAN get visas to vist but they have stringent criteria to meet first. Did they even try?

Besides, can I have your job? I would love a job that allows me to take a week long vacation every month for a whole year and pay me enough to be able to afford it!

[FrancElsie 6]

Close call. Could she not have come over here on a tourist visa for three months first? Instead of just doing a k1 for that reason you should be sure before you even get to that stage. Find another way to spend time together.

Lauren and I spent only a few days together in our initial meetings as we were both backpacking around the the world. However we went back and forth several times over the next year before I decided to come out here for a 3 month stint on visa waiver. That time living together, while still short by many standards, convinced me she was the one. Without that I would not have proposed and would not be here now. (Her parents were not best pleased at the time but have now welcomed me as a member of their family!)

It is very unlikely that she would have got a tourist visa to come over for 3 months. You are in a very fortunate position of coming from a Visa Wavier country so all you have to do is get on a plane fill out a I-94w during the flight and as long as you dont raise red flags at the POE you will be admitted to the US for 90 days.

For those who do not come from a Visa Wavier country it can be almost imposible for them to come and vist before they have their visa.

Every country CAN get a visa to visit the US. If there are red flags maybe that would be it's own warning, no?

(I assume you meant "person" not.... Every "country" can get a visa to visit the US.)

ABSOLUTELY FALSE...The criteria are there to protect the US and its citizens from illegal immigration to the USA. As many have stated in their postings...unless they have strong ties to their country, assets, money in the bank and a secure job with a good income...they will NOT RECEIVE a tourist vist to the United States. Anyone who thinks or believes otherwise is simply naive. My wife was single, age 31, with no assets, no money in the bank, a 14 year old daughter and an insecure job that paid very little. She could never get a visa without me...or another "gringo." Many of these women from other countries are looking for a "PROVEEDOR" which in English is a "provider." Your importance to them is measured in dollars and cents. You are their meal ticket to the United States...the land of their dreams!!!

That said, the ONLY WAY this could be done was with the K-1/K-3 Visa process. Had I not wanted to give her the "wedding of her dreams" and make her a very happy woman...the K-1 Visa should have been my course of action. In three months of living with someone, you can tell a lot about them. And, I suspect things would have been the same...e-mailing and calling her boyfriend. Another telltale clue that I did not mention was that when I was visiting, I viewed her cell phone bills several times and noticed that one particular number was being called 3-4-5 times daily...you know, like someone does when they are in love. So, I called the number...guess who answered???

Honestly, I went through this VJ thing and there is a lot of excitement expressed by the waiting spouses in the USA. But, in hindsight... I realize that this time period of waiting and hoping should be used to assess the situation and the other person. Do NOT be blinded by love! And, I will say that I give KUDOS to the US Customs and Immigration Service for their work in screening and interviewing the applicants. IF YOUR girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife are denied the Visa... THERE IS A REASON!!!!!!! Your government just saved your butt and you didn't even know it!!!

Regards,

Captain Craig

PS I wonder what the divorce statistics are for these "foreigner marriages" after 5 years. I would bet that the divorce rate is OVER 80%...anyone know?

Captain Craig, I have already responded to this. I stood corrected about an hour ago and even stated the same reasons as your self about why it is hard to get those visas. Colombians CAN get visas to vist but they have stringent criteria to meet first. Did they even try?

Besides, can I have your job? I would love a job that allows me to take a week long vacation every month for a whole year and pay me enough to be able to afford it!

Jajajaa....OK...I see that you understand now. Did "they" even try? By "they"...I assume you mean Karina? No...there was no reason to try because she was poor, had no assets, no money, not much education, did not have a good job, plus a 14 year old daughter, etc. (I did my homework on this before everything else.)

You want my job? Jajaja...I was self-employed and built my business and earning a very good income...BUT, certainly not the "Millionaire" that I was perceived to be!!! Had she made it to the USA, her life would have been very nice. But, there are lots of men much wealthier than I. I am simply a nice gentleman who fell in love and was willing to do something wonderful for the woman I loved. It was her decision to continue an affair with her "novio de siempre" after our marriage. I was here in the USA...waiting like all of you and very excited and happy!!!

I may be a man. I may be an American. And, I may have been stupid...but, not for long! I am NOT a stupid American man. I know when something does "not feel right" so I took the means necessary to confirm my suspicions. "All's fair in love and war!"...goes the famous saying.

You want to know who "spilled the beans" on her? Her GODMOTHER. The rest of her family knew nothing of the affair. (But, I feel fairly certain that her daughter had to be in on the scheme. I'd caught her lying for her mother too.) The family was completely appalled, frustrated, disappointed and very angry with Karina. NO ONE speaks to her any longer and she is an outcast. They do not even know where she lives at this time...though I know it is in the same city and she is living with Carlos. Now, they are poor (but together), no job, no education, no transportation (unless the moto I bought for her is still running), AND a brand new baby too!!! As she so poetically stated in her e-mail to Carlos on January 13, 2008 "In the end we will be together and very happy! PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME!!!!!!"

Those last four words have bothered me considerably since January, 2008. Why would she be pleading for him not to leave her??? These words were exactly that way in the e-mail...CAPITALIZED and all. Just two weeks later, she and I spent a "not so happy" time together on our Second Honeymoon in Cartagena. Two days after our return from Cartagena, I took the trip to the US Embassy and cancelled everything!!!

FOR YOUR INFORMATION: You...as the USC.. are in control of everything UNTIL her VISA is approved. You have the right to cancel up to and including the day of the interview. But, I would suggest that you do not wait until the last possible moment to do it. You can contact the Embassy and ask that she be "grilled to the Nth degree" about your relationship and/or marriage. IF you have ANY DOUBTS about your spouse/fiance...the time to address them is BEFORE their Visa is approved. After that...your goose is cooked, well done!!!

Regards,

Captain Craig

Citizen of the USA

PS A man I met on a flight to Colombia had a horrible experience with a Bogotana. He brought her to the USA on a K-1 fiance' visa...she was here less than two weeks and DISAPPEARED! She went to live with another boyfriend in the USA until he got tired of her and kicked her out. Then, she returned to this man and begged forgiveness (seduced him..jajaja!) and told him that she wanted to marry him, etc. He bought her a ticket to Bogota and told her to wait for him.

[Loolie 56]

Hello Fellow "VJ'ers"

Over a year ago, I was excitedly waiting for my beautiful wife (Karina) to get her K-3 VISA approved at the Bogota Embassy and move to the USA to live happily ever after. BUT, during the time period from our wedding date of 5/18/07 and the approximate interview date of 8 - 9 months later....many things just did not seem "kosher" from a love and marriage point of view. So, I will attempt to tell you a little about the situation...then, tell you what I would have done differently. IF WHAT HAPPENED TO ME saves one of you fellow VJer's from a huge mistake...then, this post will be worthwhile reading for you.

(I don't remember what "name" I was using on this forum but I think it was "Craig&Karina" or something...Monokoke28 will remember me. I posted several times and related stories of situations which made me suspicious of my wife and her true intentions.)

I fell in love too quickly. Meeting a prospective spouse on January 1st and getting married on May 18th ... just 4.5 months later was really stupid on my part. But, I swear to this day... I was crazy in love with Karina! Anyway, 4.5 months and three visits to Colombia is NOT sufficient time to know someone as a person...certainly not enough time to make a lifetime commitment. But, love is blind, deaf and stupid ... sometimes.

Pay attention to everything your fiance'/spouse "says" BUT... particularly pay attention to the way he/she ACTS! It is said that "Actions speak louder than words!" Believe it... their actions will tell you what is true and what is not!! ACTIONS...not words make the difference in a marriage/relationship. IF something does not "feel quite right," trust your instincts! Do not allow your heart to overrule your brain...as I did!!! Do NOT sweep this "gut feeling" under the rug and eliminate your suspicions because you think there is a "cultural difference" or "misunderstanding." Permit me to tell you something.... THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE IS THE SAME IN EVERY LANGUAGE OF THE WORLD!

IF your brain is telling you to go cautiously and investigate everything....PLEASE LISTEN!!!!!

During my short marriage (we're now divorced) I discovered my wife lying to me a number of times. Also, I found that she was spending my money which I was sending (to support her and her daughter) on fun, frivolity, clothes and going out on the town. I was very generous with her...because I wanted her to be happy. But, my money was to be spent on necessities...not frivolity. I found it very unusual that when I called her on Saturday or Sunday mornings at 11am, 12 noon or 1pm...she'd still be sleeping! I had to ask myself..."Why would a healthy, active, 31 year old woman be sleeping until those hours every weekend?" Answer: Because she was going out on Friday and Saturday nights and partying until the wee hours of the morning!!

Fortunately, I made friends with some people at our wedding and kept in contact with them by way of the Internet. Once in awhile, I'd get a comment from them saying..."Oh, I saw your wife at a nightclub last night and she was drinking, smoking and dancing ... and, when I left the club at 2:30am...your wife was still there." Of course, I spoke with my wife about it and she didn't deny being there...but, she did deny being out past midnight. (She knew that the friend of mine had seen her...and, she claimed that the man/woman was just trying to "make trouble" between us.) Or...another time...a friend told me, " Craig, I saw your wife on the motorcycle that you bought for her...and a guy was driving it."

Another time when I was there on a visit, my wife got drunk and we had a "discussion" which prompted me to shorten my visit by a week. Something told me to change my password on my savings account that we used as the means for her to receive her monthly budget money...(presupuesto). It was a good thing that I did because upon my arrival at the Bogota Airport, my cell phone text messaged me that an attempt had been made to remove $1000 from the account...and a minute later, $900. So, that little voice inside that tell you things....LISTEN TO IT!!! Of course, I called and informed her that I suspected she might make a run for the money and that I'd changed the passcode! She was contrite and apologized saying, "It was an action of rage and I'm sorry!" Sure, it was an action of rage...but, what IF she'd gotten the money????? Then what would have been said or done????

There are several more instances of lying and mistrust that I posted about that I will not relate in this posting. But, the final straw was when I found out that she had a boyfriend...a boyfriend that she had for a number of years. How did I find this out? Wellllll....I am not really proud of this but I had to resort to some subversive tactics. I gave her my old laptop computer so we could talk more often and see each other every night on MSN Messenger. On that computer was a spy program which allowed me to see, read and retain EVERY piece of correspondence, conversation, e-mails, etc. which came from that computer!!!! Well, it didn't take long for me to read several intimate e-mails between Karina and her boyfriend!! Honestly, that didn't feel very good and I didn't like it one bit!! The last one, I will always remember because it said, "Remember that I love you very much and I know that in the end we will be together and very happy. PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME!!!!!!!!" That was just about a week before I was to take Karina to Cartagena for our "second honeymoon." That "honeymoon" was anything but a happy reunion!!!

Karina's interview was scheduled for February 12th or 15th, 2008...I don't remember the exact date but... upon passing through Bogota on my way back to the USA, I made a personal visit to the U.S. Embassy and delivered a "Withdrawal of Petition for K-3 VISA" for Karina and her daughter. Then, I FAXed it another time...just to be completely sure that my wishes were honored. So, just 12-15 days before her scheduled interview, her plans and dreams went up in smoke!! Once my withdrawal letter and FAX were read by the Embassy, her file was pulled out of the rotation and sent back to the USA forever. Sooooo....I "dodged this bullet" by about only two weeks!!!!!

For the next few months, she attempted to win my favor with promises, e-mails, pleading and tears... professing her "love for me." I almost relented and changed my mind as I went to talk with her another time during Easter Week, 2008. But, she treated me badly in front of her family and I knew it was over. The last day I saw Karina, my beautiful Colombian wife was Easter Sunday night of 2008. Her family was appalled at her actions and they disowned her and banished her from the family!!! Initially, I thought this was a "little strong reaction" but later my sister told me that "the family must know more about her than you do....and, they were probably sick of her using other people for her own benefit.

It must be "true love" between Karina and her boyfriend (Carlos) because I found that she was pregnant in May, 2008 (1 year after our marriage) and she just had a baby boy at the end of February, 2009. Our divorce was final in August, 2008 and she was already 3 months pregnant at that time. Thank God that I had enough sense and trusted my instincts enough to put a stop to the charade BEFORE she made it to the United States!!! For those of you who don't know it...YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE for your wife and family that you bring to the US on a K-3 VISA...for a LOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGG time. BEWARE OF A WOMAN/MAN WHO ISN'T GIVING YOU THE RIGHT "SIGNALS" AND "FEELINGS" IN YOUR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.

Again, I urge you to build your relationship on love, respect and trust. BUT, be realistic and sensible. Do you really think a beautiful 30 year old woman is going to fall in love with a man 25 years older than her? Do you think this woman who has lived in poverty all her life will love you if the chips are down? They have a perception in many foreign countries that U.S. Citizens are ALL MILLIONAIRES and their lives will be immensely improved by marrying one of us. Wake up and smell the coffee my fellow VJ'ers. One final comment...IF they get pregnant and claim it is your child...do a DNA test for proof!!! Many of these women are not beyond getting pregnant to "reel you in" because you are a big delicious catch for them!

What would I do differently: 1) Take more time and not rush to marriage. 2) NEVER marry the woman in "her country" and bring her here on the K-3 Visa!! A MUCH BETTER course of action is the K-1 Fiance' VISA. Give yourself 3 months to get to know the person and live together. In that three months....OBSERVE and test them and find out who they really are and their character.

Please don't think that I am painting all foreign women with the same brush. I am simply telling you of my own personal experience. I'm not bitter about what happened...ok, maybe a little bit...but if I can save one of you from making the same mistake, this letter is worth it!!!!

Sincerely,

Captain Craig

United States of America

wow what a story...i feel sorry for what happened to your relationship..but what i am amazed was about the spy program...hmmm...so hi-tech...hehehhehehe... sorry for my ignorance coz i dont know about that..

my husband almost married me on his first visit after getting to know each other for 4 months online...but he wanted to get to know me first and my family...my husband is so inlove with me too but he was never blinded by his love to the point that he will go crazy to it and never think of anything that

could happen like maybe i will just a use him or whatsoever...but love can really make you go crazy in some ways...hehhehhehe.

its not really about just going for k1 visa for you to get to know the person first before marrying him or her...some people here have success stories of love even they just know each other for a short time and got married. its just a matter of getting to know the person well and being with her or him can tell you what kind of person he or she is.

unfotunately, you married the wrong person...so just move on and be happy.

God bless you so much.

[SuperDuper! 230]

I think she found Ken, after being done with you.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...here+did+she+go

Seriously though, you're lucky to have finally stopped the BS when you did.

We hope Ken can chime in soon here, and give his report. The fact that she "disappeared" from him for several days recently raises concerns as well.

[sj5 4]

This story is not surprising me. I'm glad you found everything.

[FrancElsie 6]

I think she found Ken, after being done with you.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...here+did+she+go

Seriously though, you're lucky to have finally stopped the BS when you did.

We hope Ken can chime in soon here, and give his report. The fact that she "disappeared" from him for several days recently raises concerns as well.

People in love do NOT "just disappear" for several days or weeks at a time. This is just not normal!!! IF there is a reason for being gone, this can be communicated by e-mail or telephone calls. People with love, honesty and respect for their other partner... they communicate daily. This is a difficult journey (Visa Journey) and unfortunately there is little that can be done from a continent away. To repeat what I said before...the language of love is universal!!! The ACTIONS of a Colombian/Asian/Japanese/Chinese/Vietnamese woman will be NO DIFFERENT from an American woman in love with you.

You must do whatever is necessary to assure yourself that your overseas partner is loyal, honest and truly in love with you.

Have you noticed that this website has about 90%+ MEN who are/were (me included!) waiting to bring their girlfriends/wives to the USA, Canada or another "first world" country??? Do you think there is a Ukranian Journey, Iraq Journey, Nepal Journey or a Burundi Journey program>>>??? Not many of us US Citizens would be willing to give up the comforts and conveniences of the United States to live in a third world country!!! (Much less their jobs!) I am NOT saying that American women have more sense than we men in matters of love...BUT, there is a VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE of women waiting for their foreign husbands. AND...I've heard some "horror stories" from women who are attempting to bring their boyfriend/husband to the USA.

Think about it....time for a reality check folks!!!!!

Captain Craig

[Carlos and Jocel 2]

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Thanks and so sad to hear these but its not the first and it won't be the last!!!

[JVKn'CVO 11]

I think she found Ken, after being done with you.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...here+did+she+go

Seriously though, you're lucky to have finally stopped the BS when you did.

We hope Ken can chime in soon here, and give his report. The fact that she "disappeared" from him for several days recently raises concerns as well.

People in love do NOT "just disappear" for several days or weeks at a time. This is just not normal!!! IF there is a reason for being gone, this can be communicated by e-mail or telephone calls. People with love, honesty and respect for their other partner... they communicate daily. This is a difficult journey (Visa Journey) and unfortunately there is little that can be done from a continent away. To repeat what I said before...the language of love is universal!!! The ACTIONS of a Colombian/Asian/Japanese/Chinese/Vietnamese woman will be NO DIFFERENT from an American woman in love with you.

You must do whatever is necessary to assure yourself that your overseas partner is loyal, honest and truly in love with you.

Have you noticed that this website has about 90%+ MEN who are/were (me included!) waiting to bring their girlfriends/wives to the USA, Canada or another "first world" country??? Do you think there is a Ukranian Journey, Iraq Journey, Nepal Journey or a Burundi Journey program>>>??? Not many of us US Citizens would be willing to give up the comforts and conveniences of the United States to live in a third world country!!! (Much less their jobs!) I am NOT saying that American women have more sense than we men in matters of love...BUT, there is a VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE of women waiting for their foreign husbands. AND...I've heard some "horror stories" from women who are attempting to bring their boyfriend/husband to the USA.

Think about it....time for a reality check folks!!!!!

Captain Craig

I'm sorry Craig about what happened to you, but would you have trusted an American woman that said she was in love with you, but was 25 years younger, prettier, and made a far more humble living than you?

I think there is more to this than the fact that it was an international relationship.

Saludos,

Caro

[phillyfashionista 8]

Thanks for sharing your story, I empathize with what you went through but everything in life happens for a reason. Like my Momma says always follow your first instinct. I hope you keep your heart open for true love. Stay blessed!

[HannahP 119]

Have you noticed that this website has about 90%+ MEN who are/were (me included!) waiting to bring their girlfriends/wives to the USA, Canada or another "first world" country???

*blinks*

You obviously don't visit the MENA or African sub-forums very often. Also, I believe that 99.9% of the people on this forum want to bring their spouse to America.

[Corinthians 7]

Every country CAN get a visa to visit the US. If there are red flags maybe that would be it's own warning, no?

A "young or younger" woman from any country south of the US is an illegal immigrant until proven otherwise. There is no way anyone from outside a visa waiver country will get a visa.