Stress= fighting

[Cristy 4]

I am totally stressed with my interview coming next week and with all I have to do before we move. We are hoping to move on July 1st if I am approved.

Casey is being his usual procrastinating self and I still don't have the I134 or other stuff. I know it takes 1 day when he sends stuff fedex but I want it now so I know it is here and I am not worrying. But every time I remind him he says I am nagging!

I am a person who needs all my ducks in a row and a solid plan and he is the it will all work out guy.

This last couple of weeks has been so stressful and we are arguing over everything. I just want this to be over!

[Mirorgate 0]

I am totally stressed with my interview coming next week and with all I have to do before we move. We are hoping to move on July 1st if I am approved.

Casey is being his usual procrastinating self and I still don't have the I134 or other stuff. I know it takes 1 day when he sends stuff fedex but I want it now so I know it is here and I am not worrying. But every time I remind him he says I am nagging!

I am a person who needs all my ducks in a row and a solid plan and he is the it will all work out guy.

This last couple of weeks has been so stressful and we are arguing over everything. I just want this to be over!

yep... once over it is easier.... just let him know that you would like to make sure that all the paperwork is in order for the interview. i think i had everything to Sara 2 weeks before hers, and kept calling to make sure she understood what it was to take with her... think i annoyed her and was "badgering" on my end

dont worry so.. it will work out provided you communicate needs/desires/wants and that they are acknowledged. but yes, the paperwork is needed, i'm not sure why if he has it all completed why he doesnt send it though... but thats just me.

[Cristy 4]

In his defense he did just get the paperwork last week because he was in Costa Rica when I sent it. But if it were me I would have had it sent the next day.

[Yodrak 7]

cristy,

Your profile indicates that you and Casey have spent 3 weeks together since you first became acquainted? If it bothers you now, do you think this difference in your styles will melt away when you're with each other 24/7?

Get used to it (both of you), or good luck.

Yodrak

I am totally stressed with my interview coming next week and with all I have to do before we move. We are hoping to move on July 1st if I am approved.

Casey is being his usual procrastinating self and I still don't have the I134 or other stuff. I know it takes 1 day when he sends stuff fedex but I want it now so I know it is here and I am not worrying. But every time I remind him he says I am nagging!

I am a person who needs all my ducks in a row and a solid plan and he is the it will all work out guy.

This last couple of weeks has been so stressful and we are arguing over everything. I just want this to be over!

[gimygirl 0]

well ... it's almost over cristy! hopefully he'll send the papers soon. personally, i wouldnt even ask for them again.

at least you are familiar with his procrastinating side!!

[ktmmansgal 0]

cristy,

Your profile indicates that you and Casey have spent 3 weeks together since you first became acquainted? If it bothers you now, do you think this difference in your styles will melt away when you're with each other 24/7?

Get used to it (both of you), or good luck.

Yodrak

I am totally stressed with my interview coming next week and with all I have to do before we move. We are hoping to move on July 1st if I am approved.

Casey is being his usual procrastinating self and I still don't have the I134 or other stuff. I know it takes 1 day when he sends stuff fedex but I want it now so I know it is here and I am not worrying. But every time I remind him he says I am nagging!

I am a person who needs all my ducks in a row and a solid plan and he is the it will all work out guy.

This last couple of weeks has been so stressful and we are arguing over everything. I just want this to be over!

What is the deal here --- Poor Crissy is now being counseled on her relationship -- as if she has spent only three weeks with this man and does not even know him --- What about the time she has spent communicating with him over the phone and email and internet --- does that not amount to anything --- every couple has adjustment periods -- even if you spend years with each other prior to getting married ---

I get along better with my guy and communicate better and even disagree better than in the relationship I spent 6 years in before moving in together --- I follow my heart and my gut and understand there will be bumps in the road --- those bumps make you stronger --- understanding your differences and respecting them makes for a better couple in the long run -- Go Crissy ---- I respect you and remember things will work out --- everyone is human and when you are with him the things that look like procrastications may not look like it when you share in the responsibilities and you can actually see what is keeping him from things --- B)

[sarah and hicham 3]

cristy,

Your profile indicates that you and Casey have spent 3 weeks together since you first became acquainted? If it bothers you now, do you think this difference in your styles will melt away when you're with each other 24/7?

Get used to it (both of you), or good luck.

Yodrak

I am totally stressed with my interview coming next week and with all I have to do before we move. We are hoping to move on July 1st if I am approved.

Casey is being his usual procrastinating self and I still don't have the I134 or other stuff. I know it takes 1 day when he sends stuff fedex but I want it now so I know it is here and I am not worrying. But every time I remind him he says I am nagging!

I am a person who needs all my ducks in a row and a solid plan and he is the it will all work out guy.

This last couple of weeks has been so stressful and we are arguing over everything. I just want this to be over!

What is the deal here --- Poor Crissy is now being counseled on her relationship -- as if she has spent only three weeks with this man and does not even know him --- What about the time she has spent communicating with him over the phone and email and internet --- does that not amount to anything --- every couple has adjustment periods -- even if you spend years with each other prior to getting married ---

I get along better with my guy and communicate better and even disagree better than in the relationship I spent 6 years in before moving in together --- I follow my heart and my gut and understand there will be bumps in the road --- those bumps make you stronger --- understanding your differences and respecting them makes for a better couple in the long run -- Go Crissy ---- I respect you and remember things will work out --- everyone is human and when you are with him the things that look like procrastications may not look like it when you share in the responsibilities and you can actually see what is keeping him from things --- B)

The last girl who complained about her fiance procrastinating was just the other day and people asked her if she was sure she wanted to marry him.... I do remember that I think it was just yesterday. She may have been a little more angry but people did say it!

Edited June 21, 2006 by sarah and hicham

[Cristy 4]

It always surprises me how people jump to the are you sure you wanna marry him/her. Because of one thing? Because I am stressed out with my interview/moving/leaving all I have ever known/packing/getting married/combining 2 families? We are both far more committed to each other than to let things like this make us destroy our commitment and love for each other.

Of course I am sure or we would not be where we are. Yes we have only spent 3 weeks in each others physical presence....many have spent less, many have spent more. I know him better than I knew my childrens father. And yes I am sure there will be ups and downs and getting used to each other and all that. But yes I am sure I want to marry him. I am simply venting.

Am I the only person to be totally stressed and over reactive a week before the interview?

[sarah and hicham 3]

It always surprises me how people jump to the are you sure you wanna marry him/her. Because of one thing? Because I am stressed out with my interview/moving/leaving all I have ever known/packing/getting married/combining 2 families? We are both far more committed to each other than to let things like this make us destroy our commitment and love for each other.

Of course I am sure or we would not be where we are. Yes we have only spent 3 weeks in each others physical presence....many have spent less, many have spent more. I know him better than I knew my childrens father. And yes I am sure there will be ups and downs and getting used to each other and all that. But yes I am sure I want to marry him. I am simply venting.

Am I the only person to be totally stressed and over reactive a week before the interview?

I never said you shouldn't get married, just that the other day someone posted almost the same thing and people freaked out! Gooooood luck to you!

[Mirorgate 0]

It always surprises me how people jump to the are you sure you wanna marry him/her. Because of one thing? Because I am stressed out with my interview/moving/leaving all I have ever known/packing/getting married/combining 2 families? We are both far more committed to each other than to let things like this make us destroy our commitment and love for each other.

Of course I am sure or we would not be where we are. Yes we have only spent 3 weeks in each others physical presence....many have spent less, many have spent more. I know him better than I knew my childrens father. And yes I am sure there will be ups and downs and getting used to each other and all that. But yes I am sure I want to marry him. I am simply venting.

Am I the only person to be totally stressed and over reactive a week before the interview?

yep. welcome to VJ

seriously though.. you should be getting the papers soon.. just ask politely for them to ensure that you have them at least a cpl of days prior to the interview.. just to check things over (signatures n such)

[ktmmansgal 0]

cristy,

Your profile indicates that you and Casey have spent 3 weeks together since you first became acquainted? If it bothers you now, do you think this difference in your styles will melt away when you're with each other 24/7?

Get used to it (both of you), or good luck.

Yodrak

I am totally stressed with my interview coming next week and with all I have to do before we move. We are hoping to move on July 1st if I am approved.

Casey is being his usual procrastinating self and I still don't have the I134 or other stuff. I know it takes 1 day when he sends stuff fedex but I want it now so I know it is here and I am not worrying. But every time I remind him he says I am nagging!

I am a person who needs all my ducks in a row and a solid plan and he is the it will all work out guy.

This last couple of weeks has been so stressful and we are arguing over everything. I just want this to be over!

What is the deal here --- Poor Crissy is now being counseled on her relationship -- as if she has spent only three weeks with this man and does not even know him --- What about the time she has spent communicating with him over the phone and email and internet --- does that not amount to anything --- every couple has adjustment periods -- even if you spend years with each other prior to getting married ---

I get along better with my guy and communicate better and even disagree better than in the relationship I spent 6 years in before moving in together --- I follow my heart and my gut and understand there will be bumps in the road --- those bumps make you stronger --- understanding your differences and respecting them makes for a better couple in the long run -- Go Crissy ---- I respect you and remember things will work out --- everyone is human and when you are with him the things that look like procrastications may not look like it when you share in the responsibilities and you can actually see what is keeping him from things --- B)

The last girl who complained about her fiance procrastinating was just the other day and people asked her if she was sure she wanted to marry him.... I do remember that I think it was just yesterday. She may have been a little more angry but people did say it!

Yes they did say it --- didn't make it right for me then either --- most of us are here because we all have something in common --- and that something is very frustrating --- having someone make judgements on whether you are or should at this point question your relationship certainly does not ease the stress --- being realistic is one thing taking her stress and amplifying it by asking her to question the relationship is a whole other ... I have been reading Crissys Posts and she is in the Hot seat --- getting not just herself ready but her boys as well --- I am sure if Casey was up there with her this all would seem less stressful to her. But the situation is, that she is here lamenting because she wants others to hear her and calm her last minute stresses. nuff said

[gimygirl 0]

cindy ...

when you share your life with strangers on the internet you MUST be prepared for any and all comments ... from there, if you want to cherry pick the best comments ... so be it.

[ktmmansgal 0]

cindy ...

when you share your life with strangers on the internet you MUST be prepared for any and all comments ... from there, if you want to cherry pick the best comments ... so be it.

Sure enough, but that also does not preclude me from stating my opinion on that as well --- and by the way where is there a name for me of Cindy --- just curious---

cindy ...

when you share your life with strangers on the internet you MUST be prepared for any and all comments ... from there, if you want to cherry pick the best comments ... so be it.

Sure enough, but that also does not preclude me from stating my opinion on that as well --- and by the way where is there a name for me of Cindy --- just curious---

answered my own question --- the timeline

[Reba 2]

Cristy if you think this is frustrating, wait til your AOS!

It'll all be over in a few years. Pace yourself!

[Cristy 4]

Cristy if you think this is frustrating, wait til your AOS!

It'll all be over in a few years. Pace yourself!

Well now that is encouraging!

I am just one of those people who gets so stressed and I know I am driving him nuts with all my worrying. I need to learn to chill.

Thanks ktmmansgal, I really was just venting about the stress and what it is doing to me not about our relationship.