Damage control!!!

[newlynluv 0]

Okay I need sum advice guys,

I am in the process of bring my so up here on a K1 everything has been so good I been on cloud nine , but something recent happened that changed everything I was hospitalized and I was in the hospital for a week in this time I was mad one day because he did not call me but besides that I was really upset that I was still in the hospital after 5 days I was so frustrated and yes sometimes im a lil melodramatic, anyway my roommate called me in the mix of my hissy fit and I was crying she asked me if my so called me today I said no and told her I have to give her a call back cause the nurse was coming… so a hour later she sends me a text saying I sent him a text message “I know you don’t know me but I hope you are sincere with my friend because I am Jamaican myself and know how it is to help someone out and if you think you coming up here to use her you are sadly mistaken and you will be back on that island so fast you won’t know what hit you” omfg is all I can say to myself when reading this message I had no clue why the hell she would send that??? he is sooo pissed off because im sure he feel my friends think that way already and she don’t even know him he is like oh so just because she is Jamaican she know me? She got his number because when I was admitted to the hospital she called him for me… I feel so bad and he is now saying he is not rushing to come up here and if it’s meant to be it will be… he is a virgo and he is so stubborn and when he is mad he just shut down which is what he is doing now, me im like okay it’s not my fault and the papers isn’t going to just fill them self out?? Im soo confused I already put her in her place and let her know that im grown and can handle my own situations but he is saying he feels different now and im sooo frustrated!

[sus 70]

Newly, I am so sorry to hear that - hope you are okay, and the hospitalization was nothing serious - First of all, your friend seriously overstepped her bounds - I know she did it out of love and concern for you - But it is your life, and you need to address that with her -

Secondly, I know that your SO is probably pissed off - But he needs to know that you don't feel that way, you didn't tell her to send the text - and ultimately, the relationship is between the two of you - not your friends, your family - No one but you two and God - If someone else saying something like that can make him change his feelings about you - are you sure that he is the right one or that he is true? You will encounter that and much worse going through this process - He needs to man up, get a thicker skin, and be strong in his love and commitment to you - if he can't do that, he's not worthy of your love - because you would do the same for him.

I am sorry, I know you are hurting and I feel harsh - but for him to say he feels different based on what one person said, in my mind he's not secure enough in your love - Plus for him not to call you for a week when he knows you are in the hospital and sick - where was he, and why wasn't he more concerned that you were okay?

[newlynluv 0]

Newly, I am so sorry to hear that - hope you are okay, and the hospitalization was nothing serious - First of all, your friend seriously overstepped her bounds - I know she did it out of love and concern for you - But it is your life, and you need to address that with her -

Secondly, I know that your SO is probably pissed off - But he needs to know that you don't feel that way, you didn't tell her to send the text - and ultimately, the relationship is between the two of you - not your friends, your family - No one but you two and God - If someone else saying something like that can make him change his feelings about you - are you sure that he is the right one or that he is true? You will encounter that and much worse going through this process - He needs to man up, get a thicker skin, and be strong in his love and commitment to you - if he can't do that, he's not worthy of your love - because you would do the same for him.

I am sorry, I know you are hurting and I feel harsh - but for him to say he feels different based on what one person said, in my mind he's not secure enough in your love - Plus for him not to call you for a week when he knows you are in the hospital and sick - where was he, and why wasn't he more concerned that you were okay?

Sus everything you are saying is on point he did call me just not that one day, he is so stubborn and i have chosen to give him his space and let him cool down and think about the situation and i am hurting but honestly if another person can change what we have going on then it is what it is...

[sus 70]

I know you are hurting - but you have to have faith, and look at this as a test of his commitment - make him show you that you are worth overcoming some adversity - you know you are, but he should be able to show you that by his actions - you deserve nothing less!

I hope all works out for you.

[FRJ 0]

I know you are hurting - but you have to have faith, and look at this as a test of his commitment - make him show you that you are worth overcoming some adversity - you know you are, but he should be able to show you that by his actions - you deserve nothing less!

I hope all works out for you.

if i was him i would be apprehensive too...nothing annoys a man more than meddling friends. i mean if he is over there and he is getting them kinda texts, i'm sure he must be thinking to himself what else is really in store when he comes up here. I can't say that its your fault or anything but you must have your friends in check to the point where they can't even think of doing stuff like that..too many liberties. it now puts you in a position where you have to work very hard to smooth this over.

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I hope everything worked out.