What should we do?

[Imua 0]

As the interview grows closer I am very much afraid - it is hard for me to even chat with my husband now because I don't want him to know how scared I am. I am older than he by 16 years and we were engaged 3 weeks after our first documentable meeting - for these reasons no matter how positive I try to think it is hard not to feel that we will be denied outright and our petition will be sent back to USCIS. I cannot afford legal help.

My biggest fear stems from when we went to the embassy in Kathmandu to get the affidavit of no contest which the Nepal gov't requires in order to legally certify our marriage. When we went there I was nervous and had no idea what to expect. I didn't know that a CO would be asking questions and I got very flustered... She asked when did we meet and I gave the correct date but wrong year('06 instead of '07) and didn't realize it until we walked out the door, affidavit in hand. At the time of course we had not applied for a visa for Govi to come to the US, had not even decided that we would be living here together - we were even thinking of living in Thailand. Nevertheless I would think that the embassy would keep a record of the interview, assuming that we would be applying for a visa at a later date, then when Govi is asked the question again and gives the correct year which does not jibe with my answer two years ago he will accused of fraud and be denied without even being given the reason for denial. I have been having nightmares about this scenario...

Since I cannot be present for the interview I was going to fax the embassy tomorrow and give them my mobile and home numbers in case they have any questions - this has worked for another successful Nepal VJer. I am wondering if I should also bring up my mistake when we were there 2 years ago and explain our correct year of meeting is 2007, not 2006 - really this is the only thing I think I can do at this point.

If anyone else has ideas on how we should handle this situation I would appreciate your advice - thanks....

Edited March 19, 2009 by Pattu Rani

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

As the interview grows closer I am very much afraid - it is hard for me to even chat with my husband now because I don't want him to know how scared I am. I am older than he by 16 years and we were engaged 3 weeks after our first documentable meeting - for these reasons no matter how positive I try to think it is hard not to feel that we will be denied outright and our petition will be sent back to USCIS. I cannot afford legal help.

My biggest fear stems from when we went to the embassy in Kathmandu to get the affidavit of no contest which the Nepal gov't requires in order to legally certify our marriage. When we went there I was nervous and had no idea what to expect. I didn't know that a CO would be asking questions and I got very flustered... She asked when did we meet and I gave the correct date but wrong year('06 instead of '07) and didn't realize it until we walked out the door, affidavit in hand. At the time of course we had not applied for a visa for Govi to come to the US, had not even decided that we would be living here together - we were even thinking of living in Thailand. Nevertheless I would think that the embassy would keep a record of the interview, assuming that we would be applying for a visa at a later date, then when Govi is asked the question again and gives the correct year which does not jibe with my answer two years ago he will accused of fraud and be denied without even being given the reason for denial. I have been having nightmares about this scenario...

Since I cannot be present for the interview I was going to fax the embassy tomorrow and give them my mobile and home numbers in case they have any questions - this has worked for another successful Nepal VJer. I am wondering if I should also bring up my mistake when we were there 2 years ago and explain our correct year of meeting is 2007, not 2006 - really this is the only thing I think I can do at this point.

If anyone else has ideas on how we should handle this situation I would appreciate your advice - thanks....

Pattu, please dont worry too much. I doubt if it will even come up. Its normal to be nervous at that tiime , we all have un- clear moments of thoughts. I cant see them puling the interview from then. If it comes up, question needs to be answered and addressed , and explained. I can not see them holding it against yous for a visa. Plus you have so much proof of a on going marriage, focus on that part, giving them proof of a on going marriage. For contacting embassy, I dont know, its a situation could be of helping or hurting yourself. The point is you met , you fell in love, you married and have a true marriage and you do. I can not see them holding it against you. You will be in my prays.

Edited March 19, 2009 by Paris Heart

[Enlighten one :) 5]

I agree. Its hard to see the bigger picture during this difficult time. You have tons of evidence of a relationship that a simple error should not cause too much alarm. Your love and dedication will shine through in his interview answers.

[Imua 0]

As the interview grows closer I am very much afraid - it is hard for me to even chat with my husband now because I don't want him to know how scared I am. I am older than he by 16 years and we were engaged 3 weeks after our first documentable meeting - for these reasons no matter how positive I try to think it is hard not to feel that we will be denied outright and our petition will be sent back to USCIS. I cannot afford legal help.

My biggest fear stems from when we went to the embassy in Kathmandu to get the affidavit of no contest which the Nepal gov't requires in order to legally certify our marriage. When we went there I was nervous and had no idea what to expect. I didn't know that a CO would be asking questions and I got very flustered... She asked when did we meet and I gave the correct date but wrong year('06 instead of '07) and didn't realize it until we walked out the door, affidavit in hand. At the time of course we had not applied for a visa for Govi to come to the US, had not even decided that we would be living here together - we were even thinking of living in Thailand. Nevertheless I would think that the embassy would keep a record of the interview, assuming that we would be applying for a visa at a later date, then when Govi is asked the question again and gives the correct year which does not jibe with my answer two years ago he will accused of fraud and be denied without even being given the reason for denial. I have been having nightmares about this scenario...

Since I cannot be present for the interview I was going to fax the embassy tomorrow and give them my mobile and home numbers in case they have any questions - this has worked for another successful Nepal VJer. I am wondering if I should also bring up my mistake when we were there 2 years ago and explain our correct year of meeting is 2007, not 2006 - really this is the only thing I think I can do at this point.

If anyone else has ideas on how we should handle this situation I would appreciate your advice - thanks....

Pattu, please dont worry too much. I doubt if it will even come up. Its normal to be nervous at that tiime , we all have un- clear moments of thoughts. I cant see them puling the interview from then. If it comes up, question needs to be answered and addressed , and explained. I can not see them holding it against yous for a visa. Plus you have so much proof of a on going marriage, focus on that part, giving them proof of a on going marriage. For contacting embassy, I dont know, its a situation could be of helping or hurting yourself. The point is you met , you fell in love, you married and have a true marriage and you do. I can not see them holding it against you. You will be in my prays.

So do you think that they would actually question if the dates don't match, bring up my answer back in '07 and then G would have the opportunity to correct it? I am afraid it would be more a situation where they would have it on record but not tell Govi, just deny him and then we would never know the reason why.

Edited March 19, 2009 by Pattu Rani

[ao_cons 1]

If you have been married for some time and have spent a lot of time together, doing things normal married couples do, don't worry so much. It will be okay. All these people want to know is if it's a genuine marriage and you really love each other. That's all. I'm sure it won't be a big issue.

[Imua 0]

If you have been married for some time and have spent a lot of time together, doing things normal married couples do, don't worry so much. It will be okay. All these people want to know is if it's a genuine marriage and you really love each other. That's all. I'm sure it won't be a big issue.

We have not had the time to do all those things because I could only spend 6-7 weeks max in Nepal at a time - in 2 years of marriage we have been physically together for a little over 3 months

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

As the interview grows closer I am very much afraid - it is hard for me to even chat with my husband now because I don't want him to know how scared I am. I am older than he by 16 years and we were engaged 3 weeks after our first documentable meeting - for these reasons no matter how positive I try to think it is hard not to feel that we will be denied outright and our petition will be sent back to USCIS. I cannot afford legal help.

My biggest fear stems from when we went to the embassy in Kathmandu to get the affidavit of no contest which the Nepal gov't requires in order to legally certify our marriage. When we went there I was nervous and had no idea what to expect. I didn't know that a CO would be asking questions and I got very flustered... She asked when did we meet and I gave the correct date but wrong year('06 instead of '07) and didn't realize it until we walked out the door, affidavit in hand. At the time of course we had not applied for a visa for Govi to come to the US, had not even decided that we would be living here together - we were even thinking of living in Thailand. Nevertheless I would think that the embassy would keep a record of the interview, assuming that we would be applying for a visa at a later date, then when Govi is asked the question again and gives the correct year which does not jibe with my answer two years ago he will accused of fraud and be denied without even being given the reason for denial. I have been having nightmares about this scenario...

Since I cannot be present for the interview I was going to fax the embassy tomorrow and give them my mobile and home numbers in case they have any questions - this has worked for another successful Nepal VJer. I am wondering if I should also bring up my mistake when we were there 2 years ago and explain our correct year of meeting is 2007, not 2006 - really this is the only thing I think I can do at this point.

If anyone else has ideas on how we should handle this situation I would appreciate your advice - thanks....

Pattu, please dont worry too much. I doubt if it will even come up. Its normal to be nervous at that tiime , we all have un- clear moments of thoughts. I cant see them puling the interview from then. If it comes up, question needs to be answered and addressed , and explained. I can not see them holding it against yous for a visa. Plus you have so much proof of a on going marriage, focus on that part, giving them proof of a on going marriage. For contacting embassy, I dont know, its a situation could be of helping or hurting yourself. The point is you met , you fell in love, you married and have a true marriage and you do. I can not see them holding it against you. You will be in my prays.

So do you think that they would actually question if the dates don't match, bring up my answer back in '07 and then G would have the opportunity to correct it? I am afraid it would be more a situation where they would have it on record but not tell Govi, just deny him and then we would never know the reason why.

Pattu, it was a honest MISTAKE!!! I can not see them runiing around and saying pull the records from when Pattu and Govi was here a few years ago. Pattu, its a little mistake, its not like you cant explain yoer realtationship the past I mean, or place where you meant, or he cant tell them your middle name, or your birthday, or where you live in the U.S. he knows all aobut you and him. Pattu, it will be okay, IF and only IF it comes up, he can explain it. I suggest you talk to Govi before the interview, but truly my friend, I can not see them pulling paperwork and throwing it up at Govi at interview. Please please talk to him, it is best. It will be fine Pattu!!!

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

If you have been married for some time and have spent a lot of time together, doing things normal married couples do, don't worry so much. It will be okay. All these people want to know is if it's a genuine marriage and you really love each other. That's all. I'm sure it won't be a big issue.

We have not had the time to do all those things because I could only spend 6-7 weeks max in Nepal at a time - in 2 years of marriage we have been physically together for a little over 3 months

Pattu even so, how many couples who married on this webiste has had a 'Normal" marriage?/ Thats why were are all here on VJ. So we can be with our loved ones and have anormal marriage.l

SInce I met Mohand I have spent a total of 45 days with him, and that includes our 2 marriage ceremonies 'long story" What the CO at interview wants to see is a marriage, a constant communication, pics, emails, letters, and you have that!!!!And he has knowledge of you, your middle name, your birthday, your type of work, where you live. Govi will be fine!!!!

[queuedup 1]

Agreed, your application has been accepted by NVC. The interview is for them to determine if there is an ongoing relationship. You clearly have that, so don't worry.(I know its easier said then done) Good Luck with the interview.

Edited March 19, 2009 by queuedup

[Enlighten one :) 5]

If you have been married for some time and have spent a lot of time together, doing things normal married couples do, don't worry so much. It will be okay. All these people want to know is if it's a genuine marriage and you really love each other. That's all. I'm sure it won't be a big issue.

We have not had the time to do all those things because I could only spend 6-7 weeks max in Nepal at a time - in 2 years of marriage we have been physically together for a little over 3 months

That is more time then most petitioning couples. It is a good amount of time considering the expence of traveling.

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

Agreed, your application has been accepted by NVC. The interview is for them to determine if there is an ongoing relationship. You clearly have that, so don't worry.(I know its easier said then done) Good Luck with the interview.

Pattu, the past is the past, CO wants to see evidence of a on going relationship after the day you and Govi said I DO.

If the past is the case, then Im done for, as you know my past history mistake from 24 years ago. But Im not worried about it, cause we are legally married, and we have a true, loving ongoing relationship. With tons and tons of proof of a bona fide marriage just as you do!.

Govi will be fine, but you need to talk to him jus the same Pattu. Take care my Dearest, always here for you!

[trailmix 77]

Pattu,

I completely understand your nervousness, I mean we all see people expressing this all the time on VJ. The Canadian U.S. consulate interview, for the majority of cases, is a breeze - but that does not stop those couples from freaking out as well. I'm just saying that what you are going through is completely normal!

As for the one question answered incorrectly - if they did bring it up, it seems to me that all he would have to say is - oh - well that is an error. As in a - no fault error - copied wrong, you stated it wrong, doesn't matter - he will be confident in his answer and that is all that matters.

This stuff does happen! I called the NVC once to get an update and gave my Husband's incorrect date of birth - we have been married almost 9 years - so don't be kicking yourself about it, it's a stressful situation and i'm sure stuff like this happens all the time.

[Donna A 4]

u have spent more time together then i did with my husband. i spent a week the first time and two weeks the second time and we got approved with no problem.

[trinket 30]

You have spent enough time with your husband, so don't worry on that part.

One question, while petitioning i-130 did you mention about how you two met in a cover letter? If you did and if you remember which date you mentioned in that, just stick with it.

The interview you went through to receive affidavit of no contest was an informal one at the best. As Paris Heart said, it was an honest mistake, if somehow they did keep the record and did ask about the year of meeting, I am sure Govi can elaborate it perfectly. Please don't be so stressed, its not going to do any good.

Be honest and be positive during the interview.

[CaptainRubyHeart 1]

I messed up when I was filling out the application for my husband's I-485 (Adjustment of Status). I said that we were married on 9/9/2008 instead of 8/9/2008. No one at USCIS noticed (or cared). My husband got his green card just the same--no hassle, no problems.

I wouldn't worry about your situation. Everything should be fine.