Can anyone offer advice...

[romany 0]

A Mother’s Dream

Like any parent, we all have big hopes & dreams for our children’s future. We struggle through life trying to make the right choices as parents & trying to make sure that they don’t want or need for anything. But, unfortunately, no matter how I try as a parent to make things right for the future of my children, something seems to get in the way. Some things, I can work my way around to eventually find a solution to the problem, but this problem, no matter how hard I try, I just cant seem to do this one on my own, hence this letter to you. By writing this letter, it may actually cause my family & I more problems, but that is the risk Im willing to take. After all we all take risks once in a while if it benefits our children. Perhaps’s after you have read it, you may have the answer that I need, basically, the answer to my prays.

I am the proud mother of 6 children, 4 girls & 2 boys. Stephanie 17, Natalie 15, Liam 14, Jasmine 12, Rhys 11 & Shannon 9. There all in school & working so hard to make us proud as parents & bringing home good grades. However, Stephanie will be going into 12th Grade this year & has high hope’s of joining the Air force, this has been here ambition for as long as I can remember. She is also currently in N.J.R.O.T.C & has been since starting High School, she has many ribbons & medals. But I am so scared that her hopes & dreams will not become a reality , your probably wondering why, well it is due to the fact that my children & I are still British Citizens despite living in America for almost the past 5 years.

Before, I met & married my soul mate & the love of my life back in 2004, the children & I were living in England. I divorced my ex husband back in 2000 after 10 years of surviving horrific Domestic Violence & Child Abuse. Although we were not living with my ex husband, he would never leave us alone. From 2000 - 2003, we had been in 9 Womens Refuges & just as many houses, having to leave everything behind & flee once more due to the fact he had found us again..... Had to remain on witness protection & we had been known by 5 different last names over the course of time....., I had been in & out of hospital, with yet more broken bones & bruises.....by the end of 2003, my ex husband was labeled as a Section 1 Sex Offender & was forbidden to have any contact with the kids, at last we were free to live our lives & I was given sole custody.

From 2003 to the beginning of 2004, it was a struggle. I carried on trying to live my life but still lived in constant fear & I tried to help the children to re build their lives. They had been through so much but the only one to be affected sexually by my ex was my oldest daughter. Stephanie over the course of the past few years, has over come so much emotion & has more or less rebuilt her life, dealing with her past as I have done & living life now to the fullest. I am so proud of the young women she has turned into.

I settled into ‘single’ life, not trusting men around my children, let alone thinking of re-marrying. But, that’s just what happened. In April 2004, whilst on vacation, I met & fell in love with my 2nd husband Dan. I brought the kids over to visit Dan & the States back in August of 2004. To sit & watch the kids & Dan, you would of thought that they had known each other for years, not just days. When the time came to go back home, I realized that as a mother I had to make a decision. So, due to the fact that I felt that my children had been through so much in their short lives due to their past, it would just be too heartbreaking for them once more to leave Dan. There emotion well being & happiness was my main concern, so we stayed. Me & Dan knew that we would eventually be married somewhere down the line & married Oct 2004, which was the happiest day of my life. We had all the good intentions of starting the immigration process & adjusting our status, but truthfully, we didn’t & still don’t have the thousands of dollars it is going to take to become totally legal. Dan is everything in the world to me & the kids, our too youngest children have never known anyone other than Dan as daddy. They so want Dan's last name, especially Stephanie as she finds it so hard still having my ex's last name.

In the almost 5 years that me & Dan have been together, we have struggled with basic living & constantly live paycheck to paycheck & barely keeping our heads abouve water still. We have lost several homes due to either us not being able to pay the rent or the house falling down around us without the landlord wanting to fix it, we have NEVER once since being here applied for any medical or food assistance or any kind of help from the State. I am living in constant pain with my teeth, due to my ex husband & having the bones in my face broken so many times. Now my teeth are rotten & falling out, im in daily pain to the extent that I just have to put up with it all as nothing I take helps, I cant eat anything without them braking more, I don’t want to leave the house due to pure embarrassment but more to the point I am losing weight so fast, Im scared it is going to damage my health more. I have been to the dentist, but I cant get on a payment plan due to the fact Im ‘not an American’. Come to think of it, I cant give blood, open a bank account, work, drive, goto school if I wanted to. I have a Bachelor of Science Degree in Child & Criminal Psychology & also a diploma in Domestic Violence & Child Abuse Counseling, all of which my ex husband said I could NEVER achieve but I proved him wrong. I would love more than anything to be able to volunteer in a women shelter, using my knowledge & first hand experience, but I cant, why....yes due to the fact that I am not American. What’s more upsetting to me is the fact that I have a rare blood group & I want to give blood, but once again Im not American so I cant.

As a family, we have been through so much, but we have dealt with the issues as & when they arise. I would be lying if I said that it wasn’t tough, many people would of given up a long time ago if they had been through what we have, but our love for each other has pulled us through.

If I could be granted one wish, somehow, someway, it would be for me & the children to become American Citizens. Not so I can live off the State, but so that my children can have a future & I can help my husband to give them the future that they deserve.

Thank-you for taking you time out of your day to read this letter, if there is anything that you could do for my family & I or offer us any advice, then that would be most gratefully appreciated.

Also, what exactly does my American husband have to file I-130 & bio? What do I include in a fee waiver letter?...ANY help would be most appreciated...I am totally drained by all of this & need some help to understand it all

[AaronM 0]

A Mother’s Dream

Like any parent, we all have big hopes & dreams for our children’s future. We struggle through life trying to make the right choices as parents & trying to make sure that they don’t want or need for anything. But, unfortunately, no matter how I try as a parent to make things right for the future of my children, something seems to get in the way. Some things, I can work my way around to eventually find a solution to the problem, but this problem, no matter how hard I try, I just cant seem to do this one on my own, hence this letter to you. By writing this letter, it may actually cause my family & I more problems, but that is the risk Im willing to take. After all we all take risks once in a while if it benefits our children. Perhaps’s after you have read it, you may have the answer that I need, basically, the answer to my prays.

I am the proud mother of 6 children, 4 girls & 2 boys. Stephanie 17, Natalie 15, Liam 14, Jasmine 12, Rhys 11 & Shannon 9. There all in school & working so hard to make us proud as parents & bringing home good grades. However, Stephanie will be going into 12th Grade this year & has high hope’s of joining the Air force, this has been here ambition for as long as I can remember. She is also currently in N.J.R.O.T.C & has been since starting High School, she has many ribbons & medals. But I am so scared that her hopes & dreams will not become a reality , your probably wondering why, well it is due to the fact that my children & I are still British Citizens despite living in America for almost the past 5 years.

Before, I met & married my soul mate & the love of my life back in 2004, the children & I were living in England. I divorced my ex husband back in 2000 after 10 years of surviving horrific Domestic Violence & Child Abuse. Although we were not living with my ex husband, he would never leave us alone. From 2000 - 2003, we had been in 9 Womens Refuges & just as many houses, having to leave everything behind & flee once more due to the fact he had found us again..... Had to remain on witness protection & we had been known by 5 different last names over the course of time....., I had been in & out of hospital, with yet more broken bones & bruises.....by the end of 2003, my ex husband was labeled as a Section 1 Sex Offender & was forbidden to have any contact with the kids, at last we were free to live our lives & I was given sole custody.

From 2003 to the beginning of 2004, it was a struggle. I carried on trying to live my life but still lived in constant fear & I tried to help the children to re build their lives. They had been through so much but the only one to be affected sexually by my ex was my oldest daughter. Stephanie over the course of the past few years, has over come so much emotion & has more or less rebuilt her life, dealing with her past as I have done & living life now to the fullest. I am so proud of the young women she has turned into.

I settled into ‘single’ life, not trusting men around my children, let alone thinking of re-marrying. But, that’s just what happened. In April 2004, whilst on vacation, I met & fell in love with my 2nd husband Dan. I brought the kids over to visit Dan & the States back in August of 2004. To sit & watch the kids & Dan, you would of thought that they had known each other for years, not just days. When the time came to go back home, I realized that as a mother I had to make a decision. So, due to the fact that I felt that my children had been through so much in their short lives due to their past, it would just be too heartbreaking for them once more to leave Dan. There emotion well being & happiness was my main concern, so we stayed. Me & Dan knew that we would eventually be married somewhere down the line & married Oct 2004, which was the happiest day of my life. We had all the good intentions of starting the immigration process & adjusting our status, but truthfully, we didn’t & still don’t have the thousands of dollars it is going to take to become totally legal. Dan is everything in the world to me & the kids, our too youngest children have never known anyone other than Dan as daddy. They so want Dan's last name, especially Stephanie as she finds it so hard still having my ex's last name.

In the almost 5 years that me & Dan have been together, we have struggled with basic living & constantly live paycheck to paycheck & barely keeping our heads abouve water still. We have lost several homes due to either us not being able to pay the rent or the house falling down around us without the landlord wanting to fix it, we have NEVER once since being here applied for any medical or food assistance or any kind of help from the State. I am living in constant pain with my teeth, due to my ex husband & having the bones in my face broken so many times. Now my teeth are rotten & falling out, im in daily pain to the extent that I just have to put up with it all as nothing I take helps, I cant eat anything without them braking more, I don’t want to leave the house due to pure embarrassment but more to the point I am losing weight so fast, Im scared it is going to damage my health more. I have been to the dentist, but I cant get on a payment plan due to the fact Im ‘not an American’. Come to think of it, I cant give blood, open a bank account, work, drive, goto school if I wanted to. I have a Bachelor of Science Degree in Child & Criminal Psychology & also a diploma in Domestic Violence & Child Abuse Counseling, all of which my ex husband said I could NEVER achieve but I proved him wrong. I would love more than anything to be able to volunteer in a women shelter, using my knowledge & first hand experience, but I cant, why....yes due to the fact that I am not American. What’s more upsetting to me is the fact that I have a rare blood group & I want to give blood, but once again Im not American so I cant.

As a family, we have been through so much, but we have dealt with the issues as & when they arise. I would be lying if I said that it wasn’t tough, many people would of given up a long time ago if they had been through what we have, but our love for each other has pulled us through.

If I could be granted one wish, somehow, someway, it would be for me & the children to become American Citizens. Not so I can live off the State, but so that my children can have a future & I can help my husband to give them the future that they deserve.

Thank-you for taking you time out of your day to read this letter, if there is anything that you could do for my family & I or offer us any advice, then that would be most gratefully appreciated.

Also, what exactly does my American husband have to file I-130 & bio? What do I include in a fee waiver letter?...ANY help would be most appreciated...I am totally drained by all of this & need some help to understand it all

I don't personally believe your story , and you should not use this site too soliciate other people . All member's of this site , has real familys , with other people from other countries . And this site is used in this way , and you should be ashamed of yourself of what you wrote " If I could be granted one wish, somehow, someway, it would be for me & the children to become American Citizens. Not so I can live off the State, but so that my children can have a future & I can help my husband to give them the future that they deserve. Thank-you for taking you time out of your day to read this letter, if there is anything that you could do for my family & I or offer us any advice, then that would be most gratefully appreciated. "

[corinne from oz 0]

A Mother’s Dream

Like any parent, we all have big hopes & dreams for our children’s future. We struggle through life trying to make the right choices as parents & trying to make sure that they don’t want or need for anything. But, unfortunately, no matter how I try as a parent to make things right for the future of my children, something seems to get in the way. Some things, I can work my way around to eventually find a solution to the problem, but this problem, no matter how hard I try, I just cant seem to do this one on my own, hence this letter to you. By writing this letter, it may actually cause my family & I more problems, but that is the risk Im willing to take. After all we all take risks once in a while if it benefits our children. Perhaps’s after you have read it, you may have the answer that I need, basically, the answer to my prays.

I am the proud mother of 6 children, 4 girls & 2 boys. Stephanie 17, Natalie 15, Liam 14, Jasmine 12, Rhys 11 & Shannon 9. There all in school & working so hard to make us proud as parents & bringing home good grades. However, Stephanie will be going into 12th Grade this year & has high hope’s of joining the Air force, this has been here ambition for as long as I can remember. She is also currently in N.J.R.O.T.C & has been since starting High School, she has many ribbons & medals. But I am so scared that her hopes & dreams will not become a reality , your probably wondering why, well it is due to the fact that my children & I are still British Citizens despite living in America for almost the past 5 years.

Before, I met & married my soul mate & the love of my life back in 2004, the children & I were living in England. I divorced my ex husband back in 2000 after 10 years of surviving horrific Domestic Violence & Child Abuse. Although we were not living with my ex husband, he would never leave us alone. From 2000 - 2003, we had been in 9 Womens Refuges & just as many houses, having to leave everything behind & flee once more due to the fact he had found us again..... Had to remain on witness protection & we had been known by 5 different last names over the course of time....., I had been in & out of hospital, with yet more broken bones & bruises.....by the end of 2003, my ex husband was labeled as a Section 1 Sex Offender & was forbidden to have any contact with the kids, at last we were free to live our lives & I was given sole custody.

From 2003 to the beginning of 2004, it was a struggle. I carried on trying to live my life but still lived in constant fear & I tried to help the children to re build their lives. They had been through so much but the only one to be affected sexually by my ex was my oldest daughter. Stephanie over the course of the past few years, has over come so much emotion & has more or less rebuilt her life, dealing with her past as I have done & living life now to the fullest. I am so proud of the young women she has turned into.

I settled into ‘single’ life, not trusting men around my children, let alone thinking of re-marrying. But, that’s just what happened. In April 2004, whilst on vacation, I met & fell in love with my 2nd husband Dan. I brought the kids over to visit Dan & the States back in August of 2004. To sit & watch the kids & Dan, you would of thought that they had known each other for years, not just days. When the time came to go back home, I realized that as a mother I had to make a decision. So, due to the fact that I felt that my children had been through so much in their short lives due to their past, it would just be too heartbreaking for them once more to leave Dan. There emotion well being & happiness was my main concern, so we stayed. Me & Dan knew that we would eventually be married somewhere down the line & married Oct 2004, which was the happiest day of my life. We had all the good intentions of starting the immigration process & adjusting our status, but truthfully, we didn’t & still don’t have the thousands of dollars it is going to take to become totally legal. Dan is everything in the world to me & the kids, our too youngest children have never known anyone other than Dan as daddy. They so want Dan's last name, especially Stephanie as she finds it so hard still having my ex's last name.

In the almost 5 years that me & Dan have been together, we have struggled with basic living & constantly live paycheck to paycheck & barely keeping our heads abouve water still. We have lost several homes due to either us not being able to pay the rent or the house falling down around us without the landlord wanting to fix it, we have NEVER once since being here applied for any medical or food assistance or any kind of help from the State. I am living in constant pain with my teeth, due to my ex husband & having the bones in my face broken so many times. Now my teeth are rotten & falling out, im in daily pain to the extent that I just have to put up with it all as nothing I take helps, I cant eat anything without them braking more, I don’t want to leave the house due to pure embarrassment but more to the point I am losing weight so fast, Im scared it is going to damage my health more. I have been to the dentist, but I cant get on a payment plan due to the fact Im ‘not an American’. Come to think of it, I cant give blood, open a bank account, work, drive, goto school if I wanted to. I have a Bachelor of Science Degree in Child & Criminal Psychology & also a diploma in Domestic Violence & Child Abuse Counseling, all of which my ex husband said I could NEVER achieve but I proved him wrong. I would love more than anything to be able to volunteer in a women shelter, using my knowledge & first hand experience, but I cant, why....yes due to the fact that I am not American. What’s more upsetting to me is the fact that I have a rare blood group & I want to give blood, but once again Im not American so I cant.

As a family, we have been through so much, but we have dealt with the issues as & when they arise. I would be lying if I said that it wasn’t tough, many people would of given up a long time ago if they had been through what we have, but our love for each other has pulled us through.

If I could be granted one wish, somehow, someway, it would be for me & the children to become American Citizens. Not so I can live off the State, but so that my children can have a future & I can help my husband to give them the future that they deserve.

Thank-you for taking you time out of your day to read this letter, if there is anything that you could do for my family & I or offer us any advice, then that would be most gratefully appreciated.

Also, what exactly does my American husband have to file I-130 & bio? What do I include in a fee waiver letter?...ANY help would be most appreciated...I am totally drained by all of this & need some help to understand it all

Firstly I am sorry to hear of your stuggles. Unfortuantely life deals us all a hand and we must play it the best we can.

I am assuming by you saying you are 'not American' that you and your children are not permanent residents? Hence you have stayed illegally in the US for all this time. From what I have heard, if you have been there illegal for such a long time, it is advisable to get an immigration attorney for your case.

Also, I don't understand how your children can attend school without a Social Security number? Don't they ask for this etc when they enrol in school?

My two cents, address the immigration issues now rather than later. It will only cause more trouble and money the longer you leave it. I don't think that anyone has spare money to throw away for long and tedious immigration processes but somehow we find it - from family, friends or borrow from the bank. I would also suggest contacting your church for assistance.

Or there is always the option for you and your husband and family to return to England....you will get public health over there and your children can have a future there. Even while being in the US, you may be entitled to a pension (child support/battered wife etc) from the British government.

By the way, you can open a bank account (savings or checking) with Bank of America without having a Social Security Number. They even accept overseas addresses.

Good luck with everything.

[conquest 0]

You have been here in the United states living Illegally?

If that is the case, good luck I dont think you will be able to get a visa to stay here or become citizens but then I am no expert on that.

Those that have over stayed their visa are usually banned from the US either for a long period of time or permanantly.

Edited March 19, 2009 by conquest

[Old Dominion 26]

If all this is true, then you should contact the Catholic Charities program nearest you. They have access to counselors, financial advisors, and immigration law experts to help you work through your situation intelligently. Can your husband find a higher paying job or even take on a second one to be sure you can pay rent, etc. every month?

[kcoyclay1 98]

Firstly I am sorry to hear of your stuggles. Unfortuantely life deals us all a hand and we must play it the best we can.

I am assuming by you saying you are 'not American' that you and your children are not permanent residents? Hence you have stayed illegally in the US for all this time. From what I have heard, if you have been there illegal for such a long time, it is advisable to get an immigration attorney for your case.

Also, I don't understand how your children can attend school without a Social Security number? Don't they ask for this etc when they enrol in school?

My two cents, address the immigration issues now rather than later. It will only cause more trouble and money the longer you leave it. I don't think that anyone has spare money to throw away for long and tedious immigration processes but somehow we find it - from family, friends or borrow from the bank. I would also suggest contacting your church for assistance.

Or there is always the option for you and your husband and family to return to England....you will get public health over there and your children can have a future there. Even while being in the US, you may be entitled to a pension (child support/battered wife etc) from the British government.

By the way, you can open a bank account (savings or checking) with Bank of America without having a Social Security Number. They even accept overseas addresses.

Good luck with everything.

Children are allowed to attend school in the USA without a SS# and depending on the state they live in, like NY, they can receive free health care until they are 19yrs old. Free health care being 100% free dental, 100% free doctor visit, surgeries etc and 100% free prescription coverage.

Edited March 19, 2009 by kcoyclay1

[corinne from oz 0]

A Mother’s Dream

Like any parent, we all have big hopes & dreams for our children’s future. We struggle through life trying to make the right choices as parents & trying to make sure that they don’t want or need for anything. But, unfortunately, no matter how I try as a parent to make things right for the future of my children, something seems to get in the way. Some things, I can work my way around to eventually find a solution to the problem, but this problem, no matter how hard I try, I just cant seem to do this one on my own, hence this letter to you. By writing this letter, it may actually cause my family & I more problems, but that is the risk Im willing to take. After all we all take risks once in a while if it benefits our children. Perhaps’s after you have read it, you may have the answer that I need, basically, the answer to my prays.

I am the proud mother of 6 children, 4 girls & 2 boys. Stephanie 17, Natalie 15, Liam 14, Jasmine 12, Rhys 11 & Shannon 9. There all in school & working so hard to make us proud as parents & bringing home good grades. However, Stephanie will be going into 12th Grade this year & has high hope’s of joining the Air force, this has been here ambition for as long as I can remember. She is also currently in N.J.R.O.T.C & has been since starting High School, she has many ribbons & medals. But I am so scared that her hopes & dreams will not become a reality , your probably wondering why, well it is due to the fact that my children & I are still British Citizens despite living in America for almost the past 5 years.

Before, I met & married my soul mate & the love of my life back in 2004, the children & I were living in England. I divorced my ex husband back in 2000 after 10 years of surviving horrific Domestic Violence & Child Abuse. Although we were not living with my ex husband, he would never leave us alone. From 2000 - 2003, we had been in 9 Womens Refuges & just as many houses, having to leave everything behind & flee once more due to the fact he had found us again..... Had to remain on witness protection & we had been known by 5 different last names over the course of time....., I had been in & out of hospital, with yet more broken bones & bruises.....by the end of 2003, my ex husband was labeled as a Section 1 Sex Offender & was forbidden to have any contact with the kids, at last we were free to live our lives & I was given sole custody.

From 2003 to the beginning of 2004, it was a struggle. I carried on trying to live my life but still lived in constant fear & I tried to help the children to re build their lives. They had been through so much but the only one to be affected sexually by my ex was my oldest daughter. Stephanie over the course of the past few years, has over come so much emotion & has more or less rebuilt her life, dealing with her past as I have done & living life now to the fullest. I am so proud of the young women she has turned into.

I settled into ‘single’ life, not trusting men around my children, let alone thinking of re-marrying. But, that’s just what happened. In April 2004, whilst on vacation, I met & fell in love with my 2nd husband Dan. I brought the kids over to visit Dan & the States back in August of 2004. To sit & watch the kids & Dan, you would of thought that they had known each other for years, not just days. When the time came to go back home, I realized that as a mother I had to make a decision. So, due to the fact that I felt that my children had been through so much in their short lives due to their past, it would just be too heartbreaking for them once more to leave Dan. There emotion well being & happiness was my main concern, so we stayed. Me & Dan knew that we would eventually be married somewhere down the line & married Oct 2004, which was the happiest day of my life. We had all the good intentions of starting the immigration process & adjusting our status, but truthfully, we didn’t & still don’t have the thousands of dollars it is going to take to become totally legal. Dan is everything in the world to me & the kids, our too youngest children have never known anyone other than Dan as daddy. They so want Dan's last name, especially Stephanie as she finds it so hard still having my ex's last name.

In the almost 5 years that me & Dan have been together, we have struggled with basic living & constantly live paycheck to paycheck & barely keeping our heads abouve water still. We have lost several homes due to either us not being able to pay the rent or the house falling down around us without the landlord wanting to fix it, we have NEVER once since being here applied for any medical or food assistance or any kind of help from the State. I am living in constant pain with my teeth, due to my ex husband & having the bones in my face broken so many times. Now my teeth are rotten & falling out, im in daily pain to the extent that I just have to put up with it all as nothing I take helps, I cant eat anything without them braking more, I don’t want to leave the house due to pure embarrassment but more to the point I am losing weight so fast, Im scared it is going to damage my health more. I have been to the dentist, but I cant get on a payment plan due to the fact Im ‘not an American’. Come to think of it, I cant give blood, open a bank account, work, drive, goto school if I wanted to. I have a Bachelor of Science Degree in Child & Criminal Psychology & also a diploma in Domestic Violence & Child Abuse Counseling, all of which my ex husband said I could NEVER achieve but I proved him wrong. I would love more than anything to be able to volunteer in a women shelter, using my knowledge & first hand experience, but I cant, why....yes due to the fact that I am not American. What’s more upsetting to me is the fact that I have a rare blood group & I want to give blood, but once again Im not American so I cant.

As a family, we have been through so much, but we have dealt with the issues as & when they arise. I would be lying if I said that it wasn’t tough, many people would of given up a long time ago if they had been through what we have, but our love for each other has pulled us through.

If I could be granted one wish, somehow, someway, it would be for me & the children to become American Citizens. Not so I can live off the State, but so that my children can have a future & I can help my husband to give them the future that they deserve.

Thank-you for taking you time out of your day to read this letter, if there is anything that you could do for my family & I or offer us any advice, then that would be most gratefully appreciated.

Also, what exactly does my American husband have to file I-130 & bio? What do I include in a fee waiver letter?...ANY help would be most appreciated...I am totally drained by all of this & need some help to understand it all

Just a thought....I guess if children can attend school without a SSN - then does this not encourage illegal immigrants to come to the US?

Also, England is not a bad country at all to live in. In fact, I know of many Aussies who are going to great lengths to go live there. I lived and worked there for awhile many years ago. Its a beautiful country with the same opportunities as the US. In fact, if you are British, you can go anywhere on continent Europe. The world is at your doorstep. In light of this, I do now think the story is a bit fictional. If she was coming from a country where women are oppressed, violence and war, then perhaps.....but coming from the UK...I don't think so!

[Sprailenes 47]

Here's my advice:

[Jon&Lindsey 0]

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. Contacting the Catholic charities is a good idea (you don't have to be Catholic). However, you made a conscious decision for both you and your children to stay here illegally, so your immigration problems now are the result of your own decision, not bad luck or your ex. Everyone on here had to spend time apart from their loved one, unfortunately that's just part of being in love with someone from a different country. I'm afraid I don't understand why you did not/do not return to the UK, where you can live legally with free education and healthcare and your daughter could join the air force. Spousal visas to the UK take much less time than getting status here, also you are only having to do it for one person not 7, so you could all live there together. With your qualifications, you could work too and not have 8 people dependent on one salary. I do feel bad for your situation, but it seems somewhat self-inflicted, since you came from a perfectly civilized country where you would be having a better quality of life than this, and put being instantly with your partner above all else.

[corinne from oz 0]

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. Contacting the Catholic charities is a good idea (you don't have to be Catholic). However, you made a conscious decision for both you and your children to stay here illegally, so your immigration problems now are the result of your own decision, not bad luck or your ex. Everyone on here had to spend time apart from their loved one, unfortunately that's just part of being in love with someone from a different country. I'm afraid I don't understand why you did not/do not return to the UK, where you can live legally with free education and healthcare and your daughter could join the air force. Spousal visas to the UK take much less time than getting status here, also you are only having to do it for one person not 7, so you could all live there together. With your qualifications, you could work too and not have 8 people dependent on one salary. I do feel bad for your situation, but it seems somewhat self-inflicted, since you came from a perfectly civilized country where you would be having a better quality of life than this, and put being instantly with your partner above all else.

Well said!

[justashooter 430]

some pretty heavy hammers on this one, but not entirely unwarranted.

this site is peopled (primarily) by persons engaged or involved in the process of legal immigration. these people all pay the fees and endure the process. they do not have much sympathy for persons who have gained the reward (immigration) without paying the fees and playing the waiting game. they also do not have much sympathy for people who say they have never taken advantage of government assistance, and yet, have 6 children in American schools, at great expense to the taxpayer. The average K-12 child costs the state about $4000 a year to educate. surely you have not paid that much in taxes? ($4000 X 6 X 5 years = $140,000, just in school benefits).

i would have to agree that you should go to the nearest english embassy and appeal for funding to take your children back where they came from, and back to where they have a real chance at a future. keeping them here as illegals is a horrible disservice, and not something a loving mother would do. when you get back to england, you can start paying back that $140,000. mail it directly to me, in whatever increments you can afford.

[KIMCORENE 0]

some pretty heavy hammers on this one, but not entirely unwarranted.

this site is peopled (primarily) by persons engaged or involved in the process of legal immigration. these people all pay the fees and endure the process. they do not have much sympathy for persons who have gained the reward (immigration) without paying the fees and playing the waiting game. they also do not have much sympathy for people who say they have never taken advantage of government assistance, and yet, have 6 children in American schools, at great expense to the taxpayer. The average K-12 child costs the state about $4000 a year to educate. surely you have not paid that much in taxes? ($4000 X 6 X 5 years = $140,000, just in school benefits).

i would have to agree that you should go to the nearest english embassy and appeal for funding to take your children back where they came from, and back to where they have a real chance at a future. keeping them here as illegals is a horrible disservice, and not something a loving mother would do. when you get back to england, you can start paying back that $140,000. mail it directly to me, in whatever increments you can afford.

Seriously, though, I agree with you. If in five years you have been unable to afford to file for AOS or have made no move to do so, then you are indeed doing a disservice to your kids by keeping them here illegally. I understand and sympathize with the situation you left in England, but being here is not helping your kids' futures. Unless you can get a fee waiver or a fairy godmother to pay for AOS for you and your kids, you and your husband may consider being resposible adults and relocating to the U.K., then trying to return here legally. And if this is a fake post, get a life!

[romany 0]

Thank You all SO much for your comments...however save yourself all the time & energy not replying anymore to this post & please remove me from this site..this site was recommended to me..none of you know me or my family from Adam..as to 'fabricating this story' well fine your entitled to your opinion but I am the one sitting with all the police reports etc from back home..you know nothing about me on a persoanl level..my husband pays taxs & also school meals for the kids so YOUR taxes are paying #### all for me or my family...

Like I said, please feel free to waste your time posting to this post..I wont be reading it so it wont bother me in the slightest...I came to this site for some information..if I wanted to be bitched at in the way that you all have done then I would of stayed married to my first husband!!!

Hope all of you in the process of your immigrations, get what you require to keep your family a happy one & good luck with your immigration journey..

If there is a moderator or a way for this to be deleted & myself removed from your site then please do so...I not going to waste my time or anyone from this site with any further correspondence from myself....

Have a good day

Edited March 19, 2009 by romany

[tanyaru 3]

I am the proud mother of 6 children, 4 girls & 2 boys. Stephanie 17, Natalie 15, Liam 14, Jasmine 12, Rhys 11 & Shannon 9. There all in school & working so hard to make us proud as parents & bringing home good grades. However, Stephanie will be going into 12th Grade this year & has high hope’s of joining the Air force, this has been here ambition for as long as I can remember. She is also currently in N.J.R.O.T.C & has been since starting High School, she has many ribbons & medals. But I am so scared that her hopes & dreams will not become a reality , your probably wondering why, well it is due to the fact that my children & I are still British Citizens despite living in America for almost the past 5 years.

She cannot be ROTC unless she is a US Citizen...

[KIMCORENE 0]

I am the proud mother of 6 children, 4 girls & 2 boys. Stephanie 17, Natalie 15, Liam 14, Jasmine 12, Rhys 11 & Shannon 9. There all in school & working so hard to make us proud as parents & bringing home good grades. However, Stephanie will be going into 12th Grade this year & has high hope’s of joining the Air force, this has been here ambition for as long as I can remember. She is also currently in N.J.R.O.T.C & has been since starting High School, she has many ribbons & medals. But I am so scared that her hopes & dreams will not become a reality , your probably wondering why, well it is due to the fact that my children & I are still British Citizens despite living in America for almost the past 5 years.

She cannot be ROTC unless she is a US Citizen...

Hmmm, very interesting...