Filipino fiancee never arrived and is missing

[Bobby+Umit 161]

I am not sure what else I can do. They say there is not much that can really be done. Maybe I should just list a set of questions and see what people have to say.

1) Is this something that anyone has heard of before?

Yes - google it.

2) Could she marry someone since I was her sponsor?

Yes, since she is illegal in 90 days, what does it matter if she is in more trouble?

3) Am I still responsible for her since I have contacted all the agencies?

No, since you will not file for AOS and fill out the I-864, you will not be responsible for her.

4) What agencies should I have contacted? (To confirm that I have done all I could do)

USCIS

5) What does this do for my chances in the future if I ever try something like this again?

Depends on how soon you try to do it. Read the rules on the I-129F for guidelines. But after this happened, do you really want to attempt another "foreign affair"?

6) Can you file a prenuptial agreement before you are married on a K visa? (This is for future reference)

K-1 visa has no bearing on a prenuptial, they are two separate things. But a prenuptial will not stop the affidavit of support from being used against you.

7) Where might I find more information on what I should do?

Contact a lawyer.

[Don José 2]

This is such a nice work of fiction. Univision should get the rights for a telenovela in the making!

[spookyturtle 9,466]

spooky like i said earlier, people to strange things that we can't understand when they're desperate

Like making a sex toy out of a jigsaw.

[Amby 490]

spooky like i said earlier, people to strange things that we can't understand when they're desperate

Like making a sex toy out of a jigsaw.

great example

[edp333 9]

This story seems similar to the Asian lady that disappeared at O'Hare. The cameras showed her leaving the plane but not the airport.

Anyway, I'll bet she was on a Northwestern flight.

[Scott & Lai 12]

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

I think most adults are well aware of their value on the dating scene and it not surprising a tiny minority would look into marrying a more desirable foreign spouse. Sometimes the thought of marrying a local person out of desperation is worse.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

Skip the bars and save yourself the hassle.

So, your value judgment is more valid than someone who chooses differently?

Nessa made a lot of sense. Deliberately trying to find a spouse from another country, for whatever reason, is adding an extra layer of difficulty. Why would you be in denial about that?

Though I wasn't purposely seeking a foreign spouse when I met Lai (on a Christian singles' site), if the worst happened and I found myself single again, I would certainly consider foreign countries in my search for a SO. 'Course, I also seem to be in the minority here in that I actively, purposely sought a spouse, it didn't just "happen."

[DREXEL1 0]

So lemme get this straight. You did not meet your fiance, a woman who is from another culture and country who has never been in the US, at the airport because you wanted to test her and see if she really loved you? If I was her and my fiance didn't have the courtesy to meet me at the airport after flying all over the world and giving up my life, my family to be with him I would have exited stage left as well. Maybe she called you to see if she could tell that YOU really loved HER and when you didn't pass her test she bailed?

Read all my posts YES I MEET HER IN PERSON. AS FAR AS I KNOW YOU HAVE TO 99% OF THE TIME OR THEY WILL DECLINE HER VISA.

[DREXEL1 0]

I did not read all the posts, but I'm assuming you:

1) Called the airlines to verify that she was on the flight in question.

2) Called the airport to ask if they have surveillance in relation to her flight.

3) Called the police to discuss your options.

4) Called USCIS to discuss your options....

There's not much else you can do though, unless she appears out of nowhere...

But generally, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I would be frantic and heartbroken if that were me

Regards,

Kat

I verified all her flights till the time she disappeared

I talked to the airport police they have their own department I would think that is something they would do I should not have to tell them to look at surveillance.

I do have a missing report filed, called Homeland Security, USCIS as well

YES I am very heartbroken and Frantic

So, did you phone her family? Find out what they know?

As stated I do not know her families number since they lived in a different provience

He PM'd me and it's probably best not say anymore until he's back and can provide more info.

Tell him to give you information about the police report to the extent that you can call someone to verify.... or tell him to send it to me and I'll verify.

He is a load of...............

Yes, I have a police report and what would their response be if you called them? Do you want to be involved in a missing persons? I would hope not, since it would raise more questions and not in the right direction.

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

He's tasted Pinay! He can't help himself! He's hooked!

It's not about that at all it was about Compatibility and common interest.

[DREXEL1 0]

Then what did this mean?

have always given a person every chance to leave and get out, and she was very intelligent so I know if I did not meet her at the landing airport she still had everything that she would need to make to me. I would have done that for anyone I have ever dated, and it always ends up the same. I believe that everyone should have the last minute of choice, but this one has cost me time, money, paperwork, and maybe even a chance to try again in the future. I hope I do not come off wrong, I am worried, but all signs point to the fool and the mistake. Thank you for reading my post. Thank you for taking the time, and thank you for any ideas that might help.

I do agree but as far as knowing and getting there early that sounds more like I am not giving you a choice. To life is all about choice and I gave her that last one.

So lemme get this straight. You did not meet your fiance, a woman who is from another culture and country who has never been in the US, at the airport because you wanted to test her and see if she really loved you? If I was her and my fiance didn't have the courtesy to meet me at the airport after flying all over the world and giving up my life, my family to be with him I would have exited stage left as well. Maybe she called you to see if she could tell that YOU really loved HER and when you didn't pass her test she bailed?

No, the poster wrote in the first post that she made it through customs in Detroit, but never rechecked her bags and never got on the connecting flight. So he was not testing her, she had to take another plane to get to where he lived.

I was saying there is a connecting flight we both knew that. She worked for an airlines so she understands how airlines work. I was waiting at the final destination with a funny big sign, my sister and brother and law, and flowers.

Thanks, for the support.

[DREXEL1 0]

Did you send her money in the Philippines? Did you pay for her medical, visa interview and her plane ticket? I wonder if she is a member of the Abu Sayyaf? Why else would she want to come to the United States on a 90-day visa? She could have married you and stayed longer and then run away with a two-year green card?

I think your post is being made up. It does have many discrepancies. It does not meet the stink test.

Now I am wondering the samething that is always an option, when I did not think it was before. How could I have know or know now. Yes, I paid for everything, I do not think many people there could pay for it themselves.

It is a worry of mine, but that would also lead back to way call?

[DREXEL1 0]

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

I think most adults are well aware of their value on the dating scene and it not surprising a tiny minority would look into marrying a more desirable foreign spouse. Sometimes the thought of marrying a local person out of desperation is worse.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

Skip the bars and save yourself the hassle.

Thank you for an honest comment. The only place it seems to meet someone here is at a bar, be introduced, or at church. I have had my share of bars, and never ever meet someone I did not already know or have plans of meeting. To many meat heads for my liking, I want someone interested in me not because I am one of the few to choose from.

Also all my friends are gone, married moved, and at my position dating at work so not really an option so that leaves church. Have you ever tried to talk to a say prospect in a Catholic American Church? Do young with parents, married, or retired.

[DREXEL1 0]

He gave me his contact info as well as his fiancee's full name and address back in Cebu. I offered to help him at least find out what happened. One way to know if she is ok is to check her MySpace or Friendster account, which will show when she last logged in. If she's ok, more than likely, she's been in contact with her family. Hopefully, the OP can find out if she is in fact ok, possibly get her to explain to him why she did what she did and then put this all behind him.

I tried that several times before we got serious, but if you throw any veriasions in like a year difference Anne instead of Joanne it is a feat.

[DREXEL1 0]

Steven, that is really nice of you to offer your help. I hope he is on the up and up and that the woman has not been abducted.

I guess I just don't quite understand why someone would be on a message board searching for advice about a person that disappeared. It seems that the police, USCIS, the airline, the airport etc. would be the place to concentrate ones efforts, not asking strangers if we think he got scammed. But that's just my opinion. At this point, if the story is true, the main concern should be for this woman's well being. Was she abducted or not? Or was it all a scam to get into the US?

The point if reading the whole post and what I have said is, I have done all that, followed and the channels, and steps. It was not easy and help was not friendly. I was told by 7 of 10 people you are SOL she is an adult. After 3 days someone was nice enough to say if you print your info and hers out, have it nortorized, and fax it to us then we can do something for you. THREE DAYS LATER

The point was maybe to vent, maybe to see if this kind of thing really happens, maybe to see if I just have that kind of luck, maybe for just honest people to hear my story and know it happens.

Edited March 19, 2009 by sirdrexel

[DREXEL1 0]

spooky like i said earlier, people to strange things that we can't understand when they're desperate

My concern is for her but the main fact is this.....

She had no reason to leave the airport at all for NO reason. To call and say she was at a payphone at the airport and the police say she was not. She worked in the airlines as a ticket agent at one point, and dealt with people all the time, if something was going to happen I would think she would have yelled, or something.

Am I worried for her yes I am, but at what point does common sense take over?

[DREXEL1 0]

This story seems similar to the Asian lady that disappeared at O'Hare. The cameras showed her leaving the plane but not the airport.

Anyway, I'll bet she was on a Northwestern flight.

NWA was the flight. The poilce say she never booked then or later under that name