Filipino fiancee never arrived and is missing

[DREXEL1 0]

I was wondering if anyone could help me. Give me advice or suggestions or tell me if this story of any kind that they have heard of before, or even where I might post something like this.

I will start by saying that I have used this site for information, searching and curiosity. I know there are people here that might be able to at least help me have more piece of mind as to what has happened. I have done research, understand, and also understand the Philippines are not always the easiest place to live. Her location at the time was Cebu, but she was from Zamboanga where her parents still lived or so I was told, and Catholic.

This is my story.

I have known my fiancée for a year and half. We had completed our paper work. She made it to the Detroit airport, made it through customs, and then never rechecked her bags. I now honestly think that she is gone, and has left to whatever destination that she had planned, but I am still praying she is alive and ok.

The story so far. I knew her well, or at least thought I did. We talked on the phone for the last year several times a day (10 to 20 minutes a day) plus e-mails. We are only 9 years apart in age and she is 25, so there is not a big age difference. In our conversations there might have been 3 occasions that I felt something was not right, but being so far apart, and for different cultures I wrote that off as just me, differences, or just me maybe getting cold feet. She never slipped up or changed her story (this is the part that is hard since I listen for thing like that). She was not suppose to have friends or family here, and had never been to the states.

She was confirmed to have arrived at Detroit, but then never rechecked her baggage for the connecting flight. Once she arrived, she called me as planned, she seemed upset, talked for a few minutes, never said goodbye and we got disconnected. The number appeared to be from an abandon apartment that no has lived at for over a year, but yet the number was still working, and it was off airport grounds. Why did she call? She was out, and free so I do not understand that part either which leads me to think how deep or conceived a plan it was.

I have filed a missing persons report, and talked to all the correct agencies that I need to as far as I know (I do not want to spell that out), and doing what I need to do to protect myself and my future.

Has anyone ever heard of anything like this before? If it was a scam it was very well though out, and planned, and I do come from the streets so to say so I know a scam when one has happened or being used. Maybe some of this is just to vent and get my story out there, but that does not change that I am scared, upset, worried (for her and myself) and confused.

Since I was her sponsor could she just marry someone else? Is this something that really happens to people or is a strange kind of luck? We seemed to have so much in common, and it was not me saying oh I like this and her agreeing. I would find out what she liked, and then if say it was the same kind of show or book, be like wow me too.

I have always given a person every chance to leave and get out, and she was very intelligent so I know if I did not meet her at the landing airport she still had everything that she would need to make to me. I would have done that for anyone I have ever dated, and it always ends up the same. I believe that everyone should have the last minute of choice, but this one has cost me time, money, paperwork, and maybe even a chance to try again in the future. I hope I do not come off wrong, I am worried, but all signs point to the fool and the mistake. Thank you for reading my post. Thank you for taking the time, and thank you for any ideas that might help.

I am not sure what else I can do. They say there is not much that can really be done. Maybe I should just list a set of questions and see what people have to say.

1) Is this something that anyone has heard of before?

2) Could she marry someone since I was her sponsor?

3) Am I still responsible for her since I have contacted all the agencies?

4) What agencies should I have contacted? (To confirm that I have done all I could do)

5) What does this do for my chances in the future if I ever try something like this again?

6) Can you file a prenuptial agreement before you are married on a K visa? (This is for future reference)

7) Where might I find more information on what I should do?

I have not given up on the idea as a whole, but I am at a loss of words, and feel if I ever do this again I need to make sure that I am protected. As for Anne, I pray, feel remorse, and hope she is ok. My dreams and ambitions have died more than I ever though possible since I decided to give that last open door. I hope I will at some point forgive myself and her for everything that has happened.

Thanks for reading, and just make sure if you are going through with a K Visa you are sure and give them the choices they need.

[sweet_wifey22 0]

Sorry to hear about your situition. How many times did you come to the Philippines to see her?

What did you think was not right on those 3 occasions? It sounds she already had plans to go

her own way when she arrived in Detroit.

Did you contact USCIS concerning her k1 status?

[rebeccajo 14]

If your girl was upset on the phone (as you say) and calling you from an abandoned apartment, I wonder if there isn't more going on here than the everyday scam.

Human trafficking occurs every day via immigration fraud. There may well have been someone waiting in Detroit to collect her, and you may indeed have been used to get her over here. But it might not have been a person she was happy to see.

I suggest you ramp up your resources to get to the bottom of this. Your girl could well indeed be involved in something she does not deserve.

[payxibka 10,047]

When was the last time you saw her?

[sara..... 371]

oh my God im so sorry for what happened i hope that she is ok, i dont think i have heard of this happening before but then again i have only been on this forum for a year and some odd months...........i hope u at least find out that she is ok so that u can have some closure to this mess my God Bless You!!!!!

sara

[justashooter 430]

as has been suggested before, it's likely that she used you as a stepping stone and has gone on to be with other fillipinos. what she is now doing prolly depends on what kind of people they are. she is either having a good time with a new boyfriend and family, or is working involuntarily in a brothel.

[Caladan 19]

She can't just marry someone else and stay; she can only adjust from a K-1 based on her marriage to you.

But I agree with rebeccajo. This smells a little bit funny (if it were a scam, why would she call?)

[rebeccajo 14]

She can't just marry someone else and stay; she can only adjust from a K-1 based on her marriage to you.

But I agree with rebeccajo. This smells a little bit funny (if it were a scam, why would she call?)

It sounds 'funnier' the more I think about it (and the more I read comments in the thread the more things come to mind).

Any number of things could have happened here. There could have been an outright crime. Or she could have agreed to meet a 'friend' during her layover who turned out not to be so friendly.

I do think it odd that she would phone and then disappear. Most true scammers are more creative than that.

[Nessa 23]

This smells a little bit funny (if it were a scam, why would she call?)

to pretend she didn't used him for a green card and then ran away. simple. maybe she liked him and felt guilty and wanted to comfort him.

[justashooter 430]

here's another possibility. in the linked article we read about recruiters that bring filipinas in to work menial jobs for low salaries, which are still appealing to the filipinas. the scenario is detailed on page 2:

http://www.laweekly.com/2009-02-19/news/en...eldercare-trap/

[rebeccajo 14]

This smells a little bit funny (if it were a scam, why would she call?)

to pretend she didn't used him for a green card and then ran away. simple. maybe she liked him and felt guilty and wanted to comfort him.

That is possible too, Nessa.

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

I hope you get to the bottom of it.

BTW - how did you find out where the phone number she called you from originated?

[shang 0]

I hope you get to the bottom of it.

BTW - how did you find out where the phone number she called you from originated?

I heard this story once, daughter of my mom's friend. The guy spend a lot on her but the girl is living with a filipino guy and they even had a child. I don't know it may sound so stupid for a guy for continuing processing visa for her. Everything was set, and the girl arrived in US but the guy kept waiting for her at the airport and she didn't show up. According to her mom, she doesn't like the guy, so that case she is using him to make it in US. ANd I think someone is keeping her. And working illegally. Coz if its legal, she can be traced. I think you can report it to your authority or USCIS or whatever office that can help you to make an action for this case. I wish you luck. And I hope that what you have been through now won't be a reason to find true love or being with someone to spend life in future. Just take this as a lesson and move on. You've wasted money, time and effort for this, maybe there is something good will happen in return. And for her, if she did mess around or using you, she can't escape in God's eyes. What goes around comes around. THere's good and bad karma and I hope when karma comes in her life, I hope that it will hit directly to her not to the people around her...

[D.henry 0]

First of all i want you take heart my question for you is that do you have a copy of her passport which the Us Visa page, If you Report To Uscis you have nothing to worry no matter where she may be ,she can be find your name in on the visa ,if she going to do anything she have a lot to do.on the other hand the phone call you have the number but while will she be upset on the phone , i blv she will have contact her family......................,But time will tell just keep your finger cross you have spend monet and time but i cant tell you there some 1 wonderful outside waiting but the best is yet to happen i just no one sweet talk her at the airport but just keep your finger cross.

[payxibka 10,047]

I hope you get to the bottom of it.

BTW - how did you find out where the phone number she called you from originated?

My question too... how does one know it is an abandoned apartment? Missing person's report and the Wayne County Sherrif's office checked it out?

Edited March 18, 2009 by payxibka