Getting out before I get had

[retiredfromforum 1]

Hello again

I am posting again after trying to gather as much information as I could to make the most logical decision.

I did speak with my wife regarding the letter I posted in topic:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=180170

I asked for several things, her removal of all the 12 or so different email addresses she had, the 61 year old pimp is now in total control of these emails as they hacked my computer obtained my email information and then tried to hide as best they could the email info so that I could not walk right back in and read some even worse emails(yes, there are worse ones than the one I posted)

So after sitting back and logically thinking this though and after having what I call a mini-argument. My wife flat out punched me in the face closed fisted. I do not know the reason or the intent, perhaps she thought I might hit her back so she could claim abuse? But as I said before, I would never hit a woman so I took her punching me in the face as the final step in a long line of LIES and DECIEPT from her.

Give me information on how to pull the Adjustment of Status paperwork. I contact USCIS? Do I need to fill out a form? Do I go into their office personally?(It is close to where I live)

I have officially given up, I tried, I tried, and I tried. You can't make someone love you who has given her heart to someone else, funny...he is a 61 year old pimp low class contractor working in his 60s. I did what I could though and I now see that in about 2 years time I will probably be divorced and her with her greencard. Which is fine, I do love her...but to decieve me to get me to pay her a monthly monetary sum of money as noted in the affidavate of support I can not just sit idly by or to have to try to defend myself in court to a false accusation of abuse.

Thanks for the advise those of you give to me in advance. Please no inflammatory comments. Just a step by step procedure to go about withdrawing myself from the AOS.

Mark

[Passing.star 0]

Im sorry for what happened to you, things happened for a reason, I can't answer or no knowledge about your questions but I know lots of people out here are smart enough to give you valuable info, good luck and I pray for you

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Im so sorry.

I hope someone comes along with some experience to share on your options.

[Nagishkaw 510]

Just.....my heart is sad for you.

[retiredfromforum 1]

To be completely honest

I will likely never recover, she was and always will be the love of my life. But it is ok, I think she may end up happier in the end since she will be able to talk with all of her friends and family instead of being on the damn computer all of the time. And she wont have me constantly looking over her back so to speak...so she will be free again. Free to live the life she lived before. I think that type of life is revolting but to some who do not know any better it is a good life to them.

Some things you can change, Others you can not....I just refused to accept it. Bad habit of stubborness I carry with me.

I do still hold out a hope even if so very slight things work out, but I am realistic and know what is to come. It is sad to me when I think that I may never speak with her again once she leaves.

OK...no more being a whinny cry baby right. responses welcome to what needs to be done.

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

Just a step by step procedure to go about withdrawing myself from the AOS.

Mark

make an infopass appointment, take all of your paperwork with you. that would be a good start.

[supercomp 0]

Write to service center/field office where your AOS is pending. I assume she still has not gotten the temporary greencard. If so, you can withdraw your affidavit of support and her I-485 will be denied. If you don't go to interview with her, her AOS will be denied as well. Be careful with your decisions because if she gets temproary greencard then you are on the hook for support and your affidavit of support cannot be withdrawn.

If you case is pending at one of the field offices nearby, then I would do INFOPASS. Otherwise write to service center.

[MissStacey 1]

Make an infopass appointment asap.

I'm not sure how it works at your local office but when I needed an infopass appointment- I went down to USCIS (I live close) They have a special computer there to make appointments- kinda looks like an ATM machine. Turned out they had an opening right then so I punched my name in and sat an waited a few minutes until I was called.

[supercomp 0]

Infopass appointment can be made online at: http://infopass.uscis.gov/

[William33 110]

Closed fist attack against you? Get away from this individual immediately, and info-pass/contact USCIS as suggested. You need to withdraw from this situation in short order.....

Regards,

William.

[justashooter 430]

if she punched you in the face and you have any visible mark, you need to involve the police. they will respond, see your bruise, and remove the woman. charges filed against her for domestic violence will be considered a crime of moral turpitude, and may be a lifetime bar on her AOS or citizenship attempts. getting her arrested could be the best course.

if no marks this time then talk to your local cops about it now, and tell them she is running around on you and you are trying to get out of the marriage because despite the fact that you still love her, you know she doesn't love you. the next time she hits you your primed cop will do the right thing and solve your problem.

[Old Dominion 26]

Send a letter to USCIS withdrawing your affidavit of support effective immediately. Have it notarized and use USPS certified express, return receipt required.

Then, deal with your domestic problem separately. The USCIS has no interest in the details of your marriage except during the interview for her green card. If you attend the interview, show a copy of that letter withdrawing the affidavit of support and say no more.

If it is necessary to be living together any longer, then you are at risk for being accused of abuse. So do whatever works to live separately, and if necessary, you take a room with a friend.

[himher 634]

Your affidavit is not enforcable and means nothing until the application for green card (I485) has been approved. I recall advising you earlier. Send written notification that you are withdrawing your affidavit of support, referencing the case number and the A-number, and then walk away. You can choose to give a reason or not, there is no burden of proof on you. You can withdraw the affidavit at any time until the AOS petition is adjudicated. Good luck. Sorry to hear about your situation. You need to hurry, again, once the AOS is adjudicated you are on the hook for (10) years and it will be much more difficult to get out from under this.

Hello again

I am posting again after trying to gather as much information as I could to make the most logical decision.

I did speak with my wife regarding the letter I posted in topic:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=180170

I asked for several things, her removal of all the 12 or so different email addresses she had, the 61 year old pimp is now in total control of these emails as they hacked my computer obtained my email information and then tried to hide as best they could the email info so that I could not walk right back in and read some even worse emails(yes, there are worse ones than the one I posted)

So after sitting back and logically thinking this though and after having what I call a mini-argument. My wife flat out punched me in the face closed fisted. I do not know the reason or the intent, perhaps she thought I might hit her back so she could claim abuse? But as I said before, I would never hit a woman so I took her punching me in the face as the final step in a long line of LIES and DECIEPT from her.

Give me information on how to pull the Adjustment of Status paperwork. I contact USCIS? Do I need to fill out a form? Do I go into their office personally?(It is close to where I live)

I have officially given up, I tried, I tried, and I tried. You can't make someone love you who has given her heart to someone else, funny...he is a 61 year old pimp low class contractor working in his 60s. I did what I could though and I now see that in about 2 years time I will probably be divorced and her with her greencard. Which is fine, I do love her...but to decieve me to get me to pay her a monthly monetary sum of money as noted in the affidavate of support I can not just sit idly by or to have to try to defend myself in court to a false accusation of abuse.

Thanks for the advise those of you give to me in advance. Please no inflammatory comments. Just a step by step procedure to go about withdrawing myself from the AOS.

Mark

[KnightAndMagpie 7]

I have officially given up, I tried, I tried, and I tried. You can't make someone love you who has given her heart to someone else, funny...he is a 61 year old pimp low class contractor working in his 60s. I did what I could though and I now see that in about 2 years time I will probably be divorced and her with her greencard. Which is fine, I do love her...but to decieve me to get me to pay her a monthly monetary sum of money as noted in the affidavate of support I can not just sit idly by or to have to try to defend myself in court to a false accusation of abuse.

Thanks for the advise those of you give to me in advance. Please no inflammatory comments. Just a step by step procedure to go about withdrawing myself from the AOS.

Mark

I'm afraid I cannot offer you any substantial advice regarding your next steps, but other people have kindly done so. What I can say is that I feel terrible for you, and that it's an awful position to be in; in regard to my own experience, I still struggle with the fact that I still have some love for my family, despite what they did to me while I was under their roof. People who love you don't hit you or injure you deliberately, and it hurts inside even more when they do. It makes you wonder why they're doing it, or what you've done wrong -- I don't believe you've done a thing wrong, and she's losing a great deal with what she's doing. The police are your best bet in that matter, and I really hope you resolve this situation before it gets any worse.

I also hope you recover and are able to find the strength to move on, find someone genuine, and be truly happy.

Hugs!

Magpie.

[Shad and Dani 3]

You should have called the police on her!!! I'm sure you weren't scared for your life, but everything needs to be documented, and police reports are a good source of documentation.