Scandinavians

[DKNC 21]

I best look into that, thanks for the warning.

Here's a link that may be helpful: http://travel.state.gov/content/visas/english/immigrate/immigrant-process/documents/support/i-864-series-forms-faqs.html

If you open the last domicile FAQ, you'll find this:

If the sponsor establishes U.S. domicile, it is not necessary for the sponsor to go to the United States before the sponsored family members. However, the sponsor must return to the United States to live before the sponsored immigrant may enter the United States. The sponsored immigrant must enter the United States with or after the sponsor.

[Brewlin 52]

Right but to my understanding, we included the proofs of domecile with the I-864, so if that's approved,so is his domecile to the U.S, regardless of where he is at the time I do POE.

[Brewlin 52]

Actually I think you're right! I emailed the embassy to clarify anyway.

[EmigratingSwede 16]

I just had my citizenship interview (recommended for approval, yay!), and the officer was quite confused as to the fact that I had taken my wife's name when we got married. I had to explain the "personbevis" to her to show her where my old last name was on it :-). To make things even more complicated I had switched the order of my first names when I changed my last name...

I asked if they had a ceremony on the 4th of July. She said she thought they were working on it and added a note to my file that I wanted that date if possible.

I had brought all kinds of documents that they had asked for in the interview letter, but the only document they asked for was a copy of my sons birth certificate (born two weeks ago).

Edited June 8, 2015 by EmigratingSwede

[Toddandcamilla 34]

I just had my citizenship interview (recommended for approval, yay!), and the officer was quite confused as to the fact that I had taken my wife's name when we got married. I had to explain the "personbevis" to her to show her where my old last name was on it :-). To make things even more complicated I had switched the order of my first names when I changed my last name...

I asked if they had a ceremony on the 4th of July. She said she thought they were working on it and added a note to my file that I wanted that date if possible.

I had brought all kinds of documents that they had asked for in the interview letter, but the only document they asked for was a copy of my sons birth certificate (born two weeks ago).

co grats!!! ?how has the whole process been for you guys the past few years? We are a few people in here who all are gonna be in it for the next few years soon! If you have time someday I for one would love to hear how its been with case work etc! Would be cool if you got your citizenship on Independence day!!! ??? camilla copenhagen!

[ameiva 1]

Hello everyone.

I'm here on rather unpleasant business unfortunately. But I have a few questions and some answers on how to go about it or who to contact and so on, would be helpful information to me right now.

My fiancé has a large amount of all my valuables, including old family photos to which they are the only copy, he has all my jewelry, and so on and so forth. He has just about everything that I value. He threatens to destroy, burn or throw it all away. Even after he promised he wouldn't use my personal property as a holding catch, he did, and continue to do so.

So I need some advice on how to first of all get my belongings back in a legal way. And how to proceed if I ever do.

Any help and information would be helpful.

Thank you in advance,

Mvh

Martina

[Toddandcamilla 34]

Hello everyone.

I'm here on rather unpleasant business unfortunately. But I have a few questions and some answers on how to go about it or who to contact and so on, would be helpful information to me right now.

My fiancé has a large amount of all my valuables, including old family photos to which they are the only copy, he has all my jewelry, and so on and so forth. He has just about everything that I value. He threatens to destroy, burn or throw it all away. Even after he promised he wouldn't use my personal property as a holding catch, he did, and continue to do so.

So I need some advice on how to first of all get my belongings back in a legal way. And how to proceed if I ever do.

Any help and information would be helpful.

Thank you in advance,

Mvh

Martina

hi Martina! Im so sorry to hear about your situation. Tell us, where are you now? In the states still? If you have tried communication with him, and it didnt work, i would try to give him some time to cool down. Are you guys not staying married or whats the situations since it turned into this? If you have proof of him threathing you, i would go to the local police and show them the proof. Messages etc. Maybe they can help you in some way. Maybe. Im sorry to hear about your situation tho. I hope you are okay and hes not threatning to hurt you too?? Big hugs from Camilla, Copenhagen! ❤️

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

Hello everyone.

I'm here on rather unpleasant business unfortunately. But I have a few questions and some answers on how to go about it or who to contact and so on, would be helpful information to me right now.

My fiancé has a large amount of all my valuables, including old family photos to which they are the only copy, he has all my jewelry, and so on and so forth. He has just about everything that I value. He threatens to destroy, burn or throw it all away. Even after he promised he wouldn't use my personal property as a holding catch, he did, and continue to do so.

So I need some advice on how to first of all get my belongings back in a legal way. And how to proceed if I ever do.

Any help and information would be helpful.

Thank you in advance,

Mvh

Martina

If you are still in the country, I would suspect the police might be who to contact.

[ameiva 1]

hi Martina! Im so sorry to hear about your situation. Tell us, where are you now? In the states still? If you have tried communication with him, and it didnt work, i would try to give him some time to cool down. Are you guys not staying married or whats the situations since it turned into this? If you have proof of him threathing you, i would go to the local police and show them the proof. Messages etc. Maybe they can help you in some way. Maybe. Im sorry to hear about your situation tho. I hope you are okay and hes not threatning to hurt you too?? Big hugs from Camilla, Copenhagen! ❤️

Hello, thanks for replying!

I am currently in Sweden, and my fiancé is back home in America.

I've tried communicating with him, but I've failed every time.

I had my K-1 visa approved, but failed to leave Sweden before the expiration date in the passport. We thought we had the six months that the pink slip in the big package stated we had, so we though that, that was the timeframe we had to work with, the package arrived rather torn and I was afraid to make it worse, so after I opened it I read the pink page and put it back in the bag it arrived in. Thinking better not to mess with it so I tears open entirely and makes it so I can't get though customs because of that. Massive mistake on my part, one I will never do again!

He comes to Sweden for 10 days, and we pack and clear out my apartment and so we packed both his and my suitcases with clothes and photos and all of that. We arrive at Stockholm, ARN. Had some issues, as they said that the stamp in the passport had expired, but we show them the big visa package, and get through, land in Amsterdam and they stop us there. I cannot board the plane, and have to return to Sweden alone.

We tried to renew it, but got told that we have to go through the entire process again.

So I returned with only a bit of my clothes but my fiancé has everything else, the paperwork, photos, jewelry, you name it, he has it. He promised not to use the items against me, but right now as soon as something doesn't go right, he threatens to throw it, burn it, or destroy it because he can't sit down and reason with me like an adult in a very nasty argument we are having. He thinks he has the right to do whatever he wants with my belongings as hostage. It's downright abusive right now, and causes me a great deal of emotional distress. I can't trust him with my personal property. I just want my belongings back so this abuse no longer can continue. He gave me a big speech about how your not allowed to talk about certain things in a relationship, and on the topics that you cannot agree on, you lie about them to not lose their partner. He also says something's are his God given right, and that what it does to me has no validity. He also questions my loyalty, because on my three month stay with him, he went through my emails, my phone, Skype contacts, Skype logs, and denied me the ability to call home, and so on. Sorry for the wall of text.

Well, I have been nothing but loyal. I've never gone through his things. I haven't ever questioned his loyalty, but he threatens and question mine on a weekly basis, and he claims I do, but I don't. He made me stop talking to the male gendered people entirely, yet he continued on with all his female friends both online and offline. So he was caught in a four year long lie, and blames me for having to lie, he blames me for just about everything right now. I cannot reason with him on any points, because he threatens to destroy my personal belongings, and that makes me having to simply comply with everything he says, and he walks away thinking he is rightful in his anger, his lies, and think he's won the argument, because I can't say what I want to say in fear of losing my valuables. I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm at my wits end with this.

So how does one get ones personal property back legally speaking, as I am in Sweden and he is in America.

Some of the things aren't actually worth money per say, like the photos. And it's not what I am after, there's no replacing old family photos. So who do I contact? What do I do? How do I handle this right? By law, and rights?

Thanks again!

Mvh

Martina

[ameiva 1]

And I should also have added that we are still in fiancé K-1 stage, as I could not make it to the states, so we couldn't get married. I repeat, we are not married, we are fiancée K-1, approved. But if we are to be married, we would have to go through the entire process again, just to get the new stamp in the passport for me to legally enter the country.

Right now, none of that matters. I want my personal property back, in a legal and lawful way.

Do I need to get a lawyer? Or do I contact the local authority there? Or how do I proceed in the right manners and right way?

Mvh

Martina

[Brewlin 52]

Martina, promise me you will not marry this guy. I've been married to my American husband for fourteen years and he wouldn't even dream of treating me that way. Your best bet would be the local city police, you need to file some sort of report. Hopefully you can do that far away, but Considering how big the U.S, it can't be the first time it happens. Good luck!

[Unidentified 2,930]

Martina, I am sorry you have to go through this and I hope that everything works out for you. Usually local police have a website with contact information (non-emergency phone number and email) some modern police departments even have the ability to report a crime through the website.

I know it probably hurts to hear but it seems like it was a very good thing you weren't able to come over to the states and marry him. That is not normal behavior. I hope everything works out and that you're able to get back your things.

If he threatens you in writing, save everything so that it can be used as evidence. If he threatens you verbally try to record him and use that as evidence as well.

Good luck!

[Toddandcamilla 34]

Hi Martina! I suggest the same as the rest. And further more maybe you have to prepare yourself as nothing getting your things back as it looks right now. else my suggestion would be far out, but go to the states on esta, and go to the local police there and explain them all this. Might be a long shoot but maybe they can assist you outthere to get your stuff safely. Do you have any contact to his friends or family? Are they in a position to help you in anyway? What is his reasons to be so mad tho? Since you have both filed again im assuming its because you are still together. Did you have a falling out or broken up? Either way im glad too you arent with him right now. If you are in any danger its for the better you too did not marry and you where all the way over there. I feel for you❤️Must be really hard to see the person you loved do this to you! Im just glad youre safe in Sweden! We are all here for you! Camilla

[Brewlin 52]

I don't know where he reside Martina, but for example, Minneapolis has this online option http://www.ci.minneapolis.mn.us/police/report/eReport/index.htm

[Metope 0]

Wow Martina, that's awful! I'm so sorry you're going through that, and I hope you manage to get all your stuff back. I agree with everyone here, sounds like it's for the best that you didn't get to travel back with him, and I hope you decide to not go through with the marriage. The way he's behaving is incredibly abusive, that's no way to act towards anyone let alone the person you supposedly love. His obvious control and jealousy issues are really worrying, if you do end up going to the states on an ESTA like Camilla suggested, you probably shouldn't travel alone, bring a close friend or relative! I hope you manage to sort it out and get all your belongings back so you never have to talk to him again. Good luck!