Is it appropriate to send my former MIL a Mother's Day gift?

[JODO 2]

I always liked her and she was always kind to me. What do you think?

[Chica Yeyé 41]

My take? No, it is not appropriate; and it is actually quite rude. You are no longer part of that family.

[Mary Lou 681]

No, i wouldn't send her anything.

[JODO 2]

Even if there's a 99.9999999999999999% chance that she's going to be my MIL again?

[Sinergy 3]

she is a person, and if you continued to stay friends after your marriage ended, then its a friends thing not a MIL thing, its ok to send her anything you want.

i stayed real good friends with my ex MIL, we have been good friends for 11 years, i knew her before i met her son, and i send her gifts and cards on holidays. Edi could care less, he knows shes more a friend than an old MIL.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Even if there's a 99.9999999999999999% chance that she's going to be my MIL again?

WOW ...... you are filing a fiance visa FOR SOMEONE ELSE, remember? sheesh.

[JODO 2]

Even if there's a 99.9999999999999999% chance that she's going to be my MIL again?

WOW ...... you are filing a fiance visa FOR SOMEONE ELSE, remember? sheesh.

No that's canceled.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Even if there's a 99.9999999999999999% chance that she's going to be my MIL again?

WOW ...... you are filing a fiance visa FOR SOMEONE ELSE, remember? sheesh.

No that's canceled.

then why don't you get your life together before wondering about this stuff? Really sister JODO, really.

[JODO 2]

she is a person, and if you continued to stay friends after your marriage ended, then its a friends thing not a MIL thing, its ok to send her anything you want.

i stayed real good friends with my ex MIL, we have been good friends for 11 years, i knew her before i met her son, and i send her gifts and cards on holidays. Edi could care less, he knows shes more a friend than an old MIL.

Yes we have remained friends. I spoke to her last at Christmas but we always just catch right back up. After my divorce, she would periodically call me and tell me she missed me and that I would get remarried to her son. I would just laugh, but now it seems she was right. She is just the sweetest person ever.

[NickD 202]

Wife has fond memories of her in-laws, just said, give them a call, she said no way, would just bring up things from the past she would like to forget. I don't have that problem, no fond memories, but don't stop my kids from seeing them, it is their grandparents, can't change that. But you do whatever you feel like doing.

[JODO 2]

Even if there's a 99.9999999999999999% chance that she's going to be my MIL again?

WOW ...... you are filing a fiance visa FOR SOMEONE ELSE, remember? sheesh.

No that's canceled.

then why don't you get your life together before wondering about this stuff? Really sister JODO, really.

Yea it's a little complicated and I made a mistake, but I have reconciled with my husband and I couldn't be happier.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

okie dokie then....

[JODO 2]

Wife has fond memories of her in-laws, just said, give them a call, she said no way, would just bring up things from the past she would like to forget. I don't have that problem, no fond memories, but don't stop my kids from seeing them, it is their grandparents, can't change that. But you do whatever you feel like doing.

That's good that you don't use the kids as pawns. I know some people do that and I don't think it is fair to the kids, unless there is a valid reason to keep them away from grandparents. We didn't have kids, and I don't have any , but I'd never keep them away from their grandparents.