What do you consider a huge age difference?

[Nessa 23]

discuss

[PlatyPius 5]

I put 16-20 for both. It's not an "eww gross!" thing, just saying what I would consider a "huge" age difference. Basically, I went with the number that would equal one whole generation.

[almaty 19]

for the man....no such thing

for the woman..5 years...

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

I think this depends on the age of the people involved.

When you are 21, a 20 year age gap is a big deal. Later in life, not so much,

[Nessa 23]

so 20 and 40 is bad, but 40 and 60 isn't? meaning, that when they're young it's not ok but when they get older it becomes ok?

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

People change/mature a lot from their late teens and early 20s.

[Nessa 23]

so all they have to do is live 20 years being considered age inappropriate for their relationship and then the rest of their lives being considered appropriate.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I think it depends on the age of who you are talking about. For a teenager, someone four or five years older is huge, That was the answer I gave. If the younger is 30, then anyone over 40 might be a little old. I'm 52, my wife is 36, and I do feel like I am raising a daughter sometimes.

[Nessa 23]

I think it depends on the age of who you are talking about. For a teenager, someone four or five years older is huge, That was the answer I gave. If the younger is 30, then anyone over 40 might be a little old. I'm 52, my wife is 36, and I do feel like I am raising a daughter sometimes.

it depends on the maturity level then

[Kez/JWolf 6]

For me it is, if you are old enough to be your spouses parent. As other have said that would be like raising a daughter or a son.

[Mrs.J06 4]

16 to 20 is the limit for me too.

I just can not imagine more than that for myself, even though I have certainly met (happy) couples with a bigger age gap.

[Nessa 23]

i couldn't imagine me being more than a couple years older than my partner (unless i was only using him for sexual favors lol , not someone i'd marry) or being with someone more than 20 years older than me.

[*julez* 124]

20 years older is the cutoff for me too. And if I'd have met my husband when I was 20, I'd never have considered dating him. I know I would have considered him too old, though I had always dated older guys. At 20 my cut off was 10 years older. At 34, I wasn't even looking for a guy and didn't really know how old G was when we first met (he looks younger than his age - I figured 12 - 15 years older). I just knew I liked him. By the time we got around to talking about age (weeks later) I didn't care that he was 20 years older.

Like someone else said in the OT thread, I just want to make sure I can keep him around for a very long time.

[Nessa 23]

Like someone else said in the OT thread, I just want to make sure I can keep him around for a very long time.

when it comes to age i know i can keep charles for a long time, but i also do stuff he doesn't like such as buy him vitamin (the a-zync) and hand it to him daily so he'll take it, cook with vegetables and force him to eat lol, cook lowfat, not keep 10 pizzas in the freezer so he won't eat a whole one everyday, help him with exercise etc

[Brad and Vika 129]

Vika answered for us. 40+ when the guy is older, but 16-20 for women. OK folks - let 'er rip.