The Vent - Part 2

[Ontarkie 14,133]

Oh ok I see ya it would of been nice if they could hang out some where else.

Several years ago I live in a town house and that happened alot too.

Drove me nuts cause i had small kids/babies sleeping

[Ling Ling 22]

I am absolutely sickened and disgusted to read the turn this thread took. I feel absolutely violated, as I'm sure most of us do. I hope to never witness such despicable behaviour in this forum ever again. I am angered that those who feel they were justified in their actions and participation, whether behind the scenes or right out in plain view, will carry around a sense of righteousnous for their part in this fiasco. I will always read your words through a different lense from this point in time.

And for the record.... Off Topic IS moderated on an entirely different level than the other forums. That is why you will see zero tolerance for this childish drivel in forums such as "Major Changes". Unbelievable.

Wow, I agree with you completely. I'm just wondering where the outrage was around post 1263? Like you, I feel absolutely violated.

[MrsCat 6]

man, what a session of The Vent I missed today.

You know if AJ is rubba neckin' its gonna be a 5 car pile up.

[thetreble 19]

Wow..what the *uck happened in here?

You know, we have a good thing going on in the Canadian section of this board so to all those who just come in here to bother us...because that is essentially what you are doing..can you not? I think we would all really appreciate any one who does not have anything worth saying just to stay out.

I am absolutely sickened and disgusted to read the turn this thread took. I feel absolutely violated, as I'm sure most of us do. I hope to never witness such despicable behaviour in this forum ever again. I am angered that those who feel they were justified in their actions and participation, whether behind the scenes or right out in plain view, will carry around a sense of righteousnous for their part in this fiasco. I will always read your words through a different lense from this point in time.

And for the record.... Off Topic IS moderated on an entirely different level than the other forums. That is why you will see zero tolerance for this childish drivel in forums such as "Major Changes". Unbelievable.

Wow, I agree with you completely. I'm just wondering where the outrage was around post 1263? Like you, I feel absolutely violated.

I'm not trying to be rude but what is your purpose for being here? You have not said anything in this thread that is relevant to this thread so you aren't contributing. It appears you are just bothering people so please stop.

[Emancipation 2]

We're considering moving back to CT (as well as looking at options in other states). Honestly, the rent prices scare me!!! I was in Georgia for 6 years and my mortgage was about $600, then I moved to NH and our mortgage here is over a thousand .... going to CT will be an even higher cost of living.

Are you coming back to the 'Have? It is incredible.. our house sold for just over 300K and the guy who bought it (our now landlord) has a mortgage payment of 3K a month.. not a payment I'd want fer sure!

[JillA 2]

Is it safe here yet.... tiptoeing around.... OK so last night, I just broke down in tears. This wave of homesickness hit me, like a ton of bricks. Out of NOWHERE. All of sudden I just wanted to hug my Mom, I miss her so much, more than anyone or anything. We are so close and it's so hard, it's been almost 6 months since we've been apart. I just want to go over for a cuppa tea or Sunday dinner, just sit down and talk like we used to. Sometimes I look around like what the hell am I doing here? I gave up my home, great job, closeness to fam, good friends, and I'm now here! Not that I'm complaining because I truly can say I am happy here and I made the sacrifice for love.... but what a sacrifice that is. The good news is, I'm going back home the first weekend in June so I can't wait to see my Mom then. So last night when I burst into tears, Glen was so supportive and kind. He made me tea, listened to my rambling, rubbed my back and just made it better. I am lucky he's so wonderful in so many ways and understands.

[beans 7]

Yeah I'm not looking forward to the homesickness when I get there. Jeremy says he's ready lol but who knwos.

[ozone_1974 1]

Is it safe here yet.... tiptoeing around.... OK so last night, I just broke down in tears. This wave of homesickness hit me, like a ton of bricks. Out of NOWHERE. All of sudden I just wanted to hug my Mom, I miss her so much, more than anyone or anything. We are so close and it's so hard, it's been almost 6 months since we've been apart. I just want to go over for a cuppa tea or Sunday dinner, just sit down and talk like we used to. Sometimes I look around like what the hell am I doing here? I gave up my home, great job, closeness to fam, good friends, and I'm now here! Not that I'm complaining because I truly can say I am happy here and I made the sacrifice for love.... but what a sacrifice that is. The good news is, I'm going back home the first weekend in June so I can't wait to see my Mom then. So last night when I burst into tears, Glen was so supportive and kind. He made me tea, listened to my rambling, rubbed my back and just made it better. I am lucky he's so wonderful in so many ways and understands.

Give it time Jill and the sickness will slowly fade away. Of course you will always remember home, but the sickness will fade away and you will get used to your new home country

Hang in there

[The_Dude 1,142]

Yeah I'm not looking forward to the homesickness when I get there. Jeremy says he's ready lol but who knwos.

Mel has had a couple of instances of homesickness, and I too thought I was ready for it. But alas, I was not. It just seems to come out of nowhere and I didn't even contemplate it what it really was until after the fact.

I'm learning though.

Stewart is doing much better. Mel was worried because he was in his chair sleeping all day long yesterday. However, when I got home, he did his nomral Dino (from the flintstones) impersonation and was a complete spazz and wanted to play until about midnight. He showed no tenderness and was jumping around. We were trying to get him to take it easy, but it seemed like he was trying to make up for lost play time by doubling his efforts. We're still gonna watch him like a hawk though.

[Jenni and Bo 0]

Is it safe here yet.... tiptoeing around.... OK so last night, I just broke down in tears. This wave of homesickness hit me, like a ton of bricks. Out of NOWHERE. All of sudden I just wanted to hug my Mom, I miss her so much, more than anyone or anything. We are so close and it's so hard, it's been almost 6 months since we've been apart. I just want to go over for a cuppa tea or Sunday dinner, just sit down and talk like we used to. Sometimes I look around like what the hell am I doing here? I gave up my home, great job, closeness to fam, good friends, and I'm now here! Not that I'm complaining because I truly can say I am happy here and I made the sacrifice for love.... but what a sacrifice that is. The good news is, I'm going back home the first weekend in June so I can't wait to see my Mom then. So last night when I burst into tears, Glen was so supportive and kind. He made me tea, listened to my rambling, rubbed my back and just made it better. I am lucky he's so wonderful in so many ways and understands.

I haven't been here as long as you have yet Jill, but I know what you mean. I had a week of homesickness a little after the wedding. I missed everyone, missed the ocean, missed knowing i could do simple things. I missed my Dad a lot the other night. His bad jokes and nerdiness It must be super exciting that you are going home in a month though

My mini vent to add to this - I feel so useless here sometimes...I can't work yet, EI was denied - I have nothing to contribute to the house and I feel like ####### about it. Bo is so good and thanks me for even the littlest things, but it's hard. I have been working since I was 14 and supporting myself since I was 18 (my poor family has had the worst money luck ever) And now I can't do squat. On top of it, I have a student loan and two credit card debts that I brought with me. I have enough money saved to pay them fr the next couple months, but before I got here Bo had amazing credit and basically no debt. Again, feel like as #### for bringing it with me

[JillA 2]

Yeah I think no matter how hard you brace yourself/prepare for what it's going to be like, you don't know until you go through it. I know Glen feels guilty sometimes when I feel down because it's because of "him" I'm sad or whatever, meaning I moved here for him and now I'm away from everyone I love. I told him to never feel bad, just be there for me and support me which he does so well!

About the $$ thing, I know what you mean Jenni. Obviously we're not contributing finanically like we'd like to, but of course a marriage means inheriting one another's debts so to speak.... I took on Glen's school and auto loan, help pay it down when I can.... it's just what you do, I wish I could pay for more! But until I find a job, he's doing more than his share and that's OK! He thanks me for all the things I do around the home, make good meals, etc. I'm doing my part in other ways!

[beans 7]

How has the job hunt been going Jill?

[July09Bride 1]

Is it safe here yet.... tiptoeing around.... OK so last night, I just broke down in tears. This wave of homesickness hit me, like a ton of bricks. Out of NOWHERE. All of sudden I just wanted to hug my Mom, I miss her so much, more than anyone or anything. We are so close and it's so hard, it's been almost 6 months since we've been apart. I just want to go over for a cuppa tea or Sunday dinner, just sit down and talk like we used to. Sometimes I look around like what the hell am I doing here? I gave up my home, great job, closeness to fam, good friends, and I'm now here! Not that I'm complaining because I truly can say I am happy here and I made the sacrifice for love.... but what a sacrifice that is. The good news is, I'm going back home the first weekend in June so I can't wait to see my Mom then. So last night when I burst into tears, Glen was so supportive and kind. He made me tea, listened to my rambling, rubbed my back and just made it better. I am lucky he's so wonderful in so many ways and understands.

I SOOOOO know how you feel. THat's how I felt when I moved from Arizona to Michigan in 2001. I had not family here, and my now fiance' then boyfriend was even in Canada. I had basically one friend here and that was soooo hard. I can't even count the number of times I broke down and bawled... bawled and got myself to almost hyper-ventilating, I was so unbelieveably homesick. It does get better, I promise. It just won't be anytime soon... but, remember, it does and WILL get better.

[JillA 2]

How has the job hunt been going Jill?

It's going.... I had 1 interview so far, they're supposed to let me know by today either way, still no word.... I'm still looking in the meantime, applied for probably 20 jobs so far, only 2 calls.... it's a tough time to be job searching I suppose.

Is it safe here yet.... tiptoeing around.... OK so last night, I just broke down in tears. This wave of homesickness hit me, like a ton of bricks. Out of NOWHERE. All of sudden I just wanted to hug my Mom, I miss her so much, more than anyone or anything. We are so close and it's so hard, it's been almost 6 months since we've been apart. I just want to go over for a cuppa tea or Sunday dinner, just sit down and talk like we used to. Sometimes I look around like what the hell am I doing here? I gave up my home, great job, closeness to fam, good friends, and I'm now here! Not that I'm complaining because I truly can say I am happy here and I made the sacrifice for love.... but what a sacrifice that is. The good news is, I'm going back home the first weekend in June so I can't wait to see my Mom then. So last night when I burst into tears, Glen was so supportive and kind. He made me tea, listened to my rambling, rubbed my back and just made it better. I am lucky he's so wonderful in so many ways and understands.

I SOOOOO know how you feel. THat's how I felt when I moved from Arizona to Michigan in 2001. I had not family here, and my now fiance' then boyfriend was even in Canada. I had basically one friend here and that was soooo hard. I can't even count the number of times I broke down and bawled... bawled and got myself to almost hyper-ventilating, I was so unbelieveably homesick. It does get better, I promise. It just won't be anytime soon... but, remember, it does and WILL get better.

Oh wow, that's how I was last night! It was one of those sobfests where you can barely breath, Glen kept saying deep breaths, deep breaths, I think he was worried LOL! Thanks for the support, it makes me feel so much better to talk about it with people who TRULY understand.

I wonder what it's like for guys, adjusting-wise? Do guys get homesick and cry or is that purely a woman thing

Edited May 1, 2009 by JillA

[The_Dude 1,142]

Mel and I have had several arguments that were about nothing. I think it's just a trying situation for us both and its compounded by the fact that she isn't able to work, or do much. We both know its hard and just try to keep going with things. My family is really trying to not smother her. LoL, my sister though, has completely failed at that part. It's OK I think they are becoming friends.